my baby nearly 8 mths and still not sleepin throu nite, can any1 help

Narelle - posted on 02/01/2009

Hi Jacqui, I posted some advise to your question and I just wanted to check in and see how you and your baby were getting along.  I see you got lots of good advice has any of it helped.

Becky - posted on 01/30/2009

I have 3 boys, ages 9, 4, and 19 months. None of them slept through the night until I trained them to. I had to keep them in their cribs, with a gate at the door (they liked to climb out) and let them cry it out. I wouldn't suggest letting a little 8 month old cry. All of mine were past the one year mark... anyways, it only took a few days to make them understand that Mommy is not going to sook me at night anymore. Sorry I'm not more help... it's frusterating I know.

Joy - posted on 01/30/2009

My baby was also 8 months old and wasn't sleeping through the night. Unfortunately we had to just let her cry it out. It broke my heart, but with in 2 nights she was sleeping right through. We read "The 90 Minute Sleep Program" which helped us. It will be hard, but trust me completely worth it. The problem wasn't that my baby needed milk even though I thought she did, it was that when she woke up during the night she wasn't able to get herself back to sleep. Once she learned that we all started to get more rest! Good luck!

Katryna - posted on 01/30/2009

My son slept through one whole night, only for him to start teething like the next day. From then on he didn't sleep through. My boy would have bottle every 2 hours through the night. I'd give him his last bottle at 8 and he's sleep until 12 then av bottle every 2 hours. He loved being swarved, not sure correct spelling. You know when you wrap them in a blanket so they feel secure? My lad is 6 soon and he still wakes up in the night for me. I used to put a little rusk in his bottle to fill him up but u need a wider teat for that and you have to make sure it's mixed properly x

Hilary - posted on 01/30/2009

My daughter is 2 and only just started sleeping through the night..whew! I kept a bottle of milk beside her through the night so I wouldn't have to get up. Gradually, she stopped wanting it.

Becky - posted on 01/30/2009

With most of these baby-training regimens you run the risk of becoming desensitized to the cues of your infant, especially when it comes to letting baby cry it out. Instead of helping you to figure out what baby's signals mean, these training methods tell you to ignore them. Neither you nor your baby learn anything good from this.

 

Clicking into the cry-it-out method also keeps you from continuing to search for medical or physical causes of nightwaking, such as GER and food allergies. Nightfeedings is normal; frequent nightwaking is not.

This article may help......http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/t070700...

HTH :)

Hayley - posted on 01/30/2009

try th evideo 'IT'S TIME TO SLEEP' i finally came across it and my daughter had her first night sleep at 18mths. She was so bad we were a part of two sleep studies. This video was a god send and after three days she was almost perfectly on schedule and doing the right thing sleepwise

Lynn - posted on 01/30/2009

I tried the water thing back when my tot was about 8 months. Then he started crying for water in the middle of the night. Finally I had to do it cold turkey. I made sure his tummy was good and full before he went to bed, then when he woke up in the middle of the night, i let him cry himself to sleep. The first night, he cried for about 20 minutes. After the first night, he never cried again.

Leigh - posted on 01/30/2009

What I had to do with my youngest child, was let him cry!  My doctor told me that he was a good weight, and let him cry himself back to sleep.  It took 4 days before he slept through the night.  It is not Easy just listening to your baby cry and you will feel like a horrible person for doing it...But keep in mind that your not hurting your child, You are Helping your child.  The other thing that seemed to help my older son was to feed him REALLY thick pablum, just before bed.  This made him feel full, all night long.  Hope that this helps you alittle bit.

Sarah - posted on 01/30/2009

As a mother of five, I have found that all babies have their ways. Each of mine started sleeping through the night at different ages. (2mths, 4mths, 14mths, 9mths, 4mths) Be patient and she will learn how to sleep all night. Enjoy every new experience.

Michelle - posted on 01/30/2009

Hi! When my daughter did that I use to put a little cereal in bottle at night and she use to slepp all. The bottle right before she goes to bed.

Lisa - posted on 01/30/2009

At that age she shouldn't need a feed through the night and is only waking up because you give her one. My daughter did the same thing until i started ignoring her, she whinged for the first few nights but less and less each time until after about 3 or 4 nights she didnt wake anymore. Some1 told me to try giving her a bottle of water instead of milk if she still wanted a feed until she learnt that she wasnt getting milk, but i didnt need to

Narelle - posted on 01/30/2009

I hope this doesn't sound nasty but sounds to me like your baby is playing you.  She knows that by crying out you will come and give her milk to get her back to sleep.  You need to be tough and not give in to her.  The first few nights will be hell and she will be hard to settle back down but hang in there and it should get easier and she should start to wake less and less until she eventually gets the message that you aren't going to give in and she isn't going to get that drink she wants, then she should sleep right through.  The other thing I had to learn the hard way is that it doesn't hurt them to cry a little.  I used to jump straight up out of bed at the first hint of a cry but now I let my little one cry a bit first and most times he even settles himself back to sleep.  I think the secret is don't give in to them, you are the parent and the boss.  Good luck, its hard work but you will get there in the end, stay persistent.

Jacqui - posted on 01/30/2009

thanx michelle, great advice, we have a routine see wat u think, she wakes 7am breakfast, changs take bro to schl, come back, play and sleep 11am for 45mins to 1 hour, lunch, play get bro frm schl 2.30 may have sleep in car. back home play with bro, until dinner at 5, then have sleep bout 6. bath at 7. play until bed bottle bout 9pm have cuddles until bed bwtn 9-10. then she will wake bout 12 then she may b awake anything bwtn 2-8 times. ill keep tryin, she will sleep!!!!!! thanx for help xx

Michelle - posted on 01/30/2009

hey  this  is  what  i done with both  my  kids  and  neices  and  nethews bring  em  home  get  them  in a routine  from  day  dot ( as soon  as  they  come   home  from  hosp) wake  the  bubs  at  10  pm and   play  for  an  hour  even  if  they  sleepin u  have  to  have  ur  sleep  too   REMEMBER  YOU ARE ALWAYS  THE  BOSS! feed, change  nappy and  burp  and  eventually  u  will find  the  baby  will  get  in the  routine  of  every  4 hour  feeds .. my  hours  were 7 am, play  till  10 am nappy change and  bottle down  for a nap, up @ 1 pm  for  abit  have  some  lunch nappy change   and  litle play. i  found  this  method  was  good  when  bubs  were  young still in  cradle. When  older hours  are  wake  at  7 am, up  till  after  lunch 1-2pm  down  for  nap sleep till  5-6pm up  then  for  tea and  play  with  daddy till 10pm  chnage  bum   give  bottle  burp  and  put  down  for  long  sleep  till  5-7 am  the  next  morning... always  worked  for  me ;) and  my  babies  were the  most  well adjusted  happiest babies. the  key  is  more  wake  times  in  the  day  and  later  feed  at  night  yes  thats  it  spot  on  i  agree ammensly.

Lena - posted on 01/30/2009

Hi Jacqui you must be exhausted and so must be your baby from not sleeping thru all night, she's probably teething and this is making her wake up, contact your paediatrician she probably needs a gum gel and a pain killer for a goon nights sleep!!

Jacqui - posted on 01/30/2009

thanx clare ill check it out.

Jacqui - posted on 01/30/2009

thanx charlotte, good advice however have tried this and hasnt made any difference, some nites are good she may only wake 2 or 3 times, but then some it could be every hour. i think she has got into a habbit, and she doesnt sleep lots in daytime, maybe she to nosey to sleep, anyway glad to hear it worked for u, ill keep tryin thanx

Clare - posted on 01/30/2009

Not a big fan of baby literature but I was given this book - On Becoming Baby Wise (ISBN 0-9714532-0-9) by a friend. I was having problems with getting my son to sleep through and have a regular pattern of wake and sleep. This was my saving grace. It has really comprehensive short-term and long-term plans of action to follow to get baby to sleep. Big chapter on babies and sleep among other really useful information that contribute to better sleeping patterns - like making baby last through the night after they get into bad waking habits and want comfort feeding in the night.

Charlotte - posted on 01/30/2009

Quoting Jacqui:

my baby nearly 8 mths and still not sleepin throu nite, can any1 help

she keeps wakin for milk, and only settles once she had a little

hi hun, may lil boy is 6months and he sleep rite through except when he hungry!! If u give ya babbi a lil more food in the day and a later feed at night that might work. It workes for my henry anyway. Hope this helpful x