My son says it hurts when we clean the end of his penis. Is that normal?

Jesikah - posted on 12/05/2008 ( 24 moms have responded )

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My son is 3 years old and uncircumcised. When we have to clean more than a quick wipe, he says it hurts him. His foreskin does not retract all the way yet and we are not forcing it. What could be the problem?

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Jade - posted on 12/05/2008

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he may just be saying that as its an unusual feeling for him, my twin brothers said the same thing, and mum had them checked, and there was no problem. Our family pediatrician suggested that it was just the boys way of conveying the fact that it was a strange sensation, and they would say that it hurt because it was not a feeling that they had the words to explain at that stage. hope that makes sense, and helps in some way, good luck.

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Cheryl - posted on 12/06/2008

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In Australia we dont circumsise our babies..(not that i'm against it)..so to have an uncircumcised baby is the norm..we are told not to touch the babies forskin at all...the natural oils keep it clean and it gets enough of a wash in the bath. . when they are 4 or 5 you can get dad to show him how to give it a quick dry after the bath but you shouldnt need to do anything now.. good luck !!

Phillipa - posted on 12/06/2008

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In the bounty book that plunket give you it says you shouldnt be pulling the forskin back untill he is at least 5yrs of age as you can damage it. like wee girls they have "good bacteria" that helps it to stay clean, however at times like i had with my son who was prone to fugal infections

you could use a cotton bud with water to clean around the tip,

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? should you be doing this ?? When my son was little I enquired as to weather I should do this and the doctor said no, unless theres a problem I would leave alone, or maybe you should ask your GP if this should be done?

Jade - posted on 12/05/2008

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AND by the way, BOBBIE, i have flagged your comment as inappropriate, how do you suppose your comment is in any way helpful? hmmm, do you remember what your mum used to say- 'if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all?' maybe YOU outta keep that in mind.

Brenda - posted on 12/05/2008

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Bobbie - check your stats. Today only half of all baby boys are circumcised so the "locker room" is no longer an issue.

Sarah - posted on 12/05/2008

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my son went through the same thing and i was told that the best thing to do would be to get him circumcised. I went to a lot of doctors and specialists and they all suggested it. My son was in so much pain because of it that he was starting to have kidney problems. It took about a year of appointments and back and forth but finally, last year, i had him circumcised and he's been fine every since.

Meagan - posted on 12/05/2008

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DD Martin -

Thank you for your additional comments. It's nice to know I'm not the only one that has gone through these instances. But you are right, it's all about cosmetics.

Amie - posted on 12/05/2008

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And if you would have kept reading I said.. in my city... I can not say how other doctors and hospitals handle this. =)

Melissa - posted on 12/05/2008

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In reply to Amie's response that they do not use anesthetic. That is false. I work in a hospital in medical records so I see all of the circ notes that are done by the docs. Every one of them use anesthetic. They are injected with Lidocaine or a similar agent to get a penile block.



My son is circed. They didn't take enough off when they did it so I still need to clean under it well as well. I have gotten a second opinion and they advised against doing anything.

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It could actually be a medical condition, I forget the technical name, that does not allow the foreskin to be retracted and unfortunately the only way to cure it is to have him circumcised. I would definitely check with your pediatrician or a urologist. Good luck!

Robin - posted on 12/05/2008

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I just want to tell you from experience that I know alot of mothers who did not have their sons circumsized! I myself did and my son is 24 now but my husband on the other hand was not circumsized as a baby and because of multiple infections that I was getting the Drs. decided that it was because he was not, so at the age of 21 my husband was circumsized and spent 16 days in the hospital. My grandson was circumsized at birth and had to be redone at 18 mos. because they didn't take enough off and he kept getting infections and was getting red and swollen really bad to the point that he screamed if he had a wet diaper. He's fine now and we show him how to wash and keep it clean all the time! Don't know if this is a help at all but it's been a learning experience for me and my family!

DD - posted on 12/05/2008

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We too just recently had a boy who was in NICU for a while, and did not get circumcised. This is hard because my 1st son and husband both are, so I have questions about cleaning as well. I did my research before having my 1`st and ultimately left the decision to my husband...I hate that my 2nd will not look like his dad and brother, but am so glad we didn't go through that on top of all the other. The Dr here said he wouldn't even perform them anymore since it's all cosmetic. There is absolutely not medical reason to do them anymore. The did them back in the day because we (humans) didn't wash very often. It's a very hard decision one way or the other and when I see comments like Bobbie's it really angers me! Sounds like a troll anyway, no picture..no other comments.
Anyway, I DIGRESS sorry! I would absolutely call the ped. I'm sure I'll have questions regarding my son's "intact" penis and will take it straight to the Dr since husband doesn't have forskin...
Hope you get answers, and sorry for the rant.

Meagan - posted on 12/05/2008

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I just wanted to comment and say that I appreciate all the comments about "intact" boys. (I'm stealing your terminology Jamie E.) When my son was born, he had other health issues that were much more important to take care and the pediatrician said the foreskin was minimal and not an issue. So we kept our son "intact". I figured he'd have enough issues to deal with, let alone the healing and pain of circumcision. Later I had some people make comments, but after research and reading comments in this thread, I am more at peace about it.

Jennifer - posted on 12/05/2008

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(bobby) telling a mother how she should or shouldnt raise her child is wrong. every mother has that choice and there is nothing wrong with having the extra skin there. and the health problems what health problems a little diaper rash is nothing every child gets that even if he is circumciesed. this mom is asking for help and we as moms should respect her for coming foward and asking for the little extra help.

Jennifer - posted on 12/05/2008

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i am unsure what the problem is one because i am not a doctor and two because my son is circumicesed but i would call his doctor and he will know what to tell you....



but you could pull the skin back clean it real good and look at it. if it is like a diaper rash then you can use some butt paste on it. and i tell you that stuff works better then any butt cream out there. i hope this helps.

Angela - posted on 12/05/2008

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I think telling a mom that her descision is wrong when she is asking for help is crumby!!!( Bobbie).

I would definately check with a pediatrician, but you could also try aquaphor. If it is a cracking or skin irritation. If it is overly pink or swelling in any way it is probably an infection (possibly yeast). If this is the case, boost his immune system with probiotics from the health food store and allow for sokes in the tub with oatmeal...hope this is helpful

Amie - posted on 12/05/2008

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My son is also not circumcised, I would not let a doctor do that to my baby, too painful and they don't use any anesthetic. Cruel!!
Anyway, it's probably just an infection. My son had one also a couple weeks ago (he's 4), he knows him how to clean himself but we still pay attention because he is so small, so we applied some cream (no diaper creams or anything of the ilk though because he has so many skin allergies) just vaseline worked. It kept it protected and cleared up quickly. If it is persistent and becomes red or swollen then go to the doctor asap, it could mean something more serious. My MIL was telling me about a little boy my hubby played with as a child, because mom and dad weren't cleaning it properly and often enough he ended up needing to be circumcised anyway regardless of their wishes. So sad.
And just on a personal note-ignore anyone that says you're doing wrong by your child, the only thing that matters is your and your partner/husband's wishes. The locker and etc arguments don't fly, more boys are not circumcised now a days than are. At least in our city, I asked my doctor as I was unsure with my son but once he told me everything and how it's done there was no way I was doing it to my baby. =)

Jamie - posted on 12/05/2008

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Good for you for keeping your son intact, I have two intact boys and there has not been any problems. It's such a sensitive area, it is possible that he says it hurts because it's sensitive? I've never had to clean the boys, I've heard that you should gently retract the foreskin in the tub and it basically cleans itself. A call to the pediatrician couldn't hurt.

Jennifer - posted on 12/05/2008

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You might want to have that checked out. My son is 19 months an circumsized. Just recently i started to notice that the head of his penis was red and swollen. I took him to a urologist and he had said that he has too much foreskin that is causing leasions. So now he has to go in for surgery to be re-circumsized. I don't really know a lot about children that aren't circumsized but with it being an important part of the body I would delay seeing a doctor. I hope I helped you out and goo luck.

Theresa - posted on 12/05/2008

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I would call the pedi and ask them what you should do about it. I have 3 boys but all 3 were circumcised. As far as I know bathing him daily should be enough to keep it clean. I would have to agree with Erin's response.

Kristen - posted on 12/05/2008

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my son said htis as well i spoke to my doc and she says its because although you need to teach your child good hygiene and keep his penis clean you should not be pulling back the foreskin at all, you should show him and allow him to do it on his own and he will do so at h is comfort level we tried that and it worked my son is only 20 months so i htink a child a bit older should be able to handle this as well. I hope i have helped somehow.....

Christina - posted on 12/05/2008

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We had this issue not that long ago with my 4 year old son who is uncircumcised. I put him in the bath tub and that seemed to help, but any other advice would be useful for us as well.

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I don't know if it is a "problem" but maybe the skin closest to the penis is not getting quite clean enough and subsequently irritated and sore? I would mention to your pediatrician and have them take a look. Might want to use an antibiotic cream at the sensitive bits. My guys are circumcised and even they sometimes get sore at the end if the body oils and such are hanging around too long :) Hope this helps.

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