My son is 9 and he is picking picking too much about the foods..

Alicia - posted on 02/16/2009 ( 28 moms have responded )

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everytime I make the foods for me and my husband and he wont eat it he just eat what he want to..

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D. - posted on 05/03/2012

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Hi. New to the conversation but I so have the same problem. My eight year old will not eat veggies and will only willingly eat chicken and some beef. I very rarely buy sweets or sodas and would only buy snack size chips for his school lunch to go with his sandwich and juice and fruit. However, he started gaining a lot of weight and I was stumped. Then I found out he would eat breakfast at home, then eat again at school. I would send his lunch from home and he would buy another at school. How can you monitor what your child eats when the policy of the school is that a child cannot be prevented from buying lunch from them? Sometimes I do allow him to eat at school but when he did daily he bought two entrees, two desserts..you get the picture. I'm at my wits ends. He even hides food in his room! And we eat very well at home. He has never been denied access to food. Anyone else with this problem?.

Sandra - posted on 03/08/2009

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Quoting Cynthia:

I have the same problem with my 4 1/2 year old. I've tried the "you must try at least one new food" thing. It has yet to work for me. She will sit and cry and just not eat until about 1 hour later, but still will not try the new food. So if you find something that works, please let me know.



i'm with you, my son is nearly 5 and theres no chance of him trying new foods. he loves steak and chops with bones peas, corn, mashed potato and pumpkin but wont eat chicken or pasta dishes, spaghetti bolagnaise, he'll eat rice but with no sauces in it. i know its great that he eats the meat and veges but it does make it hard to have something different. i started to cook him the food he likes cause its good for him. he's a very fussy eater but also doesnt really like maccas, kentucky or take aways, even frozen chicken goodies, wont eat them, so i would prefer him to eat the meat and veges even if i have to cook them separately.

Sandra - posted on 03/08/2009

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i actually have 4 kids, 19, 17, 14 and 4 (nearly 5). when my 3 older children were young i changed the names of the vegies, clouds, trees, got some carrot fried it and called it red ruby and they ate it but also didnt completely fill there plates cause it would look too much then told them they had to at least eat half of everything, it was a bit hard for me because i grew up only eating potato and thats all i still eat today and then telling them they had to was a bit of a challenge but i didnt want them to be like me and they used to eat half and i never forced anymore onto them, 2 of them love different vegies but my 14yr old will eat anything. i had family trying to force vegies onto me when i was little and i just rebelled even more and wouldnt even try them. good luck...

Tamara - posted on 03/08/2009

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He might eat more of what's served if he's actually involved in the making of dinner. Also, food is one of the few things that he has control over. If he's feeling like he has no ability to control things in his life, food is going to be a place for him to start so he feels like "Ok, at least this one thing, I have power over."

I would definitely try to talk to him about why he feels the need to not eat what's being served and that way you, your husband, and your son can all come to a solution that meets everyone's needs.

Sandra - posted on 03/08/2009

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Quoting Cynthia:

I have the same problem with my 4 1/2 year old. I've tried the "you must try at least one new food" thing. It has yet to work for me. She will sit and cry and just not eat until about 1 hour later, but still will not try the new food. So if you find something that works, please let me know.



i'm with you, my son is nearly 5 and theres no chance of him trying new foods. he loves steak and chops with bones peas, corn, mashed potato and pumpkin but wont eat chicken or pasta dishes, spaghetti bolagnaise, he'll eat rice but with no sauces in it. i know its great that he eats the meat and veges but it does make it hard to have something different. i started to cook him the food he likes cause its good for him. he's a very fussy eater but also doesnt really like maccas, kentucky or take aways, even frozen chicken goodies, wont eat them, so i would prefer him to eat the meat and veges even if i have to cook them separately.

Stacey - posted on 02/24/2009

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He will eat what you give him if he is hungry. I tell my daughter, who is also 9, that if she doesn't eat what we are having for dinner she will eat it for her snack and get nothing else. She eventually gives in and eats, but if she doesn't I make her a plate and tell her when she wants to eat it is waiting for her. It is a slow process, which you have to have lots of patience with, but if you want him to eat what you are cooking it is worth the trouble. They say it takes a child at least 10 times of trying a food to like it, so don't give up, and don't let him win by not eating what you are making.

Wells R - posted on 02/24/2009

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You could try, this was on the Dr.s Tv show. They placed the child with the family at the dinner table, they left his plate on the counter. All sat down, including the picky child (with no plate), and began eating. A couple bites in the child said, Mommy food? Mom then said, oh, you want to join us for dinner?? The child sat staring, as to say, yes, where is my plate? The child was about 20mths (not a great talker). However I think this is great for all ages. Mom walked over grabbed the plate and said, here you go. The child ate everything on the plate. Now the note in this is one, child needs to ask, where is my food or gesture that he/she is ready to eat, and two, when you place the plate on the table DO Not praise or cheer what the child is doing. Resume normal conversation between you and your spouse as if nothing NEW is happening.....I thought this was great! I think the idea of having at least ONE favorite on there is a good idea too!!

Kelly - posted on 02/24/2009

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My daughter is 18 and is STILL picky.  We never made an issue of food.  Our pediatrician said as long as she was thriving and growing not to worry.  She is an elite athlete now and eats a balanced diet of the food SHE likes.   Pasta, fruit, potatoes and salads.  I don't know why American parents are so obsessed with GETTING our kids to eat.  As adults we don't eat when forced or eat things we don't like...I have always been confused by this.

Cora - posted on 02/22/2009

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My son is a picky eater. He is 14 and only weighs 86 lbs, but it is not because he is starving. When My sister, brother, and I were in high school we all graduated weighing around 90 lbs. We all had high metabolisms, until we hit our late 20's. My son is picky, but he is learning to try new things. We used to make him seperate meals. When he was around 10 we started making him try alittle of everything we made to eat. It was a battle, but he know has discovered that he likes sweet potatoes, broccoli, and other foods he would turn his nose up at. He is still mainly a vegetarian. He likes steak, but hates hamburger. I don't make things to spicy for him, but this summer he started eating salsa with some friends. Kids tend to try thing other kids are eating.

Trudi - posted on 02/22/2009

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i have a 10 year old a 5 year old and a 2year, my 5 year old is very picky. we dont give in to her if she doesnt eat her tea she will go hungry. she is getting better now i dont go out of my way to make a seperate meal for her.

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DO NOT make extra meals for him! If you do this, he will control you for the rest of your life. A child behavior specialist told me this. If he doesn's want to eat what you provide for him, then sorry, but too bad. You can leave it on the table, and when he tells you he is hungry, he can eat what he didn't eat before. You have to be consistant. He will not starve, and beleive me, he will eat what you provide when you don't give in. You can do it!

Lori - posted on 02/18/2009

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We've started to give our 5 year old son his meat first then his veggies and potatoes. Otherwise he would only eat the veggies and potatoes and no meat at all. It works - he eats his meat, then gets a drink then gets the rest of his meal.

Pixie - posted on 02/18/2009

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My children are aged 10, 12 and 14. They were 'trained' not to be picky when they were much younger... if they refused what's given, they would not have anything to eat. As a mother, you just have to be firm and not give in. At the same time, explain to them the goodness of what's given. It worked for me.

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Mandy - posted on 02/17/2009

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I also have a 7 1/2 year old son who is very picky...all he ever wants is pizza, chicken nuggets and pb and jelly sandwiches!  He wont eat hamburgers or lasagna or spagetti or any casseroles!   I thought i had tried almost everything to get him to eat...i have not tried the puree thing yet...great idea!  I made the mistake of letting him eat something different from what i cooked because i felt like a terrible parent for not feeding him...but i have learned also that skipping a meal once and awhile does make him a little more prone to trying what i put on the table.  As a busy parent you get tired of being a short order cook for every meal...who has the time for it?  Lots of great advice on this one...but i do agree with not fussing about it... if they are hungry they will eat what you offer them...we still have hard night when he wont eat anything on the plate...but i feel and know with time it willget better...i eat things now that i said i would never eat!:)

Gemma - posted on 02/17/2009

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My daughter is almost 6 and for last year all she will really eat is cold food like sandwiches, yogurts ect- she will however eat loats of fruit which is a bonus but how do i get her to eat a hot meal? I dont cook her anythin seperate to what I cook, Dont force her to eat and dont make u fuss- if she eats then great if not then tough really!! we cook together- yet still wont eat- unless its sandwiches or toast!!

Tara - posted on 02/17/2009

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I have the same problem with my 8 year old and my 4 year old ( who used to eat anything) is beginnig to do the same. I have found that they love to eat rice with a gravy or noodles with a sauce. I five them the option of a meat with it or not. Most time they eat the meat even though it is a small portion. I also hace them eat a fruit for desert and give them a multi-vitamin in the mornings to make sure they are getting the nutrients they need.

Leanne - posted on 02/17/2009

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i had this trouble with my eldest, she was a right pain to get to eat, i made sure that b-fast and lunch we're things i knew she would eat and dinner was at the table with the rest of the family, if she didnt eat it that was fine but she had to sit there antil we had all finished. she was not given anything else at all. if she tried the dinner she was prased and if she ate 1/2 of it she was aloud pudding, childern wont stave them selfs. torie now eats a good diet and enjoys her food, its hard to work though and caused lots of arguments due to food wastage but was worth it in the long run, good luck

Cynthia - posted on 02/17/2009

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I have the same problem with my 4 1/2 year old. I've tried the "you must try at least one new food" thing. It has yet to work for me. She will sit and cry and just not eat until about 1 hour later, but still will not try the new food. So if you find something that works, please let me know.

Nancy - posted on 02/17/2009

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Do not forget that children, unless corrupted by grownups , usually eat to their energy needs.  If your son is not in growth mode, he may not need that much to eat.  Don't keep junk around the house.  Offer only healthy choices and no inbetween meal snacks.  He will eat when he is hungry.

Kristen - posted on 02/17/2009

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my 7 year old is picky also....she could eat chicken strips or chicken nuggets every day of the week. we had seafood alfredo the other night and i knew she wouldn't eat it if i told her what kind of meat was in it. i told her it was chicken when it was really scallops, she never knew the difference and she ate 2 plate fulls of it. we also had porkchops the next night and i told her it was steak and she ate it just fine.

Angela - posted on 02/17/2009

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I agree with Michelle. I have always put at least one item on their plate that I know they like. This doesn't always work with my 8 year old. He used to love broccolli and all of the sudden can't stand it. My 13(almost 14) year old daughter used to hate brussell sprouts and one day popped up wanting them. My children also understand, you eat what I put in front of you or you don't eat. I don't play the game of "you can have something different", because to many of her friends have been raised that way and they have no family dinners anymore in those households. When I do make something totally different I usually try to get one or both the kids involved in deciding which version of the recipe we will try and then in helping to cook. It makes it much easier for them to try the food if they think they have had any say so in what new food they are trying.

Robin - posted on 02/17/2009

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I have the same problem with my eight year old. I have recently started cooking then  pureeing the vegetables and then adding them by the spoonfuls  into whatever I am cooking. Example... French Toast and Pancakes... I will add in a couple of spoonfuls of carrots or squash to the mixture then fix them. You can add spinach to hamburgers... there are really all kinds of things to try. And they can't taste it so they don't even know it's there!!! Just don't let them see you doing it.  =)

Paulette - posted on 02/16/2009

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almost all of the replies have good advise,I would suggest,just take a taste you won't know if you like it untill you try, & also you can play a tasting game ,blind fold & have him guess what it is,hopefully he won't spit it out Ha! Ha! kids are funny.

Are tell him he has to eat at least 1 new choice food on his plate, might have too put 2 choices on plate so he won't think it is a trick.

I agree too many choices are not good, & also you don't run a resturant

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Hi I have a 7 1/2 year old stepson, he used to be very picky also. He's getting better but sometimes If I make something that I know he's not fond of I make sure I add something that he likes with it and tell him he can only eat it at the end..so he has to eat the things he doesn't like first, it seems to have helped. Were not a restaurant so I don't make different meals just because he doesn't like something. Good luck

Lexi - posted on 02/16/2009

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Like the other moms said, if he doesn't eat what you make, he doesn't eat at all. Don't give into him by giving him what he wants. He'll never learn to eat the meals you make if you give in. Be strong, eventually he'll figure out he can't get his way and he'll eat whatever you make.

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My kids were like this too, try to make at least one thing he likes, even as a side item like carrots, or peas. Then give him a small portion of the other foods, and tell him he needs to at least try one bite of all the foods. DO NOT make him a separate meal. He will not starve if he skips a meal. As long as he eats healthy foods, not junk, at all his meals, even if he doesn't eat it all that is OK. Remember, our stomach is really only the size of out fist, so it won't take much to fill him up. Also, try to hold off on snacks too close to meal times, and hold back his drink to 1/2 way thru the meal, so he doesn't fill p on a drink and then really not want to eat. Another way to get him to eat, is to let him be the chef. Once a week, he gets to plan the meal, with some rules (like it has to be healthy) and it should be something he can make, like pasta with sauce, or homemade pizza. Perhaps if he has a hand in making the food he will be more likely to eat it.

Cody - posted on 02/16/2009

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I have the same problem.  The one rule in our house is you must try all the food on your plate first and if they still fight the food I always have cereal or pbj on hand.

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