Danielle - posted on 12/19/2011 ( 53 moms have responded )
I am just wondering if anyone has had issues with your family accepting Autism as a diagnosis?
My son is three years old, and we are on a a variety of wait lists to get him evaluated for Autism, as well as any other feasible options to be the cause of his behaviors.
At three years old, he is over a year and a half behind in his vocabulary. He doesn't interact with other children. He doesn't play with his toys correctly ( he will carry them around, but rarely imagination play). He gets obsessed over odd items (like pop bottle lids, garbage, ect). He has trouble with personal space ( often when he meets new people he will throw himself to the floor and tantrum.. Even if they just say "hi" to him. Other times, we will be in public and he will try to sit on random strangers laps).
He will sometimes sneak off, and I've found him sitting in his closet, or in the basement. He has lined up his toys, and will throw a tantrum if they are moved even an inch. He also has troubles in switching from one focus to another ( like going form coloring to play-doh).
I have confided in my family with my concerns, and they think I am overreacting. They keep telling me that he is just spoilt, and he needs better discipline. He gets time out when he acts out, or is throwing tantrums. They think that I need to spank him, and have even said that he needs to "fear me".
They are never around, and NEVER help, or offer to watch him for a break. Obviously, knowing how they feel about his behaviour issues, I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving him with them.
It is just upsetting because I feel like they don't understand what happens each day, and they don't realize that he is not a standard three year old.
Every time I mention it, they roll their eyes and tell me to "Stop", "I don't agree with you", "There is nothing wrong with your kid", and I always feel invalidated.
Has anyone else dealt with unsupportive families?
What did you say? Did they still act the same after a diagnosis? How did you make them realize?
I feel like they blame me for his behavior because they think he is just a brat. My sister has even said that 'I shouldn't put all my hope on a diagnosis because if its negative that could only imply its, (his outbursts and delays), my fault.'
We have gotten a range of tests already done: Ears checked, speech pathologist, sensory therapist. He also attends pre-k, as a part of an outreach program the government pays for delayed, and emotional sensitive children.