My husband and I want to try for a 3rd. does it get harder?

Rosie - posted on 01/25/2010

well yes! a third one makes it harder to do things. when i had my 3rd one my 2nd decided he didn't want to take naps anymore and i thought i was going to go crazy cause i couldn't sleep when my baby was sleeping. after they get through the baby phase though it gets alot easier. we did have to buy a bigger vehicle, and move to a bigger place, but i couldn't see my family any other way. me, my hubby, and my 3 beautiful boys!

Shavaune - posted on 01/25/2010

Depends on how old the older two are. I had my third when my older sons were 6 and 8 years old and they were amazingly helpful. They would help me keep her entertained (especially in the car or when i was cooking) But there are always days you want to pull your hair out! LOL I was glad I waited until they were school age cause I could actually nap during the day with her and spend a little alone time with her. Then i had a 4th baby! I can honestly say once you get to about 3 kids it's all chaos anyway so having another one after that wasn't a big deal. I agree with Christy though about the size of the family outgrowing your own home. I recommend looking at the size of your house and vehicle and making sure you can accommodate your growing family. I'm currently trying to upgrade to a bigger house and it can be quite expensive. It sure would of been easier if i have gotten the bigger house and van before we had more kids! I also decided after having my 3rd to become a stay at home mom. Once your kids get older they want to start to do a lot of sports and other social things and it can get challenging with all the running around everywhere with small children in tow. I found it hard to give all the them individual attention and work so I just eventually quit my job.

Danielle - posted on 01/25/2010

Of course it does. It's not going to get easier... LOL. But if that is what you want, you should do it. It really depends on the ages of all the children. I have four. My oldest are 10 and 11 (10 months apart) and my youngest are 1 and 2 (11 months apart). I highly recommend not having kids that close together. That is very hard. Being a parent isn't easy, but wouldn't change it for the world. Good luck.

Iridescent - posted on 01/25/2010

We have 5, the last 3 came as a bulk package kinda deal. Yes, it was harder, but not so much because of the number. It was going back to diaper bags and car seats after we were done, formula and up all night with sick kids. Buying a new vehicle because none we had seat 7, then finding one that would fit 3 car seats. Fitting them all into a house meant for 2 kids. Trying to arrange day care all over again and juggling appointments for all of us. Getting to the grocery store when you only have a few minutes, but it takes an hour minimum. Back to bottles and burp rags (TOWELS). Back to deciphering baby-talk and cries. Plus with 3, it's harder to be able to afford time off work even for maternity leave. It's harder to arrange vacations with family.

It's much easier if you're just getting out of that stage now with your current youngest. It's not going back to all that, just continuing it. You're a better parent because you have been through it twice, you know what is not normal, know when to push doctors for answers, have learned patience. You know as a parent HOW to parent in a way you can be satisfied.

Rachel - posted on 01/25/2010

I just had my 3rd and thankfully the other two, who are 4 and 2 1/2 usually get along pretty good, and don't bother the baby much, and they are good at helping out most days..haha. The only problem is its very time demanding, you just go with the flow, and get stuff done when the baby is sleeping,so it is a lot of hard work, but it is definitely worth it!

Renee - posted on 01/25/2010

i have 3. having 3 is like this. Mom can i have a drink? two minuets later, mom can i have a drink? lol its a cycle lemme tell you. the thing i love about having 3 kids is the endless amount of love and work you put into it. when i had two they fought sometimes but the third now it's a war! each kid has different habbits and its REALLY hard when you have a sweet 2 year old and a stubborn 4 year old then a baby because in your baby they will be sweet stubborn and whatever else. the last child always pick up and goes threw those stages your already past and sometimes can cause your kids who have outgrown it go back to it for the attention. in all im saying depending on the ages of your kids the situation at home and the love in your heart anyone can deal with a third! i am a stay at home mom my husbands in the army and i do pretty much everything plus the kids and reffing between our 3 girls, but at the end of the night i can sit and watch my girls play together have fun and i know its going to be okay. if you do decide to have another baby just remember you will need help but always breath because it is a HARD road to go down but if you can handel two and your husband you got this!

Donna - posted on 01/25/2010

Well I have 3 girls. I think it is about the same as having 2. They fight and argue the same.. They play and have fun the same.. Depending on the age difference it might make it a little easier for you... I know that my two youngest keep each other occupied. My oldest is a few years older than the other two so my youngest play together most of the time.. I think that the hardest part thought is I only have 2 legs and they fight over both of them.. I had no out of the ordinnary weight problems. i think that depression depends on the woman not the amount of kids. I was very bad off after my first but it seemed that the depression got better the more kids I had.

Lindsay - posted on 01/25/2010

I think it all has to do with you.. how well can you juggle your time.. i have 4 kids and after 2 it was a breeze.. i also have 2 little ones exactly a year apart.. good luck

Kimberly - posted on 01/25/2010

In my opinion yes..having a third is harder. I still can't get the weight off. When 2 kids are together they get along but when the 3rd wants in then they start to fight.

Christy - posted on 01/25/2010

I have a few friends that have 3 children. The hardest thing I've heard is that you and your husband are now outnumbered by your kids. Another thought that someone shared with me is that 3 children change everything, most of the time, your car becomes too small, your house is too small, your kitchen table is also too small, that and most family vacation packages are designed for families of 4. However, if you and your husband want 3 or more children, things will just work their way out. Hope this helps and good luck. :)

Latasha - posted on 01/25/2010

i hope not.. im having my 3rd right now.. my friend had a hard time losing her baby weight from number 3.. but she is also having really bad depression problems.. so i dkt