My daughter is 22 Months old and cannot get to sleep without nursing STILL

Kim - posted on 01/27/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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We decided to cosleep with our daughter after she got a really bad ear infection when she was like 2 months old and has slept with us every since. She never took a bottle or pacifier and strictly nursed. Now she is 22 months old and I just don't know what to do about her not getting to sleep without nursing. I have no idea how to wean her at this point...or how to teach her to get to sleep by herself and sleep in her own bed. I love her so much and it will be harder for me than her (probably) but I need some rest after almost 3 years of no sleep (including pregnancy). How do you gently make that change? What can i do to help her get to sleep on her own and in her own bed? I want to get her a toddler bed and maybe that will help. Any suggestions? I am desperate.

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Gaynor-Marie - posted on 08/17/2010

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I've had a similar thing with my 2 year old, Try to get him to eat well so hunger isn't the problem and then get dad to do the bed time routine. Make it fun ride to bed, a couple of stories or songs till he's asleep then you can cut back on the stories or songs when he gets the hang of it. mine now goes to bed well for his sister or dad sometimes for me. But if he gets cold during the night he ends up in my bed looking for a drink.
Good luck

Laura - posted on 08/17/2010

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I have had friends who have had good luck with using Dr. Jay Gordon's method. He is very bfing friendly and bed sharing friendly.
http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleepp...

I find getting Daddy to help in the night helps me. My 26 mos old sleeps half the night in her bed and half in mine and that works well for us. Someday she will sleep on her own but for now it is a good compromise.

Kim - posted on 01/27/2010

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HI Katherine,
I appreciate your response more than you know. You are so sweet to take so much time and I know it will work out- I just feel lost with it right now. I am so not sure of what to do. I don't want her to wean and will be sad, but at the same time I am so tired. Thanks again so much. Many Blessings, Kim

Katherine - posted on 01/27/2010

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Hi, my 22month old baby boy cosleeps with me as well, and he still likes to nurse in the night as well. I sometimes give him a bottle with cows milk with nesquick chocolate mix, its healthy or water in the bottle. sometimes I put him in his toddler bed, but he will wake himself up looking for the breast to nurse, my now 7yr. old nursed until 2 1/2 and cosleeped, he weaned himself. he now sleeps in his own room and bed. so, you can wait to wean or try laying next to your baby after you nurse then leave once she falls asleep then leave the room, try putting her down to get use to it during the day for naps; its easyier to deal with during the day when your not so tired and can deal with her not taking to it instead of at night when your tired and want to go too sleep. My baby boys doesn't really like bottles, he takes them once in awhile, loves the breast, as soon as he falls asleep tho, I take it out, breast milk left in mouth can cause teeth decay, so, I try to only let him nurse just enough to get him back to sleep; trust me they do know how to fall asleep on there own when there tired. Mine has no trouble falling asleep in the high chair or in the car seat,lol..... make a routine dinner/story or special toy; bath; nurse only in a chair not your bed then lay with her in her own bed, talk to her about what your doing, they are smart and do understand what you say to them, and if you do and say the samethings all the time, they will get it. I have mine picking up his toys now, he isn't a baby anymore, lol. time to work for them toys,lol..... play some soft music and nite light on and explain and be strong with time she will learn to fall asleep on own and love her alone time in her bed. alll else fails, co sleep and nurse until she is ready to wean. I'm not rushing mine yet, cuz i know from my past it won't be long now, and that will be bittersweet when I don't nurse anymore. My daughter nursed until she was 2 1/2 one month shy of 3yrs. old, I was pregnant and explained that after the baby is born/here he will need to nurse, that you are a biggg girl and bigggg girls drink from a special sippy cup not bottles or mommies breast ect.. she understood, but after baby came home and she saw him nursing she had a COWWW first time I saw her lay down on floor flat and kick and scream and cry like I was killing her, went on for a week, sorry, I already told you once the baby was born that he needs to nurse and you drink from a sippy cup, we said goodbye to nursing its for your baby brother now right, after a week she forgot all about nursing completely weaned. Motherhood isn't easy, thats for sure. it has its momments. but its all worth it in the long run. Good luck. take care. dont let anyone pressure you into weaning if you and her are not ready. bye.

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