My daughters sleeping habits

Sherry - posted on 03/17/2009

Sara Long has your answer. The book "Solving Your Child's Sleep Problems" will help you but you MUST adhere to the advise (which is the same as Sara's). Please believe me, I have seen parents who's children didn't leave their beds until puberty...it wasn't pretty. Good luck - many have been there and some have even survived!

Bethany - posted on 03/17/2009

We went through a similar thing with a sickness at Christmas time- I used the Baby Whisperer to help get back on track...it took a while to get completely back to normal but we did see results in a day or two. Certainly not for everyone- but worked for us! Best Wishes- I know it was a really rough time for me so I can imagine how you are feeling- especially having just gone through the RSV! :~D

Angel - posted on 03/17/2009

Also Sara, I am going to try your tecnique, thanks i am so thankful that you helped me,..... your my Angel LOL

Angel - posted on 03/17/2009

thanks all with the advice, I need it all... I have had so much lack of sleep and I am so excausted.... I almost cant take it anymore really if it wasnt for my fiance I would have prolly lost it, literally. so thanks you help is much appreciated!!!

Kylie - posted on 03/17/2009

Quoting Sara:

Quoting Angel:

Thanks....I thought about putting her in her bed and letting her scream it out... I mean there seems like there is nothing else left for me to do... My fiance and I have no idea why she is doing this... I mean this is really nothing the first time that she has been sick, other than when she was first born..

Angel, you must be exhausted!  She has probably just gotten used to sleeping with you, she'll get used to sleeping on her own again too,  you just have to give her the opportunity and help her to break the habit she has developed.  As long as she is totally well, you can try a progressive waiting approach to helping her start to sleep on her own.  You basically put her in her crib awake but drowsy.  When she starts to cry, you wait 5 minutes before you go back in.  When you go back in reassure her that you are there, rub her tummy or do some other soothing motion but DO NOT pick her up.  Then leave.  If she continues to cry to wait ten minutes before re-entering and do the same thing.  After you leave again, wait 20 minutes before you go back in and so on.  Eventually, she will go to sleep, it just may take a while.  Of course, it is totally up to you if you want to try this approach, but I did it with my daughter and she sleeps like a champ in her own bed.  You just have to decide what you feel comfortable doing and what you think is best for your child.  I would certainly not (and I don't think this is what you meant, but I have to say it) just leave her in her bed to cry without going back in and letting her know you are still there periodically.  Good luck!

Yeah I did the same thing as Sara controlled crying. Because your bub was sick it has become a habit to sleep with you. Follow all the advice Sara has given, the most important thing is to put them in their cot awake so they know that thats where "sleep time" is. Leave for 5-10 mins and come back (if crying hard) and just put dummy back in pat back or tummy until settled and then leave the room again. It takes time but after 3 (long) weeks I am able to just put my 8 month old in his cot and he goes straight to sleep and is sleeping from 9-11 hours a night. good luck

Sara - posted on 03/17/2009

Quoting Angel:

Thanks....I thought about putting her in her bed and letting her scream it out... I mean there seems like there is nothing else left for me to do... My fiance and I have no idea why she is doing this... I mean this is really nothing the first time that she has been sick, other than when she was first born..

Angel, you must be exhausted!  She has probably just gotten used to sleeping with you, she'll get used to sleeping on her own again too,  you just have to give her the opportunity and help her to break the habit she has developed.  As long as she is totally well, you can try a progressive waiting approach to helping her start to sleep on her own.  You basically put her in her crib awake but drowsy.  When she starts to cry, you wait 5 minutes before you go back in.  When you go back in reassure her that you are there, rub her tummy or do some other soothing motion but DO NOT pick her up.  Then leave.  If she continues to cry to wait ten minutes before re-entering and do the same thing.  After you leave again, wait 20 minutes before you go back in and so on.  Eventually, she will go to sleep, it just may take a while.  Of course, it is totally up to you if you want to try this approach, but I did it with my daughter and she sleeps like a champ in her own bed.  You just have to decide what you feel comfortable doing and what you think is best for your child.  I would certainly not (and I don't think this is what you meant, but I have to say it) just leave her in her bed to cry without going back in and letting her know you are still there periodically.  Good luck!

Angel - posted on 03/17/2009

Thanks....I thought about putting her in her bed and letting her scream it out... I mean there seems like there is nothing else left for me to do... My fiance and I have no idea why she is doing this... I mean this is really nothing the first time that she has been sick, other than when she was first born..

Dana - posted on 03/17/2009

I have that same problem!!!!! I have atleast been able to sneak her into her crib for naps but forget about nighttime, she will stay up until midnight if she has to to make sure she gets into our bed:( give it a few more days then stand your ground and let her cry, thats what im gonna do but not until im positive she feels betteR:)