My son has been seeing spirits, if you will in his room, he hates being in there what should I do?

Barbi - posted on 02/11/2010 ( 232 moms have responded )

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The past few months my 3 yr old has been seein something or someone in his room at night after I tuck him in. We have tried everything from adding more light to placing a camera in there to see what we see and hear. We have only seen him do unusual things like get outta bed suddenly and take a few steps and look up towards the ceiling and heard him playing with and talkin to who or whatever it may be. We did capture audio of a deep voice making a noise and right after my son started laughing. He went from playing with it to being scared of it in a matter of a night. I dont know what to do for him or how to make it go away. If you believe this stuff is real can you help and if you dont, this is NOT something I would or could make up. It's affecting my sons sleep he goes to bed at all different hours of the night. I am desperate!

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Lyndsey - posted on 02/11/2010

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if you believe in god then i would try what my mother in law did, which is....she went into her hall and said "im not trying to scare you so stop trying to scare us. leave us alone, i dont know why you are here, but you need to leave." if this doesnt help your child feel better make up a "monster" go away and spry it in their room. hopefully one of these helps.

Lydia - posted on 02/11/2010

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Sorry - just read the other threads. If you decide to smudge do the whole house. It is important to fill the whole space with something positive such as love so that it leaves no space for anything negative.

If the smudge doesnt work then I would try finding someone to come and do it for you - a priest if that is your faith or a pagan priestess if either that is your faith or you try the preist and that doesnt work.

Lydia - posted on 02/11/2010

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Get a sage smudge stick and smoke around the room (getting into all the corners) while asking the presence to leave and imagining filling the room to the brim with love. You can also place a nice chunk of rose quartz and black tourmaline (crystals) in there for protection and comfort. You could put a statue of Quan Yin (goddess for children) or St Christopher (guardian of children) in there too - it certainly wont hurt!

You can also each your son to take a deep breathe, put his hand out in the stop signal and say "please go away" or "please leave me alone" in a firm voice to whoever/whatever is there (also good for using on other people who are bugging him).

Lorie - posted on 02/11/2010

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Well the spirit he was playing with could be his spirit guild and he could also be seeing another spirit that he is scared of.

My son is 4 and is still going through the exact same thing, sometimes he is scared of it and sometimes he isn't. It is starting to get use to the fact that he sees stuff. He sees things even during the day when he is playing. ( I think its because my nepfew pasted away and comes to see my son ). Their minds are just like a open book, thats why they see stuff and we don't.

What I did is he loves stuffed dogs so I bought him a stuffed dog as big as him and told him it was to protect him from the scary spirits and his grandma mad him a dream catcher. I find this works the best, If they are scarying your son tell your son or you say it yourself for them to go away and they are scarying you and your son.

My son says go away your scarying me and Iam busy. :)

One important fact for me is never show yur son that you are scared b/c then he will be even more scared. Be very open minded and calm.

Good luck

Nicole - posted on 02/11/2010

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Wow that sounds really scary and im 28 i can only image what your son is feeling. Maybe your son should start sleeping in your bed for the time being. I would personally ask a priest to come and bless the house.

I don't believe in ghosts or psychics myself but if for some reason i had this problem i would call in a priest.

I hope you can get rid of whatever it is

Melodye - posted on 02/11/2010

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In my opinion, if there is a voice that you can document by recording then you should be asking what or who it is and how to make it go away. Whether or not you believe in paranormal activity, you must address your son's concerns.

One of my sons was certain that his room was going to fall off of the house. After much ado, we discovered that he was seeing a shadow that narrowed in a way that in his young mind left his room dangling from the rest of the building. We played shadow games and let him control the shadow that frightened him. We also showed him the other rooms that held his to the house.

This is just to say to you that what he is considering spirits might well be something very explainable. Consider the perspective of a 3 year old and try to determine what might look/sound like a spirit and address it accordingly. It could also be a variation of an imaginary friend.

Finally, I think that you need to explain what spirits are. Children this young need something tangible to help them to understand. We explained spirits to our children by telling them to blow on their hands. At that age they don't need to know all other ramifications of paranormal activity. Your son will understand that something that he can pass his hand through doesn't hurt. When he's older you can have a very different conversation.

Remember that he will always take his clues from you. If you are calm and assure him that he is safe under your spirit management then he will soon relax and rejoin his room. Manage his concern by giving him something tangible to help him feel in control. Try using a 2 way radio or intercom to let him hear your voice while he gets to sleep. One of my children found it comforting to hear me sing. I recorded our night-time ritual to help the daycare with nap time.

Be well and be blessed. Melodye

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There are a couple of easy things you can try to get rid of the spirit(s). Both candles and incence are good for clearing. You need to be calm if you have one or two of these items in the room and ask the spirit to leave and let them know they can cross over. It's not unusual for children to see spirits as they arre more open than adults as a rule. Just because you see them doesn't mean they are bad. Sometimes, especially in sudden death, souls have trouble crossing over. The most likely scenario is this spirit intends no harm. I hope this helps you. I know someone who does house clearings if you need more help. All the best. H.

Erin - posted on 02/11/2010

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weve had sum crazy stuff happen in our house, first it started with doors opening and shutting on their own but the worst nite was wen my partner woke up in the night n heard all the kitchen cupboards opening and slamming shut, that went for nearly half an hour, then after that we actually heard things being thrown around our laundry, it was so loud n that part lasted 4 a few hours, i was sooo scared that i couldnt even move.

Erin - posted on 02/11/2010

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im a believer of this stuff, have u tried gettin a phychic in the house 2 c who this spirit is, maybe they mite beable 2 give u info of how 2 get rid of it. ask ur son y all the sudden hes afraid of this spirit or if the spirit has said anything 2 him, hope it helps :)

Barbi - posted on 02/11/2010

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I dont believe it is just attatched to his room, cuz my husband and I have experienced some unusual stuff too. During the day and night. What sounds like our door shutting or trying to open, stuff falling from random rooms and places in the house. We rent the basement from my mother in law, and she recently told my husband that she has been hearing some crazy stuff upstairs. We believe there is 2 of them that are here. It or they have started moving around the entire house the last month or 2. We have seen shadows and flashes of light at random times. My most horrific experience, and I will never forget it, was about just over a month ago. My husband and I were gettin ready to go to sleep and it was middle of the night and there was only a little bit of light throughout the basement, the tv was on and there was another little light on and I went to roll over in bed and looked up above the entertainment center and I saw a black shadow, a dark spirit go across the ceiling and I wasnt sure if I really saw that or not. My husband looked at me in the dark and said I was so white. I lost all the color in my face. He actually said I looked like I saw a ghost and I told him I had and not a good one. I cant have all the lights off anymore.

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I was a seer when I was young - usually when I had a fever - but out grew it, like most children do. There are many suggestions from christian prayer to shamanic smudge - the best thing you can do is consult your own values and determine what form of prayer is most appropriate for your family. Whatever form it takes, pray together with your son. And be specific, that you want whatever it is gone.

Aatmn - posted on 02/11/2010

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Children are much more in touch with the metaphysical world then we moms are. Even if the spirits stuff exist, they can not harm us till the time we become vulnerable. they are like any other germs in the environment. Present all throughout but can only affect when our resistance go down.
Fear can break down the resistance of the child and emotional security can build up the resistance.
Give a lot of security to your child and watch the difference.
Love,
Dr. Neeta Yuvraj,
www.healersocean.com
www.healersocean.ning.com

PATRICIA - posted on 02/11/2010

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Hi Barbi.. I'm no medium (do not believe in them), but I believe that certain spirits live in certain caracters and if we bring it into our children's rooms, they tend to be a problem. I am not saying all things are wrong, but I will tell you what I do not put in my baby's room. I do not put any thing, linen or any other materials with caracters like spiderman, superman, pokemon, monster inc., ben 10 and a few others. I can remember when my eldest son were still a baby, I moved him to his own room at age 6 months and he always slept well in our room and also in his own room untill a month after moving him. It was winter time and I put a Spiderman blanket on his duvetcover one nigtht and that night he was so restless. After lying in his room night after night and trying to figure out what it was that made him so restless, I decided to contact our Pastor to come and show out things in my home as the Lord guided him. When he entered my son's room, he told me to pray about the things in my son's room and ask the Lord that He must show me if there is something that I should get rid of. So I did so and the thing that came up when I prayed, was the Spiderman blanket.... I removed it from his room and from there on my son slept like a baby should and he is 4 years now and still sleeping like a baby at night. My opinion is that before getting mediums (I do not believe in them anyway, because only GOD knows everything about the dead), first pray to the Lord to show out what it is that is the problem in your child's room and believe me, if you pray with all you heart and soul, He will help you and your child will sleep like a BABY again, like it is supposed to be..... The Lord is powerfull and He will protect your child if you ask him to.



I hope this will help you decide what to do.



Good Luck and God Bless

Jennifer - posted on 02/11/2010

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Barbi,

I can understand your concern, children are so sensitive and I truly believe that they see, hear and feel things that most adults do not.



You can cleanse the room and remove negative energy by using a smudge stick made of sage - light the smudge stick and walk to each corner of the room, ask the spirit to leave, tell them that they must leave as they are scaring your child and that they are not welcome. Most important - you must say and mean it. I would walk around several times repeating the same thing.



If you do not have sage you can use salt water - mix up some salt and water and use your fingers to sprinkle it aound the room and ask the spirt to leave.

Lavender is also very good for removing negative energy not to mention very calming and smells fab. Try a bunch of dried lavender placed in the room either by the door or by your childs bed or both.



If you have any crystals at home clear quartz and amethyst are great for removing negative energy and fear.



My daughter now 7 has had many unusual experiences and she was 3 when I first noticed, It was my gran who had passed away and my daughter came running out of her room telling me that there was a lady in her room. I checked and of course did not see anything but I sensed her presence. I talked to my daughter and she told me her name which happens to be the same as my daughter (Isabella).....but my daughter called her Isa which is what my gran was called. My daughter had never met gran or heard me talking about her great grandmother. I asked her if she had ever seen her before and she said "yes, at grandma's house" (My mum) Where I have seen and sensed my grandmothers' spirit many times.........OK so the goose pimples start. My daughter tells me that Isa is having a birthday.......I said When?....."On tuesday" my daughter said.

At this point my mind is racing and I am thinking I never knew Isabella knew the day's of the week.....anyhoo Tuesday happened to be the 22nd of Feb which in actual fact was my gran's Birthday.

I told her who the lady was and she would not hurt her and was an angel who looked after her. I asked if Isabella wanted her to go away and she said yes. So I asked gran to leave.

Many people may think this a crock and that's ok........But I believe strongly in this and these techniques work for me.

All the best

Barbi - posted on 02/11/2010

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When he see it and gets scared, his dad or I or both go in his room with him and ask whats scaring him or what he sees and he doesnt see it anymore. I even sat in my rocking chair with him with the door closed (and my husband close by of course) and all he kept doing was looking up at the ceiling. Like staring at it. I ask him what he sees and he wouldnt say anything or he would try to tell me something but it was just mumbling. There has been a few times when he was talking to us and he was sayin the most off the wall things. Stuff he has never said before. Likehe would be tellin us somethin and we wouldnt understand and ask him to say it again and he said "Hey, hey just wait guys." while motioning his has in a "wait a sec" sort of way. I am beyond freaked out. Even more scared for him and sad. I have run outta options and ideas on what to do short of callin in a paranormal person.

April - posted on 02/11/2010

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My niece had something like this happen. It started when she was two. She would talk and play with a little boy named Ben that wasnt even there. We thought it was an imaginary friend at first. Until she started telling us that Ben died ..and how he died...and she tells us what he's wearing and saying. There have been times when she would say "can you see him? he's right there!" and we can't see him or hear him. She has a brother who is a couple years older(my nephew). Well, my nephew was so scared of him and wouldnt even talk about him anymore but my niece seemed to enjoy his company. Finally after we had asked her a lot of questions about Ben she just simply said "i'm not aloud to play with Ben anymore and he doesnt want me to talk about him" I do believe in this type of thing. They say that things like this happen to children a lot because their minds are so open to everything. I would try sleeping in his room with him to see what happens. I don't know if you are religious or what ur religion is, but try putting a crucifix in his room. I have one in every room of my house (some are just in drawers and some on the wall) I would just keep reassuring your son that it's ok and he's not there to hurt him just so it doesnt scare him more until you find out what's going on. The video camera is a great idea. Hope everything turns out ok. Keep us posted on what happens :)

Sophie - posted on 02/11/2010

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Smudging with sage is shamanic - I've seen it work many times and doing it yourself can be therapeutic in itself. It's also used in churches with frankincense and other herbs. The most important thing is holding your intention when smudging.
:)

Amy - posted on 02/11/2010

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if you don't want it there, find someone who knows how to use a smudge stick [i think that's what it's called] with sage and other things in it to clear the house of spirits. after a lady came and did that to our house, there were no more glasses jumping off shelves or that creepy "i'm being watched" feeling. i never believed in stuff like that until it happened to us. found out there used to be an indian camp where we lived. anyway...



i would try and have him ask the spirit what he wants. maybe he's just going to bug him until he gets something across. kids are really intuitive though. i'm thinking if he's scared, it needs to be out. sorry spirit.

Tiamber - posted on 02/11/2010

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Make him sleep in your room for a while and clean his room with holy water and ammonia. Sweep from the back to the front of his room and out your door. Spray the air with the mix with a spray bottle keeping the windows open. Pray the 23rd psalm over your son every night and place a small cross over his bed. If you can get a cortz crystal and bless it in holy water (23 psalm with his name and your intention) asking god to use it as a tool of insurance that that spirit and another that may get curious will leave your son alone

Sophie - posted on 02/11/2010

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Another option is to ask a shamanic practitioner to do a cleansing in the room. It is very likely that the spirit has something that is troubling it. Most likely it hasn't crossed over properly and just needs some guidance to do that. If this feels a little wacky for you just email a shamanic pratiictioner and ask for a suggestion for something that you can do yourselves at home and hopefully it'll all work well.

These things are absolutely real and often we get told so many times they're not real as children that we lose the connection as adults. If your son has the ability to see them I wouldn't suggest telling him they're not real as he clearly knows they are. The best thing would be to give him the tools to deal with them himself so that he can not be scared of them and then, in case it happens for him in the future he'll be able to deal with it then too. If it were something non-spiritual you wouldn't hesitate to teach him how to deal with something, I see no reason not to do the same in spiritual matters.

A very good shamanic practitioner is Chris Lüttichau and you can see his website here: http://www.northerndrum.com/servicesfram... he may well be a long way from you but would be able to offer you some suggestions via email.

Worth a shot, even if you don't believe.

Good luck!

Mary - posted on 02/11/2010

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Do you believe in God Barbi?Pray with you baby before sending him to his room, pray with him while he is in bed and ask the Lord Jesus to protect him, keep him safe and give him peace.Send the spirit away with faith and prayer because it's not meant to be there and it has no good intentions for your son nor your family.There is alot of power in prayer.Teach your son to pray too and make it a daily routine and part of your lives.Obviously a spirit is not bound by physical aspects of this world, whether it be location or brick walls.moving does not solve the problem nor burning ornaments or other rituals.the only protection that you can depend on or rely on is from the blood of Jesus.He is right there just waiting for you to call on Him and His power. Rid your son and your family of it because there is no need to tolerate it...God Bless you and your family.

Kylie - posted on 02/11/2010

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spend the night in the room with your son, several nights if you have to. try and get your son to talk about it, and about why he is scared, maybe it is saying something to him he doesn't like. there are rituals you can do to ward off sprits.

Courtney - posted on 02/11/2010

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Well I am very much a believer in these things, the first thing I would do is ger a crusifix and hang it in his room. The next thing I would do is definately pray at bed time to keep him safe and the whole family safe and for the spirit to go away. I would also contact a priest (a catholic one is probably the best one for that). Children are most likely to see and hear spirits because they are not closed off to realm of the world. Now if it is just a phase he is going through invest is some good old fashioned monster spray. Go to the dollar store buy a spray bottle, let him help you make the magic potion to spray away monsters, water some seasoning from the kitchen (cheyenne powder is wonderful monsters hate that) some scented stuff (a little fabreeze) and what ever else your little guy thinks monsters hate to keep them away. Give it a good shake and let him spray away, under the bed in the closet where ever he thinks the monster hides and comes from. Let him keep it with him all night and spray when needed. Worked wonders while I was growing up. But back to the priest, I beleive that they will come bless the room without hesitation. Hope this helps.

Sara - posted on 02/11/2010

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I would spend a night with him to see if the spirit affects you too. If you hear or feel anything then Im guessing the spirit is attached to the room rather than your child. This spirit could be trying to comunicate with your child because he/she has something they need to finish. Try to explain to your son that spirits can't harm people in anyway. I don't want to alarm you but I feel I need to tell you this. I was hearing noises during the night in my bedroom and chose to ignore it, it then got worse and my wardrobe doors would fly open, things would fall on the floor and it then started going downstairs and moving table chairs, turning electrical equipment on/off and winding my dog up to the point where he would run around the house like he had gone mad. My husband and I then sat down one night with the lights off and called for a family member to come and help us. My husbands father (who is on the other side) came and told us things would be alright. The dining room door flew open and a wind came through into the living room. There was then a huge light on the wall and it suddenly dissapered and everything felt really calm. To this day nothing else has happened and Im sure it was our fault that things got so out of hand because we ignored it.
My advise would be to get your son out of the house for a night and try the same thing. If not, then try a spiritualist, your local church should be able to put you in touch with one.
Good luck
xxx

Tai - posted on 02/11/2010

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Wow, thats kind of scary... i worry about this with my son too because one day he said there was a man in his room. It freaked me out but, he hasn't said anything about it since. Maybe try cleansing with burning sage? I heard that gets rid of bad spirits/energy. but I would definitely try to contact some sort of medium or professional...That deep voice you recorded would have been enough for me to get out!

Mirela - posted on 02/11/2010

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gibson u are right....i really think that teaching kids to pray its a very good think...nowadays a lot of us forgot to do that...allof us are too busy to remember of god..only when we havepbms we remember and ask him to help us...if someone have faith nothing and no one can do anything...

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Ive heard that children can see things we cant. If hes afraid of whatever it is i would move him out of the room. I wouldnt keep putting him to sleep in there if its bothering him that much. Is it only that room? Personally i would think about moving but obviously thats not always possible.

Mirela - posted on 02/11/2010

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u asked him what he see?whats the name of his friend?why he get scared?i dunno
try to go with him to a preast....or move him from that room...i duunno try to find out more things..cos if this is real u know that are good spirits and bad ones....i dunno my advice is to go to the chrch with him..and talk with the preast

Gibson - posted on 02/11/2010

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Barbi, do you believe in the power of prayer? if yes then pray with your three year old. i think he/she could learn how to pray to God, i remember those days when we were very tender our mother would kneel withbeside our bed and pray with us, and also taught us to pray. you should do the same with your baby. Let God take charge of it and as it is try slepping with the baby for now. all the best

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Good friends of mine had this problem for years; it's real allright. After trying many ways to cope and get their sleep back, they finally ended up with a medium who 'mediated' between their child and whatever it was and teached their kid to deal with it. It worked great.

Don't know where you can get hold of a trustworthy medium in your area, but I hope it helps...

Destinie - posted on 02/11/2010

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I really believe in this stuff and I would say you need to look up someone that knows what they are doing and have them come to your house. I think it is crystals that are the protective stone so I would look that up also hen put some in there. But try not to make it mad or anything by saying its not real because it might hurt you or your son.

Mirela - posted on 02/11/2010

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have u tried to spemd a night in his room with him?and see what happends?i dunno or let him sleep with light on...maybe he feels protected...i dunno what to tell u more but this things freack me..its scary...i cant imagine if im scared of this things what a lil boy feels...try to spend few nites with him and see how he react..what is he doing and all this stuff maybe he has nightmares...and think that is real...is he watching scary movies?

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