My son was bullied at school by his teacher

Valerie - posted on 01/23/2011

I refuse to hear "you're at a stand still." There has got to be someone or something you can do. Never take NO for an answer. Keep going. Write to someone stateside that knows this information and may be able to give you advice as to who or where to go for the help you so desperately need! Government or not, they just don't want any "red marks" on them! Keep fighting it until you win. Remember, be like a mother bear if your cub was injured or neglected or abused you'd attack without backing down or accepting no. Don't do that. There HAS GOT to be a way!!!! Fight and keep fighting until you win! I will pray for you and your son.

Valerie - posted on 01/23/2011

That is HORRID!!!!! My 6 year old son is going through similar problems with his school. I would press charges against the teacher for abuse with the Superintendent of Schools and if he/she doesn't listen go to the Police!
My son's pediatrician (former now, with a pending lawsuit due to his neglegence) refused to do blood work I BEGGED for 2 years ago when I noticed my son got chubby as always before his growth spurt and did NOT lose the weight and his attitude was ever so slightly off. The pediatrician told me there is NO blood work that can be done on a child for chemical imbalances and such until he's a teenager! Well we went through (pardon the expression) hell and back, he's now seeing a psychiatrist, has been hospitalized for behavioral health and on a boat load of medications for "bi-polar disorder" and they (pediatrician AND psychiatrist) NEVER did blood work to check his levels. These are meds that can KILL my son if not monitored closely. Well, a friend of mine is a nurse and sent me to a different pediatrician. Thank God Almighty I went too. HE did the blood work I begged for and found out (not w/the meds it made it worse) that my son's thyroid is slow! I checked out the signs and symptoms of this disease and found out that all this could've been prevented 2 years ago.
As for the school (sorry to get off the subject for a bit, but I had to give you a back ground): Now the Child Study Team has done a HUGE battery of testing on my son, I'm YET to receive all the conclusions/reports as they indicated I would get within a week of finishing. It's now been 2+ weeks! I don't get calls answered. Also, his teacher started my son's violent outbursts because he would get in trouble and he was SUSPENDED twice for........laughing! Yes, laughing. He was 5 and in a new school that is huge, has hundreds of kids, new teachers, new everything. His world was flipped upside down. He was trying to make friends by laughing. The first few months or even the 1st year (Kindergarten) is the HARDEST year for kids to be serious. The school told me that his behavior was "abnormal and distruptive" so they suspended him. When he came back after the 2nd time, he was suspended the very next day for violent outburst because the teacher would single him out, humiliate him in front of his "new" friends and it made him extremely angry. Then the school decided to suspende him indefinately with a tutor that comes to our home every day for 2 hours a day. He does so well and does ALL his work in just over an hour. So the next 45+ minutes the tutor found some great websites that teach (I bookmarked them). My son and I were told by 2 psychiatrists that he knows more than the average 7 year old knows. He's a very intelligent child. So when he is finished with his work and the other children are stuggling to finish their's, what's the harm in letting my son draw a picture until the rest of the class is finished with the work and/or project they're working on? As for gym class, rather than helping him stretch (he has weakness in his left leg. He can't sit indian style or as the school calls it, Chris cross applesause, nor can he hop on that leg) they make him sit on a chair. Then they call DYFS on me for using Tobasco sauce on the tip of his tongue (as I was told to do by a COP, Marine, and a friend that worked for a Nanny service that told her the same thing). It was unfounded, thank God and DYFS was VERY angry that such a ridiculous call was placed.
I am now going to contact a Medical Malpractic Lawyer (that will also go after the school as well) for neglect as all this & the school's "labeling" him as a troubled child) and write to the AMA as well regarding what the pediatrician did not do and what he told me. As well as the psychiatrist (which he never needed in the 1st place if the blood work had been done when I asked) for not doing bloodwork weekly while attending the "Out-patient" Intensive Therapy and Care Program for 2 weeks.
Go to your authorities a file a complaint. There is NO WAY that can be legal. A friend of mine is a teacher now in NJ (where I am) and said the same thing. Pysical anything is innapropriate and what you've said is not just inappropriate, but it's harmful as he was having difficulty breathing and that boarders on abuse if not full blown abuse. Press charges and don't give up if they tell you nothing can be done!!! That's BS. In any country, something can and will be done. Just don't give up. Keep going until you get results.
Good luck and I pray to God ou get the help you so desperately need and that, that.......teacher get's what's coming to him!

Linda - posted on 01/23/2011

Where exactly are you located? Is it a school on the militery base? If so, dont they have to follow USA laws? I was a teacher and would have lost my job by doing this especially if he has a 504......do you have any area educational resourses to contact? Some not all but some teachers teaching over seas are those that didnt cut it in the US....please continue to fight for your child's rights!

Yesenia - posted on 01/22/2011

I want to thank everyone for thier kind words and support. We will be taking him to counseling. The Family support center has offered to give him council. I am just shocked on how this is not a CRIME. This is the coming from the Military people. I have asked a relative of mine who works in radio to post the question to her listenters. "IS putting duck tape on a child a crime or a social issue"? I want to see what kind of response we will get and maybe it will get someone's attention and will give us some help.

Sneaky - posted on 01/21/2011

Is it possible for your husband to request a transfer? I know that might mess up whatever plans your family had for the immediate future, but it might just be worth it to keep your son safe.

Try to get him into counseling ASAP when you get stateside again. He was abused by a teacher and no one has done anything - he will need support and guidance to get past this. YES! I do know that you are doing your absolute best to help him, and I am sure that he knows that, the horrible fact is that so far your hands have been tied so you son is going to feel really let down (not by YOU, by society).

Turkey does seem to have 'different' views on child abuse, but if this is a military school then it should be under military jurisdiction.

I hope you get some resolution for your family soon. I am so sorry about what your son went through :o(

Stephanie - posted on 01/21/2011

Ah sorry! I didn't see that someone already mention going to the media. : )

Stephanie - posted on 01/21/2011

OMG how awful! If this had happened in the United States you could have filed charges for abuse of a child against this teacher. It is definitely 100% assault, physical as well as emotional, and can be devistating to your child's self esteem and cause a regression in his behavior. The whole school sounds horrible! I hope your husband can get a transfer soon so you can move on to a new area and hopefully a new country as well.
Since the law, military law, school board, social services and everyone else has chosen to down play this and not do anything the only thing I can think to do and bring attention to the horrific incident is to go to the media. Call the local newspaper and tv news stations and tell them your story and see if they will do a story on it. At the very least something like that might shame them enough to not do it again.

Yesenia - posted on 01/21/2011

We are military and we have been told that this is not consered a crime. Thats it is a social issue. The police here does not think its a crime. Family services has also said to us that they cannot help us. The school we have been all the way up to the Super Intendent. We had a meeting yesterday with principle again because my child has been bullied again but by another teacher but this time verbally. She stated that she is still working on both cases. Well the teachers are still there. Going to the media would help but see my husnand could get into alot of trouble of his wife (ME) caused any ripples in the water needs to say waves. SO I have been placed in an area where I just have to pray someone does here my story and helps us. We have called our congressman and we are now writing the complaint down. I do not understand how this act is not a crime.

Sarah - posted on 01/21/2011

How inappropriate! I would consult the police department. Depending on laws where you live, this could be considered assault, in the very least, it is battery (touch without consent). I would also continue to call the school board. If you don't get any reply, consider going through the media to get some action.

Nadine - posted on 01/21/2011

report it to grovement of schooling or call the police

Kalistae - posted on 01/20/2011

I have read through all of these posts, and while my two cents might not help - there might be something that points you in a right direction. http://www.dodea.edu/home/dodea.cfm?gnav...

Yesenia - posted on 01/20/2011

Another update,Ihave gone to the defense law office today and I finally got some type of hope. They are going to look into the matter and try to help me as much as possible. Thank you for everyone for your prayers and support. At least I have some hope and hopefully get some results.

Yesenia - posted on 01/20/2011

Hello everyone thank you for your suppport. Okay we are stationed in Turkey. I just came back from legal office and I was told because I am filing a civil suit against goverment they cannot help me. I am at a stand still now. I am overseas and have no help. I do not know where elese to go. I will call my congressman and see what response I get from there. I thank all of you for your response as this has helped me not feel like I am the only one who feels as this is wrong. Also I wish we could pull my son out and transfer but we cannot. This is the only school on this base. The only option would be for me to take all my kids and go back statside without my husband. That is something I refuse to do we are a family and should not have to split our family up. I am really feeling like I have been let down.

Lisa - posted on 01/19/2011

Yesenia - Your story is heartbreaking. If it were me, I would be pulling my child out of school and homeschooling, notifying the school board in writing why my child was being pulled from school.
Another thought I just had was that if you don't get anywhere with a military lawyer, to try writing letters to congressmen and women about your story.

Sneaky - posted on 01/19/2011

Which country are you in Yesenia?

Cyndi - posted on 01/19/2011

Have you considered contacting your local law enforcement? Placing duct tape over your child's mouth sounds like an illegal act to me. It's the type of tactic used in POW camps or kidnapping not to mention how embarrassed your child must be. I would ask my local Sheriff or Police Chief and find out if I could press assault charges then address the board of education. This is NOT the kind of teacher or children need.

Alejandra - posted on 01/19/2011

Truly I would transfer my Child. Also If the school system won't do anything about it I would take a personal case up against him.



Here. http://www.care2.com/causes/civil-rights...



This isn't something I would just let slide by because it feel's like nothing is going to happen. It's something that can effect your child's entire school career.



Maybe Contact the ADHD Association and seek their advice on what they would do as well.



http://www.adhdsupport.com/

http://www.add.org/

http://www.chadd.org/



I know you probably know about these i would write to them about it though...

Yesenia - posted on 01/19/2011

Yes he is under a 504 plan and we really fought on that one last year because a teacher did not want to follow the plan. Any how we have been told that we need a local attorney but we cannot do that where we are. I am still on the phone speaking to other lawyers and tomorrow we will be seeing the military lawyer as well. I know that state side this would of been resolved. I dont have the same resources here not even a local media. So anyone please feel free to spread the word for us here. We can use any help at this point. My son came home today with a slip of paper stating this "Please allow me to walk SHAMEFULLY to the lunch room for dentention"

This is was given yet by another teacher that was placing fear in her class and I reported it and now my son is getting treated like this by her. This is another teacher now also doing the bullying.

JuLeah - posted on 01/19/2011

Is your son on a 504 plan? This is not exactly special ed, but offers him legal protection. If he needs to whistle, walk around, take a break .... needs longer time for tests or assignments ..... this would offer him that - it would be designed to fit his needs. You are on the right path here, but don't give up. The last thing your son needs is social isolation. The teacher needs to change, not your son. Take this to the next level - hire an attorney (schools hate that word and just the use of it can open doors) this teacher needs an education --- ohhh wait, you are overseas? Just read that part - depends on the country maybe and if they honor laws of the child's home country. I'd still call an attorney and make a fuss .... bummer, in this country he would have legal protection under the law.

Christy - posted on 01/19/2011

Can you take it to the local news? You would be amazed how quickly things get done when a report is done. See about an attorney through the military, too.

Crystal - posted on 01/19/2011

I would SUE the school and teacher that is child abuse!!!!!

Yesenia - posted on 01/19/2011

Lisa I agree I am very upset that it is not being handled the way it should of been. I am seeking legal advice tomorrow but I know that because its through the AirForce legal dept. I will not get anywhere. I have been trying to get a lawyer stateside but no dice so far. If anyone knows of a Lawyer I can contact please let me know. I can use all the support and help we can get. Thank you for the prayers.I will post tomorrow with updates on how my appt. went with legal.

Lisa - posted on 01/19/2011

I read through some of the other responses about the police stating they can't do anything because it's out of their area or its not warranted as being a crime. I'm sorry but that is BULLSH*T. Putting duct tape to a child's mouth where they can't breath normally is harressment, abuse, and assault.

It is comments and nonaction from agencies and individuals that are supposed to protect child that make it possible for children to be continually abused, neglected, and assaulted. I agree that it is time to contact a lawyer and seek legal help against the police dept, social services, and the school district! Best of luck and you and your family will be in my prayers!

Yesenia - posted on 01/19/2011

I asked the teacher and he could not respond to us at all. I am going to seek legal advice and its hard to that overseas and my husband being in the military makes that much harder. Please pray for us that we get the support we need. I was even thinking of letting the media know maybe this way I will get some support to have this man fired.

Lisa - posted on 01/19/2011

Contact the police and file child abuse against the school and the teacher!

Krista - posted on 01/19/2011

Yep, it's definitely time to lawyer up.

Bonnie - posted on 01/19/2011

Holy cow, that is ridiculous. That is definitely abuse. You should ask the teacher how he would feel if the same thing was done to him.

Kate CP - posted on 01/19/2011

I'd sue the hell out of them if criminal charges won't be brought. That IS abuse and it's wrong.

Yesenia - posted on 01/19/2011

I agree duct tape is a weapon indeed. I cannot file an report locally because of where we are stationed. Its a very sensitive place. The military police said that it was not warrant to be a crime. I am shocked and wonder why some kids flip out they way they do. Our children are not being protected. I am sadden this has happened,there was another teacher that also bullied the class and yet again I had to step in. SHe is now targeting my son as well and giving him slips of paper that say Please allow me to SHAMEFULLY walk over to the detention room. He has this almost everyday now since he spoke up about her meanful comments to the class.

Yesenia - posted on 01/19/2011

I have contacted both Services and Law enforcement and have been told that is out of thier area. Now services did offer to give my son counciling. I am going to go seek legal advice tomorrow and see what comes out of that.

Phyllis - posted on 01/19/2011

Being overseas, the laws may be different where you are now, but if possible, I would file an assault charge with the local authorities.

Iridescent - posted on 01/19/2011

Yesenia, duct tape is as much a weapon as a plastic bag put over his head. Neither is legal.

Yesenia - posted on 01/19/2011

Hello thank ou ladies. I have follwed the chain principle,the slo representive,and today the super Intendent. I was told that he was diciplined but they cannot give me information. This man has been teaching since incident. This teacher is the only 7 grade teacher so I pulled him out of class and now the school is paying for his online course. Its not faie that my child is missing out on a classroom enviroment due to him not being fired.. I will call Social services today and see what they tell me. The Super Intendent said to me today that Duck Tape is not a weapon. Can you believe that. I am fustrated and I hope we can get some answers soon.

Iridescent - posted on 01/19/2011

File a police report for abuse. And report it to social services.

Renae - posted on 01/19/2011

Find some legal advice. He can not be allowed to get away with this. What does the education department have to say about it? Can you file a police report for abuse?

Kim - posted on 01/19/2011

Have you thought about contacting someone in your husbands command? I would even speak to the police because that is abuse in my mind. I hope you get something done. I'm also a military wife overseas and I wouldn't be happy with the situation either.

Louise - posted on 01/19/2011

This is disgusting behaviour. Your son has been picked on and humiliated infront of his peers and he has to be taught alone. Not on this man should be removed from teaching this class allowing your son to continue to be part of the class. I am not saying that this teacher should be struck off but he should be put on a course on how to deal with ADHD at least so this never happens again. I would right a letter and give it to the headmaster and if nothing is done write to the local council and tell them to investigate and come up with a solution for all involved. Your son should not be punished and removed from class for something that is not his fault. I don't know where you stand legally so contact an ADHD charity and ask them I am sure they know of somebody who could give you free legal advice.