My daughter is a lesbian...I am losing my mind!!!!

Machelle - posted on 04/19/2009 ( 680 moms have responded )

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It is my middle daughter...I am reading Barbara Johnson's books to find some humor in this horrible mess. I am so upset and to be honest, disgusted. I love my daughter, but NOT this action she is taking. It is just fine for other women to be lesbians, but not my little girl!!!

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Kelly - posted on 04/19/2009

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Three years ago, my daughter came to me with a "confession", that she was gay. She was so nervous, so unsure of how I would take it. I always taught my children that I would always be open to whatever they needed to talk to me about, without being judgemental. But seeing the uncertainty on her face on how I receive her hurt me more than anything she could say. This is my oldest of four. She is the one who brought the most significant change to my life. No matter what kind of life we envision for our children as we birth and raise them, the bottom line is their life is their life, just as our was ours when we left the roost. Is it what I want for her? No. Can I live her life? No. This child who was created in love, raised in love and continues to be loved is my baby girl, my stinky feet (:-O). I couldn't turn my back on her no matter what she said.



At the end of the day, she will always be my daughter, no matter who she loves, no matter who is in her life. I would willingly die for her - any time. Does it matter to me what her sexual orientation is if it means her not being in my life? Never.



My advice to you is to put aside your feelings and embrace your daughter. It is her that you love, not her friends or lovers or anything else for that matter. She could fall in love and marry a serial killer. Would that be better? All we can hope is that they find someone to love them like we would love them. Our children will always do things we don't want them to just as we did to our parents. How much does she matter to you?

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She's a lesbian. She doesn't have leprosy. She likes girls and not boys. It's not a disease.

Rachel - posted on 04/20/2009

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Quoting Annette:

I believe it is a hard thing to handle and I don't know what is the right way to deal with. I know I would have a hard time with that kind of revelation. I believe that kind of lifestyle to be a sin and very wrong in the sight of God. All I can say is pray for her. Pray God to change her heart, emtions and attitude. See if she will talk to you and find out what has happened in her life to make her choose that lifestyle. Most people that I have heard about that have choosen that lifestyle have had some kind of sexual abues happen to them. I don't care what anyone else says, people CAN and HAVE been delivered out of that lifestyle.


what a nasty small minded biggot you are, if you really believe in god then dont you think it's blasphemas for you to want to change one of his/her creations?????? i think nasty little people like you need to be delivered out of your lifestyle.



Machelle it doesn't change who she is and i think if any of us were to face what our children did in bed we would all be a bit disgusted, sex is fine for other pepole but not our children?!?



Don't let nasty little people like Annette make you think what your daughter is doing is wrong, because it's not, it's not a horrible mess it's just different.

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Sexual orientation is not a choice. No matter if she is attracted to guys or girls you should accept her the way she is for who she is. Don;t judge her because she is that way she can't choose not to be homosexual just like she can't choose the color of her eyes. Be supportive and remember that the only difference is what goes on behind closed doors (which is none of your business anyway). IT IS NOT A CHOICE. Would you rather have you daughter be unhappy all her life and date guys she is not attracted to? That's not a life. Be there for her if she needs it. You don;t have to be extastic about her sexual orientation but just be there for her. She is still you daugther and that is one thing that will never change.

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I guess the question is: do you love your child unconditionally? If yes, then you will accept her as she is, and now how you want her to be. If you are putting conditions on your love for her (she must not be a lesbian to have your love), then you do not love her unconditionally. Perhaps your challenge here is to learn to love her unconditionally. If you can't do this, then you both lose.

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Jennifer - posted on 02/01/2011

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Put your faith and trust in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Love your daughter unconditionally, no matter what her choices are. You can not change her, you can only love her and pray for her choices.

Melissa - posted on 05/21/2009

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if shes only young then it could just be a something she wants to experiment but support her anyway wether you agree with what she is doing or not as long as shes happy shouldnt matter who she loves

Melissa - posted on 05/21/2009

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if shes only young then it could just be a something she wants to experiment but support her anyway wether you agree with what she is doing or not as long as shes happy shouldnt matter who she loves

Audra - posted on 05/20/2009

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She cannot help being gay she was born that way so love her for who she is.

Traci - posted on 05/17/2009

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If that happened to my family, I would tell my child that I loved him or her, just don't expect me to go parading around in the streets with you about it. Then, we would move on with our lives. The end.

Traci - posted on 05/17/2009

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Quoting Hannah:



Quoting Michelle:




Quoting Hannah:





Quoting Theresa:

You are correct "but not my little girl." Whether people want to hear this or not, they don't have to read it. But it is written in the word of God that this kind of behaviour is a perversion in the site of our Father. Don't panic though! First and formost call on the Name of our Savior ~ He's the same yesturday, today and forever and HE's just waiting for you to call on HIM. Second ~ start reading your Bible, get into church and BELIEVE - BELIEVE - BELIEVE what our Father says in the Bible. That is the secret to life, just believing. Those who trust in the Lord, will not be put to shame. Pray without ceasing, pray and trust and believe your prayers will be answered. And last, live by faith and not by sight! Which means: live knowing that your prayers will be answered even if your child's behaviour does not change just yet....wait on the Lord! He is love and HE loves you both and will correct where correction is needed, especially now that you have turned to HIM! Blessings in Christ & See you in eternity!









"HE" loves you" but if you dont do what he wants he is going to burn you in HELL?? WTF?










"wait on the lord" "prayers will be answerd" BULL SHIT. OPEN your eyes. You are being pumped full of lies and false hope. Accept what happens in life accept those in your life different than you. Live life to its fullest. Step out of your little tiny sad world and let live! UHG!












You obviously have no faith in God because if you did you would know that it is not the actions that you take that get you into heaven but the belief that Jesus died  and suffered on the Cross that does, and that only non-believers are doomed to "burn in Hell".  Don' t knock peoples faith, you can have your opinion on what this would woman should do about her daughter but don't knock someone elses opinion of relying on God and Faith to heal her.  God Bless and Guide you always.









Hey, No shit Sherlock. I am not a Christian woman.






"it is not the actions that you take that get you into heaven but the belief that Jesus died  and suffered on the Cross that does, and that only non-believers are doomed to "burn in Hell"






SO by that "logic"....Say this guy is a born again christian, right? Loves God, Believes, BLAH BLAH BLAH....If he molests his niece....does he still get into heaven beacause he accepts Jesus as his savior?   Or the Good christian husband who beats his wife then prays and says hes sorry to God. What about the Homosexuals who bealieve in God? Where do they go?






HOMOSEXUALITY IS NOT A DISEASE or sickly wound to be washed in the waters of Jesus. It is NOT A CHOICE.






You are pushing your "opinion" on me as well, bible toter.   " God Bless and Guide you always." 






Right there in your nice words to me, you are pushing something on me that is not mine.






May Pagan spirits Bless and Guide you always.






May the trees laugh at your blissful ignorance and trip you always.





Based on my reading of some of your posts, you are one ANGRY woman!  Why so angry?  Perhaps you need to go cool off in your spiritual earthy waters and do some meditation. 



 



 

Stephanie - posted on 05/16/2009

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So what she is gay get over it. People dont choose who they love or who they are attracted to. She didnt choose to be gay thats just they way she is and you should accept your daughter no matter what.

Stephanie - posted on 05/16/2009

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So what she is gay get over it. People dont choose who they love or who they are attracted to. She didnt choose to be gay thats just they way she is and you should accept your daughter no matter what.

Bonnie - posted on 05/16/2009

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To all the religious fundamental fanatics you make me ashamed of being a Christian. I suggest you read my posts throughout this topic to actually gain and theological education. How dare you all claim to be Christians!!!!!

Bonnie - posted on 05/16/2009

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Suicide by homosexial females is twice as high as hetrosexual females and 4 times as high for males with 10 times as high for attempts. And we wonder why? !!!!!! The most common reason is due to alienation by family!!!!!!!!! I will never be held responsible for my daughters premature death. I love her unconditionally and always will

Ashlee - posted on 05/13/2009

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im sorry to say this and your rpobably not going to like it at all but your acting as if being a lesbian is my choice and its not if your daughter likes women then she likes women your acting as if its the worse thing and its not if anything you should be happy for her and hope she finds love one day wether it be with a man or women dont treat her any different and make her feel grose about it if she told you this she probably trusted you enough to tell you and you should be happy she is still your daughter

Abby - posted on 05/13/2009

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Quoting Michelle:

i know it is horrible u want the best for your daughter but be strong i know deep in my heart i wouldnt want my daughter coming home tellin me something like that.



how is it not the best for her if she is HAPPY??? sod whether she is a lesbian!!!!

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i know it is horrible u want the best for your daughter but be strong i know deep in my heart i wouldnt want my daughter coming home tellin me something like that.

Abby - posted on 05/12/2009

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goodness me, all these people praying for her, she must be straight by now if HE really does listen!!!!!

Hannah - posted on 05/12/2009

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Quoting Timond:

I'm not sure if you all are Christians (prayerfully you are), however, as parents we are instructed to train our children in the ways of the Lord!! The Bible says that homosexuality is an abominiation unto the Lord. (Leviticus 18:22) So as her parent you should teach her and explain to her that this does not please God. And also teach her where those that practice homosexuaIity will spend eternity in HELL!! No, I'm not saying that you can make this decision for her but you have to make sure that she knows the truth about her decision to practice such ungodly things. The fact of the matter is, If homosexuals do not repent of this "perversion" they will spend eternity in hell.(1 Corinthians 6:9-10 & Galatians 5:19-21 & 1 Timothy 1:10 & Revelation 21:8).

Prayerfully this will give you some TRUTH about the fact and you can be the parent that God created you to be!! I will pray for you and your daughter that she will be delivered from this perverse spirit. God Bless You!!


 



I give up.

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Quoting Timond:

I'm not sure if you all are Christians (prayerfully you are), however, as parents we are instructed to train our children in the ways of the Lord!! The Bible says that homosexuality is an abominiation unto the Lord. (Leviticus 18:22) So as her parent you should teach her and explain to her that this does not please God. And also teach her where those that practice homosexuaIity will spend eternity in HELL!! No, I'm not saying that you can make this decision for her but you have to make sure that she knows the truth about her decision to practice such ungodly things. The fact of the matter is, If homosexuals do not repent of this "perversion" they will spend eternity in hell.(1 Corinthians 6:9-10 & Galatians 5:19-21 & 1 Timothy 1:10 & Revelation 21:8).

Prayerfully this will give you some TRUTH about the fact and you can be the parent that God created you to be!! I will pray for you and your daughter that she will be delivered from this perverse spirit. God Bless You!!



Prayerfully none of your kids were BORN/CREATED (!!!!!!!!!) gay because with this kind of mindless, baseless, intolerant indoctrination they would be destined for a huge amount of misery and disfunction. And yes, please do explain all those other verses in the bible too. Like the ones condoning slavery. I assume you prayerfully subscribe to those too? Ridiculous. This is the 20th century people. We have learned and evolved since the year zero. Or some of us have anyway.

~Jennifer - posted on 05/12/2009

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Quoting Timond:

I'm not sure if you all are Christians (prayerfully you are), however, as parents we are instructed to train our children in the ways of the Lord!! The Bible says that homosexuality is an abominiation unto the Lord. (Leviticus 18:22) So as her parent you should teach her and explain to her that this does not please God. And also teach her where those that practice homosexuaIity will spend eternity in HELL!! No, I'm not saying that you can make this decision for her but you have to make sure that she knows the truth about her decision to practice such ungodly things. The fact of the matter is, If homosexuals do not repent of this "perversion" they will spend eternity in hell.(1 Corinthians 6:9-10 & Galatians 5:19-21 & 1 Timothy 1:10 & Revelation 21:8).

Prayerfully this will give you some TRUTH about the fact and you can be the parent that God created you to be!! I will pray for you and your daughter that she will be delivered from this perverse spirit. God Bless You!!


Please explain the rest of Leviticus to us and why only one verse should be adhered to.



(After that, explain how Timothy is relevant while telling us that we may not wear gold or other'adornments)



Please explain the logic behind this 'pick and choose' Bible verse philosophy.....because no other "Christian' has or has been able to yet.



Thanks.

Timond - posted on 05/12/2009

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I'm not sure if you all are Christians (prayerfully you are), however, as parents we are instructed to train our children in the ways of the Lord!! The Bible says that homosexuality is an abominiation unto the Lord. (Leviticus 18:22) So as her parent you should teach her and explain to her that this does not please God. And also teach her where those that practice homosexuaIity will spend eternity in HELL!! No, I'm not saying that you can make this decision for her but you have to make sure that she knows the truth about her decision to practice such ungodly things. The fact of the matter is, If homosexuals do not repent of this "perversion" they will spend eternity in hell.(1 Corinthians 6:9-10 & Galatians 5:19-21 & 1 Timothy 1:10 & Revelation 21:8).



Prayerfully this will give you some TRUTH about the fact and you can be the parent that God created you to be!! I will pray for you and your daughter that she will be delivered from this perverse spirit. God Bless You!!

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wow, i have a girl and two boys, and i think id try not to make too bigger deal about it at the moment and see what happens, maybe she just thinks girls are pretty and is getting mixed up with the feelings.But i have to say, i was watching t.v the other day and it was a series thats on every week, but this time it was about a lesbien couple, and my kids asked why do two girls or two boys kiss? what do you say to kids of 10yrs and 7yrs?its normal?theyre being silly or some of them are wierd?Their too much on tv and they grow up thinking its normal,i dont have a problem with gays and lesbiens, but i think its wrong that its pushed so much on the tv, I dont want to see it and i definatly dont want my young children too.

Jeanine - posted on 05/12/2009

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As long as your daughter is happy, that is the main thing, the bigger the issue you make could result in you losing your daughter..be happy that she is not doing drugs or something else. I am a mother of five and as long as my kids are happy and healthy that is my main concern. Your daughter cannot help who she falls in love with or to what sex. Please accept this, it's your daughter, they are the most precious gifts in the world

Jeanine - posted on 05/12/2009

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As long as your daughter is happy, that is the main thing, the bigger the issue you make could result in you losing your daughter..be happy that she is not doing drugs or something else. I am a mother of five and as long as my kids are happy and healthy that is my main concern. Your daughter cannot help who she falls in love with or to what sex. Please accept this, it's your daughter, they are the most precious gifts in the world

Julie - posted on 05/12/2009

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shame shame shame on you.... she is gay. love her just the same way she is your DAUGHTER get over it nothing bad about it if my kids tell me they gay it would not worry me one little bit i love them no matter what sex they date

Hannah - posted on 05/11/2009

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Quoting Jennifer:



Quoting Michelle:




Quoting Marta:

Horrible mess? Disgusted? Action she's taking? I feel sorry for your daughter for having such a mother. I also feel sorry for all the kids of the parents who replied with "I feel sorry for you; I know it must be horrible for you"etc. It's not about YOU, it's about HER.
I have a little girl, and if some day she comes to me and says "I wanna dye my hair red" I'll say fine. If she says "I wanna study law" I'll say fine. And if she says "I' wanna live with a girl" I'll say fine. Got the point?
For all of you religious fanatics out there-live the God out of it.







Religious fanatics??!!  God has everything  to do with it?  In Leviticus 22 it states "it is an abomination"  "man shall not lay with man as he lays with woman, and woman shall not lay with woman as she lays with man"  . you obviously have no belief in God or the Bible.  I am a christian and a mother and would feel the exact same way as this woman if my daughter told me the same thing.  I would also love her because she is my daughter but i would pray day and night for God to forgive her misguided ways and ask Him to help her find her way back to Him.  You can not  leave God out of it if you are a true christian being.  God help you and be with you and may He guide you  back from your misguided ways.









...yes, let's talk about Leviticus.  






Leviticus 11:8, which is discussing pigs, reads "You shall not eat of their flesh nor touch their carcasses; they are unclean to you."

     ( And you're doubly breaking that if you wake up, eat some sausage or bacon and  then go throw around the football. Or go to the county fair and enter a greased pig catching contest.)






Leviticus 19:31 reads "Do not turn to mediums or spiritists; do not seek them out to be defiled by them. I am the Lord your God." The penalty for that? Check Leviticus 20:6: "As for the person who turns to mediums and to spiritists, to play the harlot after them, I will also set My face against that person and will cut him off from among his people."






 (Before you call a 900 number (do people still call 900 numbers, by the way?), read your horoscope or crack open a fortune cookie, realize you're in huge trouble if you do.)






Leviticus 19:28 reads, "You shall not make any cuts in your body for the dead nor make any tattoo marks on yourselves: I am the Lord."

     ( Not even a little butterfly on your ankle. Or Thug Life across your abdomen. Or even, fittingly enough, a cross.)






Leviticus 19:19 reads, "You are to keep My statutes. You shall not breed together two kinds of your cattle; you shall not sow your field with two kinds of seed, nor wear a garment upon you of two kinds of material mixed together."

      (Check the tag on your shirt right now. Didn't realize you were mid-sin at this exact second, did you? )






Leviticus 11:10 reads, "But whatever is in the seas and in the rivers that does not have fins and scales among all the teeming life of the water, and among all the living creatures that are in the water, they are detestable things to you." And shellfish is right in that wheelhouse.

      Leviticus 11 bans a TON of animals from being eaten (it's THE basis for Kosher law); beyond shellfish and pig, it also says you can't eat camel, rock badger, rabbit, eagle, vulture, buzzard, falcon, raven, crow, ostrich, owl, seagull, hawk, pelican, stork, heron, bat, winged insects that walk on four legs unless they have joints to jump with like grasshoppers (?), bear, mole, mouse, lizard, gecko, crocodile, chameleon and snail.

    ( Shellfish:  Lobster, crab, shrimp, clams -yes, clam chowder too- all BANNED.)






 Leviticus 19:27 reads "You shall not round off the side-growth of your heads nor harm the edges of your beard."






 (Round haircuts. See you in Hell, Beatles... and/or kids with bowl cuts, surfer cuts or (my favorite) butt cuts.   Or your day at the hair salon - didn't realize that you weren't allowed that haircut, did ya?)






 






Point being:  If you take from Leviticus one thing  - just one, and call it law, what gives you the right to ignore the rest of  the chapter?   People who love to spout verses that pertain to the one thing they want to believe, but then ignore the rest are nothing more than hypocrites.






Here's a good question.....






Do you go away to a hotel while you have your period or does your husband leave the home for a week? (Leviticus 15: 19-24.)






 






Lev. 15:Lev. 15:19-2419-24





Haha! I love it. Well stated.

~Jennifer - posted on 05/11/2009

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Quoting Michelle:



Quoting Marta:

Horrible mess? Disgusted? Action she's taking? I feel sorry for your daughter for having such a mother. I also feel sorry for all the kids of the parents who replied with "I feel sorry for you; I know it must be horrible for you"etc. It's not about YOU, it's about HER.
I have a little girl, and if some day she comes to me and says "I wanna dye my hair red" I'll say fine. If she says "I wanna study law" I'll say fine. And if she says "I' wanna live with a girl" I'll say fine. Got the point?
For all of you religious fanatics out there-live the God out of it.





Religious fanatics??!!  God has everything  to do with it?  In Leviticus 22 it states "it is an abomination"  "man shall not lay with man as he lays with woman, and woman shall not lay with woman as she lays with man"  . you obviously have no belief in God or the Bible.  I am a christian and a mother and would feel the exact same way as this woman if my daughter told me the same thing.  I would also love her because she is my daughter but i would pray day and night for God to forgive her misguided ways and ask Him to help her find her way back to Him.  You can not  leave God out of it if you are a true christian being.  God help you and be with you and may He guide you  back from your misguided ways.





...yes, let's talk about Leviticus.  



Leviticus 11:8, which is discussing pigs, reads "You shall not eat of their flesh nor touch their carcasses; they are unclean to you."

     ( And you're doubly breaking that if you wake up, eat some sausage or bacon and  then go throw around the football. Or go to the county fair and enter a greased pig catching contest.)



Leviticus 19:31 reads "Do not turn to mediums or spiritists; do not seek them out to be defiled by them. I am the Lord your God." The penalty for that? Check Leviticus 20:6: "As for the person who turns to mediums and to spiritists, to play the harlot after them, I will also set My face against that person and will cut him off from among his people."



 (Before you call a 900 number (do people still call 900 numbers, by the way?), read your horoscope or crack open a fortune cookie, realize you're in huge trouble if you do.)



Leviticus 19:28 reads, "You shall not make any cuts in your body for the dead nor make any tattoo marks on yourselves: I am the Lord."

     ( Not even a little butterfly on your ankle. Or Thug Life across your abdomen. Or even, fittingly enough, a cross.)



Leviticus 19:19 reads, "You are to keep My statutes. You shall not breed together two kinds of your cattle; you shall not sow your field with two kinds of seed, nor wear a garment upon you of two kinds of material mixed together."

      (Check the tag on your shirt right now. Didn't realize you were mid-sin at this exact second, did you? )



Leviticus 11:10 reads, "But whatever is in the seas and in the rivers that does not have fins and scales among all the teeming life of the water, and among all the living creatures that are in the water, they are detestable things to you." And shellfish is right in that wheelhouse.

      Leviticus 11 bans a TON of animals from being eaten (it's THE basis for Kosher law); beyond shellfish and pig, it also says you can't eat camel, rock badger, rabbit, eagle, vulture, buzzard, falcon, raven, crow, ostrich, owl, seagull, hawk, pelican, stork, heron, bat, winged insects that walk on four legs unless they have joints to jump with like grasshoppers (?), bear, mole, mouse, lizard, gecko, crocodile, chameleon and snail.

    ( Shellfish:  Lobster, crab, shrimp, clams -yes, clam chowder too- all BANNED.)



 Leviticus 19:27 reads "You shall not round off the side-growth of your heads nor harm the edges of your beard."



 (Round haircuts. See you in Hell, Beatles... and/or kids with bowl cuts, surfer cuts or (my favorite) butt cuts.   Or your day at the hair salon - didn't realize that you weren't allowed that haircut, did ya?)



 



Point being:  If you take from Leviticus one thing  - just one, and call it law, what gives you the right to ignore the rest of  the chapter?   People who love to spout verses that pertain to the one thing they want to believe, but then ignore the rest are nothing more than hypocrites.



Here's a good question.....



Do you go away to a hotel while you have your period or does your husband leave the home for a week? (Leviticus 15: 19-24.)



 



Lev. 15:Lev. 15:19-2419-24

Abby - posted on 05/11/2009

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Quoting Michelle:

I can understand how you feel, i would be just as upset if i found out my daughter was gay. As a christian mom it goes against everything the Bible tells us, "It is abomination" but how can a mom not love her child right?! All you can do is pray that she will find the correct path and that God will forgive her misguided ways, and love her as only her mom can. God Bless you and all the best.


'god will forgive her misguided ways'??????? what are you chatting about???



seriously!!! who do you lot think u are? she has not chosen to smoke, or drink too much, or get in with the wrong crowd at school. she's a lesbian!! i thought god was supposed to love all his children??



and no he didnt make 'adam and steve' we evolved from monkeys? evolution? but if HE had then u and me wouldnt be here!!



there is no need to insult people, by being all christian and righteous, sounds to me like all the bible does is contradict itself! 

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I am a mother of five girls. From my experience when you ask a parent what they wont for their child most will say "I just want them 2 b happy. So if this is what makes your daughter happy you should support her. Do some research, I think its ofter the fear of the unknow that is the hardest to come to terms with. You daughter will Thank you.

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Quoting Michelle:



Quoting Hannah:




Quoting Theresa:

You are correct "but not my little girl." Whether people want to hear this or not, they don't have to read it. But it is written in the word of God that this kind of behaviour is a perversion in the site of our Father. Don't panic though! First and formost call on the Name of our Savior ~ He's the same yesturday, today and forever and HE's just waiting for you to call on HIM. Second ~ start reading your Bible, get into church and BELIEVE - BELIEVE - BELIEVE what our Father says in the Bible. That is the secret to life, just believing. Those who trust in the Lord, will not be put to shame. Pray without ceasing, pray and trust and believe your prayers will be answered. And last, live by faith and not by sight! Which means: live knowing that your prayers will be answered even if your child's behaviour does not change just yet....wait on the Lord! He is love and HE loves you both and will correct where correction is needed, especially now that you have turned to HIM! Blessings in Christ & See you in eternity!







"HE" loves you" but if you dont do what he wants he is going to burn you in HELL?? WTF?








"wait on the lord" "prayers will be answerd" BULL SHIT. OPEN your eyes. You are being pumped full of lies and false hope. Accept what happens in life accept those in your life different than you. Live life to its fullest. Step out of your little tiny sad world and let live! UHG!









You obviously have no faith in God because if you did you would know that it is not the actions that you take that get you into heaven but the belief that Jesus died  and suffered on the Cross that does, and that only non-believers are doomed to "burn in Hell".  Don' t knock peoples faith, you can have your opinion on what this would woman should do about her daughter but don't knock someone elses opinion of relying on God and Faith to heal her.  God Bless and Guide you always.





Hey, No shit Sherlock. I am not a Christian woman.



"it is not the actions that you take that get you into heaven but the belief that Jesus died  and suffered on the Cross that does, and that only non-believers are doomed to "burn in Hell"



SO by that "logic"....Say this guy is a born again christian, right? Loves God, Believes, BLAH BLAH BLAH....If he molests his niece....does he still get into heaven beacause he accepts Jesus as his savior?   Or the Good christian husband who beats his wife then prays and says hes sorry to God. What about the Homosexuals who bealieve in God? Where do they go?



HOMOSEXUALITY IS NOT A DISEASE or sickly wound to be washed in the waters of Jesus. It is NOT A CHOICE.



You are pushing your "opinion" on me as well, bible toter.   " God Bless and Guide you always." 



Right there in your nice words to me, you are pushing something on me that is not mine.



May Pagan spirits Bless and Guide you always.



May the trees laugh at your blissful ignorance and trip you always.

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Quoting Hannah:




Quoting Theresa:

You are correct "but not my little girl." Whether people want to hear this or not, they don't have to read it. But it is written in the word of God that this kind of behaviour is a perversion in the site of our Father. Don't panic though! First and formost call on the Name of our Savior ~ He's the same yesturday, today and forever and HE's just waiting for you to call on HIM. Second ~ start reading your Bible, get into church and BELIEVE - BELIEVE - BELIEVE what our Father says in the Bible. That is the secret to life, just believing. Those who trust in the Lord, will not be put to shame. Pray without ceasing, pray and trust and believe your prayers will be answered. And last, live by faith and not by sight! Which means: live knowing that your prayers will be answered even if your child's behaviour does not change just yet....wait on the Lord! He is love and HE loves you both and will correct where correction is needed, especially now that you have turned to HIM! Blessings in Christ & See you in eternity!







"HE" loves you" but if you dont do what he wants he is going to burn you in HELL?? WTF?








"wait on the lord" "prayers will be answerd" BULL SHIT. OPEN your eyes. You are being pumped full of lies and false hope. Accept what happens in life accept those in your life different than you. Live life to its fullest. Step out of your little tiny sad world and let live! UHG!









You obviously have no faith in God because if you did you would know that it is not the actions that you take that get you into heaven but the belief that Jesus died  and suffered on the Cross that does, and that only non-believers are doomed to "burn in Hell".  Don' t knock peoples faith, you can have your opinion on what this would woman should do about her daughter but don't knock someone elses opinion of relying on God and Faith to heal her.  God Bless and Guide you always.





For GOD'S sake, if GOD made her then GOD made her GAY!!



You say: Don' t knock peoples faith, I have no problem with those who believe in God but what I do have a problem with ,is when they don't agree with the non religious, they don't mind bible bashing us!

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Quoting Michelle:



Quoting Marta:

Horrible mess? Disgusted? Action she's taking? I feel sorry for your daughter for having such a mother. I also feel sorry for all the kids of the parents who replied with "I feel sorry for you; I know it must be horrible for you"etc. It's not about YOU, it's about HER.
I have a little girl, and if some day she comes to me and says "I wanna dye my hair red" I'll say fine. If she says "I wanna study law" I'll say fine. And if she says "I' wanna live with a girl" I'll say fine. Got the point?
For all of you religious fanatics out there-live the God out of it.





Religious fanatics??!!  God has everything  to do with it?  In Leviticus 22 it states "it is an abomination"  "man shall not lay with man as he lays with woman, and woman shall not lay with woman as she lays with man"  . you obviously have no belief in God or the Bible.  I am a christian and a mother and would feel the exact same way as this woman if my daughter told me the same thing.  I would also love her because she is my daughter but i would pray day and night for God to forgive her misguided ways and ask Him to help her find her way back to Him.  You can not  leave God out of it if you are a true christian being.  God help you and be with you and may He guide you  back from your misguided ways.






Michelle - here's another quote from the bible for you:



 



“When you buy a Hebrew slave, six years shall he serve; and in the seventh shall he go out free, for nothing. If he came in by himself, he shall go out by himself: if he were married, then his wife shall go out with him. If his master has given him a wife, and she has borne him sons or daughters, the wife and the children shall be her master's, and he shall go out by himself. And if the slave shall plainly say, I love my master, my wife, and my children; I will not go out free: then his master shall bring him unto God, and he shall bring him to the door or unto the door-post, and his master shall bore his ear through with an awl, and he shall be his slave forever.”



—Exodus 21:2-6.



 



Do you subscribe to things like this too? There are a few more lovely nuggets like that. Or do you get to pick and choose which parts of the bible you do & do not believe? If so, it's time to stop believing homosexuality is an abomination.

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[ ] Some people talk about tolerance, but when they feel defensive, they aren't very tolerant of conservative views. We can still love one another and disagree. [ ]


Actually - on this one, I personally at least am not asking for tolerance. I'm asking for 100% pure acceptance. People who are gay are built that way. It is not a choice, a lifestyle, an abomination, a sin, an impulse, a "fad", or anything else along those lines. It is just as inborn as being straight, being caucasian, being green-eyed, red headed, big nosed, man, woman etc. Therefore "tolerance" falls far short of what's warranted. Unless of course you also only "tolerate" blonde people.

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Theresa - what a load of nonsense, to use the nicest possible word. People like you make it hard for others, they dont allow everybody to find their own way. Ask yourself, if there was an almighty and all-loving god, why would he care? if he existed and was about love, why would he critizise? I am not religious at all for reasons that you confirm


My husband's favourite saying concerning this is God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve!! Think about it.

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I know its hard to accept but, it is what it is. Let her be happy with her decision and let her know you love her no matter what!

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not being nasty just curious, are you upset your daughter's gay for her (as in children etc) or are you upset she's gay because of you ? are you worried or embaressed what other people or family will think or say ? .........I think you have to really look at what's upsetting you about it and be honest with yourself.

Hope you can get over it and have a great relationship with your daughter.

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Quoting Theresa:

You are correct "but not my little girl." Whether people want to hear this or not, they don't have to read it. But it is written in the word of God that this kind of behaviour is a perversion in the site of our Father. Don't panic though! First and formost call on the Name of our Savior ~ He's the same yesturday, today and forever and HE's just waiting for you to call on HIM. Second ~ start reading your Bible, get into church and BELIEVE - BELIEVE - BELIEVE what our Father says in the Bible. That is the secret to life, just believing. Those who trust in the Lord, will not be put to shame. Pray without ceasing, pray and trust and believe your prayers will be answered. And last, live by faith and not by sight! Which means: live knowing that your prayers will be answered even if your child's behaviour does not change just yet....wait on the Lord! He is love and HE loves you both and will correct where correction is needed, especially now that you have turned to HIM! Blessings in Christ & See you in eternity!





"HE" loves you" but if you dont do what he wants he is going to burn you in HELL?? WTF?






"wait on the lord" "prayers will be answerd" BULL SHIT. OPEN your eyes. You are being pumped full of lies and false hope. Accept what happens in life accept those in your life different than you. Live life to its fullest. Step out of your little tiny sad world and let live! UHG!





You obviously have no faith in God because if you did you would know that it is not the actions that you take that get you into heaven but the belief that Jesus died  and suffered on the Cross that does, and that only non-believers are doomed to "burn in Hell".  Don' t knock peoples faith, you can have your opinion on what this would woman should do about her daughter but don't knock someone elses opinion of relying on God and Faith to heal her.  God Bless and Guide you always.

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Horrible mess? Disgusted? Action she's taking? I feel sorry for your daughter for having such a mother. I also feel sorry for all the kids of the parents who replied with "I feel sorry for you; I know it must be horrible for you"etc. It's not about YOU, it's about HER.
I have a little girl, and if some day she comes to me and says "I wanna dye my hair red" I'll say fine. If she says "I wanna study law" I'll say fine. And if she says "I' wanna live with a girl" I'll say fine. Got the point?
For all of you religious fanatics out there-live the God out of it.


Religious fanatics??!!  God has everything  to do with it?  In Leviticus 22 it states "it is an abomination"  "man shall not lay with man as he lays with woman, and woman shall not lay with woman as she lays with man"  . you obviously have no belief in God or the Bible.  I am a christian and a mother and would feel the exact same way as this woman if my daughter told me the same thing.  I would also love her because she is my daughter but i would pray day and night for God to forgive her misguided ways and ask Him to help her find her way back to Him.  You can not  leave God out of it if you are a true christian being.  God help you and be with you and may He guide you  back from your misguided ways.

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Quoting Marta:

Horrible mess? Disgusted? Action she's taking? I feel sorry for your daughter for having such a mother. I also feel sorry for all the kids of the parents who replied with "I feel sorry for you; I know it must be horrible for you"etc. It's not about YOU, it's about HER.
I have a little girl, and if some day she comes to me and says "I wanna dye my hair red" I'll say fine. If she says "I wanna study law" I'll say fine. And if she says "I' wanna live with a girl" I'll say fine. Got the point?
For all of you religious fanatics out there-live the God out of it.


Religious fanatics??!!  God has everything  to do with it?  In Leviticus 22 it states "it is an abomination"  "man shall not lay with man as he lays with woman, and woman shall not lay with woman as she lays with man"  . you obviously have no belief in God or the Bible.  I am a christian and a mother and would feel the exact same way as this woman if my daughter told me the same thing.  I would also love her because she is my daughter but i would pray day and night for God to forgive her misguided ways and ask Him to help her find her way back to Him.  You can not  leave God out of it if you are a true christian being.  God help you and be with you and may He guide you  back from your misguided ways.

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I can understand how you feel, i would be just as upset if i found out my daughter was gay. As a christian mom it goes against everything the Bible tells us, "It is abomination" but how can a mom not love her child right?! All you can do is pray that she will find the correct path and that God will forgive her misguided ways, and love her as only her mom can. God Bless you and all the best.

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I can understand how you feel, i would be just as upset if i found out my daughter was gay. As a christian mom it goes against everything the Bible tells us, "It is abomination" but how can a mom not love her child right?! All you can do is pray that she will find the correct path and that God will forgive her misguided ways, and love her as only her mom can. God Bless you and all the best.

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You will do what you've always done. You will love her. It is not wrong for you to stand up for your own beliefs. Our children will make their own decisions. It's life. We are not bad parents for disagreeing with them. Some people talk about tolerance, but when they feel defensive, they aren't very tolerant of conservative views. We can still love one another and disagree. That's just life. I hope for the best for you and your "little girl":)

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You will do what you've always done. You will love her. It is not wrong for you to stand up for your own beliefs. Our children will make their own decisions. It's life. We are not bad parents for disagreeing with them. Some people talk about tolerance, but when they feel defensive, they aren't very tolerant of conservative views. We can still love one another and disagree. That's just life. I hope for the best for you and your "little girl":)

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It will be okay i know that you don't know me, but listen my daughter came to me she was having problem's at school to the point that boys were hitting her with chairs, her girl friend who she has been friends with ever since first grade was being so mean she didn't want to go to school, she want to kill herself, they called her fat etc. So i sat down with her and she told me that every one of her girl friend's were Lesbian, also my own Step daughter, So they all were being mean to her because she wouldn't be like them. When she told my that her step sister was i got upset and i thought about what her dad and family would say, so we sat down with my husband and told him and he said well at least she will not get pregant, etc. If that's what she want's i support her. So my name is becky i have two wonderful teenagers a boy and a girl also i have two wonderful step kids. so if you ever want to talk fill free to drop me a line i will listen.

Have a nice Mother's day.

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can i just say you shouldn't judge her the way she moves,the way she wear or the way she talks about.She must just experimenting what she would be feel if she's on that position. Or maybe because she's still young and not feel chatting with boys. You can actually avoid it by letting her go out with her cousins- boy and girl specially those old cousins so she could get some advice.

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perhaps this is an experiment? It could also be true, which i'm sure you fear, understandably so. regardless she is your daughter, i'm sure this is an impossible struggle for you, and my heart goes out to you! But it's your job to love her through anything! my child is still very young, but as all parents have, i've thought about things i wouldn;t like to hear from her when she's older. this made that list, i know i haven't been through it and i know this has to be so hard, but accept her anyway, you'll feel better about it in the long run! think of all the people in her shoes that haven't had that support from their families, and what that must have done to them. no one can expect you to be okay with this overnight, you may benefit from talking to people like this, and if you're still having trouble therapy may help, i'm sure there are also support groups for parents in your situation, probably even online. i've always found no matter what the problem talking to others who,ve been through it can help!

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my son told me two years ago he is gay,i was gutted and i have found it so hard to deal with,but at the end of the day they are still your flesh and blood and you will always love them.i have found i am more protective to my son if anyone should say anything out of turn,but he is quite capable of looking after his self and he has very good friends. do you not think what hurts us most and worries us,is that there will be no weddings and babies ,our dreams for our kids,i now worry that he will be on his own in his life, so now i'm saying go out there and find some one for yourself and be happy because at the end of the day no matter what they say,it takes some bottle to be who they are.as i say to my husband when you start thinking what they do in the bedroom ,what's it to do with you,they dont ask how you like your sex,so leave it be and be thank ful for your child and do the best you can.i don't think your daughter would embaress you and i know my son wouldn't because they love you.

good luck.

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I`m very sorry you feel this way.There is nothing you can do or change. This is how she is. My middle daughter is bi-sexual and I tell her as long as your happy and take care of yourself you will always be loved by your family. She told us at age 14 and now is 19. We have come past some very hard times like when she wanted to take her girlfriend to her prom and was told that that was not aloud. It killed me that she could not go to her only prom because she was so upset and hurt be this.....Well what I`m trying to say is all you can do is your best in teaching them right from wrong....and love them after that.

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There is so much more things she could be doing than being a lesbian. And that is the biggest issue right there...You should have unconditional love for your child. You were given the gift from God to actually give birth to your child, that alone is a gift so accept that first. Our lives are ours to live and we need to realize that sometimes the way that others react to certain situations make the outcome even more worse than just dealing with this one issue.

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Horrible mess? Disgusted? Action she's taking? I feel sorry for your daughter for having such a mother. I also feel sorry for all the kids of the parents who replied with "I feel sorry for you; I know it must be horrible for you"etc. It's not about YOU, it's about HER.
I have a little girl, and if some day she comes to me and says "I wanna dye my hair red" I'll say fine. If she says "I wanna study law" I'll say fine. And if she says "I' wanna live with a girl" I'll say fine. Got the point?
For all of you religious fanatics out there-live the God out of it.


i agree!



i was brought up to believe in god and i thank my grandmother for that i really do. Thing is i dont believe it any more and what marta has said is true!!



At the end of the day she is still your child. you should love her no matter what no matter who she loves no matter what she does in life. at the end of the day we all grow up some choose a different way of life to others, we are who we are! Just like your daughter is who she is! Who she was hasnt changed she has always been this person. Its proven science that you are born with a gene that makes you gay! you dont just wake up one morning and decide "oh today im going to be gay" life doesnt work that way. 



I wouldnt have a problem if my son (or even future children) came home and told me he was gay!
my best friend is gay and i love him to bits, my fiance is good friends with him too.



and you cant say that its okay for other women to be gay just as long as its not your little girl, she is a woman too dont forget that

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Hopefully this is just a phase she is going through! Always support her and try to understand her choice in this matter.

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Hopefully this is just a phase she is going through! Always support her and try to understand her choice in this matter.

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