My baby is almost 8 mos old and still wakes up every 2-3 hours. I don't want to let her cry it out. What else can I do?
Ally - posted on 02/24/2009
try the baby sleep book by dr. sears it is fabulous and lets you know from a medical standpoint why the cio method can be so harmful to your little one. Anyone still recomending that method obviously has not done their proper research.
Angela - posted on 02/24/2009
Around 1 year my son started waking periodically through the night. When I determined that he wasn't wet, hungry, feverish etc. I did a very modified version of the CIO method because it breaks my heart to hear him cry for any length of time too. I would stand just beyond his bedroom door and note the time on the clock. I would wait just a minute or two to see if he would put himself to sleep. Most of the time he did put himself back to sleep. Other times he did not. I would go back in and reassure him and give it a couple more tries. n those cases when he couldn't get himself to sleep, I found laying on the floor next to his crib worked well too. We lowered the mattress far enough so I could hold his hand or I could rub his head/back. I played soft music in the background. This worked really well too. It seemed if he just knew I was right next to him, he could fall asleep. It worked well for me because at least I felt like I was getting a little rest too if not a deep sleep!
Virginia - posted on 02/23/2009
Oh, I forgot. She had a dummy - and she would wake up when she lost it. So when I didn't replace it and she cried herself to sleep , she didn't wake up when she lost the dummy. She didn't have a dummy ever again after that too and was happy.
Virginia - posted on 02/23/2009
My daughter was nine months old before she slept through the night. I was using the techniques in "Sleep Right, Sleep Tight" by Rosey Cummings, Karen Houghton and Le Ann Williams. It was really starting to help, but one night when she was 9 months old she wouldn't stop crying and it was 4 am and my husband needed to get some sleep before work so I just put her back down and left her to cry and she eventually went to sleep and slept through every night after that.
I know that's not really what you want to hear, but the sleep techniques were starting to help.
Shana - posted on 02/23/2009
My 14 month old daughter is the same way. She is having issues with her ears though and wakes up crying every 1 and 1/2 to 2 hours. I have to feed her and then she'll sleep for a bit more. I know ALL about the sleep deprivation, believe me. We are in the process of referring her to an ENT for tube placement.
Talk to your pediatrician and try and find out the cause. Cause is key. There are many things you can do but if it's a physical ailment then none of that stuff will work.
Good luck and God Bless!
Shawneene - posted on 02/23/2009
I had three sons with sleep issues. What they blamed on colic turned out to be a sensitive tummy! All had to be switched from breast feeding to soy and then to Nutramigen hypo-allergenic... Let me tell you that after years of that struggle to get them to sleep, you just try it and then if that's the problem, you'll know within a week!
Also, we would put ours in the car seat snapped in to sleep ans when they woke you can comfort them and rock the seat without getting them up. If you put the seat by your bed you'll get more sleep too... Sounded strage at first but was suggested to me by a Dr. at a visit for coughing and sinus drainage issues... It worked for us and if you try it you haven't lost anything or bought books you don't hve the energy to read!
We also have a cd of lullaby classical music that we play to give the boys the mental trigger that its time to rest. We are pretty consistant with that as the routine every night... Hope you can experiment and know there are things that work but don't worry if it seems endless, it will pass... you will see a full night of sleep eventually!
God bless ya'!
Suzanne - posted on 02/23/2009
I am the mother of 5 children ages 23 to 11. Not sleeping through the night was one of the most difficult things to get past when my children were small. I still remember how frustrating it was!
I found a really good book a very long time ago called "Crying Babies, Sleepless Nights" which is probably not even in print anymore! It really came down to this concept. Until the little one learns to soothe themselves and settle themselves back down to sleep they will always ask us to come in and do it for them. Teaching them to lay back down and pull the blanket back up or put the pacifier back in (or whatever they need you to do) on their own is just like learning to read a clock in 1st grade or tie their shoes before kindergarten. It is simply acquiring a skill. Their plan took over a week to get them over the habit of getting you to come in and help them. See if you can find that book, it helped me.
I promise you this though...after 5 children that always needed to overcome this obstacle...my girlfriend all those many years ago told me to give them 3 nights. Let them cry it out and it will take 2 nights and by the 3rd they will get it. I've never had one cry by the 3rd night. It was pathetic the first 2 though...I would sit outside thier door and just cry. They would sit in their crib and cry. It was so worth it when they slept through the 3rd night every time. They always did, and my friend told me if they didn't then she would come and sleep at our house and I could sleep through the night at her house. I never needed it!
I understand not being able to let them cry it out. It's worth it...when you get to your wits end you might try it!
My son is almost 22 months and has never really slept through the night. I have tried many things, keeping up later, put him in his own bed, trying to shoosh but not pick up when awake and many others. Every child is different. I discovered after away while that mine was suffering with some sleep issues. His waking came about because he was not breathing or holding his breath which would cause hime to gasp and wake crying. So to know why he is waking is key. Hunger, breathing, scared, or just having you trained to come get him. My son has a little of that also...lol Good luck!!
Diana - posted on 02/23/2009
I'm not sure of your baby's sleeping situation, but we found our son sleeping through the night after we moved him from our bed into his crib.
Have you figured out why she is waking up? Does she want food or what? Another thing that helped us was a crib aquarium. It's a toy that attaches to the crib. Sid learned to hit the button to turn it on and then he'd drift back to sleep.
Lorraine - posted on 02/23/2009
I know just how you feel. At 14 months my daughter was still waking regularly through the night and I couldn't just let her cry (which is what the doctor recommended when I went to her in desperation). Anyway, finally I took the time to read through Elizabeth Pantley's 'No cry sleep solution' and it does require some effort, but it worked for us in the end. My little girl sleeps from around 7pm to 7am now and although she does still occasionally wake in the night it is much easier and quicker to get her back off.
If you are sleep deprived it may seem too difficult to take in and put in to practice to start with, but what I did was go to bed when my daughter did for a couple of weeks and then when I had 'recharged my batteries' I was able to follow the advice in the book. It is not a quick fix, but well worth pursuing.
Hope it works for you too.,
Cindy - posted on 02/23/2009
My mum gave me this idea and it worked a treat. Keep baby awake half and hour to an hour longer then when baby wants to go down. I don't know why, but it makes mine and everyone elses I know, sleep through. Usually even the whole night.
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