my daughter is 11 and wants to wear make up to school. I told her no and she cried... Should i let her wear make up?

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Dove - posted on 12/01/2012

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If you told her no.... no. If you give in just because she cried... you're in for a LOT of trouble over the next 7 years.



11 year old girls are highly emotional creatures. Looking at them 'wrong' will have them in tears or slamming doors.



If you had a reason for saying no... stick with it. My 11 year old is allowed nail polish and lip gloss (and has been for... basically forever), but is well aware that is it til at least 13. She tries to get me to change my mind, but I think it's ridiculous. There is NO need for make up at 11. IMO, there is no need for it ever, but I know I'm not convincing HER of that. ;)

Jodi - posted on 12/01/2012

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Our private and Catholic schools have strict rules, but the public schools don't. My kids are in the Catholic school system, but public schools have very relaxed rules about dress, etc. It's much more about managing behaviour, what they are wearing is the least of our worries......

Jodi - posted on 11/30/2012

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You've already said no to her. I imagine you have reasons. Personally, I don't believe an 11 year old needs makeup, and school isn't a place where it is necessary. Don't change your mind just because she cried! She's going to pull that one on you a lot in the coming years. You need to learn to be firm about your decisions, and if you don't believe she should wear makeup to school, then the answer is no. Just make sure she isn't sneaking it into her back and putting it on when she gets there......you have to be about 3 steps ahead of pre-teens/teens.



What you may have to do is decide where YOU stand on some of these issues, and why, and perhaps let her know how old she must be before you will allow it. At least then, she knows it won't be forever.



For example, my daughter (who is almost 8) knows that she can't have her ears pierced yet, even though all the kids around her are getting theirs done. I've told her she can have them done when she graduates from primary school (she will be almost 12) as a gift for something special. She is happy with that (although, she IS only 8, so hasn't taken on that pre-teen attitude yet) because I haven't said flat out no to her, I have given her a plan.

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Mia - posted on 06/14/2014

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Yes let her wear makeup it's fine as long as it is not mascara she should be fine

Lacye - posted on 12/01/2012

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I agree with the other ladies. You told her no already. You need to stick with it or she will walk all over you.



Personally, I believe 11 is way too young to be wearing makeup. She doesn't really need it. Besides, makeup looks weird on little kids to me.

S. - posted on 12/01/2012

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Our privet schools are even more strict. The public ones was more relaxed but in the last around 5 years they have cracked down too. I think even without a rule of no make up I'd be discouraging my 11 year old from wearing make up to school. I'd readdress the issue at a later time.

S. - posted on 12/01/2012

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Wow really jodi! School's here have very strict rules, like skirts a certain length, and a certain type of trouser,shoe ext and that's a add on to the uniformed blazers, shirts, ties.

At most schools boys are supposed to have one length cut hair so no funky cuts or word shaved in, and girls are meant to have natural coloured hair, and no make up! As they get older the schools seem to relax about make up at maybe 14-16 but at 11 they would be made to take it off, my sister in law (16 now) has been on make up report loads of times were shes made at certain times of the day to check her face, and warned with suspension if she didn't dye here hair back to brown.

Jodi - posted on 12/01/2012

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You'd be surprised SJ. I am a teacher at a high school here (7th-10th grade), and some of those girls look like they need to own shares in a makeup company, just to afford what they paste on their faces! Some of them look like cheap hookers, I kid you not. But there is no rule against it. And even if there was, I think you would find that the parents of these particular girls would let it go anyway. To be honest, I find it sad.

S. - posted on 12/01/2012

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You told her NO you should stick to it other wise everytime you say no she will cry to get her own way, I'm sure the school wouldn have a no make rule anyway.

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