My Christian son is using drugs!

Susan - posted on 10/27/2012 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I came home from from work and opened my son's door to check on him which I do every day. I smelled a strong smell and saw he was smoking a marijuana stick! My son's name is Daniel and I have made sure that he is a christian boy and I do my darndist to keep him safe and christian. Why would he turn to a horrible drug that kills over 67.4% of people who use marijuana their first time!? I took away the bag of demonic herbs and called the police and 7 members of our church to do an exorcism but i'm afraid this isn't enough! Help me!

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Jodi - posted on 10/27/2012

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I think you need to do your research elsewhere, because statistically there are actually NO recorded deaths from cannabis, so your research is shady at best, and totally wrong.



I agree with the other ladies on this one, it was one joint. Even calling the police was overboard, they wouldn't have done a damn thing. And the exorcism? Way to drive your child away and likely never look back.



How old is your son? Opening his door and going into his room without permission is asking to see things you don't want to see......

Jodi - posted on 10/27/2012

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Susan, if you are going to freak out at your own son for smoking marijuana, at least get your facts straight. Your father is not a particularly reliable source. Marijuana does not make a person violent, and you have very obviously not bothered to do your own research. If you are going to judge your son and call in the church (which is a silly idea), at least be intelligent enough to know something about it first from your own research from unbiased sources. You have been fed nothing but lies and misconceptions.



A rehab centre is definitely a better option than an exorcism. More people have died from exorcisms than from smoking marijuana. Look it up.



And if you were my mother, I wouldn't tell you I wasn't Christian either. You'd be likely to have me put in conversion therapy or something. With your reaction to this, it is quite obvious you aren't the type of mother who would take it at all well. Why would your son tell you?

Lacye - posted on 10/27/2012

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Please tell me you did not perform an exorcism on your child because he was smoking pot. If you did, wow. I have seen some insane (and incredibly stupid) ideas from some people on this site but that takes the cake. It was pot! The worst he could have done was eat everything in the house!



I am by no means a marijuana advocate but that was just way overboard. Also, pot has been known to help cancer patients, glaucoma, MS, Alzheimer's disease, and even AIDS and HIV. I hardly call that "demonic herbs". Oh and below is the website I got my info from on the good things pot can do:



http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Medical_can...



As for him being a Christian, have you ever asked him if he wanted to be a Christian? You might find the answer somewhat surprising. Especially if you keep forcing it down his throat.

Sarah - posted on 10/27/2012

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I can imagine this is a huge shock for you, but you need to take a few breaths and look at this rationally. Firstly, where did you get your statistics from about people dying of first time drug use? They seem unrealistically high to me.

Second casual drug use is not a sign of demon possession and performing an exorcism on him is likely to have him running from the church faster than anything.

Have you considered talking to him about why he is doing this in a calm, non-judgemental way? Does he have a youth pastor or worker he can talk to if he doesn't want to talk to you?



Sadly, we can't protect our children from all the dangers of the world, we can only pray, guide and be there for them when they fall.

Michelle - posted on 10/27/2012

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Just because I'm not Christian doesn't mean that my children don't know right from wrong. My oldest son knows the dangers of drugs and we have a very open relationship. We talk about everything going on with him and if he has any problems at all he tells me.



I would much prefer the relationship that I have with my children than to be "A REAL Christan parent like you" I'm glad my parents aren't Christian as well if that's how you treat your children.



We need to nurture our children and let them know that they can come to us in times of need. They don't need to feel that they can't discuss certain things with their own parents. That's when you find your children are getting "interesting" advice from others that may not be correct. Mind you, your information about marijuana isn't correct either, so he may get better information from others.

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Shawnn - posted on 11/18/2013

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ROFLMAO

How did I miss this one!!!!!!!!

"a horrible drug that kills over 67.4% of first time users"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lmfao. Seriously! For a natural plant that I can grow in my back yard and use for multiple purposes, getting loopy only being one of them. (Ok, so I can't LEGALLY grow it...)

"Demonic bag of herbs"...Straight from the mouth of a former stoner...

"exorcism"...Well, there aren't any demons to exorcise, but hopefully you had fun with that...

Oh, my...Susan, if you're the "good christian woman" that you claim to be, your whole post is unchristian. You have taken it upon yourself to judge your son, his actions, and his choices. That privilege, my dear, belongs with God.

Maybe it's time to shake out your old roach clip, and join sonny for a puff or two...and mellow the hell out~!

Oh, and just so you know...They "guy" that you "heard" about eating someone's face...That wasn't cannibis. That was a chemical, produced in a lab, and marketed as "synthetic" marijuana. Chemicals will get ya every time...

Lacye - posted on 10/28/2012

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This has got to be a fake person. There is no WAY a person can be this stupid. Lady, YOU have hit my hormone button this morning. Congrats. Now YOU are going to listen:



I am a Christian. I have actually smoked pot. It was a LONG time ago but out of the two of us, I think I will have more experience than you will. Your father is WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Smoking pot does not cause you to be violent, it actually relaxes you. As for the dumbass who was on drugs when he ate that dude's face, he was smoking pot BUT the doctors said that the man was already bat shit CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!! Your excuses are invalid.



Now on your behavior on the whole situation. You need to be locked up for the way you have been treating your son! Locking him in his room because you want to make sure he's not high anymore? Lady if I didn't know any better, I would say you were the one on drugs. This crap happened early yesterday and I can tell you now that he is no longer high! And if you go through with the exorcism, you are abusing this child! You need to have him taken away from you!



That is, if this is not some douche bag troll who just wants to get people pissed off.

Dove - posted on 10/27/2012

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Would you like the phone number of the pastor at my church? I'm sure he'd be willing to counsel you. Then again... since he used to SMOKE pot in his youth.... you probably wouldn't listen to a word he said and would just judge him on his past.... instead of the person God has brought him to be.

Dove - posted on 10/27/2012

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I stopped reading responses a while.... I think someone is trying to duplicate a male version of the movie Carrie.... Susan, you didn't happen to watch that movie recently did you? Cuz.... you sound like the mother.



Seriously, if you are a real mother here... PLEASE seek some serious counseling for yourself before you single handedly destroy your son and your relationship with him.... If there is any relationship left to salvage.



Believe me... I am 100% against all drugs and I would be devastated if one of my children chose to smoke pot and I would definitely lay down consequences and get them help, but YOU are overreacting and are going to push this boy over the edge here.

Jodi - posted on 10/27/2012

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That's fine Susan, you do as you please. After all, you ARE the parent. Just don't come back here in a couple of years crying because your son turned his back on you. Because that is exactly the road down which you are headed. But hey, what would I know, right?

Jazmyne - posted on 10/27/2012

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Oh dear what have I gotten myself into this time... Seriously this can't be serious... O.o? It's POT!!! It isn't going to kill him and you very well could have the police called on yourself for child abuse. Locking your child in their room is wrong... Out of the two of you, I don't think he's the one possessed...

Susan - posted on 10/27/2012

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That is absolutely ridiculous. That is being far too soft on him. Maybe YOU should become a REAL christian parent like me.

Michelle - posted on 10/27/2012

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Smoking pot a few times isn't going to ruin his life.

Pot doesn't make people violent, it mellows them and a lot of times they get really hungry.

Locking your son in his room isn't going to help your cause AT ALL!!!! You are pushing him further away.



I think you really need to step back and think about it rationally. I understand that you are hurt that he has tried it but it would be better to sit down calmly and talk to him about your concerns. I mean TALK, not berate or yell and force you opinions onto him. Talk to him like an adult and LISTEN to him as well.



If you want to gain the respect of your son you really need to listen to what he's saying. That means not talking over him or at him. Being quiet while he's talking and understanding his concerns.

Jodi - posted on 10/27/2012

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You locked your 16 year old son in his room for smoking marijuana.....yep, that will get you places and develop that trust relationship between you that will be more likely to have him listening to you and discussing the REAL issues that are bothering him. Way to go mum......

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/27/2012

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Seriously though, think you really need to learn about drugs and pot. It is fine that you are against it, and don't want him to do it. That is a big doi, but feeling he has ruined his entire life is a bit dramatic. Seriously, look it up and find out some hard facts about it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/27/2012

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Actually, I do find it rather comical that you think him smoking pot equates to him ruining his life and you need to perform an exorcism on him. Yup. That is laughable. I think it is borderline abuse that you have locked him in his room.

Susan - posted on 10/27/2012

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Well Little Miss Cant Be Wrong I hope you are happy with yourself finding that my son has destroyed his life. He has been locked in his room for countless hours now, I will let him out when I think he isn't high any more.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/27/2012

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I am sorry, but there is nothing in me that possibly thinks this is a serious pots. Whoops...Freudian slip...post.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/27/2012

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BAHAHAHAHAHAHA! This has to be a troll. just has to. Do an exorcism because your son is smoking an natural herb???? You do realize exorcisms are no longer done, and are strictly for people that have spirits possessing them. Your son smoking pot does not mean he is possessed, and has nothing to do with his religious upbringing.



Instead of praying for him, try educating him on the dangers of street drugs. Quite frankly your son chose the most harmless drug he could.



I would love to see your research on the subject and would DIE to see your stats saying 67% of first time pot smokers die. You know what? I think you both need some education on drugs.

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marijuhana is not going to make your son violent. If anything, it relaxes people. The guy who bit someones face off recently was taking an elicit drug that had been manufatured in a lab.

You have to face the reality that your son may turn his back on Christanity, and he may never return to it. It is his choice. Doesn't God allow you free will to make your own choice?

Sarah - posted on 10/27/2012

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I am concerned about the whole exorcism part, and this is from someone who believes passionately in the work of the Holy Spirit and the value of prayer ministry. The need for deliverance is rare, and is not to be undertaken lightly. Giving into temptation, which we all do, does not mean we are demon possessed.



I believe it would help your son more to pray for him to have wisdom and strength to withstand further temptation, and for you to get educated yourself so you can give him the facts about drug use.

Susan - posted on 10/27/2012

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I read a story in which a man had eaten the face off of a homless man while he was on drugs. I don't want my christian son smoking something like marijuana which my father told me makes you very violent. My son is 16 and i've made sure he has beena christian since birth. He would have said something by now at his age. I'm researching local rehab centers and will be discussing the exorcism with my church tomorrow. Many of you seem unsupportive of that which I do not understand. I told the police it was a misunderstanding because I don't want my son with thugs in prison. I have not spoken to my son about this yet because I do not want to be near him if he is "High".

Jodi - posted on 10/27/2012

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Actually, I've done research through the Australian Bureau of Statistics for a psychology unit, and they are a completely non-biased organisation, and cannabis is not directly responsible for any deaths. I say directly, because there are indirect deaths, such as car accidents, or use of pot with tobacco, etc, but just smoking the stuff? No deaths.

Dove - posted on 10/27/2012

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I am very pro-Christianity and very anti-any drug use, but.... wow.



Number one... you can't make anyone else a Christian. You can guide them towards a relationship with Jesus, but whether or not they HAVE that relationship with Jesus is 100% on them.



Number 2... where are you getting your information that smoking POT kills so many people. Most advocates of pot smoking are the ones that post link after link of how pot doesn't 'harm' anyone... it's definitely not responsible for killing 67.4% (or maybe even any percent) of people who use it for the first time. It's not a demonic herb.



Number 3.... performing an exorcism on some kid who decides to smoke pot is a pretty sure fire way to have him running as far away from the church as he can possibly get.



My advice.... seek a Christian therapist for yourself. Someone who can help you see reality AND help with the problems with your son.

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