My ten year old daughter wants to shave her legs, what is a good age to let her?
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Azra - posted on 11/17/2011
It is just me or do girls grow up far to quick these days? Me I have a 10yro, if she asked me to shave I would go with hair removal cream first...... My 10 yro wants to know when she can get a job!!!!! She is in year 4 and not actually 10 until the end of November
FrenÃ© - posted on 10/03/2009
Are you prepared to put her on the pill too at this age???
Kids must be kids - leave grown-up stuff for a more mature age when they don't feel pressurised but is ready for it by themselves...
By the way - German girls/woman don't shave at all!!!
Cassandra - posted on 09/27/2009
If kids are making fun of her and she is that uncomfortable, I would say let her shave to the line of her shorts... which are hopefully around her knees. I would't worry about whether or not she is shaving, but how much SKIN she is showing. I had a horrible time in school because my parents wouldn't let me shave mine so I completely understand where she is coming from.
Elizabeth - posted on 09/27/2009
I always told my kids not until they were 14 but they did it anyways..When they were about 11. Now I just try to pick my battles with them what is really important. They will see what a pain it is when they have to shave all the time. You live and learn, kids will be kids just love them and all they do.
Traci - posted on 09/27/2009
My brother helped me shave my legs when I was 8...I think maybe he helped to get me in trouble lol But the point being is that it was the worst mistake of my life. My hair now grows back very coarse and dark black. I myself think a good age would be 13...when she is in middle school and it actually starts to matter. Another mistake I made was shaving above the knee...If you were smart I wouldn't let her do that!
Sarah - posted on 09/27/2009
My daughter was 9 when she started shaving. I think it depends on the hair color. dark and noticable I'd say yes as I did for my own daughter. light and can't see the hair, well probly not. she started underarms at 10. ask her why she feels shes ready to shave. My daughter gave me the run for the money. you'd be surprised with the answers of a little heart to heart talk. once you start it's one of those things you do for the rest of your life. (like starting your period) by the time you go through menopause you stop growing hair and don't need to shave as much. Is she ready for that life long commitment?
Sindi - posted on 09/27/2009
Please, please, please let her.
There are many things my mom set limits on, but shaving my legs and under arms were the most embarrassing ones. Let her do those please. Want to teach her a lesson? Make her use her allowance to buy razors or shaving gel :) And if she leaves them out, then they get put up just like anything else would. Is anyone happy to have razor burn because they neglected to put on lotion? If she can prove to you that she can handle the responsibility, then let her. (She'll probably go woolly mammoth during the winter anyway.)
The things I am grateful for are Mom making me wait to pierce my ears until I was 16 so I could take care of them myself. I was not allowed a second ear piercing until I was 18 (and then I let them grow back anyway). Dying my hair had to wait until I had my own job and I was not allowed to drive a car unless I had a job. Meaning I had to ride the bus during the school year all the way through high school. But I am grateful for the limits Mom set. By all means, share with her how old you were when you started doing these things. If my mom hadn't done that, then I wouldn't have understood their importance.
Cindy - posted on 09/27/2009
I got my ten year old an electric trimmer. That way she doesnt lose self confidence but isnt going full speed ahead at 10 either. I wanted to stick with the 12 year old thing, but she was the only girl in her class who didnt shave at all. It was affecting her confidence even though I talked to her about being herself. She is much better now.
Molly - posted on 09/27/2009
I would certainly choose my battles. Hairy legs are low on my list of things. i think I remember shaving when I was 8 or 9 years old. My mother didn't didn't say anything, but I quickly got tired of doing it. Until I got to high school. I still hate shaving, so I wax.
If you do let her shave, Don't let her use real blades!! Give her an electric. Less chance of of her cutting herself.
Tanya - posted on 09/27/2009
I started shaving with out my mothers permission because when I ask it went unanswered... I was in 5th grade (about 10 years old)... My older brother was the rat and told but she didn't really care.. So I learned and took on the responsiblity all on my own... I was not teased I just personally didn't like the hair on my legs when I wanted to wear shorts/dresses/skirts I mean all women I saw didn't have hair on their legs... So I say if she is asking then she is responsible enough and it'll be nice for mom to show her how or she may just do it herself... So I say: mom get in there and have a great time teaching your little lady to shave :) My daughters have dark hair so I'm expecting the time to teach will be about when they are about 4th or 5th grade before they are in middle school..
Candice - posted on 09/27/2009
is there a reason to NOT let her shave her legs? i can't think of one. if she's hairy and being picked on, shaving seems pretty harmless. i mean really, pick your battles. shaving her head might be pushing it. lol
Elizabeth Carroll - posted on 09/27/2009
I would agree with the ladies that suggested a hair removal cream instead of a razor. My ten year old has pierced ears and gets queasy at the idea of infection. I do not think many 10 year old would handle nicks, or razor burn well. Besides, if she is getting teased the last thing you would want is to hand the unkind girls new material, i.e. razor burn or band-aids...
Tara - posted on 09/27/2009
Shaving legs isnt a sin, even for a child so I wouldnt stop her as such but with my 14 year old daughter who is hairy like me, i advised her to wax or use hair removal cream instead of shaving. She was 11 at the time and it was not only safer but the hair doeasnt grow back as thick
Melanie - posted on 09/27/2009
Do you think she is ready for this responsibility? Once you get started there is no going back. Depending on the season, hair thickness, attire of the child, you could be talking shaving once a week to 3ish times a week. It gets tedious. Is she ready for a lesson or two on how to shave? after care? etc? ......
I think if you believe she is ready to take on (for what ever reasons) then hell yeah, let her start. Just remember that she may want to learn on her own and not have mom's two cents about it, or she may want you there the whole way till she is comfortable.
I learned by playing around with my grandma's razors. I shaved my arms, dont recommend it. I shaved my eyebrows, thought that was how you shaped them (my hand twitched and half the brow was gone, fun bidness let me tell you).......i'm basically saying that if she wants to learn she wont wait for your approval so get in there and work with her on it.
Linde - posted on 09/27/2009
I think if your daughter is mature enough and it is becoming an issue because she is hairy and it's calling attention to her and making her uncomfortable I say let her do it. I myself am a dark hair hairy girl. I had a uni-brow growing up and people would make fun of me for it, they called me "Linde Eyebrow", that kinda messed me up! So much that when I got to high school I became one of the dreaded skinny eyebrow over pluckers and eventually shaved my eyebrows off and drew them in, lol! (Marilyn Manson was popular at the time) Kids at school can be so mean.
Hailey - posted on 09/27/2009
wow sorry should have read the other stuff first if your daughter is being teased because she has dark hairs on her legs then maybe you should let her shave the parts that will be visible getting picked on at school is horrible and for something that can be fixed up so easyily is even worse , i too was picked on at school because i wasnt allowed to shave my legs and i was too scared to get them waxed at 11 and i didnt even have dark hairs some children can be so cruel
Jessica - posted on 09/27/2009
i was leaving the 5th grade, and entering 6th grade when i started shaving. i also had hairy legs with dark hair. even at that time, i was able to get away with shaving just once a week. i don't see shaving as a reason for a girl to dress inappropriately. if this is your concern, the discuss with your daughter that just because she is shaving, does not mean that she can more revealing clothes..
Hailey - posted on 09/27/2009
id ask her to hold off untill she starts highschool but if you are thinking of letting her you could always just start out with hair removal creams instead of razors or do what my stepmum did tell her if she wants to shave then you will take her to get her legs waxed that scared me off it for a while lol
Ashley - posted on 09/27/2009
Well Linda, I'll be in your shoes when I get to the point in life you are now but.. I know that personally at 11 I was teased a lot about leg hair and dreaded wearing shorts; after all... society these days tell you that women aren't supposed to have leg hair! Honestly, in today's society it's acceptable to shave really hairy legs because if not, you're picked on. I think that if she agrees to shave only where would be revealed by shorts that 10 is a fine age.
Sharon - posted on 09/27/2009
by your last name I guessed you were of mexican/spanish descent... they tend to have thick dark hair. Makes for babies with gorgeous heads of thick lucious hair, but makes for awkward, preteen years and sometimes awkward elementary school years.
I didn't think of it till now, but a few years ago there was an issue at my kids school about a girl cutting herself.
Turns out she was shaving her arms and knicking herself. :: sigh ::
I say let her. But again - only the portions that will be visible. Please say she isn't wearing those daisy duke shorts?
My Japanese cousin had thick dark hair on her arms - she asked me about shaving it or bleaching it - I referred her to a salon to make the determination. I think she opted to shave them.
My sympathies to your daughter! & Good luck to you!
Josie - posted on 09/27/2009
10 may be a bit young, however; if she has dark hair and she has a lot, it can be embarrassing, especially when she begins to develop. I don't think you can compare what other people do, I think you need to look at where you daughter is developmentally and what makes sense for her. My daughter is 10, she mentioned shaving this summer. I said no, she hasn't really started developing yet and her although brown isn't really that dark. Next summer? I don't know, I'll have to take a look.
Hope that helps.
Carrie - posted on 09/27/2009
I let my daughter when she was 11. It didn't seem a big issue to me, and it was one of those times where I thought "choose your battles" There's going to be and have been many issues where I've had to take a hard line, that this one didn't seem big. Also I can still remember noticing how hairy my legs were when I was my daughter's age. It was a big deal to me!
Cassie - posted on 09/27/2009
I was not allowed to shave my legs until I started high school, although I had friends who were allowed to from when they were 10. But does she only want to shave her legs because her friends are? Or because they are actually very hairy? But then if you do not let her shave her legs will she do it anyway? Perhaps you need to sit down and just have a chat about it? Maybe let her shave her legs only to her knee, and only once a week or once a fortnight.
Arifah A - posted on 09/27/2009
I have a 10 year old step-daughter who started shaving her legs when she was 9, her mom allowed her too even though my husband said no. One day i accidently walked in on her in our bathroom shaving her legs to my total surprise, We determined she could do whatever her mom allows her to that we don't agree on only when shes with her mom. It just doesn't seem important for a 10 year old to be shaving her legs, i mean whose gonna be looking at them anyway. i'm sure shes annoyed with it mabye thats why she wants to already but i really think 16/15 anythign under 14 is just too soon. Shaving your legs is kid of a more teenager thing to do so mabye try to make her hold on for a bit.The way we look at it is holding on to her innocense, when shes just getting up that hill to the horrible teenage years but just not quite there yet. Hope thsi helps!
Sharon - posted on 09/27/2009
Is she seriously prissy? the uber super girly girl?
I wasn't. I was the tomboy - I experimented with shaving - by shaving an arm and then had to explain that my parents - about when I was 10. It was interesting but annoying.
I think the best guage is - they can shave their legs as much as they show them. If they wear jeans - no need to shave. If they wear shorts they shave up to the point of where the shorts end, for my daughter - around her knees.
but my kids are blonde and her leg hairs are hardly visible. If your daughter is dark - she might be more self concious about it. Again - I'd go with shaving visible portions.
Wendy - posted on 09/27/2009
My first question would be--why? Have you asked her for reasons beyond, "I dunno" ?I would say that's far too young, for several reasons. 1) She is not old enough to wear nylons where it would really show). 2) She's certainly not of dating age! 3) She needs to be proud of her body at that age and understand what's happening to it. 4) It would be worthwhile if this is the beginning of trying to fit the false reality of US advertising media. 5) I "everybody doing it?"--not a good reason. :)
Nicky - posted on 09/27/2009
I was 12 when I was allowed to shave my legs, it would be so hard when to decide to allow your daughter to start shaving because you know that once she does it she will have to do it for life, are her friends shaving their legs? does she have hairy legs? maybe you could start by allowing her to shave above her knees to start off with? Sorry im not much help because ive got 2 sons but I just remember when I was 12 and my best friend was allowed to shave her legs and I so badly wanted to do the same.