My son is going to seriously hurt himself! Help!!

Savannah - posted on 08/04/2009 ( 60 moms have responded )

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My son is a year old and he is a tremendous temper! It is just unbelievable! He spent the vast majority of his first year of life very ill and he was very sweet and mellow during this time. After a weeklong hospital stay at 8 months old he was finally cured and ever since then he has become more and more unmanageable!!

It is not that he's spoiled, because he is typically a very easy child. Happy-go-lucky and independant. But his temper! Oh my goodness! He will scream in fury, which I don't really worry about. What I worry about is the fact that he throws himself around. If he's sitting up he will throw himself backwards and half the time with hit something as he goes down. Or if there is something in front of him he will slam his head into it. Table, wall, couch, you name it.

If you pick him up he will twist his body and throw himself backwards. I have actually dropped him twice now. Luckily he was just barely up off the floor so he was not hurt at all but what if he were to do that and I was standing up all the way or on a hard floor?

What do I do? How do I get him to stop? Time outs don't work because he will beat his head against everything.

He has no developmental challenges that I am aware of but this is a little scary. He could seriously injure himself!

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Cheryl - posted on 08/15/2009

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My daughter was doing the same thing. She is 3 1/2yrs old. Our family recently went through a very traumatic time with the very early birth of our now 7 1/2months old, for which our daughter lost a large chunk of time with me causing a very big wound in our relationship. We are involved with a program right now to help her readjust because she was injuring herself quite frequently. Their suggestion to me was to restrain her during one of her outbursts. Not to hurt her, but just firmly holding her on my lap, (I found we have to do it on the floor because she's more than half my height already). I hold her, my legs wrapped around hers, holding her arms so they are hugging her body and mine hugging around her (holding her hands firm with mine) and just holding her until she settles. (Note: I do wear foam ear plugs during this because she has a high pitched shriek that she can scream out for more than a half hour at a time.) They therapy team explained that she just wants to know that I am the one in control of the situation. And honestly she has quit throwing herself into things in just over a month of using this technique. Her outbursts have also gone from 40 min. to 10-15 min on a bad day and like 2-5 minutes on a good day. It has been a lifesaver for sure!!! Also we started using a sticker chart for good behaviour, like 5 stickers earns a little something (it could be a cookie, a frozen yogurt tube, or I also made a bucket of prizes full of little things from the dollar store). She earns a sticker every time she uses her manners, or for whatever other behaviour you're working on. It's definately a challenge and difficult to keep cool in the midst of it. You're doing phenomenal, keep up the great work!!!

Namaste.

Tina - posted on 08/14/2009

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Savannah, I had some special training when I was working ina second grade classroom where they addressed this kind of issue. The recommendation is to hold the child securely, ususally fron the back with your arms across his front, his hands held in yours, until the episode passes. No talking, no discipline, just firm confinment to prevent injury.

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Does he have a pack n play?? i would put him in that and just let him go. if he realizes that tempers arent they way to go he wont be so violent. my daughter just turned one and she started with really bad ones too so i put her in the pack n play and sat there until she was done. good luck!

Roxanne - posted on 08/15/2009

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I am a mother of a child with serious agression issues. This behavior is not normal. You may want to talk to your family doctor about having your son neuropsychologically evaluated. If they don't give you an answer, please get a second opinion. Try to keep a daily journal of his behaviors. This will help his doctors understand what is happening to your son. Don't give up or give in. Stay strong for your son and get help for yourself.

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hi savannah , i sooo know wot ure going though my youngest son did this and it was scary stuff , and i also thought it was because he was a red head and was very fiery and i used to pamper to him cause i didnt want him to hurt himself , but spoke to the dr and he also told me to ignore my son and as long as he wasnt hurting himself on anything sharp then it was best to ignore him , at first i was shocked that a dr would say that but i gave it ago and when my son realised that mummy wasnt gonna give in to his tantrum he stopped , my friends told me it was a mixture of tough love and that u have to be cruel to be kind , i know it sounds shocking , but it worked , hope this helps x x x

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Quratulain - posted on 05/28/2013

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I m also facing the same :( my 19 month old baby boy also hit him self very hard all the tym & knock his head with every thing please suggest me some thing

Kendra - posted on 08/27/2012

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3 years later, how is he? Just wondering because my son (who also happens to be a redhead) is a year younger (3 now) and his fits are at their worst, but we have been consistently dealing with them since he turned 1, when they first appeared.

Pamela - posted on 08/15/2009

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See a homeopathic practitioner ASAP. Homeopathy is safe for children, and very effective in dealing with emotional issues of all kinds. There are several remedies for "raging". Nux vomica and Tuberculinum are 2 that come to my mind right off the top. A practitioner could determine which one would be best for your son. Hyland teething tablets have chamomilla in them but that is more for "irratibility". Nux Vomica is a "liver remedy" and with a history of medication that might fit. Tuberculinum has the key note of harming themselves by hitting themselves or head banging. Look for more info here http://homeopathic.org/ and here http://www.abchomeopathy.com/go.php

Jennifer - posted on 08/14/2009

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My son is almost 2 1/2 now but when he was about 15 mos to 2 he used to through huge fits and hit me or throw his head and body around. He doesn't do it anymore. I used to get really upset at first because he slugged me a couple times and its just frustrating. BUT I decided to try not to react and started just putting him in his crib for 10 min and letting him cry it out. I would then go in and rock him and talk to him about the episode until he was calm. I don't know if it will work but it did for us- now if he starts it we just say do you want to go lay in your bed. And he doesn't so he stops. Also I would definetely try to change the behavior in some kind of at home way before you go thinking he has autism or a rare blood disorder. From all the experience I have with kids it doesn't seem really rare to me for kids to throw tantrums. GOOD LUCK!!!

Sonya - posted on 08/14/2009

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My oldest was also (and is still to a certain extent) a fit thrower. I read Kevin Lehman's "Have A New Kid by Friday" and it talks alot about the patterns we establish as infants (like responding with attention to fits when they are toddlers) and how they just continue to become more unmanageable. The pack and play method is what worked for me - until my son was old enough to climb out of the pack and play. By then, the fits calmed down to yelling and crying, and raising his fist in anger. He's 7 now, and will go to his room (most of the time) when I tell him he needs a time out. Behavior does get worse (temporarily) before it improves - but, it will improve if you keep your response blank to the fit, and only speak to him once he calms down and stops hitting his head, throwing himself backward, etc.

If he continues to hit his head, to where you are concerned about injury, put a safety helmet on him...like a bicycle helmet. Doing this before he begins the temper tantrum should take some of the "fun" out of it for him.

If the behavior doesn't stop after you have tried not responding and removing yourself from the fit (I'd give it about 3 weeks before pushing the panic button) then I'd talk to your pediatrician about it and get their opinion. Good luck and hang in there!

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My two year old son did this exact thing (began about the same age) and I understand it is very frightening and frustrating! What we did was to tell him if he threw a fit, he would go to his room until he calmed down, then he could come out again. We would quietly close the door (sometimes we had to lock the door, or stand there and hold the knob!) so it didn't feel like punishment, but we were firm about no fits anywhere but his room (no tables to hurt his head on). After a few days to a week, he stopped throwing himself around. I think part of it is maybe age, and part of it is he gets attention, and part of it is a phase. But it did pass...now he just screams like a banshee. Good luck!

Trista - posted on 08/14/2009

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Hi, when my son was younger he did the exact same thing, went from a very sweet baby to bad tamtrums, he would throw his head back on cement walls, the sidewalk pretty much everythign even us when we were holding him. Hid doctor told us he would not seriously hurt himself becasue he has control over how hard he hit things... I dont know if i belive this becasue he used all his strength and just threw himself back, eventually we learned we need to walk away when he did this into another room and do something our concern and interference in his tamtrums actually made it worse he started doing it to get a reaction and he knew we would worry after he did it so once we started walkign away and concentrating on something else and not his tamtrum it was not fun anymore and he stopped it within a month hope this helps :)

Muriel - posted on 08/10/2009

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All my children are now adults and mothers themselves. But my first child had a really bad temper and would throw tantrums when she did not get her way. I used to just pick her up and take her to the bathroom, where I would close the door, withouit saying a thing. When she stopped screaming, I would just open the door, still not saying anything. It did not take her long to work it out and, when she started a temper trantrums and saw me approaching, she would stop immediately and say 'it's alright I found these kind of firm manner or dealing with any kind of personalty problems worked better then talking or punishing.

Emma - posted on 08/10/2009

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my son did the same thing and still does when he is with his dad. i found that ignoring it made him realise it wasnt working and he no longer throws himself around for me. his father still pays attention to it and he still does it at his house. be the sounds of it it seems to be a phase that little boys go through. it is really hard to ignore and you feel bad but i found it really did work and it only took a couple of days. good luck with it all.

Rebekah - posted on 08/08/2009

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You may just be having all of his 1st year's desire for activity and independance packed into his new ability to explore it all... after being so sick!



I have personally used the pack and play method. Works great...very safe. Also, I recommend getting some Arnica tablets (homeopathic) as it will reduce bruising if he does indeed injure himself :) Watch for patterns of behavior that relate to sleep, food, and diaper change needs and try to anticipate issues before or as they develop. Try using sign language to increase his ability to communicate. Decide how you will respond and go with it. Behavior ALWAYS gets worse before it gets better (called a behavioral spike!) so don't give up too soon. And take comfort that this too will pass!

Tess - posted on 08/08/2009

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My grandmother used to say to ignore fits too. My oldest son used to have some doozies. I used the pack and play, put him in it and closed the door. The first few times i sat outside the door and cried. It did work after about a month he realized it was not getting my attention and it stopped.

Brooke - posted on 08/08/2009

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you could try teaching him sign language then he could sign what is bugging him like food sleep more please milk those are all signs he could do you could get a book are movie on sign language at the library i think they have the signing time dvds theretoo my kids love them

Suzanne - posted on 08/08/2009

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Quoting Savannah:

My son is going to seriously hurt himself! Help!!

My son is a year old and he is a tremendous temper! It is just unbelievable! He spent the vast majority of his first year of life very ill and he was very sweet and mellow during this time. After a weeklong hospital stay at 8 months old he was finally cured and ever since then he has become more and more unmanageable!!
It is not that he's spoiled, because he is typically a very easy child. Happy-go-lucky and independant. But his temper! Oh my goodness! He will scream in fury, which I don't really worry about. What I worry about is the fact that he throws himself around. If he's sitting up he will throw himself backwards and half the time with hit something as he goes down. Or if there is something in front of him he will slam his head into it. Table, wall, couch, you name it.
If you pick him up he will twist his body and throw himself backwards. I have actually dropped him twice now. Luckily he was just barely up off the floor so he was not hurt at all but what if he were to do that and I was standing up all the way or on a hard floor?
What do I do? How do I get him to stop? Time outs don't work because he will beat his head against everything.
He has no developmental challenges that I am aware of but this is a little scary. He could seriously injure himself!


 

Joyce - posted on 08/07/2009

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Hey I have sat here and read all of these replyes and to everyone you all have really good ideas I wish I would have thought about alot of them when my son was young he to would bang his head on anything just out of the blue he went from being this loving carefree baby to this almost angry light switch you just never knew when he was going to go off he to was also sick for the first year of his life then got better and it all started. He would walk down the hallway sit down and bang his head on the wall for no reason or we would be out eating and he would start bsnging his head on the table people would just look at me like as if I was doing something wrong I didn't know what to do and t was hard the only thing I could tell you is love him carry a small pillow with you just in case and maybe have a theripist check him out as for my son he has been going to see those quacks for 8 years now and they can't find anything wrong with him they look at me as if it's my fault he is almost 12 and i can say that I kmow it isn't my fault cuz I have 6 kids he is my oldest and the only one that acts like this sorry I can't help ot more just wanted to let you know you are not alone.....

Beth - posted on 08/06/2009

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my younger daughter did this from around 10-12 months. i found that the safest thing for both of us was to put her in the playpen and wear herself out. there was noting in the playpen that she could hurt herself with. she usually freaked out (there's no other way to put it), for about 10 minutes. (it seemed like an eternity to me, but i watched the clock a few times) she wore herself out, i took her out, and snuggled her, and all was good for a day or 2. she just grew out of it i guess. i wish you good luck, and know that you're not alone

Joline - posted on 08/06/2009

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I am not sure that he is having a temper tantrum. Have you tried to distract him or redirect him to something else. Being hospitalized for a long period of time may have caused some distrust and he is trying to adjust. Trust versus mistrust occurs in the first two years of life. I have been receiving some good email information from a site called Reply at love and logic and they have some great parenting information you can purchase or listen to online, good stuff really. I have learned much and I have been a mother for almost 25 years. I am helping my daughter raise my grandson and see things differently. We always explain everything to him as if he understands and he is the most patient child. He used to throw himself backwards but that has subsided.

Donna - posted on 08/06/2009

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My son as well went through this at about 15 months through 2 1/2. I later found that through early intervention that he was a proprioceptic seeker (sensory issue) he did not feel thing the way you or I would. I though he was all boy and actually he has a sensory issue along with ADHD which was not diagnosed until he was 6. Sometimes I would just hug him until he calmed down - he couldn't shut himself off. I found that consistancy is best. Sticking to a strick schedule and not wavering from it. So this way he knows what to expect. Warnings when you are about to transition to something else. My pediatrician told me if you are giving him time out 5 times a day he is not getting it so stop. Alway maintain your cool and try not to raise your voice - although this is tremendously difficult. When he sees you are in total control he will know he is not going to win. Even at 1 year old they are sooo smart. When he is older you can start a reward system for good behavior (positive reinforcement) but for now you don't have much to go on. I wish you much luck and remember "this to shall pass"

Colleen - posted on 08/06/2009

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Savannah, I feel your pain. My almost 2 year old just started this.... if she doesn't want us to pick her up she twists and turns around to try and make us drop her. She also likes to throw herself on the floor. She has hit her head on the coffee table more times than I can count. If she starts I try to make sure she can't easily get to something to hurt herself and then let her go.... I stay close by so if she ends up somewhere she could get hurt then I can intervene.

Jennie - posted on 08/06/2009

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While this behavior is not unusual you need to make sure there are no extenuating circumstances, health, physical or emotional problems before you go the ignore root. My daughter, not son, does this when she gets real upset and doesn't get what she wants. She did it once on a hard surface and now she will walk to the carpet or a pillow before throwing herself down for her fit. Once she is done she will be all happy again but its like she has to throw the fit to get out her frustrations about her ability or inability to communicate. Keeping a diary of the tantrums and circumstance before (i.e food ate activities done, time of day) and his sleeping habits the night before may help figure out what the triggers are or if it is truly just his temper.

Mapu - posted on 08/06/2009

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Hi Savannah,



I recently saw something on discovery health about a boy who had the same symptoms as your son. He had a rare blood disease. The doctors missed the diagnosis because there are not many known cases in the U.S. I think they said there are less than 100 reported cases. I really don't think your child is acting out. It is his way of communicating with you that he is feeling uncomfortable.



The reason I am thinking it is medical is because the boy that was featured on discovery health was also ill his first year of life. I am so sorry I can't remember what the illness is called. I tried researching the illness on the discovery channel archives but there are so many of them. You might want to call the station. It aired a few months ago.



Children at this age cannot communicate in words only through expressions and if his tantrums continue in this violent manner, it could be something going on in his body.



Please further investigate and keep a diary of your sons condition. I will pray for you. Keep me posted.

Holly - posted on 08/06/2009

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Hi Savannah the best advice I could give you is first of all have his pediatrician evaluate his behaviors, and second if you know that his behavior is begining to escalate make sure the area hes in is free from objects ie: coffee and end tables,toys etc... and let him have his temper tantrum. Most children grow out of it. Do not show your little man any type of reaction while hes having these tantrums since most kids are only looking for a reaction and extra attention weather it be positive or negitive. Kids are funny like that. I know as a mother its hard to see your child harm themselves and itsalso very frustration but Im sure that within time they will begin to decrease and or stop. Make surethat the rest of your family is involved in your plan as well. In this type of case all parties involved must be consistant with the sameplan. Good luck and definetly let me know what you have decided to do.

Randi - posted on 08/06/2009

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I like the pack n play idea...put some pillows in there with him!! Good luck with everything and I hope his anger management problems get better! Try and diffuse the problem before his temper gets out of hand.

Rabecca - posted on 08/06/2009

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My nephew was a headbutter. He liked ot slam his head into people. I dont have any advise, but sometimes its just helps to know other people feel your pain.

Jessica - posted on 08/06/2009

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that's what i was going to say.. but he knows how to push ur buttons, and he knows what will make u react... try ignoring him, and see what he does then..

LouAnne - posted on 08/06/2009

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Usually when my daughter did that it was because she was either so tired or mad or frustrated that she couldn't stand herself. I started keeping a wet washcloth in a plastic bag in the refrigerator. When she started up, I would take the washcloth and place it across her face . . . just laid it there like covering with a blanket. I'm still not sure if it was the shock of the cold, wet cloth or what, but it usually stopped things. When she was calmed down, I'd put it back in the fridge for the next time. As she got older, sometimes she would even ask for it or go get it herself. I tried never to make a big deal out of her behavior. If it happened in public, we stopped what we were doing and went home, period. No audience.

Patricia - posted on 08/06/2009

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My son at around that age if not earlier did the same thing all the time. At one point when we were in a store he did it on the concreat floor(sp?) I was worried about him all the time as well, but he did out grow it. A few years later and many temper tantrums later we found out the he has ADHD,he still flies off the handle and still bangs his head against the wall, but he is as smart as anything so I guess all the banging his head against hard things did not have long lasting effects.

Savannah - posted on 08/05/2009

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I definitely see what you all mean. I have to say that it's not so much a tantrum, though, because it's just split second fast and normally when I'm right there... He doesn't really lay there and throw the tantrum he just does it really fast an then its over. He has always got bruises all over his head. People actually ask me if I hit my child!!! My oldest doesn the temper tantrum thing, the whole kicking and screaming and he gets time outs for it and it works really well for him. This isn't much like that with DJ. He just gets angry at something and then immediately hurts himself, which will normally snap him out of his funk. IT's like, BANG! and then, "oh, I"m okay now, back to playing". Also, if he doesn't hit hard enough the first time, he will do it again, harder, and then he will stop. And it's wierd because one second he will be happy and the next he does this. It's very unpredicable.

He chokes for attention. When he was sick he used to choke all the time, he still does it (they never could figure out why. He will just be sitting there and he will start choking on his spit or something) But he will fake choke for attention. or Cough.

Maybe I spoiled him while he was sick, I don't know...

I will talk to his dr for sure and see what she thinks. The Drs. down here are totally lame but we will see... I had to drive him 3 hours away just to get decent care before. He almost died and they just kept telling me he was okay.

Food allergies is a great idea!

Thanks for your help Ladies.

(I know it sounds like he's a little brat but he's really a very special and sweet little boy. His laugh brought every nurse on the ward to come and see him. He is one of those that makes you want another one, that's how sweet and wonderful he is... except when he pulls this crud)

Rabecca - posted on 08/04/2009

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I had a baby fence I put my kids in when they needed a "time out" at that age. I would leave them in there with nothing but their own stuff and walk out of sight. The fits ended faster when they couldnt see me.

Kim - posted on 08/04/2009

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My son used to have the worse fits. He would throw himself done on the ground in a tantrum and he would constantly bang his head off of anything he could find including doors, cement, tile floors. I really started to worry that something was wrong with him or that he was going to give himself a concussion...or even worse. I spoke with his doctor who told me to ignore his behavior unless he was banging his head on something hard like the cement. He told me if it's carpet or a pillow to completely ignore the behavior. The more I ignored it when he wasn't banging on a hard surface the more he would bang his head on a hard surface, but I would just constantly carry him back to the carpet. He would still crawl back to the tile, but eventually would just lie on the carpet. He eventually stopped this behavior completely. He is now 3 yrs old and hasn't done it in almost 8 months. Hopes this helps.

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P.S. I agree with what Kayleigh is saying, there could be another reason he's doing this and not just to get a reaction. We have a little guy at my daycare who have no pain barrier, and don't cry at all when they do this stuff. We have him working with an extra teacher just to be on the safe side.

Michelle - posted on 08/04/2009

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This could be a reaction thing, but there is also a medical condition where the child will actually do this to themselves. Sensory somthing-or-other! I'm not 100% on the name. I would check with my doctor just to be on the safe side.

Kate CP - posted on 08/04/2009

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Kayleigh, this behavior is so common it's unbelievable. This is probably just a normal kid throwing a tempertantrum who is trying to see how far he can get.

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Dont Give Him Attention When He Does It, Most Likely He Only Wants Attention When He Does It.
If He Sees Your Not Paying Extra Attention to Him, He Should Stop Doing It...

Kelly - posted on 08/04/2009

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I agree with ignoring the situation...he is trying to see how much of a reaction he will get out of you or whether or not this behavior will get him the desired response. Once he realizes you aren't paying attention to his behaviors they will lose their luster and he'll realize that tantrums are physically painful and not much fun especially if there's no "reward" at the end. You need to check out the YouTube video of the little boy who is throwing a tantrum and his mom is videotaping it. She walk away from him and into another room where the child can't see her. The crying stops and he looks for her and as soon as he sees her again...he throws himself on the ground and begins the tantrum all over again...this routine goes on four or five times...hysterical.

Wendy - posted on 08/04/2009

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Have you checked into possible food allergies? Some food allergies can cause terrible behavior similar to what you have stated. Thank god my ped, doesn't subscribe to the "if it hurts - they'll stop", because my daughter didn't stop. Find out what is at the root of the outbursts then move forward from there. Good Luck!

Kayleigh - posted on 08/04/2009

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This is rather odd for a one year old have you spoke to your doctor for autism tests, I worked with kids who have no pain barrier they laugh when they hurt themselves rather than cry it is a way of them coping it is normal to them but hard and upsetting for us to watch. Do oiu possibly have a travel cot as wooden cots can easily hurt him if he bangs his head travel cots are material therefore will not hurt and you could sit him in for calm down/quiet time where he will be enclosed and safe till hes calm then you can take him out and let him play or even let him sit in it with toys. Can I ask do you or yor husband work? This may just be a simple way of getting your attention if you are out working as he may want to spend time with yous? My toughts are with you but I would try get diagnosis of doctor, good luck hope it is nothing serious x

Adelia - posted on 08/04/2009

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It sound harsh but the bes thing you can do is to ignore the behavior. All five of my boys did this at this age. I know from the first one that you are afraid of him hurting himself but think about it would you do something to yourself that would REALLY hurt. Kids are smarter than we give them credit for, after a few times of ignoring his tantrums he will stop, just stay strong, it is definitly easier said than done.

Marta - posted on 08/04/2009

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I don't want to frighten you but my sister worked with autistic children and they will often bang their heads to soothe themselves. He's very little so a positive diagnosis probably can't be made but, I would talk to the doctor about it. I do agree with the other ladies just let him have his tantrum somewhere where the floor is soft or if he's still in a crib put him in there close the door and walk away. Check on him every 5-10 minutes to see how he's doing you just might find him asleep on the floor. Good luck.

Malinda - posted on 08/04/2009

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My son also did this, and I was also told to give him a pillow and let him go, that he would not hurt himself. However, one thing unexpected that actually made it go away is when, after learning that he had food allergies, we took milk and wheat out of his diet. The moment we did this, the temper and head hitting stopped dead in their tracks.

Now I can TELL when something has been cross-contaminated, because the temper comes back.



I of course couldn't say for sure that this is impacting your son's behavior, but I think it is an avanue worth exploring. Take him to get tested for food allergies/intolorances, or try removing some of the big-impact foods such as milk, wheat, and eggs out of his diet to see if that alone helps improve his behavior. Especially if he has been ill in the past, these foods could have a real effect on him. Not something western medicine usually considers....

Toni - posted on 08/04/2009

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I think a lot of them temper is born out of frustration when they're between 1 and 3 yrs. they want to communicate but can't get the words or the know how....especially when it's something they really want. Whether it's from you or something they're trying to do themselves.

Angela - posted on 08/04/2009

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I would get in contact with your school district and get him connected to a birth to 3 program. If he has management issues they may help eval him or at least point you to a child specailist to help you with him.

Laura - posted on 08/04/2009

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My oldest did this when he was little and I was afraid he would do serious damage, So one day I got a bright idea, I decided to show him what he looked like. So when he started having a temper tantrum I laid down on the floor and started pounding my hands and feet on the floor and shaking my head , he stopped mid tantrum and looked at me like I was crazy, I told him that is what he looks like, he never had another tantrum again. What can I say it might not work for yours but then again it might :) God Bless

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My daughter is 3 and has a bad temper. What I do is I walk up to her and tell her what ever she is doing is wrong and unexceptable. (ex. We dont' throw balls in the house cause we may brake something. How about we roll it on the floor?) If she throws a fit when I take something away I walk away and tell her we'll talk when she's done. By telling them what is expected of them they know their boundaries. This doesn't mean it'll just stop but they will get the idea that throwing a tantrum is the wrong way to get attention.

Marianna - posted on 08/04/2009

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I believe I've seen some kids wearing helmets))) My first two kids did it,I think the same time, my son would just bang his had on the floor or wall,he used to have a instant bruise on his forhead,but it gone away (the behavior I mean) and than my daughter would even throw her self backwards,when she was sitting down though.

I know what you mean,it hurts to see it, wish you good luck and hopefully it is just temporary.

Angie - posted on 08/04/2009

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I am glad he over came his illness!!! That is good news...but maybe he is trying to get a reaction out of you. Ignore him...easier said than done. My daughter when she wasn't getting attention or throwing a fit would gag herself and most of the time she would puke...I eventually had to ignore it...also at night. It got to the point that she would do it in the middle of night when I ignored she was awake...So eventually we would wake up to her covered in puke...she eventually grew out of it.

This started when she turned 1... She also started to beat her head against things when she didn't get her way...Hopefully he will grow out of it!!!! Good luck!

Lacey - posted on 08/04/2009

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oh my gosh! my son does the same thing! its always because he doesnt get what he wants though...lik he will go over to the bookcase and throw stuff off of it..or go over to the blinds and pull them out and i say no. dont do that! and then he just gets pissed and started throwing himself backwards...ugh! hes a pain too. i know how you feel! i think boys are just little troublemakers apparently! haha..but ive been starting to put him in his play pen thingy like a timeout...although he doesnt get even worse in there! hahaha..

Kate CP - posted on 08/04/2009

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Oh, lord my daughter did that. I would tell her that I can't understand her when she's screaming and throwing a fit. She'll calm down and I'll tell her to take a deep breath and talk to me. Sometimes I would have to put her in her room and gate it off for a time out. I would tell her she couldn't come out of her room until she was done throwing a fit because I didn't want her breaking my stuff! She usually quit after a minute or two.

Sam did this one time when we were over at her grandma's house and all they have is tile flooring. She banged her head really good one time on that floor and never did it again. Granted she had a big knot on the back of her head, but after some ice and a soft talk about "When you throw fits like that you end up hurting yourself. If you talk to me like a big girl I can help you" made everything better. It's normal and your son will grow out of it eventually. :)

Tiffany - posted on 08/04/2009

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My daughter did the same thing until she was about 1 1/2. When I asked her Dr what to do, he said let her go. If it hurts she'll stop. Unless he's hitting sharp objects or corners, let him do it and don't make a big deal. He likes the reaction. If he cries after because he did it a little to hard ignore him. I know it sounds mean and horrible but it really does work. My daughter stopped real fast when she realized I wouldn't notice it.

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The pack n play is a good idea he can't get hurt there but don't plan on using for any other reason but for timeouts and tantrums. He will think he is doing something bad if you use it for him to sleep in or play. Hope that helps!

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My middle son also did the same things your son is doing. He would purposly go to the kitchen where there was lineolum and bang his head there because that would get the biggest reaction from me. After about 2 months of the tantrums I stopped paying attention to him while he was doing it and just moved him somewhere he couldn't hurt himself. Good Luck!

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