my son screams everytime we put him down its hard to get anything done!!

Ashli - posted on 02/09/2010 ( 34 moms have responded )

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my son is 6 weeks old and wont let us put him down or he screams im going crazy is there anything that i can do to help him to feel more comforable by himself please help me!

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Adele - posted on 02/10/2010

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You can try swaddling or a bouncy chair but at the end of the day a little tuff love is what’s needed. If you get into the trap now if picking up the baby every time he cries, then you will find it even harder in years to come to change this. I know this sounds hard but it will pay of in the long run.

Kim - posted on 02/10/2010

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I don't think he can be by himself yet ... don't be afraid to carry/wear your baby constantly. My dd is now 21 ... she was in a sling until she was too big, then I moved her to a backpack ... she lived on me. At first I kind of resented it, but then realized that it didn't matter; she was my baby and I needed to figure her out, not the other way around. Everyone told me not to hold her so much, but I decided it didn't matter what other people said; I could not stand the crying and as long as I held her or nursed her, she was a happy baby/toddler. She ended up going as a foreign exchange student in high school and is off to college now ... and normal! :-) Interestingly, she still sits right beside me on the couch when she is home from college and I often sit on her bed and talk to her at night. We have a very close (literally!) relationship.

I think when babies get what they need, when they need it, they will turn out to be happy, healthy, children and adults.

Nika - posted on 02/10/2010

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you need to rule out a biological cause first, so take him to the GP or paediatrician. it may be his ears or reflux. There's a fantastic book out called Baby Sense by Megan Faure. It covers all the sensory issues of babies. He might be sensitive to having his head moved backward (gravitaitonal insecurity), so get the book and see if there's something in there to help you. Alternatively get in touch with a sensory integration trained occupational therapist.

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Who cares what gets done? haha Stuff can wait. It's more important that you take care of your baby. One of my kids was like that and I just got one of those sling thingies and "wore" her all day long. Six weeks ago your son was in your tummy. Give the little guy a break for wanting to continue being as close to you as much as possible! In about 5 minutes he'll be in high school and you'll wish you'd held him every minute of the day when you had a chance. Trust me.

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Shannon - posted on 02/10/2010

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The swaddling blankets are great. There is also a colic (and everything else) liquid available by web called "Colic Calm" -- it is a homeopathic remedy, which I liked. They also offer a pacifier medicine dispenser. It is not cheap, but it is good for everything from colic and gas to teething (which my 10 month old is going through now). Just remember to breathe.

Ashlee - posted on 02/10/2010

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try wearing him. get a baby wrap. i reccomend sleepy wrap. also- you could swaddle, that may help!

Briane - posted on 02/10/2010

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Hi ,how are you? Well both of my little girls were like that, they cried and cried everyday, so i would just put them in their play pen, put some toys in there and let them cry. I went to the doctor and asked the doctor why they cried o much he said that it was something that babies did, but it wont hurt them to cry.. Crying that much just makes their lungs stronger.

Rachel - posted on 02/10/2010

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Sounds exhausting for you. There are lots of reasons babies cry and it is usually a process of elimination since they cant tell you. Go through the steps of eliminating: wet/ dirty nappy, hungry, too hot, over stimulated (they get overtired sometimes), then consider medical issues, check for fever, could be reflux or colic.

Your baby will show you signs of sleep readiness: rubbing eyes, yawning, jerky limb movements, fussing. Try the wrapping things as mentioned above then put to bed. Reflux babies like being upright and will often wake up in middle of a sleep crying due to pain. If you suspect this see a doctor.

Hang in there.

Robin - posted on 02/10/2010

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My first is now 3 and is the most independant child I've ever seen so wearing her for 6 months until she was crawling did not cause a "spoiled" child

Robin - posted on 02/10/2010

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Baby wearing is the best...I got so much more done with my first when I gave up on trying to get her to lay/sit in something. She slept more and we both felt better. Moby wraps or Maya wraps are both wonderful. You get to have a happy baby and have your hands free to do what u need. My second premancy resulted in twins so I have had to endure much more screaming, which has not gotten better (they are almost 9 mo now). So the cry it out thing doesn't always work, and I hate having a hysterical baby...you wouldn't feel loved if you were left to cry and scream would you?

Gina - posted on 02/10/2010

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are you nursing? I found out that when I drank milk and was nursing my son, he was very upset when lying him down....maybe it is something as simple as what youare eating yourself

Jane - posted on 02/10/2010

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My son didn't cry everytime I put him down but when he did cry & I needed to get something done I would wear him in my carrier. He would usually just fall asleep in it.

Gwen - posted on 02/10/2010

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He's just a tiny baby! Hold him or wear him in a sling or carrier. He just wants comfort and closeness. Babies are not little adults. When you are gone, he doesn't know that you still exist! At that age, getting dressed and fed are about all you need to accomplish.

Jkurth33 - posted on 02/10/2010

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My daughter loved her swing sometimes she would only sleep if she was in her swing or being held. Gas can be an issue too. There are some over the counter gas drops for infants. Remember that it doesnt hurt them to cry for awhile. You'll figure out what works best for your baby, mine felt comforted by the sound of heartbeat. Good Luck!

Blackwood - posted on 02/10/2010

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Swaddle blankets work wonders " Swaddle Me" has a blanket that is very hard for the little ones too get out of. I think at that young age, you are still what is comforting too him, he knows only being with you. You could "wear" him, get a sling. My son loved the swing, but 6 months later I'm still trying to get him too sleep in his crib and not the swing. Best wishes

Sarah - posted on 02/10/2010

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I agree with those saying get a sling. Babies benefit from close bodily contact in all sorts of ways. Contrary to what some may think, babies who are 'worn' generally become independent, confident children.

Gloria - posted on 02/10/2010

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I see some one else, posted a reply. Always something new to learn. and I've had 4 kids!!

Gloria - posted on 02/10/2010

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Remember, he's only 6 wks old. Lived in your womb for 9 months, and like you, and your partner, he's adjusting, and it's hard. Stay closely connected to your Ped., too!
My son, and 'dgtr, have a 9/12 wk old, wee 1, and their reading a lot, and trying different things. 'Tis very trying, and exhausting, but every bit worth it!!

Nicola - posted on 02/10/2010

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Bless you its so hard when they are like that my middle son was awful just screamed and screamed, swaddling is great also try giving him a baby massage on his tummy in case it is wind, also if he had a quick or traumatic birth my osteopath told me that cranial massage is good as somtimes they are left with pressure in their skulls which when you lie them down is very painfull for them.
Good luck hope he settles down soon
xx

Karen - posted on 02/09/2010

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My son was terrible when he was born. If you're breastfeeding, have you had someone check your technique/supply to make sure he's just not hungry? If bottle feeding, have you considered a different formula? There is one out there for colic babies. I think its heavier. It made a big difference for my boy. have you also seen your doctor or health nurse for support? its important that you make sure you're ok too. they may also check him over just to make sure he's ok and offer other suggestions, many nights with my son, i just walked around and around the house rocking him to sleep, because that was all that worked to stop him crying. just remember that it is only temporary.

Rebecca - posted on 02/09/2010

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I would get him checked by a doc silent reflux is really hard to diagnose and often requires a specialist. At 6 weeks it is unlikely that he will just get over it - My other advice is to call NGALA if you are in Perth or ring your child health nurse and see if there is a facility for sleep and eating problems for babies (that is what NGALA does exclusively). Hope it is getting better for you. Also give yourself a break - you are a great Mum and you know your baby best keep your head up

Christine - posted on 02/09/2010

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I agree - baby wearing is totally the way to go when they are that young - I wore my daughter pretty much constantly until she was about 3 months, get a good sling that allows multifunction (feeding, sleeping, just wearing them so you can do some chores, etc)

Daniele - posted on 02/09/2010

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It could be acid reflux (GERD). My daughter had that (still does, but not as bad). She would cry for hours, sometimes even when we were holding her. It will get better, just make sure that his head is elevated. Try raising the head of the bed (they make slings to keep the baby from sliding down), or put him in a swing that holds his head up some.



Good luck!

Steffinie - posted on 02/09/2010

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My daughter is 10 months old and she still gets that way at times what I heard from a friend is that a baby is use to the way you smell so swaddle him up put one of your shirts down then lay him on top of it and he'll think you're still holding him worked for me.

Nikki - posted on 02/09/2010

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he will have to learn that you cant hold him every second of the day.you will have to just put him down and let him cry it out that is what i had to do with my son at night because he never wanted me to put him down for bed and i would always get up and get him then he would stop crying ,but my husband said he will never learn to stop crying if i always pick him up.well he finally got the point it took a couple of weeks but he can now go to sleep by his self.so just put him dowm and let him cry.

Nikki - posted on 02/09/2010

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try the swaddling and the bouncy! worked for mine! just remember every baby is differant and every mother is differant! and sometimes its ok to let him scream it's good for his lungs!

Destinie - posted on 02/09/2010

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My son is 8 months old and sometimes he gets like that still. so what I used to then and still do now is I sat next to him on the floor and got one of his teddys and played with him for a min and he would calm down and want to play by himself. I would also swaddle him and put him in his swing he would drift right to sleep.

Maggie - posted on 02/09/2010

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even though your child is too small to reach and play with objects, laying him in a "gym" may help ... it lowers the ceiling, providing a more secure and comfortable environment and it give him something to look at :)

Whitney - posted on 02/09/2010

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mine is 2 years old and is the same way sometimes... he cries everytime i leave him and wont sleep by his self or anything

Lee-Anne - posted on 02/09/2010

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Try a swing, my son was the same way until we borrowed a swing. I was amazed at how happy he was the first time we put him in it.

Jamie - posted on 02/09/2010

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I agree with the swaddling and tryin the bouncy and if that dont work then maybe try the swing...i have twin girls and thats what worked the best with them...good luck, and I promise it does get easier.. :)

Bridget - posted on 02/09/2010

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My son is 8 weeks & is pretty much the same way except I think his is due to stomach pains from gas. Have you tried swaddling him tight in his blanket? I swaddle my son tight & put him in his vibrating bouncer. He seems to like being swaddled, I think it makes him feel safe. Plus, he likes the vibrations & lights on the bouncer. Other than that, I have no suggestions. I spend a lot of time holding my son so he doesn't scream because I feel guilty if he screams.

Aubrey - posted on 02/09/2010

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just make sure hes bundled warm and secure. hes used to being in your belly =]

Katie - posted on 02/09/2010

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Try swaddling him in a blanket and putting him either in a bouncy chair or in a safe place on the floor.

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