my two year old still not using potty can any one help

Candace - posted on 04/01/2009

make it simple....hes not ready, abandon the idea! BUT.....

Summer is the perfect time. I put my kids on a schedule every few hours based on their personal ability to hold it. When I took them into the bathroom, I would turn the sink on. Funny how the sound of flowing water affects you! They would always start after listening to the water.

I've heard that if your child can be successful 70% of the time, they are ready to train but if they fail to alert you more than 30% of the time, you are better off to quit and try again at a later date.

Michelle - posted on 04/01/2009

Two is very young to worry about it too much. The sphincter muscle on the end of the urethra develops at different rates on children, and they simply can't physically control going potty until this muscle is completely developed.



Also, you don't want to make potty a negative experience because then going potty will become a frightening thing.



My son is almost 3, and he will go potty for them at daycare all day long, but he resists doing it for me. I try very hard not to push him, but it's hard, I know. He's getting better though, and he actually went poopy in the potty for the first time tonight!!



So relax and don't worry too much. You know he will be potty trained by the time he's 15, so it's going to happen when it's supposed to happen!!

Rachel - posted on 03/31/2009

I agree with Clisty, don't use pull-ups. I used them for my oldest daughter, and it took from 18 months to 27 months to be fully trained. Then my second daughter (who would go on the potty before she even turned one) I threw away the diapers and put underwear on at 18 months, she was trained in about two weeks... that included having the diarea thrown in there too. It was messy (wet) at times, but she NEVER pooped in her underwear! I knew she was ready though. your 2 year old may not be ready, don't push to hard. If he/she goes off my themselves to pee or poop, or acts uncomfortable when wet or dirty then they know what's going on... then it's time to start!

Clisty - posted on 03/31/2009

I agree with most of these posts, don't push. However, My Mother-In-Law potty trained 13 of her own kids and several grandchildren, and the one thing she told me was to NEVER use pullups. Kids just get confused and can't reall tell the difference between a diaper and a pullup. You might have to wash a lot more laundry, but they never really learn if you keep switching around. Plus they can 'feel' a lot better, even with the cool touch pullups or whatever they were, their undies won't feel cool when they wet them, so just stick with the cotton training pants/undies. GOOD LUCK!!

Tracey - posted on 03/31/2009

I have 4 children 3 girls and 1 boy.They were/are all different,my youngest girl now who is 2y 4 months has been going on the toilet for the last 6 months,she hardly ever used the potty.THEY will decide when they are ready.It might help if he has the potty in the room he spends most of the time in,every now and then just sit him on there with his favourite book that you could go through together.You can also get stickers from your Health Visitor that goes on the bottom of the potty and when they go it changes into a picture.Hope this helps.

Ann - posted on 03/31/2009

i agree - don't push it - it will come in due time -but i did find that with my son when he saw he could do this standing up it was WAY more fun for him

Laura - posted on 03/31/2009

2 is still very young.  Both of my kids were 3 before showing any interest al all.   Don't push and try not to worry about it.

Joan - posted on 03/31/2009

Don't rush him he will start going when he is ready, but in the mean time when you dress him up ontop of the diaper always put underwaer so he could start getting the idea and if dad's around have dad take him to the bathroom just to watch. once a while in the house just leave him with just the undies even if he potties on himself, because that will make him uncomfortable & he wouldn't like the feel of being wet, theres a lot of different thing you could do & try also parenting & kids magazines will give you alot of ideas as well. Hope this will help you and don't rush the little man he will let you know when he is ready.

Katie - posted on 03/31/2009

My grandma used stickers and if i used the potty alot in a row, I got a bigger prize. I hope that helps! Good luck!

Danielle - posted on 03/31/2009

My best advise would be not to push......just wait for the signs that they are ready.  I tried when my daughter turned 2 and it was just too soon for her.  Every child is different and about 4 months later she started to show interest in using the potty and it's been easy going since then.  I used the reward method.....candy, stickers, special prizes, etc..... some moms don't like that but it worked for us.  Good Luck!!

Laura - posted on 03/31/2009

My daughter was so stubborn and wanted nothing to do with it. I just kept it available to her and didn't pressure her. Then one day, at 2 1/2 she literally just did it. Almost as if she just woke up instantly potty trained.

Renee - posted on 03/31/2009

It is very important not to push your child becasue if you do it might push them farther away of wanting to use they potty.  I am an 2 1/2 year little girl who just started wanting to go on the potty on regular basis and is now telling us when she has to go.  It takes time and be patient, but I would try again in the summer.  It is the best time for boys.

Clare - posted on 03/31/2009

don't worrie about it, it will come in the mean time my advise would be don't keep it quite when you need to go ie tell you 2 year old "mum needs wee wee" and let your little one in the bathroom with you (make the process a open one let you little one see how its done), maybe get a potty for your little one to sit on while you do your bisness and another one as a play one. Don't be discoraged if you little monster goes wee wee on the floor eighter trust me it happerens (my little boy did loads) you could also try taking you little ones nappie off for short periods get him used to not having it. Have you tryed pull ups. reading a book together on the potty makes it more intresting. But most of all praise, praise, praise. Hope something here helps and i have not overloaded you too much. 

Charlene - posted on 03/31/2009

My kids, especially the boys, didn't get pottytrained till they were three and this is average for boys. Wait till summer and try again, but don't push him till he's ready. Hope this helps...

Heather - posted on 03/31/2009

I have three children. The first child took what seemed forever to be interested. The second and third caught on right away. I assume it was because they saw their older sibling using the potty. I would suggest getting him or her around other children the same age who are using the potty! Then when they become interested clap and sing give out stickers or an m&m everytime they go!! Good Luck ; -)

Felicia - posted on 03/31/2009

Quoting Julie:

my two year old still not using potty can any one help

We have a 3 1/2 yr old boy and a 2 yr old daughter, our son REFUSED to use the potty, two weeks ago we purchased an E book from Lara Jensen's (spelling??) 3 day potty training guide-it was the best $24 I've spent!  Our son was done on day 3, our daughter has started associating wetness with "yuck" and is going sporadically on the potty, but the 3 day training will start next week Monday.  I hope this helps!