my six month old has bronchitis and her father says its my fault. is it?

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My six month old was recently diagnosed with rsv and bronchitis. My ex didn't come the hospital when I brought her to the e.r. and when I told him what was wrong he accused me of being a bad mother. I know rsv is common but I'm not sure about the bronchitis. Was there something I could have done to prevent it?

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Meagen - posted on 01/03/2013

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This is not your fault. I see that your daughter was born early. My son was born 3 weeks early. He got rsv and then bronchitis as well. Even with fully developed lungs, being born early makes them a little more susceptible to getting sick. When we took our son to the Dr. we were told that he will probably get bronchitis very easily for most of his childhood. Sure enough, anytime he gets a cold, it usually turns into bronchitis. We pretty much start him on the nebulizer as soon as he starts coughing. He will most likely grow out of it. The same may be true for your daughter, so talk to your Dr. We were also told to watch out for asthma. RSV is very common. Most children have no trouble with it. For some it becomes more severe. You haven't done anything to cause this, so don't feel guilty. Just take care of your LO. Ask your Dr. about a nebulizer to help with the cough. A cool mist humidifier will also help with the cough. It mostly has to get better on it's own. It's hard to hear as a mom, I know. I hate it when my babies are sick. Hope she's feeling better soon,

Heather - posted on 01/03/2013

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Ask for a physiotherapist to show you how to help clear the build up of fluid inside. There used to be aspecial way of tapping child's back but ask for expert advice first. Never let an EX blame you, where was he when child getting sick? You do your best that all you can do xx

Deanna - posted on 01/03/2013

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Bronchitis is common. With everything there is always a way to prevent it. Bronchitis can be caused by something as simple as a cold that went into the chest. There is nothing there that would say you are a bad mother. Kick that out of your mind now. Follow the instructions of the doctor to a tee. Antibiotics for the full prescription, any thing he said. As a person who suffers lung infections very easily, here are some tips I got from a doctor (and was told the same with my kids). At six months, he is ready for water. Take 3-4 spoons of WARM water and give it to him 4 times a day. That will help clear up some of the gunk. Do you have a humidifier or a vaporizer? Use it in his room at night. If you don't have one, run a HOT shower. Let the room fill up with steam and sit with him on the toilet for about 15 min. That helps clear up the lungs as well.
the most important thing is to stay vigilant about the meds though.
At 6 months, a baby does not have the immune system of an adult. They can catch everything.
Sorry about baby boy being sick!! Good luck!!

Denikka - posted on 01/02/2013

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I used to have bronchitis all the time when I was young (under the age of 5). Smoking CAN cause an increase in the likelihood of getting it (my mom and grandpa were both heavy smokers) but beyond that, I don't think there's really anything you can do to actively prevent a child from getting sick. You can try, wash hands, don't expose them to people with known illnesses, etc. But kids get sick. It happens.

Tamiko - posted on 01/04/2013

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All I have to say is just forgive him being ignorant! Forgiving him does not mean you have 2 put up with him. But it releases you from carrying anger and hatred. So be free you are a good mom!! Kids just get sick sometimes. Be blessed!

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Brenda - posted on 01/04/2013

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No, unless you smoke. I am not a smoker and my son who was three months early had it. He doesn't have it now. And me who never had it have it now. Just take care of your child. He just wants to blame someone.

Melissa - posted on 01/04/2013

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Jocelyn, No there's nothing really you could have done. My youngest son was 5 weeks old, he got RSV and bronchitis, and was hospitalized for 5 days under an oxygen tent. Although bronchitis and asthma are hereditary, it's NOT your fault. Sounds to me like someone has a guilt trip to lay on you, (he didnt go with you to the ER)
Dont let anyone blame you!!!! Our children getting sick is a common thing. It happens. Just take care of your baby, and trust God to make peace with the issue's in raising your child. He will see you through. God bless & I'll keep you in my prayers.
Melissa J.

Karen - posted on 01/03/2013

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I work in a 24 bed Pediatric Intensive care unit, 75 percent of our beds are filled with kids with RSV today. There is little you can do about it, isolation from the entire world , good hand washing and placing her in an extra large plastic bubble are all you can do.Kids get sick sometimes! Bronchitis follows the RSV. A good Dad supports both the child and the Mom. An insecure person tries to lay blame when there is no blame to be had. Good luck,she will get over it , hope she recovers quickly!

Denise - posted on 01/03/2013

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There not a whole lot you can do to prevent either of them. Kids get sick you can't stick them in a bubble to protect them from germs.

Virginia - posted on 01/03/2013

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no,i am so sorry your husband feels that way.he needs to be educated,next time you take your child to the docter,insist he goes and let the doctor tell him the truth,you are a good mama.

Nancy - posted on 01/03/2013

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When my youngest was 4 he got sick. He had RSV, an asthma attach and Bronchitis. He was also a preemie. You did nothing wrong. You can't protect them from everything. It is best to ignore your ex. Fighting or getting upset is not helping your daughter. Some people just feel better blaming others. When you have a child this sick you need your engery to take care of you and your child. Not wasting it someone who is has no clue.

Daniele - posted on 01/03/2013

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Prob not anything u could have done. Rsv is more.common among premature/preterm infants. Just because your baby gets sick does not make you a bad parent. Neglecting to get proper treatment does!.sounds like you did the right thing seeking treatment for your dtr.

Bobbi Jean - posted on 01/03/2013

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Since you are careful about exposure to second hand smoke and take reasonable precautions against contaimination, it is not your fault. Sometimes, stuff happens inspite of our best efforts to keep it at bay.

Holly - posted on 01/03/2013

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unless you take your kid around people who smoke of course it's not your fault

Taryn - posted on 01/03/2013

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My son got rsv when he was little, despite us giving them the very expensive vaccination for it. I have quadruplets and he is the only one that came down with rsv. The point is, some kids will get it and some won't. We all come into contact with all kinds of things every day and sometimes it affects us but most times it doesn't. Don't worry about him, and just help your daughter get will.

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Yeah there are a lit of reasons he's an ex lol. I don't smoke and I'm a total germ freak. Thank y'all. I appreciate it. I was just wondering. Any clues on how to make the cough less intense? Her doc said the cough could linger for a while but get fever it's gone.

Jodi - posted on 01/02/2013

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LOL, Lakota, that's why he's her ex, probably ;)

Bronchitis is often just one of those things. It's no-one's "fault", it happens. Some children develop it every time they get a slight cold, other kids never have it in their life. Your ex is an ass.

Lakota - posted on 01/02/2013

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Wow, your husband sounds like an idiot. I agree with the other moms. There are certain precautions you can take, but, they will still get sick. Does your husband blame you when he gets sick too?

Amy - posted on 01/02/2013

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Kids get sick there isn't much you can do about it! You can't keep her in a plastic bubble, honestly your husband sounds like a jerk.

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