MY SON WONT SLEEP DURING DAY??

Hillary - posted on 09/15/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I recently posted this issue...but I think I need to provide more details.

My son is 8 weeks old, formula fed. Until yesterday his bedtime has been about 930 or 10. We give him a bath, lotion him, put jammies on and feed him...he tends to go down easily---still only sleeping 3-4 hours right now. During the day however...a totally different story. I try to go by the 'eat/awake/sleep' cycle so he isn't dependent on bottle to sleep. EVERY SINGLE TIME I go to nap him...he cries and cries. I feel that he is overtired. The crying is occuring during the soothing process, not after he isput down. Lately he sleeps in his car seat on the stove with the fan running. He will wake up after only 10,20 minutes or so and fuss again, sometimes he goes back down, sometimes he is just awake and fussing until the next time I can feed him. Help. I do have a call into the doc...waiting on a response...

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Cathralynn - posted on 09/15/2009

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I'm cool with your feed/awake/sleep cycle but maybe just shorten the awake part? We also never let my daughter fall asleep nursing or on a bottle. But we did use it to be sure she was full before sleeping, otherwise she would wake sooner hungry again. At night I fed her, then swaddled wich woke her up, then rocked her til drowsy without a bottle. It wasn't until 6mo that she went to sleep on her own, laid down fully awake. Worked very easily tho, just stick to your routine. But daytime was rough for us. I think it just might be. We always fed on demand and let her sleep when she wanted until after 6mo I put her on a napping schedule, this involved crying. Until then she slept where it worked for her. For the first couple months she slept fine and we laid her in a bassinett whenevr she fell asleep, lights noise everything. When she started being more alert then she slept in a sling or carrier. I wore her ALL the time. And I loved my swing too. We had one with a white noise option. I say, meet her demands and do your best. You can adapt your routine and make a firmer schedule when she is older, past six mo. But that's just me, I don't like feeding schedules, my daughter developed her own.

Lori - posted on 09/15/2009

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you think they just CAN'T stilll be hungry!! my daughter is 12 weeks old. and she won't sleep unless she is full to the brim! if you've tried everything. change. feed. and he still won't sleep. he might need a little help being soothed. i hated giving her a pacifier but she just needed a little help. she started to figure it out. so i would give her a paci and when she would get drowsy take it out and then lay her down. sometimes they just don't want to sleep.. if you think he's overtired i would try and put him down for a nap and let him cry for just a little bit(maybe a few minutes) and pick him up, swaddle him and rock him until he calms down. then try to put him down again. hope it helps!

Hillary - posted on 09/15/2009

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i do have a swing...we actually have three diff kinds...bought two, and were given one...they all have diff styles, but he doesn't like any of them. if we physically stand and swing him in his car seat we can then set him in one of the swings that has the option of using a car seat in its frame. he will sleep like that sometimes. we also always use noise...either a fan or music. how do you all feel about waking him from a nap to fit a time table???

Erin - posted on 09/15/2009

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none of my kids nappped much, or regularly until about 3 months, tyhen they fell into a good rutine of 2hr morning and afternoon naps. by 2 yrs the older 2 gave up thier naps and started sleeping a solid 12 hour night. i'm hopeing the baby does the same. go with the flow and your family should settle into a rutine that works for you

Megan - posted on 09/15/2009

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He might be a little colic. I give my son little tummy's gas drops before every bottle. I also find that a vibrating bouncer helps sooth them into sleep. Also try having music on where ever he sleeps it will make him think he is not alone.

Amanda - posted on 09/15/2009

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Sometimes they need to cry to let there energy out to be able to sleep, keep doing th e bottle thing with him, he needs that...A baby can feel when you are nervous and tired your self, you need to make sure you are calm...You are doing fine, he is probably changing his routine too, they do that alot. You can also swottle him, rap the blanket around him and rock him, then keep trying to lay him down, if you are too tired from it you may need to pass him to daddy a few times to try.

Lucy - posted on 09/15/2009

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He's only 8 weeks old and his sleep patterns will probably change a lot. I know my son went for long periods without sleep in the day, and often it was very hard to get him to sleep. It's agonising and exhausting. My son did start to nap regularly but like you only ever for about 20 minutes at a time. He slept better at night and once he was about 6/7 months he started sleeping throught the night from 8-8!! He's 18 months now and only has one nap in the day of about 45 mins-1 hour. He used to have one morning and one evening nap.... but here's what i learnt, he only sleeps when he's tired and i can't make him sleep any longer than he does! You're right, if my son gets overtired it's even harder to get him to rest and he cries. Try looking out for signs that he's tired, yawning, rubbing eyes etc, then you could do something to wind down before putting him down. I never put my son in a cot in the day (my mum thought i was mad) but i couldn't bear him crying - i only did it when he was about 1 year old!! I used to walk with him in the buggy until he fell asleep... it tired me out more though!! Anyway i hope you find something that works. Babies need so many hours sleep a day but rarely will they get it at once and many won't sleep for long periods at a time. His tummy is still small and he'll be growing too, don't put pressure on yourself to get him into a routine, do what works for both of you. xxx

Ryann - posted on 09/15/2009

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i would def. get a swing that helped my baby a lot. she would sleep in it a lot at night too.

Vicky - posted on 09/15/2009

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i wouldnt bother setting up routines every time i got in the swing of a routine my son would change it, he might just be going through a growth spert and will all settle in a few days.x

Hannah - posted on 09/15/2009

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my son is 15 months now and he didnt sleep much either but i promise u it does get easier.all babies are different so dont worry to much try singing or stroking his head /nose that but my son to sleep hope this helps

Heather - posted on 09/15/2009

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I would do what Sammy Taylor said. He is still young so feeding before bed is not a bad thing. Just don't let him fall asleep with milk still in his mouth. bad for gums and teeth. I fed my son before every nap and then I held him till he fell asleep. and then put him down. When I felt ready to just put him down. We had no problems. transitioning. As he got older in the sippy cup stage. I would give still give him a drink before bed. Just water though. He is three now and goes to bed with a water bottle. He does not lay their and drink it like a bottle but just feels comforted knowing that their is a drink by his bed if he needs it.

You could also try some soothing music. My son still goes to sleep to music. I always keep the music on too. He sleeps longer if it stays on. Or try holding him and reading a story to him or singing to him everytime before a nap.

Brooke - posted on 09/15/2009

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My son used to do the same thing...I would be so exhausted trying to get him to sleep, i barely slept myself. My Dr. told me to stop giving him a bottle at night at 6mths old. When he wakes up at night, i was told to just change his diaper, put his pacifier in his mouth and leave him go. He now sleeps through the night. (After months of doing this) During the day i STILL have problems getting him to nap. So, i put his swing upstairs in his room and let him swing himself to sleep. He still cries sometimes when i lay him down...but he's been A LOT better.
My Dr. still recommends me giving him a bottle right before he goes to sleep. He said my son will still need the nutrition from the formula until he is a year old. Even if he is eating solids. I also give my son a bottle before his naps as well. He gets up at 7-730a. and eats breakfast around 8. Give him a bottle around 930 and lay him down for his first nap at 10. Normally he sleeps until 12. He gets his lunch at 1 and a bottle again at 2. I lay him down for his second nap at 230. He doesn't get supper until 530 and a bottle again at 630. I put my son down at night at 7pm. Some say that is too early for him to be layed down at night, but he sleeps all night long and is well rested in the morning :o)
Good luck to you and i hope everything works out :o)

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Hey Hilary, i would try and feed him before sleep even though you dont want him to be dependant on bottle to sleep as they get older they will grow out of the bottle when they are ready, and at night thats what you are doing wake/feed/sleep so he could be getting confused also alot of fresh air, im just giving advice on what i did each mum and baby are different do what you think is right for your baby

Donna - posted on 09/15/2009

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first off doctors think that they know everything, have you tried mylicone it is a gas treatment for babies, he may have gas, second there is an herbal tea that is called sleepy time tea, it won't hurt him but it will help him relax, just give him one to two ounces before you want him to sleep then start with the soothing process. you are the parent you have to do what you feel is right it is ok to take what the dr says and think about it or try it but you know your child better than anyone..... try the tea and see how it works you may want to put a little sugar in it, he may not take it with out it.....that is what i did for my kids starting at birth

Kristine - posted on 09/15/2009

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Do what works, Maybe a vibrating bounceing chair that worked for my nefew, he always had a hard time napping.

Kristine - posted on 09/15/2009

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Quoting Hillary:

MY SON WONT SLEEP DURING DAY??

I recently posted this issue...but I think I need to provide more details.
My son is 8 weeks old, formula fed. Until yesterday his bedtime has been about 930 or 10. We give him a bath, lotion him, put jammies on and feed him...he tends to go down easily---still only sleeping 3-4 hours right now. During the day however...a totally different story. I try to go by the 'eat/awake/sleep' cycle so he isn't dependent on bottle to sleep. EVERY SINGLE TIME I go to nap him...he cries and cries. I feel that he is overtired. The crying is occuring during the soothing process, not after he isput down. Lately he sleeps in his car seat on the stove with the fan running. He will wake up after only 10,20 minutes or so and fuss again, sometimes he goes back down, sometimes he is just awake and fussing until the next time I can feed him. Help. I do have a call into the doc...waiting on a response...


 

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