Rachel - posted on 08/06/2012 ( 61 moms have responded )
I have been up all night crying and contemplating what to do over this situation. My boyfriend has a little boy who is four years old and I have a precious 18 month old little girl. My boyfriend and I live together with my daughter and he gets his little boy every other Thursday through Monday.
The little boy lives with his extremely vindictive and hateful mother who is my boyfriend's ex wife. Every single time the kid sees me he is sure to remind me, 'My mommy hates you', 'She doesn't love you or the baby'. or something to this effect. Most recently, he told his mother that I hit him. I would NEVER in a million years even scold him or correct him for ANYTHING. He goes and tells his mother every single thing that I do even when I reprimanded my daughter for going down the stairs too quickly. She in turn calls my boyfriend threatening him for being with me, threatening custody, etc. The ex wife is from Bulgaria so she always holds that over my boyfriends head too. Threatening to take him back there if he does something she doesn't like. It's just an all around disgusting situation.
This was all okay for me to deal with until recently. He has been taking out his hatred on my daughter. She had an accident recently where stitches were necessary and couldn't play outside and do fun activities for a few days. He taunted her about her stitches, thought it was hilarious that she was hurt, and kicks and hits her. Last night, she was hugging my boyfriend (her father is not in the picture, he doesn't want anything to do with us) and the little boy said, " LEAVE MY DADDY ALONE" then began singing "You only have a mommmmy, I have a mommmy AND a Daddy". He thought it was so hilarious. My stomach dropped to what felt like my knees. I have been devastated over this. If my little girl had understood what he was saying it would have broken her heart. My dad wasn't involved either and I know how traumatizing it can be on a little girl. WHAT on earth am I supposed to do now?? Do I leave this relationship with the most caring and loving man I've ever met? I'm so torn. Help please!