Shelly - posted on 11/16/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
., and hasn't since I was 6 months pregnant. He sleeps on the couch. Whenever I try to talk to him about sex he gets defensive and disinterested and walks away. We have seen 3 different therapists, and none of them have worked. I feel like I keep trying to make things work, but he doesn't put any effort into it. He is always asking me for money and is way behind on all of his payments, I give him over $1000 every month but that is not enough. One time right after having our daughter (while still in the hospital) he brought me up a surprise ring and I didn't know what to say. The next day he asked me for money to pay the mortgage. Now he is behind on payments and I don't know why because I have always helped him out financially. He does use an illegal substance, but I don't think that would cost that much, and I have asked him to quit, but he goes behind my back to continue to do it, even asks his best friend's ex to get it for him.
I have found out one of the reasons he is not interested in having sex is becausehe is looking at pornography. He says all men look at it, but I feel like it is cheating when he refuses to even sleep in the same bed as me. I feel like all he wants me for is to help him financially (pay his bills he had before we met) and he doesn't want to give up or share visitations with his daughter (our daughter).