My daughter will be 3 the end of April. She has been going pee on the potty for almost a year now but I cannot get her to go poo on the potty. Whenever she has to go, she asked for a pullup. And if I don't give her one she holds it in until she is constipated. ugh, please help.
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Donna - posted on 01/28/2009
My son used to do this too. I am sure you have gotten plenty of advise and I hope something works. I know how terrible it can be when you just want to help them. In this situation I think it is the sensation of the pull-up that gives them the security to "let go". LOL
I think that there is a sensory issue to the problem and it happens in most kids. Once they get over it...life is so much easier.
With my son, I allowed him to where a diaper and go, but he had to sit on the potty and couldn't stand up. After we had that routine....cause it's all about routine to comfort these kids too. I then cut a whole in the back of the diaper, so the pooh would just fall out the back. It worked like a piece of cake. Once he pooped and the pooh went in the potty a couple of times, it was all in the potty from there. I cut a big enough whole in the diaper so I could reuse the same one. No need to BUY more when you don't have too.
Kari - posted on 01/28/2009
My daughter did the exact same thing. I was very frustrated, but you know that saying that they will do it when they are ready it is true. We tried bribing and that didn't work. One night she just decided to go. That night we were all so excited that she went 3 times. She has only had one accident since. She turned three in December. She started going in September. So I guess my advice is that she will go when she is ready.
Melissa - posted on 01/28/2009
My daughter was 3 1/2 when she finally potty trained and we just said oh well, no pullups or diapers anymore. She held it for 4 days and finally it just came out. In her underwear but that was the only poop accident we had. After that, she went in the potty. Good luck!
Lesley - posted on 01/28/2009
Well..I have to tell you..I don't agree with trying to reason with a 3 yr old..Look let's face it..the poo has to come out..by giving her a pull up you are enabling her..Don't give in to her!! Holding the poo..will not make her constipated..if anything it will give her a bit of a I uncomfortable feeling..I did the smarty thing..I kept a small jar of smarties high up on a shelf in the washroom...all bathrooms..and when ever my girls did a poo or pee on the potty they got a smarty...It was a treat..yes,but you know it actually worked...Sounds odd..but it worked for me..within a month..my girls were going freely..bye bye pull ups...
Danielle - posted on 01/28/2009
Have you tried taking her letting her trough all the pull ups out because she is such a good girl know that she does not need them give her a new pair of panties to replace the pull up tell her this is what she can wear instead but she needs to use the pottie now and if she goes in her panties she will have to clean them up. If she get constipated for more then 3 days give her a suposatory she won't like it. Explain to her that if she is not going to poop on the pottie and hold it in that this is what's going to happen because you don't want her to get sick and you love her.
Catherine - posted on 01/28/2009
My little boy was the same....have yiou tried a star chart...I know its sounds silly but I was at my last nerve and it really did the trick although he was happier on the potty than the loo to do it!
Ann - posted on 01/28/2009
this is a common problem my lil one was the same, i no its hard try not to threat wen she wants a pull up at least she is not doin it on the floor be patient and encourage take each day as it comes and wen shes ready you'll be there to support her and give her praise it may also be psycological ask ur health visitor for sum advice i no they may not be the nicest of people mine wasnt but its worth ago good luck x