my daughter discovered her vagina...

Krista - posted on 10/08/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 6 1/2 months old and she just discovered her vagina. during diaper changes she tries to touch it. i know to her its like discovering her hands and feet. but i dont know how to feel about this. is it normal? what should i do? shes so young.

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JuLeah - posted on 10/08/2010

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Liz .... noooooo "When she gets older just make sure that she understands that that is considered naughty and we don't want to get sick, or show anyone our bottom."

It is not considered naughty and it won't make her sick, it won't cause worts, or make a person go blind ..... it is not bad. It is human, normal. There should not be shame involved with this. She is doing nothing wrong. I am thrilled her mom will raise her with a healthy mentality about this and not raise her with to feel that something is dirty or wrong.

Tara - posted on 10/08/2010

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Totally normal, both my girls do that. My youngest (turned 1 Oct. 2nd) still isn't quite old enough to understand the issue of privacy, etc, but my oldest (2 1/2) gets the idea and we just tell her "I know that feels nice or that you're curious but we don't touch ourselves in public..." Just make sure she has good hygiene to avoid infections if she touches herself.

Lucy - posted on 10/08/2010

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Yes, it's totally normal.

It's just like discovering any other part of her body- Her developing baby brain doesn't equate it with anything sexual, but it feels good, she's just exploring her own body and the world around her.

On a practical note, gently move her hands away until you've cleaned her to avoid her getting an infection, but once she's all freshened up, let her be. They're her bits, after all! As she gets older, let her know that it is something to do on her own in her room or bathroom, and not in company, but there is no need to discourage it all together, it's perfectly natural.

Francesca - posted on 10/08/2010

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Very normal. Especially because it's an area of her body she can't touch at all when her diaper's on. You don't really have much of a problem until the diapers come off after potty training. By then the child is old enough to talk to and you can start the repeated discussion of "We don't touch ourselves there in public. Please get your hands out of your underwear."

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Kayla - posted on 10/10/2010

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be proud of her! six and a half months old and she remembers a location? She is SO smart... and for the record this IS inevitable

Marissa - posted on 10/10/2010

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So my son is 6 now and everytime we watch a movie or he is just relaxing he has his hand in his underwear, I just tell him nicely... don't do that in front of anyone, thats your own business. and he understands

Karen - posted on 10/08/2010

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i agree with the other comments, it's normal don't make it a big issue until she can understand what you are saying, cleanliness is the biggie and it's not a 'dirty' thing to do it's a natural part of discovery, just as they get older there is a time and place for it.

Tanya - posted on 10/08/2010

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I would tell her it is her demon hole where the devil blood comes from. Then I would promptly sew it shut!

NO I am just kidding. It is completely normal!

Sasha - posted on 10/08/2010

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I think what liz was saying was that you have to be carefull when she get's older as she may put foreign object's or finger's in it which can cause thrush and other kid's of germ's.

Charlie - posted on 10/08/2010

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Its absolutely normal !!

And it is NOT naughty , my gosh !
Its natural and when she is older you can explain that it is something done in private do not make a big deal out of it , she will stop when she finds something else to explore :D

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Not 'naughty' Liz, but private. It IS 'naughty' for someone ELSE to touch her there (maybe that's what you meant), but not for herself.

Kate CP - posted on 10/08/2010

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Normal. Let it go. Keep her hands busy when she's dirty so you're not cleaning her butt and then her hands (and her face, her mouth, her arms, etc etc).

Courtney - posted on 10/08/2010

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Completely normal. However, my daughters never did this. My 8 month old is always scratchin her rear though, lol.

JuLeah - posted on 10/08/2010

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We are sexual from birth. Congrats to her :)
It is very normal, what is not normal (common) is that you are asking if it is normal; you are not slapping her little hand, shaming, yelling ... making her ashamed of her feeling and body. Your daughter has a chance to grow up with a healthy positive body image. She might be able to approach sex as an adult without needing to work through all the shame most of us got from our mothers. So, good for you!

Liz - posted on 10/08/2010

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Just like they all said "totally normal". Don't make an issue out of this. When she gets older just make sure that she understands that that is considered naughty and we don't want to get sick, or show anyone our bottom. So wash her hands and move on and just send the gentle reminders when needed.

Sasha - posted on 10/08/2010

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My daughter is 15 month's old and touches her's during bath time and nappy changes. It's very normal but i'v also found you can;t stop them from touching it. We tried growling at her telling her you don't touch that but it didn't work so we just ignore it.

Krista - posted on 10/08/2010

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Yep, perfectly normal. To her, it's just another body part. Just take Lucy's advice about cleanliness.

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