Sam - posted on 04/26/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )
My ex partner turned up on my doorstep saying that he wants to see his children......my son has not seen him since he was 3 and doesnt even remember him, my daughter, who is nearly 5 has never even meet him.
He says that he is settled now with a new partner and family and he wants to see his kids.
Is he allowed to do this? What rights does he have?
He hasnt tried to make contact before, my 9 year old son is very grown up and i have never lied to him about his father...he says that he doesnt want to see him...he said that hes not my dad!!!
My daughter is only 4 and does not like the company of strangers either.
He only payed CS for about 2 years then it stopped, it started again about 6 months ago but as the law has now changed and we mothers do not have to accept this if we dont want to i cancelled it.....why should he pay for children that i consider not to be his???
I never want to have to deal with him again really, me and my children are settled, have 2 brilliant kids....the fact that they are really settled, i am worried that he will come back and ruin all the work i have done so far.
He has a history of violence (has spent time in and out of prison over the years) for GBH/ABH.
I wouldnt like a character like that around my children...its just a pity that i didnt realise what he was like before i had children with him. But obviously dont regret them for the world.....what can i do?
Does he hold any right that i need to know about?
We are not married or have ever been. He is on my sons birth certificate but not my daughters.