My son was bullied at school by his teacher

Yesenia - posted on 01/19/2011 ( 387 moms have responded )

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Hello moms ok need some support. My 12 year child was bullied by his teacher. My son has ADD/ADHD and has a need to whistle to focus.Sometimes he does it and does not know he is. Any how his teacher got upset at this habit and placed DUCT TAPE on his mouth in front of all his classmates and for 45 minutes of the class. My son was embrassed and he could not breath properly. I went to the principle and confronted teacher and he tried lying about incident. My son was brought in and then the teacher confessed. The teacher still works at this school and we have taken it to Super Intendent and nothing elese will be done. He will be allowed to stay teaching. My son now has to do science alone without his classmates because I refuse to put him in this classroom enviroment with this man. What elese can I do any legal advice out there. Oh and we are a military family overseas. Please any help.

Let me add we have been to the security forces and family advocate offices and they say it does not warrant as a crime.

A very sad mom :(

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Trisha - posted on 01/31/2011

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Perhaps you could teach your son a quiet way of getting back on focus - I have no great suggestion for what to do about the teacher - but you might consider that - depending how many times and the volume of your sons whistling - he maybe driving more than just the teacher nuts. I have noticed most of the replies here are outrage and haven't really addresed the problem - which is your son is creating a distrubance in the classroom - while this in no way condones the teacher actions - you should address the fact the other 29 kids in the classroom also have a right to concentrate and be focused on their work. Again teach him a quiet way to get back on task - in the long run this will create a more peaceful classroom and a lot less ridicule for your son. Because as the Mom of an now adult, disabled child - the kids are going to pick on the obvious traits that stand out. Your child should be allowed back in the class with the understanding the teacher now understand the problem - will take a time out himself - if he gets overwrought and you will teach your son a quiet way. Really put the end of the world stuff away and address the problem,

Marianne - posted on 01/31/2011

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This really is more of a child abuse issue and I cannot believe that the police were not called.If we woulddo such a thing as parent we would be in jail. I suggest that you have the diagnosing doctor write a staement about what the cjild may do from a medical and psychological perspective and provide his opinion to the school. Shame on any teacher who does not work with the child and the family to look for alterneatives and be supportive of the child.

Maria - posted on 01/31/2011

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Wow that is horrible! I don't have any legal advice except to push it w/ the supper intendant. Talk to other parents and see if he has a history of bullying students. You can also tell the parents your story and try and get a patiton started. The school can not ignore many parents being upset by it. Also if you really want to push it go to the media ... and start big go to one of the major national news outlets.
that teachers behavior is completely unexceptionable and that is abuse! Pleas treat it that way!

Megan - posted on 01/31/2011

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Well , I know that you are very upset about the situation and I won't want your son to be hurt for anything in the world . But taking your son out of the class now means you can't get this teacher in the act doing this again. A friend of mine was dealing with a teacher using foul language and being rude to her daughter . So my friend instructed her daughter to bring in her cell phone to video the teacher while she was making fun of her or swearing at her. The teacher is on a leave from school . They are calling it ("Stress Leave").

Nancy - posted on 01/31/2011

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The teacher was out of line and I can understand how upset you must be. However, at the end of the day, will it really be worth the battle that is before you if you take it any further? Sometimes, all we can do is forgive and move on but I'm not saying that's easy as I understand the challenge of ADHD, and as a childrens worker/teacher, I understand how hard it is for teachers sometimes too. I'd put your son back into the class but if here are any further incidents, then carefully document the evidence and maybe fight it then.

Annabel - posted on 01/31/2011

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I think this is shocking. My son has Moderate ASD and he attends a unit for children with learning difficulties, they are a fab unit and everyone is happy and works together really well. I think the advice you have been given so far sound's really good... A course for the teacher is a great idea and you could even visit the NAS website www.autism.org.uk and see if they have any contacts in your area. They may be able to advise a local course "understanding ADD/ADHD. I really hope you find something because this attitude just aint right.

Wendy - posted on 01/31/2011

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The school does have a duty care to your son and he has been emotionally abused by this teacher. Can't say much more because i am in Australia and over here you can sue t he school for breach of their duty of care and also t he teacher over here would be stood down and sacked

Hayley - posted on 01/31/2011

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Froget *Local* media. Call bleeping CNN, Fox, MSNBC. Call the stateside media. Make it heard HERE and it WILL be heard loudly EVERYWHERE.

Carmel - posted on 01/31/2011

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In this day and age these teachers should have to do courses in how 2 deal with children with ADD/ADHD i sympathize with you my daughter has ADHD and had a lot of problems in school so i no were your cumming from.good luck with it things will turn out fine

Anne - posted on 01/31/2011

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A hand is not a weapon either, but laying your hand on some-one can be classed as assault. This man assaulted your son, and should be charged. Don't fight it within the school system. They all stick together.

Ashley - posted on 01/30/2011

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I think you should duct tape the teacher. If its not a crime for him to do it to your son then it shouldn't be a crime to give him a piece of his own medicine.

Lucy - posted on 01/30/2011

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You have done just about everything humanly possible to see that justice was done. Your son knows you love and support him. What the teacher has done is known as wilfull and malicious humiliation. You have a case for pain and suffering, mental anguish, and if the tape damaged his skin when it was pulled off, personal injury. Get a better lawyer and ignore what the military personnel tell you. They just want to intimidate you into forgetting the whole thing. Don't stand down. This is criminal, and he will do it again. As for the teacher giving him the "SHAMEFUL" slips, I would advocate going to her and let her know that a lawsuit may be pending with this other teacher and if she would also like to be a co-defendant in that lawsuit, then by all means, keep humiliating your child. You are not going to stand for it. Do not give up. I had to have a teacher fired one year when my son was in the fifth grade. It took lots of phone calls, my personally supervising the the teacher in class while she taught (yeah, she really liked THAT a lot) and contacting the parents of every other child in the class to get more testimonials on this teacher's behavior to other children. You can do this if you keep going. Let these teachers know you mean business.

Freda - posted on 01/30/2011

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I am very sorry to hear about the pain your child has gone through...considering that you are overseas and their laws are different from ours...but you are under the protection of the American Embassy, I suggest you contact the local American Embassy and speak with an American consulant personnel and request to speak with him/her about the situation and ask for assistance. They will help you!

Mary Joe - posted on 01/30/2011

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I have worked for the American System overseas. That is long ago, but I do know that the real problem is the tape over the mouth. It is a danger to the child. That happened in a school where I was a Guidance Counselor. The child talked too much. I did not find out about it until the teacher left the school. No one reported it, not even the kids because they were so afraid of the teacher.
In my opinion you shoud find out the address of the hiring office in the United States. If they do not fire him, he should at least be transfered to another school, maybe in another country. If you have trouble finding the address I might can find out from a friend that is principal of a school in another country. I know most of the teachers work on a 2 year contract. They should have your complaint on file in the US. I am the wife of a retired Col. Best of luck.

Danielle - posted on 01/30/2011

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I would take him outta there and home school him. There are plenty of online charter schools.

Yesenia - posted on 01/30/2011

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Mrs. Mcdonnell I know for a fact that there is many parents who are unhappy about this teacher. I don't know why because I cannot have that information. Some parents have approached me and have only said that they are very unhappy with this teacher. Also,Mr. Ghannoum thank you for your reply I cannot change school,this is the only school for my child. We are waiting on some important phone call replies. We did contact our State Senator. We have also contacted some other important people as well.

Christine - posted on 01/30/2011

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it was not right but let your child learn with friends-it's one of those things

Maha - posted on 01/30/2011

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Hello, I am a counsellor in a secondary school in Jordan and I am responsible for students from 7-9 grades. And my main job is to stop bullying in the school, and I have to agree with u that in most cases the teachers are the bullies. Can u change the school of your son? If you can it would be better for all of you. From the beginning explain the case of your son to the teachers and first the principal and hear from them how they will respond to your son's case and be firm about not bullying him by anyone even other children. I really feel with u and your son but really I am with changing the school, your son deserves a nice safe place to learn and grow in.
Best regards
Maha Ghannoum

Heather - posted on 01/30/2011

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Have you contacted the mom's of the other students? There is often safety in numbers. I would ask them how they feel about the incident and ask what they would do if it happened to their child. If you get enough to rise to the occasion and all go in for a calm "chat" about what is going to be done about the matter, I think you might see more of a response. The last thing a base wants is unhappy wives. The men might be the head of the house, but the woman is the neck and an unhappy wife means an unhappy soldier...

Heather - posted on 01/29/2011

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The best thing to do is call the dept of labor and file a suit against the school and the individual! Best of luck to u all!

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Make a hotline call to the child abuse hotline if there is one. The school will be forced to do something then.

Yesenia - posted on 01/29/2011

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Mrs. Menge I am sorry if my comment seemed a little off. I am upset but of course not at you for sharing your comment I want to hear from everyone that is why I put it out here. I respect everyone and I know that not everyone will agree with me. That is the beauty of having a voice and learning to agree to disagree. My son will always remember this. I as a parent should feel safe enough to send my kids to school everyday with out having to worry if they will be physically or menatlly hurt. WHen you are working with children there is no room for SNAPPING. WHat if the outcome would of been worse. Like I said if he was dealing with this from day one he should of called me in for a PARENT meeting. Communicate with your parents. Today there is many ways to do that. A mistake is grading a paper wrong,maybe raising your voice at the kids, Placing TAPE on a child is far more than a mistake. Him being the only 7th grade teacher is not the problem,what he did and the school not removing him is the problem. What ever happened to communicating with the parents. I am a parent that will be there in a heart beat to be involved with my boys. I thank you for your reply and as said I want to hear from everyone even if you don't agree with me. GOd BLES YOU

Traci - posted on 01/29/2011

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First you need to take a breath and not get so defensive. You, as a mother, look at it subjectively. I am looking at it objectively. Teachers make mistakes all the times-we are human. Have I or will I ever do what this teacher did? Of course not. Am I more tolerant with my attention challenged student than other teachers I know? Yes (but less than others). This teachers deserves a form of reprimanding, training,etc.... but termination, in my opinion, is too permanent unless this is a pattern. It's tape, not a broken limb. If that were my daughter I would definitely want that teacher punished in some form and closely monitored but not fired (unless she were a horrible teacher to begin with). What you may not be aware of is that this teacher may have dealt with your son's whistling from day 1 and he just snapped. Yes, he should have notified you. He was wrong. The problem is that he's the only 7th grade teacher. I'm in a similar situation. I'm the only 2nd grade math/s.s./sci. who isn't in the gifted or dual language program at my school. If your child isn't strong in Spanish or gifted and you don't like me, well, you're kinda out of luck.

Speaking objectively (and as a mother who has yet to have a child hit school yet): not every teacher will work with you or your child, especially now that he has multiple teachers. If I were you, and I'm usually a very pro-active person, I would focus on my child and less on getting the teacher removed.

Yesenia - posted on 01/29/2011

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I am not fighting the fact about his 504 plan. I am fighting for what this teacher did to my son and the school did not REMOVE him from his position. No child with ADD or NOT should not be treated this way. I UNDERSTAND that whistling is an issue for many in class. IF TEACHER would of called me,emailed me,wrote me a note, I would of spoken to my son and corrected this problem. ONCE again this teacher had options.
1.send him to the office
2.called me
3.emailed me
4wrote me a note
I don't care of this teacher was having a BAD DAY,he should of stayed home. If he cannot handle children then he needs to change jobs.

Traci - posted on 01/29/2011

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Sorry for any errors! The iPad self-corrects and I can't scroll/edit once I've typed something.

Traci - posted on 01/29/2011

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Please be VERY CAREFUL who you listen to on this board. JANICE ASKEW stated that US tenured teachers cannot be fired and that is INNACURATE. Next, don't get ADHD, a medical condition, mixed up with ESE, learning challenges. Children who are ADHD get a 504 plan with modifications which are protected by federal laws, however, an ESE student receives an IEP and is stronger than a 504. During an assessment in Florida a child with a 504 gets extended time but the child with an IEP can get math problems read out loud to him or her.
How do I know one is stronger than the other? If a child is not placed in an ESE program the default step to take is to write a 504, not the other way around. In addition it takes a long time and is rather rigorous for children to get placed in most ESE programs. I have lots of experience with all of this and with tenuring/union contracts as well.

This is all in the US and you are abroad. I'm would think that if the school your child attends is run by the government/military they have a contract with the teachers and a set protocol. You also need to keep in mind that corporal punishment is NOT illegal everywhere. You can rant and rave to the press, etc...but you would only be harming your child in the long run. In the meantime I'd suggest a system to help your child and his future teachers cope with this issues. As harsh as this sounds your child does affect the learning of others and it really isn't fair to them to have to listen to his humming. Out of 37 student this yeari have 2 on medication (1 exhibits a mood disorder personality), 1 that is on it when he chooses to be and about 7 more that exhibit ADHD behaviors. One is ODD. Obviously I have my hands full!

Tiffany - posted on 01/29/2011

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Hi , so sorry to hear this but there are options. Depending where you live there is a school called k12. It is a virtual school. go to www.k12.com. I would be absolutely furious. If I did that as a parent it would be called child abuse. My son is ADHD and sometimes he hums and sings aloud but if a teacher ever did that to him, I'd report it to the news reporters. This is a story everyone should have an opinion on. Hope this was helpful.

Melissa - posted on 01/29/2011

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UGH! I just can't believe this! I am a teacher...and NEVER.. would I even THINK of doing this. I would be interested in the super's answer when asked how he would feel if it was HIS son who had the tape on his mouth...placed there by a HORRIBLE representaion of a "teacher"... again, I am left shaking my head .....I feel so sad for your family. Doing "nothing" in itself creates another problem for this school.... which child will be next? This "teacher" and his actions make my stomach flip-flop...I can just imagine what you feel...don't let this go!!!!! Totally WRONG!!!!

Devon - posted on 01/28/2011

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That just blew me away reading that. I would be so upset if i were you also. All i can say is fight, fight, fight. that is the only way something will happen. don't give up, try to even sue them if you have to. stay strong and brave. that is child abuse in my opinion and no teacher should be putting anything on a child's body. My two girls have ADHD, so i know what your going through, but all the teachers that they have had have been really nice and tolerent. Good luck and i hope you get some kind of help!!

Janice - posted on 01/28/2011

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I haven't read all 304 responses to your situation. I don't know if the laws are different in your country, but I do know that in the US, teachers cannot be "fired" if they have tenure. While he may have been disciplined, the superintendent nor the board are allowed to discuss the details because his privacy is protected. However, you have already made others aware of the situation, so other parents will be watchful and the principal and administration will also be watching him more closely. While he may not have been fired, you really don't know if his teaching situation is a good one. There are also teacher unions that protect him. So, you can go to social service, but I doubt there's much they can do. I know it's not fair, but that's the way the cookie crumbles sometimes. I hope you can find relief in knowing that others are watching that dude like a hawk. By the way, most teachers have better sense than to put anything physical on a child. If there's a distraction, and your son has documented evidence that he has ADD/ADHD, then he can receive accommodations. The Special Ed department needs to be involved in this. Maybe they can also work with making sure that the teacher does not treat others with exceptionalities like he did your son.

Julie - posted on 01/28/2011

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Yeah I don't know. My daughter got duct taped into her desk when she was in 1st grade because she used to get up and go talk to other kids in the class when she was bored. That was in Butte, Montana. Another daughter had a 6th grade teacher that used to call the kids retards and tell the girls to not sit on the bar on the playground because they were too fat and would break it. He also refused to give the kids any help with math and posted their test scores on the wall for everyone to see. When I told the principal the grades had mysteriously disappeared off the wall. The principal came in to observe him, but of course he was on his best behavior. I just know I will make sure that none of my other children ever have him as a teacher. At the middle school my daughter had a teacher that accused her of kneeing a boy in the crotch even though the boy said my daughter didn't. She grabbed my daughter's shoulders and shoved her up against the wall and yelled at her then gave her a referral. If my daughter was goofing off and deserved the referral so be it. Then the next day she was badmouthing my daughter to her math teacher. She was also sharing information about my daughter that I had shared privately with her trying to discredit my daughter with other teachers in the school. Her English teacher heard and reprimanded the Utah Studies teacher and said she knew the whole story and that Susan had been given a referral and that should be the end of it. The next year they put my daughter in this woman's U.S. History class. We had other issues with her talking politics to the kids and giving inappropriate homework assignments to the kids that had nothing to do with Utah Studies. So I called and left a lengthy message for the school counselor saying why I didn't want my daughter to have this woman as a teacher ever again and the counselor called and said they rearranged my daughter's schedule and put her in another teacher's U.S. History class. There is a teacher at our children's high school that came right out and told me at parent teacher conference that he didn't care whether the kids learned anything or not. I will also make sure none of my kids have him for World Civilizations. Unfortunately it's been my experience that it's really hard to get rid of a bad teacher if they have tenure unless they do something REALLY bad. Of course it doesn't mean you have to make your son stay in a class with a bad teacher. Insist he get a new teacher and spread the word to everyone you know about this teacher. If enough parents don't want him maybe he'll be forced to go elsewhere.

Yesenia - posted on 01/28/2011

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Mrs. Sims thank you for your kind words. I must say that there is no EXCUSE for what this teacher did to my son. If he was having a bad day thenhe should of not come in to work. If he was having an emotional day he should of not come in to work. The teachers are aware that this not acceptable.They have a policy that they must follow. In that policy it clearly states harrasment will NOT be tolerated!. This was more than a Mistake. If someone came and threated your child would you stand there and say oh thats ok it was a mistake but you can still stay around my child and I will just have hope you don't do it again or perhaps worse. Mrs. Sims I can replace many things but to take that chance of something elese occuring to my son or other is not one I want to take. My husband is HONORABLE man and he would never do such a thing. There is alotof concern regarding this teacher not only my own,now I don't know what because thats information I cannot have. I have had some parents tell me they have their concerns. My son is a brillant child. ADD/HD children are very brillant children. I agree with you he can never undo what he did to my son.My son now has to deal with this forever. This man had many options I don't care how bad was.. He did wrong and he needs to find a different type of job where he does not deal with children. I thank you for your ideas and kind words.

Marie - posted on 01/28/2011

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The teacher did something REALLY stupid and I agree, ABUSIVE. That said, the teacher's comment of "not usually" could very well mean that this is the first time, so since he can no longer say "never" he said "not usually". His lying about it, then admitting it when confronted may very well be due to knowing that what he did was wrong and wanting to make it go away. Have you ever made a mistake, and wished you could go back and not do what you did wrong? He can't undo what he did to your son, but he may regret it completely, and never do it to anyone else again. This incident will be on his file, so if he is an habitually abusive person, there will not be a doubt in the future if another incident arises. But if he is NOT normally abusive... just think if there were extenuating circumstances that fueled his inappropriate behavior (like hearing news of the death of a loved one, receiving the wrong dosage of a medication from a pharmacist, or insert any circumstance that you feel would leave you either physically or emotionally "not your normal self")... could you find it in your heart to forgive him?



Of course forgiveness does not mean I would put my son back in the control of a person who had previously abused him. But it does mean I would not try to take away his livelihood. Would you want your husband fired because he made a mistake? Reprimanded and disciplined- Yes. Sound's like this has already been done.



Things I would be looking for:

1. Formal, Written letter of apology from the teacher and the school.

2. Incident be cited in the teacher's permanent file, and teacher be put on probation. (you may have to trust the principal that this has been done as they are probably not legally able to show you)

3. Teacher transferred to a different military base and a different Science teacher brought to your base, so that your son can go to school without having to face his abuser every day.

4. Training for ALL teachers at the school on unacceptable forms of punishment (there may be more than these two who need it).



This gives a clear statement that bullying by teachers is NOT acceptable, but also allows for the possibility that this was an extreme error in judgment, not malicious, habitual behavior (by the first teacher). If the 2nd teacher is acting repeatedly, you should take it to the principal repeatedly, and ask the principal if he finds it to be appropriate or inappropriate, so that you know where the school stands on this teacher's behavior, and can proceed in that knowledge.



It is very sad that none of the channels you've gone to are offering any help. So here's a suggestion that I haven't noticed in the posts (I admit I didn't read them all, so forgive me if someone did suggest this)... Have you talked to other parents of students at the school, and specifically of the science teacher? Have you asked them "how would you feel if your child's mouth was duct taped shut in Mr. "Science's" class for 45 minutes and your child was having trouble breathing?" If the school won't move the teacher elsewhere based on your One voice, perhaps concerns from all of the parent's of this teacher's students would have an impact. If no one wants to allow their child to be put in a potentially abusive situation, the school may be forced to action. And do they have Parent Teacher Associations at Military base schools? That may be another avenue to explore for help.



Finally, that you son endured this for 45 minutes indicates that he is a good kid, who didn't think to question the authority of his teacher. If your son was a disciplinary problem, he would have removed the tape or left the room long before that. Another indication that the duct tape was over the top.

Susie - posted on 01/28/2011

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Wow! that is disgusting! I don't know where you are posted,but I think ,if that happened here in Australia,the teacher would be fired,from his,or her job for improper conduct.Obviously,your son's school,has no help,for children who are special needs and the teacher in question,has no training to deal appropriately,with your child's condition.Your son can not help his behavioural issues and if you had informed the school of your son's ADD/ADHD,on enrolment,then the school and the teachers,should have been prepared,to deal with this appropriately.Duct taping your son's mouth closed for 45 mins,was cruel and was something,that may have been done 20 or so years ago,without reprecussions,but I believe,that today,it would be considered completely out of line,unless the country you are residing in,is somewhat backward.If the school will not deal with this issue,in a professional manner,then I think you should contact a department,that governs the teaching/schools,within the area you are living.If the school and the offices,that should be helping you,with this issue,will not,then take it above their heads.

Krista - posted on 01/28/2011

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Yesenia, you have GOT to get yourself a lawyer before this gets out of hand. If they're accusing you of slander, you have got to protect yourself.

Dawn - posted on 01/28/2011

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I am so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time trying to protect your Child. Have you tried going to (I hope I'm spelling it correctly) Amnasety International? Or an org. like that?

Yesenia - posted on 01/28/2011

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I have been accused of slander! wow they are more focused on what comments I am posting than the real issue here MY SON! I found out today that my blog post have been emailed around base to many. Wow amazing!

Dawn - posted on 01/28/2011

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An other thought came to mind. What about going to an ADD/ADHD advacacy group? Maybe they could help or give advise.

Dawn - posted on 01/28/2011

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If YOU put the duct tape over his mouth Social Services would be there in a flash. This "Teacher" needs to be called out for this! IF this "Teacher" wasn't made aware that your Son has ADD/ADHD, then sadly I don't think that there is much you can do legally. The only thing that you could do is to be a thorn in his side till he quits. Talk to the PTA/PTO.
If this "Teacher" knew of your Son's difficulty, then I think you could seek legal action/advice.
A Teacher......a GOOD Teacher is supose to be on top of his class and not let things get to him. He should have redirected the situtaion for all concearned (sp). and NOT humiliate an innocent 12 yr old who was only doing what he knew worked for him.
Man that makes me soooo angry!!!!!
I hope that you get satisfaction for this and your Son knows that he didn't do anything wrong.

Faith - posted on 01/28/2011

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This sounds like a SAFETY and HEALTH issue to me, lack of airway? Lack of oxygen to the brain? Possible health hazard!! I hope you reported it to the community police department. The school did not place an emphasis on this matter by expelling this teacher. There needs to be a better understanding of ADD/ADHD.

Jen - posted on 01/28/2011

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I can't really help as I don't have kids in school but I'd start by looking for a new school asap!! Get him out of there.

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I know that if I had my child in the care of a nanny, daycare or babysitter and found out they duct tapped my son's mouth for even a minute or two, I would press charges....that is the attitude you have to go to the police with..."I want to press charges against this person"....I know it is tough to think about doing anything towards the school because you would be creating a hostile environment for your child to return to, but I would certainly go to the school board about this teacher's behavior and if they find that type of behavior acceptable, I would pull my son from the school and find a private school, private tutor/teacher or home school my child until I moved. I know there are certain issues you are dealing with because you are overseas...but abuse of any kind needs to not be overlooked as it was for many years, especially in the military...it is when people stand up for what is right and fight for it in some instances, that change begins to happen. Fight for your son's rights...he and those that will follow need you to be strong and help insight change of this totally unacceptable behavior...a teacher should be kind, understanding and compassionate...that's what teachers are...they teach our children and our children learn from them!
I associate duct tape with kidnapping and murder...I agree with someone earlier that said it is no different than a plastic bag or even being tied up...if this teacher could not handle your sons ADD/AHD antics he should have spoken to an administrator or the principle and worked out the issue rather than maifesting his reaction to it by physically taping his mouth shut...would he have done the same to a child with tourette's syndrome???? For the life of me...I would love to have workds with this man that calls himself a teacher....he would be rethinking his career choices when I was through with him!!!
Best of luck to you and remember it is always allright to fight for the right thing!

Tracey - posted on 01/28/2011

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If all else fails contact the human right, they have a area which looks after the children's right worldwide. Nobody needs to be treated that way.

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Pamela, I'm a teacher too and NOTHING justifies taping a child's mouth shut for 45 minutes whether he is special needs or not. The fact that you can say this situation is justified makes me question you as a teacher. There is NO justification for a child's mouth being taped shut and being allowed to be tortured by his classmates. Shame on you for saying the child is taking this personally. This isn't a passing comment taken the wrong way.

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"If the answer is 'no', then the teacher's actions can be justified."



@ Pamela - I don't care where you've been or what you've done or where you've taught but for you to make a statement like that, you must be out of your mind. And it doesn't make me any more confident about the school system.



She lives on a US military base!

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