My son has an October b day after the cut off date for public schools. I still want him intellectually engaged-not just a daycare...

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Maggie - posted on 02/24/2009

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Hi. I was in the same situation. My son has a birthday September 9, the cut off is the 1st. At the time (11 years ago), I felt he was so ready and being a single mom recieving no child support, could not fathom paying for another year of day care when I felt he was sooo ready and had been with all of the kids going to kindergarten that year for years. I looked into it, and discovered that the schools say you have to be 5 to enter kindergarten, but there is no age requirement for 1st grade. All said and done, I enrolled him in a private kindergarten, which he did great in. And he started 1st grade the next year. I would have to agree with some of the other responses about later years though. I'm not sure if the age is the factor, but he struggled a lot more once he hit middle school. His maturity level is lower than that of his peers, and he does have problems at times. If I were to do it again, I would wait the extra year and have him be an older child in his grade rather than one of the youngest.

Jennie - posted on 02/24/2009

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My son missed misssed the cut off by 46 days,at first I was really upset but now,he is in grade 6 one of the oldest in his class,one of the smartest in his class.Where I am they don't fail or skip kids so what I do to keep him challenged and I also did this when he was 5 or 6 was I took him to Kumon.Kumon is a math and reading program where the kids work at their own pace,they have homework 365 days a year.If it takes the kids more than 20 minutes or they get too many wrong they don't have it and they keep giving they kids repetion sheets until they have it and then they write a test and move up to the next level.My son is in grade 6 doing grade 8 math.my daughter was taught to read in about 3 months.Enjoy the extra time you have with your child because it will go so quick once they are in school.I am so glad now that my son missed the cut off date.It was ablessing in disguise

Shannon - posted on 02/24/2009

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Shemekka,

Unfortunately, I know nothing about this school. However, as a former Kindergarten teacher, I can tell you that the problem for young children in Kindergarten often has little to do with intelligence. Children born in the Spring and Summer often struggle with the rigors of the classroom (even a developmentally appropriate Kindergarten) which is why there is a cut-off for fall birthdays. This lag is exacerbated when the child progresses to higher grades; and often means the child is held back later. It is, in many ways, better to place your child in school as the older child in the classroom. He will be more developmentally ready for the challenges (academic, social, and developmental) and these children often become leaders because of that. My son has a June birthday (although he is only 3 now). I plan to continue to evaluate his development and make a decision about Kindergarten as he gets closer to his fifth birthday. I have even considered placing him in a private half-day Kindergarten when he turns 5. If he seems on par with his peers, he can progress to first grade. If not, I can still put him in a full-day Kindergarten and allow him to develop at his own speed. I always told my students' parents, "It's not a race; Would you rather your child get their faster or succeed?"

Kelly - posted on 02/24/2009

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My son's birthday is on Halloween. He started kindergarten right before his 6th birthday. He was one of the older kids in his class and started reading at age 4. He was very ready for school. I don't regret him starting at an older age b/c his teacher was great at keeping him challenged.

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Pamela - posted on 02/24/2009

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Hi Shemekka,



As an educator I can suggest that you locate family/ educational websites and stimulate your child'slearning process at home. Go to www.ask.com which is an excellent serach engine. Type in "Where can I find family/educational websites to stimulate my child's learning process?" The results should astound you. I prefer this search engine to others like Google because you can ask a direct question and not just use a title or subject line.



When I lived in Chiang Mai, Thailand I used a really great one, unfortunately I did not keep it on my browser. Go to ask........you'll find lots to use.

Jessica - posted on 02/24/2009

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just a quick response as others have responded well already.  both my children are nearly the oldest in their classes, missing our very late california cut off (Dec) by about 5 weeks--  I have to say that kindergarten year for my daugher (now 2nd grade) was less than reassuring that it would be a good thing as she was bored and complained a lot, but I am glad now.  She is with her peer group and has been able to develop as a leader, something I'm not sure would have happened otherwise.  My son is in kindergarten this year and is one of the 1st to turn 6-- he is confident and having a smooth year.  He is not struggling with the academics as some children are and is really able to enjoy the other social aspects fully.  My sister's son is one of the youngest in his kindergarten class this year, and although the academics are not an issue, the teacher has indicated the social aspects are-- and my sister will consider having him repeat kindergarten after watching his emotional growth this year.

Angela - posted on 02/24/2009

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I am a former school teacher and had a student in my third grade class that was a good year younger than the rest of his peers. While he was a bright boy, he had a hard time concentrating and seemed very immature-he had a difficult time keeping up.  He had to work closely with me, a room assistant or in small groups to really stay on top of things. In my opinion and other teachers that had him before, we thought he would have been a remarkable student that could work independently if he had been held back just one year. While being academically capable is important for a child beginning school, you must also take into consideration your child's social and developmental readiness as well because as another post-er said it will follow him his whole school career if he starts school too soon.



I think your idea of enrolling your son in a preschool that will teach him academic skills is the best idea. Your son will be challenged academically and much more prepared socially and developmentally to start school at the later date.



HTH,



Angie

Nancy - posted on 02/24/2009

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You can do as you please but children are so hurried these days.  The best learning a child does is through play.  My Hannah has a November birthday and went to 1/2 day preschool one year before kindergarten.  She was very excited to go and very ready.  She is a high achiever and knew all of the concepts the 4 year old kindergarten you are looking at teaches before going to preschool.  We didn't sit down and learn these skills as much as they were taught in everyday living as she played with me at home.  More than anything she enjoyed the interaction with other children.

Zandy - posted on 02/24/2009

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Find a home daycare or daycare center that offers preschool. Check what curriculum they use with the  children. Involve him in church groups too.

Lakeeshia - posted on 02/24/2009

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Hi Shemekka, I had the same problem. My son started school at age of 2. (private) I moved to a better town so i decided to give public a try. His bday is October 16 and public cut off is October 1. But PRIVATE cut off is Dec 31. I left him in private school

and he was able to start kindergarden at age 5 turned 6 the following month. He did 1st & 2nd grade at private school and currently Gifted & Talented in the 4th grade ; )

Jody - posted on 02/24/2009

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Have you checked out preschool. If there is not availability in the public school sometimes private schools will take kids as early as 3. We have one where I live and the parents really brag about it.

Teresa - posted on 02/24/2009

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Hi Shemekka,



    I never thought much about this concern except  that I had one child who loved learning and was very engaged but her cut off was Sept., she didn't make it because her birthday was Sept. 9, She stayed in preschool another full year, but they kept her challenged so she was not bored.  She is an excellent student still today.  My middle child was a young one she was a July birthday.  I wish I would have kept her in preschool another year.  She was not fully ready and has struggled ever since.  Socially she did great but academically she has had to work really hard compare to her sister.  The third same as the 2nd.  Birthday was April.  She is doing great now but again has had to struggle to keep up.  



As a parent who is very concerned with how they learn to be a positive influence in their life for later,  I wish I would have not been in such a hurry to put them in full time school.  Just keep them learning at home and with other groups if he is not finding all the basics easy.  If he is,   make sure you have great teachers to help him stay engaged and excited to learn more and will challenge him no matter what.

Meggan - posted on 02/24/2009

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The cut offs are in place for a reason. The demands for homework are much greater as they get older. Most schools offer a Supplimental Kindergarten that is for children who are around the cutoff. Check it out. I think the later that better. Then your son wont be the last to do everything when he is older.

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there are many private pre-schools.. through churches or local community centers.. they are all usually very good....

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In my opinion, I believe that if you think your child can keep up and has the intellectual capacity (you can get him tested to verify) then there is no reason why you shouldn't pursue that route.  From what I've heard you can always un-enroll him and re-enroll him when the school says it's appropriate for him to be starting school.  Good luck to you and your son :)

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