My lil one who just turned 18 months got referred to Speech Assessment as she does not speak .She babbles and says one word for food. I am really concerned. Any tips advise positive outcome stores..her older sibling is 4 and is non stop chatter box, I just wish her lil sis would catch up or just not have any problems

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Lacye - posted on 12/08/2012

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I have to disagree with Michelle. Speech assessment is NOT stupid. My daughter would mostly babble when she was 18 months old. She is now 3 and a half and still does not speak very much. We have recently discovered that she has Pervasive Developmental Disorder because we had someone give her a speech assessment. PDD is on the autism spectrum. If we had the the attitude that the assessment was stupid, we never would have found out until it was too late to really help her. My daughter would have started Kindergarten and would have been considered "slow" because she would not speak as well as other kids and would not understand some things like other kids would.



I spoke regularly with my daughter when she was younger, would point things out to her by their name and tried to get her to speak as much as I could, but because of her problem, she was just not getting it. I had people tell me all the time to just not worry about it. That everything was ok. That my Lily would learn how to speak in her own time, but that was most definitely not the case. Take your child to speech therapy. If you can get your little one going now, it will be much easier for her in the future!

Amy - posted on 12/09/2012

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We had our daughter assessed at 18 months because she wasn't speaking, however her understanding of language was through the charts. At 18 months my daughter understood complex directions she just wasn't speaking, also a younger sibling. Birth to 3 came to the house and assessed her because her understanding of language was so high she didn't qualify for speech services but they gave us some things to do like teaching her to sign words so she could communicate more easily.



At her 2 year check up our doctor expressed his concern over her verbal communication, at that point she was only speaking ten words. By 2 they should be able to say 50+ words, over 50% of what they say should be understood by outsiders, and they should be combining words. Although she was speaking she could sign over 50 words and was signing combinations of words together so he gave us 3 months from her 2 year check up to reassess her spoken language. In that time she started speaking and hasn't stopped since. We just had her reassessed at 2 years 8 months because although she speaks a lot she drops letters off of words. She didn't qualify this time for services either because her language skills are off the charts, it's her speech that isn't perfect.



If you daughter understands what you are saying I wouldn't worry too much but it doesn't hurt to have the assessment done to see what you can do to help.

Lacye - posted on 12/09/2012

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It still does not mean that if they believe that something might be wrong, even the slightest possibility, that you should just sit back and do nothing. If I sat back and did nothing with my daughter, by the time she started school it would be too late to really help her and she would be labeled as stupid and unable to learn simply because she has this disorder that makes it a little more rougher on her to get things than it does other children.

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Wow. Flashcards were ONE example I mentioned, out of 20-30 different tools the speech therapist uses, the most effective of which are far out of my personal means, financially speaking. Thank you for implying by the statement "isn't that a mother's duty?" that I am not doing my job as a parent, and openly labeling me "stupid" for having my son in speech therapy. To each his own, I suppose. But for anyone considering this thread for advice, I will say, I was vigilantly doing everything I knew (talking to him constantly, reading, flashcards of my own, walking around the house labeling items, etc) and in the end speech therapy is what has made all the difference for my son and has educated me at the same time. Sometimes we as the parents can do everything within our power and it may not be enough. Sometimes our child just responds better developmentally to someone else. Sometimes the professionals DO know better than us. It doesn't make someone a bad/lazy parent or a stupid parent to humbly admit that they need help teaching their child and to accept that help.

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Sorry, but I disagree completely with Michelle. By 18 months she should be saying 10-30 words. Yes all kids develop at a different rate, and most likely she would catch up to the norm EVENTUALLY. However, until she does catch up, she will become more and more frustrated trying to communicate. Also, if there is any underlying reason why her speech is delayed, she may NOT catch up without the help of a professional. More than likely there is no problem other than that she just needs more guidance than the average kid in learning how to form words. A speech assessment is not "stupid"; it is EXACTLY what she needs, because then you will find out for sure whether or not she needs that extra help. My opinion- let the expert who knows what they are doing decide if she needs speech therapy. And if she does, I promise it is nothing to freak out about. My son was not speaking a single word at 18 months and had a speech and routine physical therapy evaluation. They determined that he was delayed enough to need speech therapy, which we started at 19 months. It is covered by the state because it is through Early Intervention, so zero cost to us, but it works differently in different states I think. The speech therapist comes to our home once a week, brings a bag full of toys, flashcards, and an iPad with lots of learning apps. She plays with him and subtly incorporates learning techniques. It is nothing scary or uncomfortable! She even involves my three year old in their playtime sometimes. My kids absolutely love her visits, and she is very open and comfortable with me as well, explaining to me what works, why, and how we can continue to help him progress throughout the week until her next visit. It has only been three months and my son is already speaking, not just in single words, but stringing together phrases! You said you just wish your daughter would "catch up or not have any problems" but it is what it is. If there is a problem, ignoring it doesn't make it nonexistent. It makes you feel better, not your daughter, which is why I so adamantly disagree that an evaluation is "stupid" or unnecessary. An evaluation will let you know exactly what your daughter needs, and if what she needs is a little extra help learning to talk, the sooner you get started the sooner she will catch up.



Edit to add: Sometimes (not all the time) a speech delay can also indicate other problems that NEED to be addressed. It's best to know for sure so if there are any other issues causing it, you can take care of it. I will never understand parents who refuse to help their child because of their own insecurities about having a child who needs "help". It's not about you. It's about giving your child what they need and sometimes we as parents are not equipped to do that on our own without the expertise of a professional.

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Michelle - posted on 12/09/2012

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Layce.. we all have our opinions.. You have yours..I have mine.. You just did it a different way.. Me,I just did it the way I seen fit and it worked out fine for me.. That is all I can say..

Michelle - posted on 12/09/2012

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Layce... I dont have a problem with you.. I am just trying to point out something.. You said you took your child to 3 people and 2 of them said nothing.. This should tell people today ..that most doctors or peditrians dont really know what they are talking about.

Sandhya - posted on 12/08/2012

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I agree, no harm done in getting assessed.I guess its the unknown, the whole process that I got or still am nervous about. But I would rather help her sooner than later.Thank you for your input

Lacye - posted on 12/08/2012

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Yes actually I did take my daughter to her peditrician. As a matter of fact, she went to two. Neither one said anything about PDD. They both sent her to have her hearing checked and when it came back nothing was wrong with her hearing, they gave the same crap you did about "oh she'll just start talking in her own time". It took a third peditrician to finally send her to have a speech evaluation (which is done by the speech therapist and a psychologist) to find out she had PDD.



The reason why it wasn't spotted before my child was 3 because of single minded people who wouldn't listen. While some of the time, it's not a big deal if the child isn't speaking, but in a lot of cases, a speech delay can be the first sign that something isn't right. So no. Having a speech assessment or a speech therapist is not a stupid thing. Single minded people are.

Michelle - posted on 12/08/2012

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Any of you can disagree with me, It doesnt matter. That is your decision of how you want to do with your child. If one may have gotton the attention that I called them stupid.. Well I am saying to me it is stupid for speech therapy. Maybe not to you. But to me it is unnessasary.. Maybe one thinks it isn;t. That is why we are on here telling our opinions.. Opinions is what it is...wether you agree or not.It isnt up to me of what someone does. All children aren't the same.. is what I said before and will say it again.. In my opinion alot of doctors go to the extreme to where it is not needed..



Lacye.. did you take your child to the peditrician? How come it wasn't spotted before that your child had PDD? If you took your child to the peditrian.. shouldn;t have they knew something?



Not all doctors know everything.. Some diagnose things that isnt needed and unnessary. And then some children that does need to be diagnosed about something arent until it is too late.. so, how can you literally go by everything of what a peditrician is.. To me.. if a 18 month old isnt speeking to what someone thinks they should doesn't meen anything because it is normal. Not all children learn the same way and speek at the same time. My son didn't and he don't have autism or anything.. he is a normal boy.He may have been considered to have a speech delay of not saying enough words, but eventually he did and there isn;t a thing wrong with him.. He is a smart boy.. I have gone through this myself, so this is how I am expressing myself.. My one son was told that he had speech problems and it was a bunch of crock.. he speeks fine and is good with his work.. not becaus of him going to a therapist.. it was because it all came in time of what was destined to be.. In my opinion.... If your little girl , Sandhya has spoken a word.. she will speak more in time.. It is up to you of course wether you want to take her to therapy.. I am just telling you my opinion of how I see it and what has happened on my end.. I believe your daughter will speek more when she is ready... If she can speek a word to you and is trying to speek,, even if it is babbling.. she knows and understands.. the words are there, they arent just grasped yet, but it will.

Michelle - posted on 12/08/2012

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I am sorry, Sandhya.. But I don't agree with MamaTo2.. Yes she might have went through some of this similar sitation and then had to have someone come into her home to show flash cards and etc to her child.. Some people may like that, But in my opinion.. Yes , it to me is stupid to go through speech therapy. As for showing flash cards and all of that.. Isnt that the mothers duty? I am a mother of 6 and I have been there.. I have had a speech person tell me that my son can't talk right and all this bunch of pooh and he talks clearly..and You know what the heck he is talking about. First off, I believe that some people likes to knick pick at things. And Like I had said before.. Not all kids learn the same and comprehend things the same ways.. You have to find out of how that would be.. it would be like teaching 2 children a math problem.. 1 child understands the way you are doing it.. so you have to figure out a way for the other child to learn it.. that is what makes them unique. As for your child slow learning on talking.. there isnt nothing wrong with her.. She may be slow.. No need on her to catch up.. She will when she is ready.. as for being frustrated.. If you show her that you cant understand what she is saying..different story.. but if she is there trying to show you something.. say what it is and she will pick it up and will eventually say it.. If you would go online and look this up.. it tells you the advise. But, like I had said again.. all children grow and learn differently.They all don't learn and speak and even walk or crawl at the same time.. That is what is different... Think about it.. Your first daughter.. Did she crawl.. did she walk.. When did she do it? Your second daughter.. did she do the same at the same time and did she do it the same way? No, I have to say I doubt it.. for they are all different.. Look , my first son. He took a while to speek.. he didn't go into therapy or have someone come to my house to show him flash card.. Actually I made mine up and did it myself.. If he would point at something.. I said what it was and eventually he started talking.. when he crawled.. he crawled backwards.. My 2nd son.. different story.. he was blabbing of the mouth earlier than my first son and he didn't crawl backwards he did it forward.. Just because my first son didnt do it at the same age or time.. didn't mean that he wasnt going to do it.. and it just made him unique.. Now my oldest is 15 years old.. he won't even close his mouth.. it's jabber jabber jabber.. he builds things that you couldnt even imagine how he did it.. My second son.. he can draw a picture and make it look like what he is trying to draw to the T. My 3rd son.. he was a combination of them both.. and my daughter.. well she is smart.. she didn;t speek much either at that age but months went by and she did. when it was time for her to do schooling.. she picked it up faster than the boys.. My last child is 17 1/2 months old.. he don't speek that much either. only a couple of words.. not no.. 10-30 as Mama said.. They aren't all the same.. I don;t care if some doctor or whatever said or not. They may have went to school for their job.. and not all children are the same. You know how your child acts and what she does and you can tell if she is learning or not and if she is understanding what you are saying.. like if you pick up a ball and say ball.. does she understand what you are saying..? she may not be saying it now and she will. Look at Helen Keller. She was blind and couldnt hear or nothing.. A lady came in and took time in of trying to get her to speek..you know she eventually did.. This may not be the same thing.. but it is something to think about.. if one is wanting to learn and is comprehending.. they will eventually speek.. right out of the blue..you will see it and you may look at your first child and look at your other one and compare.. well she isnt speeking at the same time and all.. Well there is a different story you can tell your child when she grows up. My son was a slow learner.. it dont mean that they wont over power the other one.. if you know what I mean.. Your 4 year old talks in phrases and so forth.. just wait.. your 18 month old just might be telling you stories before you 4 year old has or does. She might be younger in age compared to your 4 year old.. she could be the smartest between the two. Give your daughter a chance to learn with you.. try your best to teach her.. show her things.. tell her what it is.. I imagine you are already doing it.. and she will pick it up.. Who taught her to say..food? Did you? Yes you did.. Did your peditrician or some doctor teach that to her? NO.. ! So, if she learned that word.. she will learn more.. it just takes a little of time. Just because one may be slow.. doesn't mean they wont turn out to learn or be and do what you expect. They will and you will be surprised in what your daughter will learn and say.. Give her time on her own and you will be surprised.. Did you take your older daughter to a therapist..? How many words did she actually speak? She may have spoke a little more than your daughter now.. but she will. Do you have siblings? If so, ask your mom how you learned and ask her what the difference was between you and your siblings? I bet she will tell you that you weren't the same as your sibings and that she didn;t take noone to no speech therapist.. Just a thought.. Anyhow.. I cannot tell you what to do. only to give my opinion.. same as Mama.. She and I are not in your situation only you are .. You just need to look at the pros and cons and think about what was just told to you about not everyone is the same.. There are people out here that was slow in learning and they ended up be one of the smartest people in the world compared to the ones who learned easily and thought they would be the smartest.

Sandhya - posted on 12/07/2012

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Thank You Michelle ! She was referred by her Pediatrician. I hope you are right. .I will continue to speak to her, point things out and hopefully she will start speaking soon.

Michelle - posted on 12/07/2012

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First off.. speech assessment it plain out stupid.. Your little one dont need it.. My son is 17 1/2 months.. he don't do alot of words either and babbles too.. that is normal.. Look at it this way.. not every child is the same and they don't learn the same and they dont speak, crawl , or even walk the same or much less at the same time. The person who told you to go do speech therapy is a bunch of pooh and it is stupid.. My neice had the same problem with her son being told the same thing and well months went by and he is speeking and all.. no he didnt go to therapy as he was supposed to. You don't have to do it.. Your child will speek when he is ready. My oldest son.. He didn't either and now he is a nonstop chatter box and just won't close the mouth.. Understand what I am saying...? Don't worry about the speech assessment pooh.. its stupid.. as long as you tell your child what is what and they are comprehending and listening to what you are saying.. well they will speak when ready..

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