My son is 4 months old and cannot sleep without the pacifier. When it comes out (which it does VERY frequently...approx.20 times a night) he cries to get it back it. Should I start to wean him off of it? He used to sleep without it and sleep for 12hours through the night. Now he sleeps for about 8-10 hours and is always figeting in his sleep. Is it too early to wean him and if not, what tips do you have for breaking this habit?

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Amanda - posted on 02/24/2009

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My daughter did the exact same thing!!! Right after she was born she would take he pacifier but by the time she fell asleep would spit it out and sleep without it no problem then about 4 mo. she  started waking up several times a night for me to stick it back in her mouth and she would go right back to sleep. At about 5 mo. old I finally just decided to get rid of it. It took 2 days and literally nap time was way worse than night time. She cried for a while for naps but at night it was only about 5 or 10 minutes and she went right to sleep. This seriously took 2 days and thats it!!! Now at almost 7 mo (March 2nd) she has been sleeping 8 to 8 without waking up!!! It was absolutely the best thing I ever did. I did however give her a silkie blankie that she likes to rub on her face as she goes to sleep so she still has a comfort item.



I would definitely recommend weaning....you wil not regret it. At this age they don't have the capability to remember that they had a pacifier after a couple days and it is much easier than fighting for days, weeks or even months when they are older and are more attached.



Good Luck!!! :)

Jamie - posted on 02/25/2009

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I would wean him.  My four month old needs one to sleep as well, and he is too little to find one and put it back in on his own (thought I am counting the days, trust me!)  however, he has learned, for the most part, to cough, sneeze, and even cry with it back in.  I let him cry when I hear the "suck suck" on the monitor between cries, but when it falls out I do go put it back in.  This is usually only once or twice.  Once he's in a deep sleep and it falls out, he doesn't care.  It did used to be more times that it would fall out and I would have to go back in, maybe two months ago when he was hooked on it but not yet used to it.  I cursed that we ever introduced it, personally, and I am sure you feel the same way.  Hang in there.  I am not looking forward to the day we break him, but if I had to put it back in that many times, it would be sooner rather than later!  Good luck!

Lynette - posted on 02/25/2009

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It is quite possible that this is due to teething. The pacifier is probably comforting to their gums because they can chew on it and rub the gums against it. It is just too much of a coincidence that this is starting at 4 months when most babies demonstrate significant teething symptoms and are also going through a mouthing stage. Just a thought. I wouldn't try weaning him yet.

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Precious - posted on 07/22/2014

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I recently took the pacifier away from my 6 month old son, cold turkey. He had the worst 3 days of his life, until the fourth day came. He was moody, but it didn't seem to bother him as much as it did before. The fifth day, he did a lot better and barely cried in the car like he did a few days before...and he actually fell asleep in the car a few times. However last light he's starting to act like a newborn again! He woke up at 10:30pm, 1:15am, 3:00am, 5:50am, then woke up around 7:30am. I had to nurse him each time to get him to stop crying. His naps today were horrible. He took 5 naps during the day when he used to take 3 naps. They were all around 20-30mins. By 2:00pm he had already nurse 7 times when he usually nurses 8 times by the end of the day (including his dream feed). Could it be a coincidence that my little one is going through a growth spurt... Or is he using me as a pacifier?

Pauline - posted on 05/08/2014

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My 5 month old cannot fall off to sleep without pacifier. Any recommendations on how to get him to sleep without a crutch???

Maria - posted on 02/14/2014

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I am now starting to wean my 4 month old of the peci. I started today with his first nap. I turned on a small hair dryer in his room when he started fussing and the sound put him right to sleep. He is waking up 3 to 4 times at night and I want him to learn to self-sooth.

Jamie - posted on 02/25/2009

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I would wean him.  My four month old needs one to sleep as well, and he is too little to find one and put it back in on his own (thought I am counting the days, trust me!)  however, he has learned, for the most part, to cough, sneeze, and even cry with it back in.  I let him cry when I hear the "suck suck" on the monitor between cries, but when it falls out I do go put it back in.  This is usually only once or twice.  Once he's in a deep sleep and it falls out, he doesn't care.  It did used to be more times that it would fall out and I would have to go back in, maybe two months ago when he was hooked on it but not yet used to it.  I cursed that we ever introduced it, personally, and I am sure you feel the same way.  Hang in there.  I am not looking forward to the day we break him, but if I had to put it back in that many times, it would be sooner rather than later!  Good luck!

Crystal - posted on 02/25/2009

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I wouldn't wean him off yet... My daughter loved her pacifier until toddlerhood. I think 4 months is too young to wean him, but I do understand your frusteration. I think maybe he could be teething? I would leave lots of paci's in the crib like another person mentioned, that way he can grab one.

Elaine - posted on 02/25/2009

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I think 4 months is too young to wean..they still have sucking needs..but check out the many websites available: search "when to wean a baby from a pacifier.."

Shannon - posted on 02/25/2009

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I was going to say the teething thing... my son is 6 months old this week, and will sleep through most of the night if his falls out... but last month it was terrible!! Each time he would lose it if he couldn't fid one of the three that I keep in his crib.. he would cry. I tried letting him cry it out for a while on thee different occasions, but after about 10 minutes couldn't do it any more and got up to soothe him and get him his pacifier.

Personally... I wouldn't wean him off... a lot of kids have the need to suck, and if you get rid of the pacifier... he will find something else, trust me thumbs and fingers are a lot harder to break away from later!!

He could be hungry, or just need to know mommy is still there as well.... we had a similar situation when my son went from our room to his own, it lasted for a week or so and then he was okay.

Whatever you decide to do is really up to you... so good luck.

Skylur - posted on 02/24/2009

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I have heard and read that when a baby sleeps with a pacifier it reduces the risk of sids. I would not wean him yet. He might be one of those babies who just doesn't sleep for long periods of time. He might also be hungry when he wakes.

Angela - posted on 02/24/2009

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no duc u can take him off his dummy i did wit my daughter its easyer now than in 2 years time ul av some sleepless nites but it will only take about 2-3 nites till he will get used 2 it its worth it

Kallyn - posted on 02/24/2009

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I ran into the exact same road block. It is so frustrating! My son is now 5 months,we tried weaning, but he became inconsolible without it at night. My son had been sleeping in a bassinet in our room, and I cold hear him fidgeting all the time. We moved him into his crib in his own room. It took him a night or two to adjust, but now is sleeping 8 hours straight, even though the pacifier is out after the fist hour. My thought is that I was doing more harm putting it back in that many times during the night when he would fuss. Now I wait for him to cry before I go in and he sleeps much longer. (If possible try the weaning first though.They say anytime after 3 months they are capable of self calming). Hope this helps!

Elina - posted on 02/24/2009

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oh, the paci partner is a good idea...www.pacipartner.com/ 



but weaning is good too

Kate - posted on 02/24/2009

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Our baby at 10 months old was completely reliant on his pacifier for sleep and waking every hour or so for us to put it back in. Last week I took it away. Within 3 nights he was sleeping fine, actually better than he ever has. I recommend going cold turkey not weaning. You'll have a rough couple of nights but they forget about it suprisingly fast.

User - posted on 02/24/2009

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The "No Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley discusses the pacifier sleep issue, among others. Her suggestion, if I remember correctly, is to take paci out as baby is just falling asleep. If baby cries you give it back until he settles and then try again. Eventually he falls asleep w/o it. You do this process over and over until he no longer needs paci. It is normal for the decrease in sleep to occur; as they get older they sleep less. My 4 mo old also fidgets through the night. Babies sleep cycles are 30 -40 minutes so they wake frequently repeatedly. They have to develop the skill to put themselves back to sleep and this typically involves some crying. It is a challenge that I also experienced w/ my first baby. So I know it's possible to get through it, although it is hard and frustrating at times. I recommend you read Pantley's book - maybe your local library has it. Best wishes.

Jaime - posted on 02/24/2009

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I would wean him now. Sooner than later is always better. My kids doctor told me that it is easier to break bad habits early on, after 18 months it is much more difficult. Godd luck with which ever route you go.

Stacy - posted on 02/24/2009

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All my kids took the pacifier...I didn't have any problems taking them off of it. They are now 28, 22 and 18. All girls!! My problem was they wanted to get up and eat once or twice of a night. Does he take a bottle too at night?

Shannon - posted on 02/24/2009

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Wean him off now it will be easier now than later. Just like people with bottles the sooner its gone the less time they will actually miss it. I heard if you change your routine at night it helps them to forget about it.

Kelly - posted on 02/24/2009

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It is easy for me to say wean him b/c none of my kids used pacifiers. They really are intended for newborns who really need that sucking. Like anyghing, he will get used to not having it. It is just a matter of, can you handle the not so great sleep? You will be so glad you weaned him at a young age rather than trying to do it was he is 1 or even 2. Good luck.

Leanne - posted on 02/24/2009

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i started my son trying solids at 3 n half months, he has solids everyday as well as his normal milk and he only wants his dummy (pacifier) when hes upset, he spits it out when he doesnt want it, so yeah start weaning

Stephanie - posted on 02/24/2009

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Until you decide, try this for now: throw about 10 pacifiers into the crib each night, when he wakes up, hopefully there was one nearby for him to grab... It worked for us...

Stefanie - posted on 02/24/2009

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I would wean him.  It will be easier now than later.  Otherwise you will be getting up to give him back his paci until he can find it himself and put it back in, which will probably be close to a year.  That happened with my daughter, and we finally weaned her at age 2, and is was hard.

Nhan - posted on 02/24/2009

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I have a 9 and a half month old son that is very much attached to his pacifier and has been since birth.  I spoke to the doctor about weaning him off at 6 months and he recommended that I do.  I tried for a week and a half and my son was miserable so I comprimised, I give him the pacifier when he goes to bed and if it comes out he either finds it and puts it back in his mouth or just cries until he's tired and eventually will fall back to sleep.  Either way, I figure he's teaching himself to fall asleep by himself and it works for me.  You'll  have to tolerate a little crying here and there in the middle of the night, but if he's not hungry he should be fine.  Best of luck!

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i would definately wean him off now before he gets older and more attached...especially if he was without it before. it will only take a few nights. a week at the most.. good luck

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