My son is almost 3yrs old and STILL wakes up throughout the night. We've tried EVERYTHING!!! I really don't know what to do but I would appreciate any advice in case there is something I haven't thought of. I really need rest and so does my hubby.

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Chelsea - posted on 01/22/2009

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I know that some people claim that letting a child cry it out is effective and doesn't hurt them at all, however, I have to disagree. Our kids aren't waking up in the night to manipulate us. They are waking for some other reason, and just because we don't know what the reason is doesn't mean that it's not important to them. Our kids need to know they can rely on their parents. They need to know that we will be there for them when they are scared or tired or confused or whatever. They don't need to be left alone to cry in the dark at night. How many adults sleep through the night? Do you wake to use the bathroom, roll over, etc? Why is it that we expect kids to sleep through the night the minute they hit a certain age? I just don't get the crying it out thing. I'd never ignore another adult's cries...why would I ignore my own kid's?



To the original poster- I hope you figure something out that will work for you. Maybe the rescue remedy will help. Maybe just waiting it out. Have you talked to your son to see if he knows what's waking him? My 3 year old when through a phase a while back where she was waking more than usual because there were tigers in her room. Seriously, who can sleep with tigers playing in the bedroom at night!? One we took care of the tigers, she started sleeping again.

Henriette - posted on 01/19/2009

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I feel for you, My 2 year old does the same. I have spoken to my doctor and he has suggested that I use a herbal remedy called RESCUE, I have started giving this to him. AND guess what I no longer have to get up at night. He sleeps through again.



Good luck.

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Yvette - posted on 01/24/2009

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Johnson & Johnson has a very nice and soothing "Bedtime" line that may help. Warm baths before bed, soothing bedtime lotion by J&J and limited sugars can make a difference.

Missy - posted on 01/24/2009

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My 3 year old was doing the same thing! Get over the counter Melatonin. They come in little tablets and my son chews them and then takes a drink. They work!! They are harmless and don't interfere with other meds. You can adjust the dosage. Melatonin tells the mind the difference between night and day. Give it to him/her about 7:30 pm or so. It's a lot cheaper than Rescue...sorry...

Tammy - posted on 01/24/2009

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To make a long story short with us... try a Chewable Cherry Flavor Melatonin 5mg pill 30 minutes before bedtime. You can pick them up at GNC. It worked for us while we were battling many things over the past 4 yrs, one of which was my son sleeping only 5-6 hours in a 24 hour period with many episodes of getting up duing the night. As the last post said, be persistant and check with your doctor. There could be something underlying as was the case with my son.

Michelle - posted on 01/24/2009

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I really feel for you. My 10 yr old never slept not even as an infant. She would only sleep for about 5 hours a day. We tried everything and bought every book on how to get your child to sleep through the night Nothing Worked!!! She was finally diagnosed with a sleep disorder when she was 5 yrs old. If you think something is not right be persistent with your pediatrician to look into it and have them do a sleep study. It was the best thing we ever did.

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Quoting Heather:

I have 4 yr. old twins and when they were about 18 months a friend of mine gave me this book; Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth, M.D. It was great! Just by changing their sleep schedule a little bit they became much happier. The book talks about sleep for kids from newborn to adolescents and touches upon all kinds of sleep issues; night waking, night terrors, naps, sleep and its effect on behavior. I would really recommend this book! I have referred to it for the last two years as my sons' sleep patterns changed.



I'm with Heather...this book is amazing!  I have a four year old and two year old twins, and every time they have trouble sleeping or day light savings comes around, I pull out this book!

Amanda - posted on 01/23/2009

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Thanks for all the helpful tips and advice. I really probably need to refer back to the Healthy Sleep Habits book (have it) and see if I've missed something or if there is new issues that I can adjust. I'm also going to just take a step back and breathe :) I don't like the cry it out method...he was sick when he was born so something about hearing him cry like he does when I leave him at night just tears me up but not that he can't cry just at night and me leaving him to cry it out. His crying gets louder and louder then he'll start gagging, etc. I can't handle that. Thanks ladies. It's nice to know I'm not soing something wrong or the only one. :) Be blessed!

Amanda - posted on 01/23/2009

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Pam - Does babies hearing all the sounds in the NICU affect their sleeps habits in anyway? Have you ever heard of that. Because they told us that he slept great in the NICU and it was like once we got him home it's never been the same...Just curious? Good seeing you the other day!

Jodie - posted on 01/23/2009

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have you tried having a night light on in the room it might help when he wakes up, sort of like a comfort, im sorry but i dont have much experience on this as my little girl who is nearly 3 sleeps for 12 hours every night but i do leave a light on when she goes to bed.

Alana - posted on 01/23/2009

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hiya, i didnt sleep through the night until i was six years old and my mother was at her wits end, in the end she took me to the doctors who discoverd i had been having problems breathing and i was waking myself up by snoring or heavy breathing,i had my tonsils and adanoids out and have been the best sleeper in the family ever since! i dont mean to worry you but if youve tried everything else i dont think a trip to the doctors would hurt to rule out any medical problems.

Also for my son i use lavender sleep spray available from avon, i spray it on his pillow and in his room an hour before bed and he sleeps fine, and if he ever gets up and comes into my room at night i just calmly and quietly take him back to his own bed. i hope this helps you. xx

Pam - posted on 01/23/2009

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My only answer would be the "tough love" method.  If he's ok and you know he has no emergent needs then he needs to be in bed.  You just have to tell him when he goes to bed that from now on once in bed, he needs to stay there until morning.  Maybe even give him a treat (and lots of praise when he hasn't gotten up in the middle of the night.  If he does get up during the night, quickly put him back to bed without talking or hugging(hard to do!).  Let him know this is not fun time, it's sleep time.  If he cries--it's ok.  He'll tire and go to sleep...eventually.    I hope you and Grahm get some restful sleep soon!

Tina - posted on 01/22/2009

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Make sure he is active throughout the day. No late afternoon naps. Make sure he has enough to eat before bed. Read to him before bed. Play soothing music or white noise in his room. These should help keep him asleep. Good luck.

Karen - posted on 01/21/2009

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I had that happen with my first but I was told to just her cry it out. Not to give in which was very hard but after a few days it got less each night. Now I can't get her up for school. Anyway I know it sounds horrible but if you stick to it, it does work and I think they know they have us wrapped around their finger and kids today are too smart for us. My 15month old is starting to do it now but I just sit there and listen to her cry and it really kills me. I try to ignore which sometimes is a killer. Anyway thats the best advice I can give and it did work for us.

Jodi - posted on 01/21/2009

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I am having the same problem w/ my son, he'll be 3 next month. He gets up a few time per night every night. It may be bad dreams but he's not screaming just calling for me. I am exhausted. Also have a 3 month old, he sleeps thru the night great! I am going to look into that rescue stuff...that's exactly what i need, to be rescued.

Sherry - posted on 01/20/2009

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Hi, i can only suggest what works for me. I have an 11 year old, 4 year old and 3 year old. They all sleep through the night now but ive used little "tricks" that have worked for me. I put a fan in there room and turn it on at night (this was a great trick too when they were babies) the fan, from what ive heard, simulates the sound of a baby being inside the womb. the fan also drowns out outside noises (bonus), I have a friend that plays the radio softly that also simulates the same sort of sound. i prefer a fan. when the girls would wake up at night continuesly, i would wake them up a bit (not all the way,just to disturb them) before they woke up and this is suppose to set there wake up time off. This always worked for me. I hope something works for you, it is tough when you and your child are not able to get a good nights rest.

Chelsea - posted on 01/20/2009

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How often is he waking? How does he wake (crying, half asleep, upset, etc)? My daughter is 3.5 and she often wakes 1-2 times a night. We usually just have to put her back in bed and sit with her for a minute. Sometimes she's upset and sleeps with us for the rest of the night. Sometimes she needs a drink, bathroom, etc. Personally, I wouldn't bribe him. But that's just me. I'd try to figure out what is causing the waking, if anything. I know what it's like to be sleep deprived...my little one still wakes every 3 hours, and he's 18 months old. It is tough!

Heather - posted on 01/20/2009

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I have 4 yr. old twins and when they were about 18 months a friend of mine gave me this book; Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth, M.D. It was great! Just by changing their sleep schedule a little bit they became much happier. The book talks about sleep for kids from newborn to adolescents and touches upon all kinds of sleep issues; night waking, night terrors, naps, sleep and its effect on behavior. I would really recommend this book! I have referred to it for the last two years as my sons' sleep patterns changed.

Stacey - posted on 01/20/2009

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My daughter was having trouble sleeping when she was young. I mentioned it to our pediatrician who noticed her adenoids were the size of an adults. They would cause her to snore and have trouble breathing when she slept and that would wake her up. They were removed in a 10 minute outpatient surgery when she was five and she has slept since. I NEVER would have thought of this had is not happened to us.

Kathy - posted on 01/20/2009

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our  boys are 3 and one would just be up allll n9ght long and the other would have night terrors 5-6 times a night. We tried Melatonin.  It was suggested by our pediatrician..1-3 mg.   We crush it up and put it in applesause about 30 minutes prior to bed and the boys now sleep like a dream. Before you try it I would check with your pediatrician first...good luck

Henriette - posted on 01/20/2009

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Hi, Rescue, is a herbal remedy fro NATURA. I got mine at my pharmacy. Just ask your pharmacy for this remedy. Hope all works out for you as it did for me.

Amanda - posted on 01/19/2009

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Thanks all for the responses...we literally have tried everything (except RESCUE). We tried changing how he falls asleep, when he falls asleep, diet, allergist, bribes, pulling him in bed with us, etc. :)



 

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I feel for you. My oldest, now almost 11, didn't sleep thru the night until she was 3 yrs old. She was very colicky and was troubled by chronic ear infections during her first year. Have you tried keeping him up a few minutes later? 15 minutes might make the difference, you never know. Hey, I'd even do the dum dum or sticker thing...whatever works to get you a good night of rest!

User - posted on 01/19/2009

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My son just turned 3 and I have had issues with both night terror and leg cramps/ growing pains, with the leg cramps he would hold his leg and say ow and it would help it I rubbed it.  with the night terrors I found the less I interacted with him the shorter it would be. I would just lay next to him so he was not crying alone and then he would settel down fairly quickly.  Also if I could keep him on a consitant routine he would be less likely to have the night terrors. The good news with either of those is that they grow out of it. it is really hard but you can get though it.

User - posted on 01/19/2009

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SO this work for my sister it is kinda funny but it worked. They were having terriable time with there 3 yr old not sleeping though the night and not going to bed.  He really likes dum dum suckers and she told him if he stays in his bed all night then he could have one in the morning.  I not usuallly on for bribing but it worked for her the first night and every night since.  I have also heard of moms that give stickers in the morning and then when the child collects like 7 stickers then they get a reward.  Good luck I knw how hard this is

Diane - posted on 01/19/2009

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My son just turned 2 in November.  He was an excellent sleeper till after Christmas.  Then he would awake "screaming" at least two times per nite. To which in the end I would just bring him to bed with me.  I've tried everthing as well. I was convinced it was nite terrors .. or teething or constipation. But cannot figure out this one.  One person said it could be growing pains. I've tried giving him Tylelol for pain (teething) but he still wakes up.  So any more suggestions would be wonderful .. I'm going to look into this RESCUE ? What it is .. how it works etc.  I understand how frustrating it can be - 

Amanda - posted on 01/19/2009

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He isn't using the restroom even though he is ptty trained. Sometimes I think it is Night terrors but then at other times when I pull him in bed he just can't get comfortable in our bed or his or the couch and so I end up being awake at like 4am (from like 2:45am) What is RESCUE Henriette?

Beckie - posted on 01/19/2009

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hiya my sons only 17 months old and he has never slept through the nite he goes 2 bed on his own and he also will only drink milk outta a bottle he wnt drink juice i find that he sleeps longer if i giv him his bath about 7.30 then giv warm milk and a youghurt b4 he goes to bed then put him 2 bed.

Amanda - posted on 01/19/2009

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He isn't using the restroom even though he is ptty trained. Sometimes I think it is Night terrors but then at other times when I pull him in bed he just can't get comfortable in our bed or his or the couch and so I end up being awake at like 4am (from like 2:45am) What is RESCUE Henriette?

Jennifer - posted on 01/19/2009

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my daughter (now 12) was a blessing, then came ny son! WHEW! some of the things i did was cut off liquids, let him go to sleep listening to music (NO WORDS), and let him sleep with a shirt or blanket that smelled like me. so that way he still could roll over and think i was there. it was a long rough haul but i got through it! yeah! he is now 5 and from time to time still crawls in bed with me!

Charmaine - posted on 01/19/2009

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I feel your pain. Mine does that too. I've limited liquids at bedtime, but that didn't help much. Now she just crawls into bed with us and I lead her right back. It's probably a phase, as my other three often did the same. Is he maybe going to bed too early? ( yeah right). I swear I haven't had a decent night sleep since 1992! sorry I don't have much help, but plenty of sympathy!

Lauren - posted on 01/19/2009

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i hear ya...your not alone. my 3 year old recently began this too...he used to sleep through the night and not have accidents......now its like everynight he wets his bed and comes in to lay with me. I feel your frustrations, being a single mom I'm the only one who can get up with him and let me tell you how draining it is......He experienced night terrors before that were awful.....i'm hoping this doesnt lead back into those!!!! sorry im not of any help, im just venting and relating! lol

Amanda - posted on 01/19/2009

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our girl is five and she does too. She gets the night terrors which our doctor said is common with little ones. Does he wake up distressed or just awake?

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