My son will turn 5 in April. He is still wearing a pull up to bed. We have tried a lot of different things to get him to quit wetting the bed. Any suggestions?

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Emma - posted on 01/13/2009

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i wouldnt worry about it my two middle sons were about six to six1/2 before they stopped wearing them and my daughter now is 4 and she is still wearing pull ups at night. they just stopped in there own time and im sure yours will too

Erica - posted on 01/13/2009

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I wouldn't worry about it too much myself.  My pediatrician told me that if my son was fully night time trained before he was 6 or 7 it would be great.  Also remember that every child is different.  Watch how much he drinks close to bedtime.  We have started limiting what my son drinks before he goes to bed and there are many mornings he wakes up dry.  Also, remember how long that they were able to just go in their night time!  It is just a habit that the body has to get used to.  Good luck!

Melinda - posted on 01/13/2009

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My son is almost 8 and still doesn't make it through the night. Frustrating at it is, we tried eveything. My doctor said he recommends not starting them on medication until they are around 10. As long as I don't push the issue my son seems to do better. Best of luck. Let me know if you find something that works.

JoAnne - posted on 01/13/2009

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Hi my name is Joanne and its ok that  your son is still wetting the bed  you have to get hem up every three to four hours at night for the bathroom.  And make hem go befor he go's to bed. Take his pull up off  when he get's up in the morning try not to give hem so much to drink dorring the day  give a stop time befor bed about a hour befor he go's to bed ( if he need's to drink  give him a just a little  bit just to wet his mouth get back with me 

Cheryl - posted on 01/13/2009

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My oldest Imogen, was dry at 3 yrs but not at night till she was 5 and a half, she slept so deep like her dad, nothing could wake her up at night, it happened in time, she just took longer to train herself at night, i know it seems like it will never end but just be patient x

Denise - posted on 01/13/2009

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I have no suggestions,but my husbands son wet the bed up until he was 14. I know they just grow out of it.



 

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This can be a normal condition for some kids. My son had this problem every night until he was almost 13. We went to the doctor when he was your son's age, which I recommend. Nothing was wrong. They had suggestions (no soda, nothing to drink for two hours before bed, etc.) sleep alarms (which he slept through - only one in the house who did, I might add) waking him a couple hours after he fell asleep to try to pee (that was tough and didn't work) and even pills. Nothing worked. I was told that many boys have this problem past 16 and even into adult-hood. Which scared me! But, as puberty hit, he began to have dry nights more and more often. Within the year, he was dry every night. This was difficult for him emotionally, so it is important to let them know it is not their fault. I don't think the puberty thing was a coincidence. Staying dry is a result of hormones released when we sleep. Sleepovers were difficult. If your son still struggles when he gets older, I suggest hiding a pullup in the bottom of his sleeping bag so he can slip it on at night and slip it back off in the morning when he wakes up. No one the wiser.

Laura - posted on 01/13/2009

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My 4 1/2 year old was 100% potty trained until #3 came along, then regressed. He just now stopped having accidents, and told us that we can't call him Jackie Boy anymore because he is now JACK and Jack doesn't have accidents. We limit his drinks at night and make him go pee-pee before bed. If for some reason he wakes up or is restless, we take him into the potty to make him tinkle. The bed has been dry! Good luck -- and don't stress over it!

Elizabeth Gilson - posted on 01/13/2009

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Angie I have to say that I was a bed wetter till I was about 10 or 11 and there was nothing wrong with me I was just a sound sleeper. Now my son didn't stop peeing the bed till about a year ago (he just turned 7 yesterday). It just took a lot of us setting an alarm for us and we would get then get him up to pee. After about a month it worked. He still has some accidents but they're few and far in between. So my advice from a mother of is too limit his drinks before he goes to bed and start with you helping him get up and going. I hope this works and if it doesn't talk to your doctor because there are A LOT of options out there.

Kim - posted on 01/13/2009

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Things will probably resolve themselves on their own, but if you are really bothered by it you could set at alarm for yourself 4-5 hours after he goes to bed and then get up and take him to the bathroom.  I have a friend who had good success with this.  Eventually he'll outgrow it regardless of what you do...but this might speed up the process and get his body used to getting up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom.

Jaimie - posted on 01/13/2009

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my daughter is going throught the same thing. she's about 4 and a half now and has gone at least a month at a time without being wet in the morning. then there will be a month stretch where she is soaking wet every morning. just when i think i can stop buying the pullups, she's wet again. right now, i'm just going to be patient and remind her that she needs to go straight to the bathroom when she wakes up in the morning bc i think the majority of the time she just doesn't feel like going so she wets the pullup. she doesn't get upset about it and will sit in it until i ask if she's wet. it's not even uncomfortable for her! i'm hoping she just grows out of it on her own and soon. pull ups aren't cheap and they don't grow on trees:)

Kim - posted on 01/13/2009

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Heck!  Dont worry about it!  They sell Pull Ups and Goodnights for a reason! My daughter is 13 and still wets the bed!  Its genetic and they really cant help it. When they are older there are pills they can take for specila occasions and/or sleepovers.  Enjoy life dont worry about the petty things!



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Darla - posted on 01/13/2009

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Our pediatrician recommended we try a bed wetting alarm with our son which was less than $60 and came with a money back guarantee. We were very please with the results. If interested I can try to find the specific brand we used. It velcroed to his PJ top and sounded an alarm (adjustable volume) when the sensor detected liquid. There was alot of supporting documnetation and ideas included in the package.

Buffy - posted on 01/13/2009

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Quoting Amy:

My son wore a pull-up only to bed until he was 6. He would stay dry most nights but as soon as woke in the morning was when he would go..lazy???? Have you tried the "cold turkey" thing? It may be worth a few days of changing sheets but it may alos "train" him too.



my son was the same way. We did the cold turkey and it took about 4 month of it and he has finly stoped. Thay do make a pad to go on the bed so the pee don't mess up the bed. i had about 4 of them to use becouse thay dont dry quick becouse i didnt put them in the dryer. good luck



 

Gabrielle - posted on 01/13/2009

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Hi Angie.  My oldest son just turned 5 in November.  Within the past 2 months he has stopped wearing his pull-ups to bed.  At this age, especially for boys, it isn't a real problem.  It just takes time until he is ready.  The main thing is to limit his fluid intake.  I don't allow my son to have anything to drink after he eats dinner.  This has seemed to work well.  Once he went about a couple weeks with a dry pull-up I stopped letting him wear them to bed.  He had at least one accident a week for a couple weeks.  *Knock on wood* he hasn't had one recently, it seems that he is trained, although I expect an occasional accident.  Just make sure you don't make him feel bad about it.  That will just delay his progress and diminish his self-esteem.   

Terri - posted on 01/13/2009

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I am having the same problem, my little guy turned 4 in November and we have tried it all. We have limited drinks, went without a pullup, reward him for not wetting, etc. My biggest frustration is that he did not wet the bed from 2 1/2 to right before his 3rd birthday so I know he can do it. We will keep trying good luck and let me know if anything actually works.

Angela - posted on 01/13/2009

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My brother wet the bed till he was almost eight.There was nothing wrong with his bladder function he just wet the bed.Some kids just don't wake up and then when they do they are wet.I would just continue with the pull ups and let him know he's not alone that there are a lot of kids that wet the bed.His body will adjust and he will stop.If you are really worried then talk with his doc and see what some options are from him.He may just say the same thing.Good luck I know it can be frustrating for you and him.

Dawn - posted on 01/13/2009

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Hi Angie

Stop him from drinking 2 hours before bed and at kmart they have extra thick underwear made for that reason. I tried them on 2 of my kids and they work. There made to absorb the pee instead of letting it run down his leg. This allows him to feel the warmth of him pee and hopefully he won't like it.

Good luck Dawn

Leslie - posted on 01/13/2009

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Hi Angie, I read your post and I can relate to your son on this one. I wetted the bed a majority of my childhood, well past 5 into my middle school years. My parents tried everything- the worst being the bed alarm they put on my bed, which pretty much looked like a metal screen connected to a box next to my bed. And if it did anything- it further traumatized me. My parents chose to yell and find all sorts of punishment for me, they would say it was my way of getting attention (I had a younger sister)... so not the case. Childhood sleepovers required me staying up all night even when the other kids were asleep- to keep my secret safe. The one reccomendation I would say is to never blame the child, or get angry with the child. This can lead to alot of anxiety in your son, the fact that you are on here says alot and I'm sure you're a great mom. I would limit drinking after dinnertime- definitely no sodas or caffeine after school. I would get a mattress protector and always have spare sheets at the ready. Good luck and remember that it may seem hard on you as a parent but it's just as hard if not more so on him so go easy.

Becky - posted on 01/13/2009

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I was a bed wetter till I was about 10 years old. As determined as I was to wake up in the night I just couldnt seem to figureout why I would fall asleep and not wake up till morning wet.  When I had kids Their pediatrition  told me that some children wet the bed during a growth spurt because their body grows fast but it takes their insides a while to catch up making it hard for their bladders to hold .  He did give them a medication to help but mainly told me to just be patient. I didnt make a big deal to them about it I just bought good night underwear for their comfort  and so I didnt have to wash beds daily. When they started waking up dry they just stopped wearing the pull ups on their own.

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We had issues with this as well. DC is just an incredibly heavy sleeper and nothing helped! For the record, most doctors now say that restricting fluids isn't helpful. The problem isn't the amount of fluid, it's deeper than that. After trying many things, we decided to get the Potty Pager. It is recommended by Dr. Sears. Like they say, the first couple weeks was tough to get through, but in less than two months, our child was completely dry *every single night*!! It took a while to finally decide to try it because it is quite expensive and kind of a hassle. BUT, I'm so glad we did because my child was getting older and couldn't do sleepovers, was wetting the bed every night, etc. It was SO well worth it!!

Carissa - posted on 01/13/2009

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I had a daughter that stead in pull ups untill she was 6 to go to bed in.  She just stopped on her own. but letter in age she started having bad dreams and i learned that her body was waking her up in bad dreams to go pee. and she would go and she would be all better no more bad dreams. so if he starts having bad dreams just bring him to the bathroom.



I hope this helps

Alison - posted on 01/13/2009

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Just to let you know that this is a common problem with boys, not sure why, but its what has been told to me before, I wouldn't worry that much, I would just limit his drinking before bedtime and make sure he goes to the toilet just before going to bed, its working with my two-year-old.

Good luck.

xxx

User - posted on 01/13/2009

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I would probably have it checked out with a doctor, but if he is fine...I wouldn't worry about it. Just make sure that he doesn't get teased about it, because that would probably make it worse. I had a nephew who wet the bed until he was almost a teenager, just because he was such a heavy sleeper. Good Luck!

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Hi! Have you tried limiting how much he drinks toward bed time? My son's bed time is about 8 or 830. We were adamant about no drinking after 7pm until he stopped wetting the bed--even during the hot months. During hot temps we'd only give him a few sips of water just before bed. He's had accidents here and there but that's because we were getting lax about how much he drank just before bed.

Amy - posted on 01/13/2009

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My son wore a pull-up only to bed until he was 6. He would stay dry most nights but as soon as woke in the morning was when he would go..lazy???? Have you tried the "cold turkey" thing? It may be worth a few days of changing sheets but it may alos "train" him too.

Tammy - posted on 01/13/2009

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I think you just need to tell him you love him and all will be well.  Two of my three children wet the bed and they are just solid sleepers.  They are too busy sleeping to wake up for themselves.  I now know (after a lot of trial and error) about the time they will have an accident and go take them pee before that time.  My daughter (now 8) is finally getting used to getting herself up after a lot of midnight bathroom runs.  Good luck!

Naomi - posted on 01/13/2009

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Hello Angie have you ever thought to have a doctor check hi out to see whether or not the child may have a bladder malfunction. A friend of mind has a younger brother wh had the same complaint and in actual fact there was something wrong with his bladder function. It's worth a trying to investigate this. God Bless Naomi Westman

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