My son was bullied at school by his teacher

Yesenia - posted on 01/19/2011 ( 387 moms have responded )

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Hello moms ok need some support. My 12 year child was bullied by his teacher. My son has ADD/ADHD and has a need to whistle to focus.Sometimes he does it and does not know he is. Any how his teacher got upset at this habit and placed DUCT TAPE on his mouth in front of all his classmates and for 45 minutes of the class. My son was embrassed and he could not breath properly. I went to the principle and confronted teacher and he tried lying about incident. My son was brought in and then the teacher confessed. The teacher still works at this school and we have taken it to Super Intendent and nothing elese will be done. He will be allowed to stay teaching. My son now has to do science alone without his classmates because I refuse to put him in this classroom enviroment with this man. What elese can I do any legal advice out there. Oh and we are a military family overseas. Please any help.

Let me add we have been to the security forces and family advocate offices and they say it does not warrant as a crime.

A very sad mom :(

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Christy - posted on 01/19/2011

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Can you take it to the local news? You would be amazed how quickly things get done when a report is done. See about an attorney through the military, too.

Iridescent - posted on 01/19/2011

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File a police report for abuse. And report it to social services.

Zoya - posted on 01/31/2011

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Hello, I have worked with kids and what this teacher did was inappropriate and it's unfortunate that he felt this was a good idea. That said, I've seen other teachers do or say inappropriate things--counterproductive and in no way nice things. In most cases it has been a one-time thing. As a former Union Steward at one job site, I can personally attest to the fact that certain staff I've worked with and provided support for during situations like this have had a written warning one time and been provided with training and support from supervisors and then never had repeated offenses after that and enede up being great staff. Then there were 2 or 3 staff who I really grew to dislike representing because they kept doing inappropriate and demeaning things. Those staff were given 1-2-3 writted warnings--each time with training and support from their supervisors and then they were fired after the 3rd write-up. This was just a couple I've known like this over 4 years.



I guess what I'm saying is, as a teacher(even though you don't know about it because such staffing matters must remain confidential), this person was reprimanded and written up, in accordance with his union contract. It is possible that he knows he messed up and will never do this again. Maybe he even has a grasp of how hurtful his actions toward a child(your child!) were. I sure hope this is the case. If it is, it would be a helpful life lesson for your son to maybe give this teacher the benefit of the doubt...ONCE. Maybe ask your son how he would feel having a meeting with this teacher and the principal to see if everyone can get on the same page, make up and try going back to the class for science. You could come up with a game plan for the whistling that maybe the teacher could quitely lay a blank post-it note at the corner of your sons desk or some other subtle thing. Maybe your son would want to write a letter to the teacher talking about how he felt picked on and humiliated and how even the humiliation does not help him better manage his ADHD responses. He could also say, "I'm not mean and I don't embarass people, so I want to be treated the same way." No one should be humiliated. This teacher would not want to be, either. I really believe that this would be a confidence building lesson for your son, because he will undoubtedly encounter difficult, irritating, annoying, and downright mean people in high school, college, work and life. They can't always be ejected, so learning to manage is a really good life skill and, if your son is able to conquer this problem, he will feel really good about himself.

As for the ADHD, there are some helpful tricks I've used and suggested to my clients as well. One of my favorites is rubbing one of my thumbs with the other hand. Just like a mini massage, it's relaxing and keeps the mind a little more focused when you just have trouble being still and you really need to be.

Talk to your son and find out what he would be comfortable with. Let him know you're confident that he will be able to make it work and be successful in dealing with this challenge. Good luck and I'm sure you will help your son find a good solution.

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I am locking this thread, there has been more than enough support and advice. It has already gone way past CoM guidelines. Thank you everyone for posting!!

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Here is the unpopular thinking but here goes. Did You set up a conference wih the teacher first? Did you as a parent inform the teacher that he has this habbit as part of his leaning challene and devise a plan for what to do if your son needs this? Did you ever conside the fact that the teacher might have had a migrane that day and had come in anyway becaus his three sick days were gone? or that he had had a fight wit his wife that mrnig. Or that he simple lost his patiences with how your son was infrnging on veryone else in the class' right to larn too? What about poor Sally who doesn't have a learning disability but struggls to learn and your whistleing son keeps her from doing here best?

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Lita - posted on 02/01/2011

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Don't make to big a deal out of it. If that is the only thing that goes bad in his life you have it made. Teachers are just people they make mastake and you know what thet say pay backs are .... All i'm saying is if you let go it will be easyer on your son.

Teresa - posted on 02/01/2011

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Yesenia, I'm so so sorry that is happening to your child. That is totally wrong in so many ways. That is abuse and that teacher is not allowed to touch any student. I would do everything in my power to see that he no longer works at that school or any other school. May God be with you and your family.

Nicolle - posted on 02/01/2011

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I had a problem with one of my daughters teachers too. First of all corporal punishment is illegal in the states, I was a teacher for 10 years and know this for a fact. I'm not sure what country you are in. If the school is on American soil the teachers actions are illegal by US standards. If legal action does not help I suggesting sitting in the class with your son and this so called "teacher" as often as possible! I am not a working mom so I had the time to go and sit in my daughters class every day to observe, it is every parents right to do so! You will be amazed at how it will adjust a teachers attitude toward your child with you sitting there watching them! I hope this helps, I can empathize with you and know what you are going through.

Yesenia - posted on 02/01/2011

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Thank you for your reply no he does not tic but I know he does many different things like tapping,taps his feet,or at first he use to break pencils and pens.He likes to keep his hands busy.The whistling is something new that started this year.We are trying to teach him other ways he can redirect himself. Homeschooling would be nice but I would like for him to still be part of the school enviroment and be with his peers. I will look into the Touretees as well. I don't think he has that but worth researching it.Thank you

Maria - posted on 02/01/2011

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Are you capable of home-schooling. There are many wonderful resources out there. I have a son with ADHD who also makes a lot of verbalizations and hums to concentrate. He has had minor motor tics since he was 5. It finally dawned on me that he has Tourette's Syndrome. Does your son have tics? The ADHD and Touretee's commonly come together and the whistling may be a verbal tic - that is why I ask. May want to check into it.

Yesenia - posted on 02/01/2011

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Mrs. Gates,

I have put my story out because no I am not handlng things out here! Don't you put words into my mouth. If you know something about the case then I guess you have been given information you should not have. I came here to find support and help which I have found both. I have even recieved comments that I don;t agree with but recieve them as well and thank them for at least taking thier time to try give me thier opinion.The situation has gotten worse because the help that I thought we would get in REMOVING the teacher did not happen and the FACT that we were told that this DID NOT warrant as a crime. As since you are stationed here,instead of trying to stop help coming my way why don't you ask if theres anything you can do for my family? I mean you are here as you stated. YOu have no idea what my family has been through. I know you have a family as well ask yourself ,How would you feel if this was done to your kids? Stop accusing of slander because no one here as done so,Its called freedom of speech something my husband has served for 19 years now proudly for his family and everyone to have. I have the right to ask for help and support and the last time I checked so does everyone elese with respect to which everyone has done so in this bolg. Circle of moms is great place to do so,because if there was anything wrong with my conversation it would of been removed already.Now stop trying to get people from not helping me because let me tell you this I not only have the support from here circileofmoms but I have the HUGE and I mean HUGE prayer group that has been praying for us and let me tell you if you don't already know prayer is a powerful gift, Instead of trying to take sides why don't you get into prayer that this is resovled in a good way, thats what I have been doing. I have been recieving everyone's help and reading those who don't agree with me but I thank them and send a blessing thier way because you know at the end of all of this it makes me happy that people from all over the world have taken a few minutes to share with me what thier thougths are and that to me matters. NO one here at this BASE has called us or knocked on our door to see if we need anything,instead I got "Well I was gonna say a prayer for you but now I won't" LEt me say I am glad my mom raised me to respect my elders and my GOD has taught me to shield my tounge when unpleasing words would be spilled the only thing I said to that once I got home was "The devil is a liar because I am a blessed woman" Please don't try to speak for me as you have in your comment,I am not handling things here because things could not be worse and If I feel my story needs to be told to the media then thats where it will go its my choice something my husband has served his country for.

Victoria - posted on 02/01/2011

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Yesenia, There is more you can do, believe me. I don't believe in "You can't fight City Hall and win". The first thing I would do is call my Legal Aide office. Every city or state has one for people who cannot afford legal help. If you call 211 in your area they should be able to give you the number or you can google it and look it up for yourself. The 2nd thing I would do is find a news channel that helps people who can't get help anywhere else. In New York City it's called "7 on Your Side" and I think we have one here in Connecticut also. Even though you have been to the Superintendent I would also call the Board of Education directly. I would also make sure I talked to all the parents of the children in that class and let them know what this teacher did as he has probably done things like this before and will again. Hope some of this helps.

Dusty - posted on 01/31/2011

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The same exact thing happened in colorado this summer. I think in the aurora area. Parents took it to law enforcement and the media and the lady got fired. you might also check with Child protective services. I can't imagine how it must feel :(

Mary - posted on 01/31/2011

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OK. My first reaction was to want the teacher out of MY profession. But then I remembered how my own son's ADHD turned him into one of the most irritating students around. I could "see" the incident and understand why the teacher wanted to take SOME kind of action (out of frustration). Of course, it was inappropriate. But please do some soul searching and answer this question: Does your son sometimes create his own reality? My son did. It's often a coping mechanism of children with ADHD. It isn't so much that the child with ADHD wants to be dishonest; it is simply the way that child copes with unpleasant situations. And then he believes the new reality. Incidents reported to parents by such children really need to be researched further.

Since you are a military family overseas, you should have access to good medical care. Please make sure your son is receiving all the help he can possibly receive from your doctor, whether it is pharmacological or behavioral therapy (or both). The ADHD child is often an outcast among his peers and may present more serious behavior problems as he grows older. Several years ago, I recognized what appeared to be ADHD in one of my students and suggested the parents have him tested so that he could receive assistance from the special education resource room (modified lessons and one-on-one assistance, for example); this caused me a great deal of grief because I was told by the administration that it was NOT my job to suggest such things to parents (my suggestion could have led to the parents' demanding the school district pay for prescriptions for Ritalin, for example); what I know to be true is that the young man in question found a level of success that had eluded him before his assignment to resource. He was still my student (some think teachers make referrals in order to "get rid of" students -- poppycock!) that year and the next (two-year middle school, and I taught both grade levels). He continued his education at the high school level and graduated. This does not always happen for students with ADHD.

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I would contact the media in your or your husband's home town. People state side will be outraged and pissed off to hear about something going on like this with our tax dollars. I would also follow up with your state government and possibly even federal government. As for the teachers continually bullying him I can't really give you any 'productive' advice. I just know that if it were me things would not be so pretty. I am really sorry that you are having to go through all of this. If I've ever been taught anything about situations like this it is to write EVERYTHING down in great detail: date, time, names, as much detail about each and every incident as possible, so that when it becomes a legal issue you will have a very strong case. I hope things turn around and just continue to be as loud as you possibly can about the situation and get any family you have state side involved. Good Luck!

Pam - posted on 01/31/2011

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Yeah, I found it by Googling. And here's my post at the end of the thread:

Okay, everyone get a grip. Those of you calling for media coverage and suing and all that baloney have no idea of all the facts of the "incident." Ya know what...I don't either!!! But I happen to be aware of a bit and think some of this is a little over the top. You people are slandering other people you don't even know. It's one thing to support a mother with a problem, but don't presume to give advice about a situation of which you are ignorant. This mother is working things out here. She doesn't need any more inflammatory comments. It's one thing to give her support and appreciate her frustration, but a completely different thing to advocate to sue or file assault charges or any of that. Don't speak about what you don't know! There are always two sides to the story and sometimes the other side fills in some gaps and changes some perceptions given by the first side.

Bottom line, quit making this situation worse than it is!

Baena - posted on 01/31/2011

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This is a very sad story and experience for your family more especially the your son. This teacher must be removed from teaching, coz he is going to do this again.

Sandra - posted on 01/31/2011

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This really touches me deeply being a social work student in the United States. I am praying for your family to find resolution. Also, on a more helpful side... just because the family services over there says that they can't do anything doesn't mean that there isn't anybody in that field that can't help. If they say this is not a legal issue but a social issue, fine. The International Federation of Social Workers may be a good place to look for some help. This organization strives for social justice and your son and family has had an injustice done to them. Since this is an International organization they may be better for support than any local agency can offer. Especially since you are on a military base in another country. International sounds like the way to go to me. Anyway, here is thier contact information:



International Federation of Social Workers,

PO Box 6875, Schwarztorstrasse 22,

CH-3001 Berne, Switzerland



by phone



Tel (41) 22 548 36 25



by fax

Fax (41) 31 382 1125

contact@ifsw.org



I hope this was helpful advice and I really hope that this matter can be resolved. Prayers!

Chap - posted on 01/31/2011

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Can you remove your child from this school, the teachers sound nasty. I would tell the local media and report it to the Child protection agencies. If a parent did this to a child we would be called abusive, so definitely call the child advocate groups. Good luck and I hope your son is feeling ok.

Aleah - posted on 01/31/2011

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You have followed the correct course of action so far by addressing this with the principal, teacher, and superintendent. If they refuse to take further action such as reprimanding the teacher, apologizing publicly, and giving your son the accommodations he is legally granted under the 504 plan, then I would definitely file a lawsuit against the entire school corporation. I have been an elementary school counselor for 9 years and am appalled by the actions taken by these teachers and administrators.

Sarah - posted on 01/31/2011

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You need to take this to the papers this teacher could be dangerous and is showing signs of it. I would speak to the police and I would see what they say and I would go to the papers this is huge don't be scared to fight for your child if you don't than WHO will?

Susan - posted on 01/31/2011

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Dear Yesenia,

I read your post and my heart just cries for you and your son. I know it's so hard to experience what you're going through and you are not on home turf!

I have worked as a special ed aid in the past and I know your son is on a 504 plan but maybe in class support would help him and the teacher. (Who knows nothing about ADD/ADHD!)

Taking legal action is necessary and go for it but your son needs help with his education. At 12 years old he's starting to feel more independent and needs to be guided in making the right decisions. It would be nice if he had a friend that he could share experiences with.

Keep loving your son and fighting for him. Don't give up.
You're a loving mom and your son is very lucky.

Traci - posted on 01/31/2011

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@Sonja:

I'm curious. You said you were bullied in sixth grade (8 years old). I teach 2nd grade. Children typically turn 8 in 2nd grade which means children are typically 11-12 in 6th grade. Are your numbers possibly mistaken? Just wondering!

Traci - posted on 01/31/2011

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Yesenia,

Putting myself in your shoes and imagining that somebody put duct tape on my child would cause a reaction of, well, it would take a very large regime of people to hold me back from doing something like that to the perpetrator, if not something worse. NOBODY touches my child! I mentioned this to my husband and he said "Fire the guy!". Like somebody else said I'd have to hear all sides. Given that this teacher has NEVER come to you with any concerns about your son and it appears that his only reaction was to duct tape your child (rather than move him, talk with him, etc...) I do see justification for a very strong reprimand (one year-no pay) or termination. I do hope you get help. Like others are saying there has to be some way. Just don't let it get in the way of being his mother. He'll be ok.

Stephanie - posted on 01/31/2011

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The actions of this teacher were uncalled for and I would take it to a lawyer and report it to Child Protective Services. EMOTIONAL ABUSE!!!

Tammi - posted on 01/31/2011

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Oh my goodness... As a teacher myself and a parent this is NOt OK behavior from a trusted adult... not to mention, it is illegal.... are you in the United States? Contact an attorney that offers free consultation to find what you should do.. go above the district and superintendent and contact the school board.

Jennifer - posted on 01/31/2011

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Have you thought about going to your local newspaper and telling them your story? It's amazing what the media can do.....

Vonda - posted on 01/31/2011

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Please don't ignore this. Teachers are not allowed to do this and it should be reported asap. Your son needs to know that school is a wonderful and safe place. He needs his parents to be the driving force behind this, so please please take action right away and save your son and other kids this teacher will come in contact with from future abuse and humiliation.

Debbie - posted on 01/31/2011

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No way should that Teacher be allowed to teach again. I worked as a Paraprofessional at school for 14yrs. and NEVER would we be allowed to do such. I'd go to the school board and if that didn't work I'd probably see a lawyer or maybe contact the local paper. If he did this to your son what has he done to other children that may not have anyone to fight for them. Please keep us posted.

Stephani - posted on 01/31/2011

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if the school is on base more than likely you will not be able to get any help from local authorities. Have you tried contacting the ADA? They might be able to help.

Sherri - posted on 01/31/2011

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This teacher should be fired. period! Who does this person think he is. I would remove my child from a school that would allow this kind of teacher to continue to teach. I hope your son is alright.
From a mom with a child with A.D.H.D and F.A S

Sonja - posted on 01/31/2011

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I myself was bullied in 6th grade (8 years old) by my math teacher. She would pull you up to the front of the class and tell everyone how stupid you were, how you'd end up as nothing but a McDonalds burger flipper and how you'd get held back a grade. True story. She'd be verbally/emotionally abusive, she had no patience to speak of, she couldn't teach well (no one wanted to ask her questions though, because she'd yell at us for "not paying attention enough" or for "being retarded"). I started playing sick every monday just so I had to deal with her one day less. My mom caught on. I told her, and we went through the school system hard, even bringing the parents of my classmates into it. I believe we got her fired. A person like THAT shouldn't teach.

Your son's teacher either needs to go take a few courses on patience, communication and ADHD children (I myself have Adult ADD and am greatly appreciative when people are understanding). If he can not be taught to TEACH, like his job is supposed to be, then he should be forced to find a different career. Being a teacher isn't just standing in front of a class and talking, it is being able to work with each child as well to try to make sure they understand, and try to give them something to work with in the world to come.

Pam - posted on 01/31/2011

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Okay, everyone get a grip. Those of you calling for media coverage and suing and all that baloney have no idea of all the facts of the "incident." Ya know what...I don't either!!! But I happen to be aware of a bit and think some of this is a little over the top. You people are slandering other people you don't even know. It's one thing to support a mother with a problem, but don't presume to give advice about a situation of which you are ignorant. This mother is working things out here. She doesn't need any more inflammatory comments. It's one thing to give her support and appreciate her frustration, but a completely different thing to advocate to sue or file assault charges or any of that. Don't speak about what you don't know! There are always two sides to the story and sometimes the other side fills in some gaps and changes some perceptions given by the first side.

Bottom line, quit making this situation worse than it is!

Elizabeth - posted on 01/31/2011

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I wouldn't stop with the superintendent, I would contact all the school board members as well.

Therese - posted on 01/31/2011

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my son has ADHD too. (sometimes he has facial ticks) He has an IEP at school. ADHD is now allowed to be a diagnosis to to have your child in special ed. It is not like when I went to school. There are so many kids in it because of the ADHD. It gvies a little more resources than a 504. Yes, an IEP means that he is special ed but it lets him take more time for tests, have a separate room for tests and get individual help. And you are protected under the discrimination laws. look into this.

Shelly - posted on 01/31/2011

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I have one child with a 504 and another with an IEP and you would be amazed at what the school will do for him once you contact an advocate for special education.. Worked wonders for us.. Good Luck to you all

Susan - posted on 01/31/2011

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I had the teacher bully my daughter in school. Did not know it until the other students came and told me. This was in the early 80's. I took my daughter out of school and home schooled her. We were stationed in Germany, and told we could not do it, but we did anyway. It can be done, and it was the most rewarding thing that I did in my life. Hope that helps. There are people designated to help military people do this. Contact Home School Legal Defense, if you are interested.

Yesenia - posted on 01/31/2011

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This is the same thing that has happened to my son I hope we can get the same results


Indiana Teacher Fired for Duct Taping Kid's Mouth Shut
Friday, January 16, 2009


PrintShareThisLAFAYETTE, Ind. — A school board in Indiana has fired a middle school teacher who placed duct tape over a special-needs student's mouth to keep him from talking in class.

The board of Tippecanoe School Corp. voted Wednesday to cancel Pamela Dahnke's contract. She was an eighth-grade health and nutrition teacher at Battle Ground Middle School in West Lafayette.

Superintendent Scott Hanback says the September taping incident "cannot be tolerated."

The board also says Dahnke failed to implement the student's program for special needs and that she returned to the school after being told to leave.

The Journal & Courier of Lafayette reported Wednesday that Dahnke said she was unaware the board had made a decision. A call to a listing for Dahnke was not answered Friday.

Lori - posted on 01/31/2011

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He should be fired - no matter what the students personal situation is there is NEVER a reason for something like that! I live in TX and they do still have spankings in some schools but taping a students mouth like that would NEVER be tollerated... I hope your son gets the satisfaction of an appology, in front of the class, and seeing vengence. What kind of example is that teacher setting for the rest of the class - and at their ages those kids will think this is okay to behave this way.

Yesenia - posted on 01/31/2011

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Mrs. Kirby thank you for your reply, I have spoken to lawyer and we shall see. He is still in school just not in science class.He is taking an online course. Since I have spoken to a lawyer I am hoping things are going to start turning around for me. Plus I did find another case the same as mine in Indiana where the teacher did the same thing and she got fired. So I know it just a matter of time.

Shelly - posted on 01/31/2011

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I'm am truely sadden that this has happen to your son. If it were me I would take Duct Tape back into the Superintendants office and politely asked him to let you DT his mouth for 45 mins? His response would be of course absolutely not! Then I would ask him if he minded you doing it to the teacher that did it to your son during the same science class.. Of course that answer willbe no also.. But this is where you will get them when they say NO! Ask them why it only seems fair for the kids and your Son to see this see what they say start taking a voice recorder with you set it on the table and let them know you would like to record the talks from here on out.. They expect you to do nothing after they tell
You there's nothing they can do.. But I would be in that office everyday until something was done. Otherwise you will take it to the news & hire an attorney. This teacher not only assaulted and humiliated your son in front of his peers but he also used intimidation, force and subdued your child. That is illegal and is a punishable crime. With a 504 their should be an advocate that you can also get thatthe school system supplies. And I would put himback in school you taking him out is not only bad for your son but the school won they got the kid they labeled as a problem out of their school. Now their problems solved;( Sad

Lori - posted on 01/31/2011

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So what are they gonna do wait till this moronic teacher uses corporal punishment? I would find an ADD/ADHD advocate or contact the american civil liberties union, ADD/ADHA is catagorized as a disability and he is abusing a diabled person... God forbid your child had hyperventaled from the trauma or been alergic to that tape!

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That's abuse! Go to the board of Ed and have that teacher fired! I don't care how bad any kid is, teachers need to keep their hands to themselves!

NuLuv - posted on 01/31/2011

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Sorry to hear about your troubles Yesenia. Unfortunately, adults bullies do exist, and they are the worst of the 'real bad'. I say...If possible, take it to the court of public opinion. Speak with a local news report/agent and see if they are willing to investigate and air it. The news media is a very powerful force. Take good care!

Amy - posted on 01/31/2011

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I'm curious as to whether this is a school on base or if this is a local school. If this is on base, then the entire school, administration and teachers, are subject to US (I assume you are from the US) laws. And duct tape over a child's mouth is most definitely abuse. Do that here and your child would be taken from you.

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I don't know if your son is on medication, or how you feel about it, but my 8 yr old is diagnosed ADHD the combined type (lack of focus, and hyperactivity). I was hell bent on not putting him on medication because I thought it would have side affects and you hear about all types of negetivity surrounding all the medications for this condition, but I started realizing through his therapy and through constant evaluation on my part as his parent, that his condition was making it very hard for him to get the grades he deserved, and it was affecting his self esteem greatly in a negetive manner. He felt he wasn't as good as the other students, etc. And it also didn't help that he was constantly hearing negetive things all day long, such as, "sit still, stop doing that, quiet down, get back in your seat!" Hearing that for almost 8 hrs a day is wearing on a child. I finally decided to give in and see if the medication would help with school and his self esteem, and I have to say it truly has. His grades have improved significantly, his teacher no longer has to remind him constantly to sit still and focus, and he feels so much more confident in his grades and in himself. The therapist went for a class evaluation and was impressed with how much better he was performing in his class discussions and noticed how from one year to the next he went from being to himself because of lack of focussing and not being able to concentrate enough to participate, to being confident enough to raise his hand 5 times in an hour and only getting one answer wrong and not once did he impulsively get up to walk around during classroom discussions, and interrupting other students. He has a long way to go still, but is doing so much better, than before and I see it. He used to do h.w. for three or more hrs every night, and now sometimes he is able to get all his work done with enough time to do his h.w. during his free time and comes home without h.w. It's a huge difference. He wouldn't have been able to do it without the help of the medication. My son's therapist put it this way... If you're child had asthma, and was having an asthma attack, you wouldn't deprive them of the inhaler they need to help them breathe, would you? It is a condition which needs treatment, just like asthma does. I'm not saying that it was ok for what the teacher, did and I am truly sorry nothing more has been done to correct his actions, and I will pray for you your family and especially your son for going through this, it's not fair for him to have endured being singled out in that manner. It is abuse, bottom line! And especially if there is a 504 plan in place, they should've reprimanded him more. I can't believe the run around you've been given and how much they are allowing your son to be singled out is definitely messed up. I will continue praying for you all, and I hope someone finally does something to assist you. Good luck and God bless.

Lori - posted on 01/31/2011

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I would call the news, a local TV station to bring it to light would put pressure on the school. Also talk to the other parents and see if he's done this before.
I would be outraged too and I think your right to have your son placed in another class and I can't believe the principal isnt taking action let alone the school board.
Depending on where you or dad work you may have an employee assistance program and they can get you a free consultation with an lawyer. It's worth a shot - your sone should not have had to endure that!

Ruth - posted on 01/31/2011

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talk to your son and maybe he could possibly go back to school and put it behind him. Talk to the teacher and tell him if there is any problem to call u and u will be there right away. I know this is horrible for your son and yourself. My daughter also has adhd and has a hard time but maybe, just maybe the teacher understands that behavior is wrong. You could then speak to your son daily and make sure everything is well. Is he on Meds for adhd because concerta works well for my daughter.. best of luck..

Trisha - posted on 01/31/2011

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Perhaps you could teach your son a quiet way of getting back on focus - I have no great suggestion for what to do about the teacher - but you might consider that - depending how many times and the volume of your sons whistling - he maybe driving more than just the teacher nuts. I have noticed most of the replies here are outrage and haven't really addresed the problem - which is your son is creating a distrubance in the classroom - while this in no way condones the teacher actions - you should address the fact the other 29 kids in the classroom also have a right to concentrate and be focused on their work. Again teach him a quiet way to get back on task - in the long run this will create a more peaceful classroom and a lot less ridicule for your son. Because as the Mom of an now adult, disabled child - the kids are going to pick on the obvious traits that stand out. Your child should be allowed back in the class with the understanding the teacher now understand the problem - will take a time out himself - if he gets overwrought and you will teach your son a quiet way. Really put the end of the world stuff away and address the problem,

Marianne - posted on 01/31/2011

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This really is more of a child abuse issue and I cannot believe that the police were not called.If we woulddo such a thing as parent we would be in jail. I suggest that you have the diagnosing doctor write a staement about what the cjild may do from a medical and psychological perspective and provide his opinion to the school. Shame on any teacher who does not work with the child and the family to look for alterneatives and be supportive of the child.

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