My two year old son sees a "ghost" in our apt...is this just in his head??

April - posted on 03/11/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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So for the past coupld of weeks, at least once a day, my son gets really shakey and scared and tells me "Don't like that funny guy". He gets the saying "funny guy" from my three year old neice. That's what she calls scary guys she sees on t.v. So I will ask my son where the gunny guy is, and he will tell me the place he is looking at. Such as over by the wall, in his room...etc. He even came running out of his room crying and screaming a couple of times and told me the funny guy was in there. I never believed in ghosts, but it's just really starting to scare me. Does anyone know anything about this? Please help!

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Gabrielle - posted on 04/20/2012

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My son just turned two and the other day while we were playing trains in the basement pointed to the corned and exclaimed "its robbie, its rob" He doesn't know anyone named robbie and I found it a bit strange so I asked who robbie was he said "hes a boy" I asked what he looks like and he said "he has glasses"
Ever since he will mention Robbie casually from time to time and seems mostly at ease with "him" I found it a bit weird but he never seemed threatened or scared so it didn't bother me. Tonight met a medium in passing and she told me she saw a spirit around age 9, a boy, who was very close to my son who wore glasses and a plaid shirt. She assured me that Robbie is a positive spirit and nothing to be concerned about. This gave me a bit of the chills but also put my mind at ease.
It might help you to visit a medium and see what she says, whether or not you believe in these things if your son is seeing something, it is having an effect on him, and a spiritual medium is probably the only one who can help. The funny guy might just be a spirit who cant cross over, or something more sinister but I wouldn't ignore it, your child is trying to tell you something.

April - posted on 03/14/2009

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Thank you everyone so much for your comments! I greatly appreciate it. This was the first time I posted something on here and i didn't expect to get this many responses. I will definitely try any method I hear to keep my son from being afraid.

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Bev - posted on 03/14/2009

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My Mother passed away a yr ago and my 2 yr old son is always talking to NANNI. It really does not matter what room it is or where he is at. He know's that NANNI is in the sky and he will fight with you to the bitter end that NANNI is at home in the living room playing with his toys with him.

Jolene - posted on 03/12/2009

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I think if he seems genuinly afraid then he probably is seeing something. I don't doubt there are people who can see things most of us can't, especailly young children.

Malinda - posted on 03/12/2009

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As a child I had hypnogogic hullucinations (hypnogogia is the place between fully asleep and fully awake). Many people have them, but mine were extremely vivid and detailed and often violent. Several were also recurring (i.e. a teddy bear that I did not own - meaning that there wasn't a similar bear in my room - with strange eyes and sharp teeth). I also had many imaginary friends and foes who were also quite vivid to me, including a "dark guy" who was just a pitch black outline of a man with red eyes who would sit at my bed and stare at me. Obviously this was very frightening. I don't know if I believe in ghosts, but these were NOT ghosts. They were responses to stress (and in my case abuse, but I'm in no way implying that your son is experiencing anything like that).



My point is that this *could* be supernatural, or it could be totally natural. I would talk to your child about "funny man" - see if he can draw a picture, talk about when he sees him, see if you can relate it to any particular stressor in his life, see if he sees anyone or anything else, and consider contacting a professional to discuss coping mechanisms and what might be causing this. Children do have very vivid imaginations, and it is completely natural at this stage for a child to be afraid of "monsters" though they aren't usually so well descripted. You can certainly do this in conjunction with other methods for dealing with the supernatural answer recommended above. The message "he can NOT hurt you" applies to both explainations.



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Samantha - posted on 03/12/2009

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My 7 year old Autistic son used to tell us about the "pop-pop monster" and described him in detail. He said he couldn't talk but just stared at him, he wasn't really scared he just wanted him to go away. The man who owned the house before us had throat cancer, and couldn't talk ( we learned this from nieghbors). We learned to live with our unexpected visitor, and have since moved, but my son still talks about him, and is very glad "pop-pop monster" stayed at our old house when we moved. Ghosts are simply people without bodies, try to explain that to him, you'll be surprized how much children understand. If you still have concerns, I would walk through your home( when there are no children around) and tell whoever is there they are frightning your child and its their time to leave, Good Luck!

Rebecca - posted on 03/12/2009

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I would use your gut instinct! If after a few attempts to nuetralize the problem, it doesn't help, do what you feel needs to be done. You know better than any of us what exactly is going on. At least you have an open mind as to what it could be. Whether a ghost, imaginary friend (or foe), or an attempt to get attention, you realize something needs to happen here. Try the easiest thing first...tell them to go away or spray "monster spray" at him. If that doesnt work, take it a step farther and keep going until it does stop.

Bridie - posted on 03/12/2009

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He is too young to understand or know what the funny guy is that your neice is refering too but the more you give credence to whatever he is saying...the more he will continue it because of the particular type of attention you are giving him....you console him, he likes that, it calms him so he will perpetuate that to get that result for that action....try another action like not repeating what he saying or questioning him...instead tell him to come and help you wash some dishes or clean up some toys...i bet he stops after the next two or three attempts has changed....and the neice taught him that connection so I would put a stop to that first and foremost by dealing directly with his tv watching and hers when they are together.

Andrea - posted on 03/12/2009

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Really every one we are dealing with a child it dose not matter if you beleave in gosts or not the problem is something is upsetting him? What you need is to reasure him that nothing can harm him when this happens go over give him a cuddle and make him feel really safe let him talk about it what he see's reasure him and show him there is noting can hurt him. I am not sure on the hole ghost thing but my now 3yr old always talks to some one full on has deep chats with her ( yes it a her ) it did scare him till we made friends with her he would wake up screeming day or night this went on for 6mths we consulted a child srink he gave us lots of different methods todo with him eg lavander spay (monster spray as he calls it) its just water and a touch of lavander for smell also a touch ( laszer gun for the monsters ) which of a night time turns on and shines it when scared I was told get into the make belive world and think like a child if he see some one go with it make it fun and safe it is perfectly normal for a young child to see things it the way you handle it ( safe safe safe ) thats what it is about my sons friend has been great she comes every where with us even camping lol and even they are ment to be smarter if they see things. so don't worry inless he dose not respond to positive renforcement and in that case seek prof help like a child expert in these things

Rebecca - posted on 03/12/2009

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I love watching the show Ghost Hunters but not so sure I want one living with me! I'd email them and let them know what was going on and maybe they would come out and investigate it. They prefer to find out answers before saying there is or isn't a ghost! Not to mention..a couple of the guys are good-looking!

Amie - posted on 03/12/2009

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Quoting Nancy:



Google Sylvia Brown or get some of her books and it will clear alot up for you =) Firstly fear is not necessary as " they " cannot hurt you, calmly ask him to go away or if he must remain to do so without upsetting the child  .... as children are especially sensitive to "spirits" and can see them  or so Sylvia says. She is a phsycic that has had a near death exoerience and her books explain alot.In our first house the "lady" that haunted us would leave the washing machine lid up/open !!!! I would conciously shut the lid, leave, come back to change loads and they weren't done as the lid was open !!!!! SO after some investigation into this with Ms.Brown I asked her to cut it out or do laundry whilst I was away. She stopped that but then would leave coins ... pennies, dimes and nickles ,everywhere!!!! Liveable =) So I believe there are/is something out there and you could make this easy or scary ... up to you . But do something.





Sylvia Brown is a great author to help with this as Nancy said. =)



That being said you can also ask him to leave as Nancy also stated and talk to your son's guardian angels (and encourage him to too) as well as your own and ask for help in dealing with the funny man. He doesn't neccessarily need to leave but if he's scaring your son it'd be best if he did. Especially if after telling him, don't ask tell him, that he can only stay if he stops scaring  your son. After all this, the books, the angels, the talking to him yourself.. if it doesn't work  you may need help. Some churches will help with it but you can also look into medicine women/men from aboriginal people's as well that will come and do a cleansing and also some psychics. Though a genuine psychic is usually hard to find. Best of luck!!



We had an unruly spirit in our house last  year. Our dog and cats hated whoever it was and he would wake up our two youngest in the middle of the night and scare the bejesus out of them. Got rid of him at least with my mom's help. The ones that are around now my kids get along with and laugh and play with.

Helen - posted on 03/11/2009

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Quoting Nancy:



Excellent method for dealing  ... how do you know there is no ghost?






i don't here may or may not be a ghost, kids have good imaginations thats sometimes work over time, trying to get a full description from a 2 year old would be fun, could alway ask him if he see's someone like hm on tv i guess,maybe

User - posted on 03/11/2009

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You cannot change that which you do not aknowledge. There is no evidence that there is a ghost either.

Helen - posted on 03/11/2009

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ghost no, my nearly 3 year old, see's tigers everywere sometimes he happy about it sometimes not, i just use my perfum and spray his room (manly at bed time) and tell him it makes the tirgers go away,  most of the time that works, and if its one your wearing, will make him think your there with him, we live in aussie so he has only seen tigers on tv and in book, hope tthis helps

User - posted on 03/11/2009

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Google Sylvia Brown or get some of her books and it will clear alot up for you =) Firstly fear is not necessary as " they " cannot hurt you, calmly ask him to go away or if he must remain to do so without upsetting the child  .... as children are especially sensitive to "spirits" and can see them  or so Sylvia says. She is a phsycic that has had a near death exoerience and her books explain alot.In our first house the "lady" that haunted us would leave the washing machine lid up/open !!!! I would conciously shut the lid, leave, come back to change loads and they weren't done as the lid was open !!!!! SO after some investigation into this with Ms.Brown I asked her to cut it out or do laundry whilst I was away. She stopped that but then would leave coins ... pennies, dimes and nickles ,everywhere!!!! Liveable =) So I believe there are/is something out there and you could make this easy or scary ... up to you . But do something.

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