My daugther is 5 years old and has a smart mouth!! We need ideas!!

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My daugther is 5 yrs old and thinks she is grown! She smarts off to both her dad and myself. We dont put up with any misbehaving or disrespect! For the most part she is really good, but she has a really smart mouth! We ground her from t.v. spank and make her do chores, But it doesnt seem to work. We need some ideas!

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Morgan - posted on 06/14/2009

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I agree with Nicole, she is definitely testing the waters with you and your husband. My (almost) 7 yr.old is still doing it and my 1 yr.old has begun to do that. Well, she's not smarting off but when I tell her not to do something she'll look at while she does it again, basically waiting to see my reaction. So that's what your daughter is doing from my experience, they want to know what your reaction will be and the consequences, so definitely be consistent. Stay strong mom!!!

Alisha - posted on 06/14/2009

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My daughter is 3 and sometimes she also has a smart mouth. When she is a smart mouth I take away one of her favorite toys each time. She gets it back when she behaves for a while. She has been a lot less of a smart mouth since I started doing this. Good luck:-)

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Leanne - posted on 06/19/2009

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When I was little and was bad my grandmother would make my bite onto a bar of soap and keep it there for a little while.. Kinda like a time out, but grosser.
She also used to give me hot sauce.. Haha, I think that's why I love spicy stuff today!

Lessie - posted on 06/19/2009

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Get a Bible and teach her Exodus Chapter 20, Especially verse 12. Teach her to recite it daily. And teach her the fear of GOD. Make this her daily bread and get her some reading books and tell her to teach you what she is learning. Play a reverse roll on her and bake the verse 12 down especially the part that her days maybe long, This will take a little research for you also, but it usually does the trick.

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Yeah i learned from my parents if it is to bad to watch in front of the kids it doesn't need to be in the house

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Well I think it is because she is fixing to start kindergarted. She thinks she is grown!! I have to keep reminding her that she is only 5. I just feel like i spank her all the time. She is our only child so far and just when i feel like i have it down pat we everything changes!!!

Jamie - posted on 06/15/2009

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Quoting Laura:

You know i never though about that! She would hate that!! I will try it! THANKS!


that is the most aweful thing i have ever heard of. How would that help the situation at all? Doing that to a child is worse than smaking. Why dont you take a more positive approach like having a star chart and rewarding her GOOD behaviour with a star and explain to her thaty very 10 stars she get she will br rewarded and when shes naughy take away one of her stars and expalin to her why you took it off. its a really fun and exciting way to teach children the difference between good and bad behaviour. I really hope you didnt put soap in the poor things mouth.

Heather - posted on 06/14/2009

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I do what my mom did and tell them that I have nothing to say to you if that is what you have to say to me. I am an explainer. I tell them that the things they say will tell other people if they want to be around them or not. I say that it is very lonely when nobody wants to talk to you or be around because of the things you say and then I ignore them for about an hour or until they realize that it is true. My kids HATE to be ignored so I know it works for me. Also I ask them to apologize for what they said and ask if they understand why it bothered me. It sure gets them thinking.

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I have 5 yr old son and he is starting too! I take the most important thing away from him.. his computer and DS! Loves his games! He hates it when i take them away from him but has to understand who is boss! you have to put your foot down and put the fear of god in them.. and she will listen then.. i do and i have 5 yr old and 2 yr old sons... and they are handful together.. have to have tough love and make sure they know mama is always here and will always love them but they have to listen if they want thing in life..like computer or play outside...good luck! I heard its harder raising a girl then boys?

Deborah - posted on 06/14/2009

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You don't say if she's in school. From my experiance when children start school they learn things from other children and bring it home to test their boundries with their parents. Also some childrens TV has saying or interactions I personally don't let my grandkids watch. If she's not repeating what she heard elsewhere then several things work, for me its time out the first time, and a bit of soap on a toothbrush, brushing into their teeth takes much longer for it to wear off. Following each punishment we have a short child friendly chat about respect and disrepect. Basically repeating that if a person want to be respected and liked it is rude to disrespect others. Having a smart mouth makes other children and adults not want to spend time with a child. Then if they still misbehave I tell them I don't like being disrespected so if they want to talk to me in that manner they can set in another room alone and I will enjoy my time alone. It doesn't hurt to do something you know they would enjoy w/o them and make sure they can see or hear you for a specific length of time. When they ask to join you remin them that theyhurt your feelings and your not certain they won't do it again.

Dawn - posted on 06/14/2009

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first off, make sure you guys are watching what you say in front of her...you'd be surprised what they hear when you don't think they are listening!!! my daughter repeats things that i say on the phone to friends at randam embarresing times!! so i have to really watch what i say. and also turn off the tv!!!! even if they aren't watching it they are listening. save the rated R movies for after she's in bed!!

and where does she spend her days and with who? friends can be a bad influence!!

you need to be consistant in your punishment. but don't just punish her...stop to explain that we don't use that language. my daughter over heard her aunt yelling at someone and asked me why she was saying that. i calmly explained that people say mean things sometimes when they are mad but it's not good manners to say it. that was a perfect example for me to use. but the next day she called my niece an idiot!!!! so maybe i didn't get through, but we're trying. but talking instead of yelling at your child really does go a long way when your trying to enforce "nice" in them.

Robyn - posted on 06/14/2009

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Do you remember when this started? my kids are 24, 21 and 17. They all went through a phase where the mouth kicked in. Didn't last more than a few days though. Ignoring them, or worse for them, making them repeat what they said looking me directly in the eye (at eye level) worked just fine. Could be something happened that has her very upset and the only way she can get he attention right now is with her language. It may be how she feels most comfortable. But, keep in mind, while I believe in getting help for kids who need it, I think most kids just need good old fashioned discipline!

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I guess I would wonder where it's coming from? If she's just testing the water to see how far she can go, well get tough and let her know NOW, action/consequece..immediately..be consistent, NO TOLERANCE! (yes, I'm tough)

However, if she's using specific stuff/verbage, then maybe remove the source? Shows, (you may be surprised) certain friends? Good Luck!

Laura - posted on 06/14/2009

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I got smart with my aunt once and she washed my mouth out with soap. I never did it again.

Laura - posted on 06/14/2009

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I got smart with my aunt once and she washed my mouth out with soap. I never did it again.

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