my daughter n her boyfriend passed away my granddaughter is 3 other grandmmom has custody.should she correct my 3 year old grandaughter and tell her shes her grammom n not mom?

Rhonda - posted on 04/23/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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my daughter n her boyfriend passed away in car accident n other grandmother has custody it still an on goin battle to superior courts.i always tell my granddaughter about her mom n dad when it needs to be told n how special her mom n daddy loved her n grandaughter calls me grammom n is finally talkin about her mom n dad in heaven OTHER grammom tells me let her call me mommy but i try n corect her n tell her shes ur grammom to other grammom has 2 5 yr old boys.when grandaughter is with me she refers to other grammom as grammom n other grammom HATES it n says im confusin her let her call me mom.I had a close bond with my daughter n i want her to kno the truth about everything.my grandaughter gets told by other grammom IM MOM N u call me that id u want.shouldnt she correct her?..but when other grammom has her she tells granddaughter call me mom..what do u all feel n think PLEASE HELP ME..OTHER GRAMMOM TELLS ME STOP TALKIN ABOUT HER REAL MOM N DAD THERE PASSED WHY?..PLEASE DO I NEED a doctor am i wrong?

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Louise - posted on 04/23/2012

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Rhonda I think you are right your grand daughter needs to know from an early age who her parents were and she needs to call you and her other grandma, Grandma. If she calls you or other grandma mother she is going to end up one mixed up kid.

The little one should have access to pictures of mum and dad and they should be refered to as your mummy and daddy. She needs to understand where she came from. The other grandmother is deluded if she thinks sweeping the fact that the little ones parents are deceased is going to cause less confusion. This little one has the right to know her roots. The other grandma is the one in the wrong. Not you!

Rhonda - posted on 04/23/2012

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well to be honest with u she never had custody of none of HER OWN children n she lived in a 600.000 home n worked for her lawyer ..lawyer is friends with judge..was a pay off big time n even aloud grammom to ove outa NJ n to SC its been nothin but torure..now grammom is tellin me im confusin my grandaughter n her 5 yr old twins from her 3rd marraige cus there callin her grammom.i can go on n on;I said plz correct her as i do when i have my grandaughter she knows other grammom is grammom michele n she gets told n disaplined i can tell grandaughter stiffins up n stutters..i said why are u doin this to my grandaughter she tells me u are confusin her.she already knows her mom n dad are in heaven i said i kno she does.n i have pictures of her dad n mom.my daughter only met other grammom 1 time in 3 yrs n always chose men over her children.shes tryin to make up for somethin she dindnt do for her own kids .grandmothers son called me ma his mom never should none of her children love nor atention men always came first.now she has baby seein doc it slipped out..n i wanna kno why what is grandaughter doin that shes is seein this doc alone n NOT knowin 2 sides of this story.n JUSTICE SYSTEM IS TAKIN FOREVER IN TRENTON.TY FOR RESPONDIN TO ME MEANA ALOT SINCERLY rHONDA..gRANDMOM THINKS ITS A JOKE SAYS GRANDAUGHTER IS IN BED AT 6PM TILL 7 AM..MY DAUGHTER N I WERE SO CLOSE N SHE WOULD HAVE NEVA WANTED THIS TO BE NEVERR I NEED TO FORFILL WHAT I DESERVE N LET MY DAUGHTER REST WHERE EVER SHE MAY BE..IT HURTS..WATCH HER COME ARCOSS THISWHAT I POSTED.LIKE SHE CAME ACROSS a few other things n showed courts..BUT TRUTH HURTS I WANT JUSTICE..MY DAUGHTER WAS 17 SHE WASNT THERE FOR HER SONS NOR BIRTH OF GRANDAUGHTER..I CRY N CRY:( TY N SORRY FOR LONG STORY..U HAVE AN EMAIL OR fb ?

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For starters, I'm so very sorry for your loss! I can't imagine how difficult it must be to lose a child.
About the issue with your grandaughter calling the other grandmother mom? I don't think that's right. I think she should remain "Grandmother" or whatever she was called before. And I think that your grandaughter NEEDS to hear stories about her mom & dad. I don't see why the other grandmother has a problem with it. Maybe she's having a hard time dealing with the death of her son? Either way, I think mom & dad need to stay mom & dad and grandmas all around need to stay grandmas.

Rhonda - posted on 04/23/2012

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please i wnt to stay contact with this group i signed in abouta yr or so ago n couldnt seem to connect with people who would see what i put..can someone tell me how i can stay part of this plz.its so important i dont kno which way to go n would like to hear other opions besides family n friends..thanks so much Rhonda

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