Dina - posted on 05/21/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
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hi everyone, my son is 15months old,he hits me whether he is annoyed or just teasing me, i tried to make him stop this behavior but i couldn't succeed. Also he screams alot when he is annoyed or needs something. What shall i do?
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Dina - posted on 06/01/2009
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Thanks everybody for your help. I really appreciate it.
Mel - posted on 05/24/2009
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id hit back , he will never learn unless he is taught that he is doing wrong and that hitting hurts
Shelagh - posted on 05/23/2009
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Up to a point, this is normal 15 month behaviour - but that doesn't mean you have to put up with it. To avoid being hit, pick him up so that his back is towards you and he is facing away from you - it's much harder for him to make contact. Don't let him hit you for any reason - even just in fun. He first needs to learn that hitting is wrong before he can learn that sometimes you can do it as a joke. When he needs something, you have to think very fast - if it's something that it's OK for him to have, then give it to him before the screaming starts (that way you're not reinforcing the idea that screaming gets him stuff). If it's something he can't have, then tell him no, and let the screaming commence. And don't give in. In your head, think 'I know you're really cross about this, but I'm much older and wiser than you, and I know best, and I've decided that you can't have it. So you're not going to have it.'
Kristin - posted on 05/22/2009
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When mine starts the screaming tantrum thing i don't talk to him but pick him up and take him to his room, with the door open, set him on the floor and walk away. He quickly learned screaming gets him nothing but removal from the room. This way i know he's safe in his room and he isn't laying in the middle of the kitchen floor where i have to ignore him but walk around or over him.
Diane - posted on 05/22/2009
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I agree with Sian if you move him away and ignore the screaming he will stop i think it the waiting game he so realise that screaming doesn't help and explain that smaking isn't nice maybe smack his hand not too hard though so he can understand that it hurts but i think it will shock him more.
Sian - posted on 05/21/2009
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Hi Dina, my son started similar behaviour at about the same age. Its like the terrible 2's but early! If he hit me or tried to bite me I would take him off my lap and put him down firmly on a chair and then walk away from him into another room. It took quite a few tries at this but he got the message in the end.
The screaming is more difficult but I think the best way to deal with it is - ignore the behaviour you dont like and really really praise the behaviour you DO like!
If he finds that screaming doesnt get him anything - or any attention he will give it up. It can be hard going for a while though. Hope this helps, my son is 21 months now and much much better! Best wishes, Sian
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