my son is 2 and wont give up the bottle and is scared to go to the toilet, he was very sick as a baby would this be the reason

Mharii - posted on 05/06/2009

Quoting Vanessa:

For Mharii Witt---- Has your son been seen by the doctor to make sure there are no problems. Sometimes when babies have hard times with bowel movements, doctors recommend giving them some prune or apple juice to loosen things up. I would talk to your pediatrician and let him know what is going on, your concerns and ask about any treatments. Be patient sometimes the first thing you try don't work. Just keep trying and ALWAYS be honest and open about everything with the doctor. Hope everything works out.. God bless

yes he has been back and forth to the doctor since he was about 5 months old and all they will do for him is prescribe him with a laxative called movicol, which doesnt have much of an affect on him,i was told that if  by the age of 4 he still has the same problem he would be given a horrid operation to strech his bowel, which i want to avoid if possible, thankyou very much for replying  xxx

Tiffany - posted on 05/06/2009

Well, I agree with the sippy cup. However, I had my daughter, which I have heard is easier then boys, but she was trained by 3. My mother having 3 of us has us all trained before 2. The biggest thing my dr said, was children have control of 2 things as toddlers. One being what they will and wont, or when, they will eat, and the second being potty training. So, what I did was took one day, and put her in big girl undies, and gave her TONS of juice and ice pops. Then every 15minutes, I stuck her on the potty. By the end of the day, she was trained. A lot of the time, children will be busy playing and dont take time out for going potty, this way, she didnt have a choice and she learned what the "potty feeling" is. The other thing that helped was the Once Apon A Potty book and dvd, they make a little boy one. this might help....'

http://www.amazon.com/Once-Upon-Potty-Bo...

Katrina - posted on 05/06/2009

Ok right now I am weening my son of the bottle, and he will be 2 in November, you have to do this gradually so you dont tramatize your son. I started by not giving him a bottle during the day, not even when it was nap time. The only time he gets the bottle right now is when he goes to bed for the night. My son always had 2 bottles at once, a milk bottle and a juice bottle. I did this for a week, where I watered down his juice bottle alot to were it was like drinking water, he barely touched that one, and just drank the milk. Now he gets one bottle and a sippy cup full of water, he doesn't touch that sippy cup at night. Next week nothing but water in the cups. So do it gradually. As for potty training, definatly start off with a potty chair its more his size. I have been slowly introducing the potty chair to my son, we are now at the stage where he takes and will sit on it without a diaper on but then takes and runs around and ends up peeing on the floor. I know he is young but whenever his diaper comes off, he pees on the floor in certain spots, even on Grandma's slippers, and laughs and runs off. So start off small and slow and he should be good.

Grace - posted on 05/06/2009

I've heard from many people that boys tend to take longer with the potty training. Don't fret. My nephew was more than 3 years old when he started. He also had no interest for the longest time.



I think your kid has a personality that just doesn't accept any kind of change very easily. That means, it's probably not a good deal to force the issue, with either the potty or the bottle, but instead to give lots of encouragement and patience.



The bottle, there's even ones that start out as a regular bottle nipple, and then you can switch it to a sippy cup thing. If he doesn't like the sippy cup, I've heard some people say that actually a straw cup is even easier for transitioning from the bottle. You suck it more similarly. This was true for my gal. She loved her straw cup. You can find ones with a plastic straw that can't be pulled out. If he likes cars, try putting car stickers on the cup to encourage him to want to use it; or, whatever it is that he likes.

Jessica - posted on 05/06/2009

I think every child will potty train when they are ready. My twins weren't ready until they were close to three for the potty. I had got them to try periodically but that was it. Once they were ready they were fine. As far as the bottle. Just try different sippy cups until you find one they like. Or maybe let him pick out his own.

Tammie - posted on 05/06/2009

My 5 year old REFUSED to go potty at all, he wouldn't even try it. I tried everything to get him to sit on, I tried, rewards, letting him pick out his potty, whatever I could think of and he just flat out refused to even try. They couldn't even get him to try when he was in daycare. I never pushed him, but would ask him to try to go potty periodically. Every now and then, he would stand or sit on the potty and he never actually went. One day when he was almost 3 1/2 DH was giving him a bath, and Patrick got all upset saying he had to pee. Hubby put him on the potty, he went and he never wore diapers again. The next day he was in underwear during the day and pull ups for nap and bedtime. I figured if he could tell me once, he could tell me again. We had a few accidents the first day because there were times he refused to go, but I didn't give in. By the second day he had it down pat and he has basically not had an accident since.

Twanda - posted on 05/06/2009

Hello my son was potty train when he turned two & I took the bottle away from him when I was potty training him. What I done was reward him everytime he went to the potty and I also ask him if he had to potty every hour.

Vanessa - posted on 05/06/2009

For Mharii Witt---- Has your son been seen by the doctor to make sure there are no problems. Sometimes when babies have hard times with bowel movements, doctors recommend giving them some prune or apple juice to loosen things up. I would talk to your pediatrician and let him know what is going on, your concerns and ask about any treatments. Be patient sometimes the first thing you try don't work. Just keep trying and ALWAYS be honest and open about everything with the doctor. Hope everything works out.. God bless

Vanessa - posted on 05/06/2009

I agree with the mom who said start with a sippy cup for breaking him from the bottle. They have sippy cups that have mouth pieces that are more similar to a bottle. Then gradually work your way to an open cup. Some kids aren't ready to potty train by 3. Just don't give up. I trained mine (I have 3) by when I knew I was going to be home for the day; I would have them wear regular "big boy/girl" underwear. Take them to the bathroom every 2 hrs to "try" to potty. When the did potty in the potty or toliet whichever they prefer, I made a big deal out of it. Kids love the praise. Eventually they started going on their own or coming up and saying "I gotta go potty mom." You just have to be patient and persistent. God bless you, I wish you all the luck.

Mharii - posted on 05/06/2009

hey i have the same problem with my little boy , he turns 3 on tuesday!,he has bowel troubles and it is very sore for him so he holds it in ,which of course only makes it worse im also at a bit of a looses end and dont know how to go about potty training him? xxx

Gayle - posted on 05/06/2009

Whatever you do don't make a big deal of it. Stay relaxed. Your anxiety levels will affect him. I don't know that many kids who actually used a potty. My kids liked the toilet better. I told them they were going into pants when they were about two and a half, I left the potty lying around (my daughter used it for putting her crayons in). Then when they had an accident, I said oops and cleaned it up. It took about 4 weeks for my daughter. My son took a little longer, but boys sometimes do. But the best advice I can give is stay calm and have fun with it.

Anet - posted on 05/06/2009

Hi Jacqui

Going to the toilet....sickness is not relevant to this condition. Start with a potty. Our boys were both only around 2 to 2and a half when they started loo training. This is a huge milestone in development and when he is ready for this, it will come fairly easily.



The bottle clinging...try a sip cup and then with time remove the lid to become a normal cup.



Be very careful to blame the past illness on what is happening now. Children are very clever little angels and he will pick up on this soft spot very quickly, and sadly will use this to get what they want or don't want to do.



Good luck!