My two year old wont try to use the potty. she does not want to sit on it or the big potty why I dont know . need help anyone.

Michelle - posted on 12/11/2008

Don't stress. My daughter at the age of 3, announced "I have to pee", we went to the bathroom and she pee'd on the toilet, she didn't use of her little potty ever. It was such an easy transition. After that, she decided to wear panties in the morning, and would use the toilet when she needed to, then in the afternoon and night time she would wear her diaper. After about two weeks of that, she went to all day panty wearing (her decision) and used the toilet when she needed to, then about another two weeks she decided to go all the way - no more diapers at night time either. Panties all the way. She had very few accidents. We explained the potty technique and showed her all about it etc. never pushed her to go on the potty until she decided she was ready. It was so worth the wait. Good Luck.

Jennifer - posted on 12/10/2008

Thanks to everyone to help .All of you have help .I will let her tell me when she is ready but she will still go to the bathroom with me .I hope that i will be able to help you out too .Thanks so much

Michelle - posted on 12/10/2008

try a chart n everytime she gose she gets a star n a reward at the end of the day so she gets excited about going. or give her a book to read while shes going in case shes nervous and cant relax enough to go.

Debby - posted on 12/10/2008

Don't stress. It gives your child a sense of control over you. I am the director of a preschool & also teach a class of 2s and a class of 3s. I tell the parents I do not stress over potty issues. I take the class of 3s as a whole to the bathroom. Some are completely trained, others are not but the ones who are not see the other ones asking to go. While we are there we sing songs or do exercises and those who need to go, do. The ones who are not sure often decide they need to go once we are there. They see the freedom the others have to go into the stall themselves, use the step-stool to wash hands and to throw away their paper towel all by themselves. They like that! A two year old is often not developmentally ready for the potty and you need to respect that. Each child develops differently. I always tell anxious parents that their child will not be attending college in a diaper - don't stress! It'll happen when your child is ready for it to happen! :)

Morayea - posted on 12/10/2008

My son had no interest in the potty at all in fact he'd get mad if I tried to talk about it, but it was clear he was physcially ready so I set aside a day where it was just the two of us and as soon as he woke up I made a big deal about his special day and had plenty of rewards on hand including a sticker chart and some wrapped prizes. I explained to him that today is the day he doesn't wear diapers anymore and made a big deal about how special it is. He could sense the excitement in my voice and saw the "rewards" wrapped on the table and he was ready to go. I had all his favorite foods and drinks in the house to keep him eating and drinking so we had plenty of opportunities to try. And he loved having my undivided attention all day long. I didn't use pull-ups at all, we went right to underwear. I planned the following several days to be home or only short outings and after 3 days he was good to go. We had a few accidents but only a handful over several days and I think it really helped that he was in underwear the whole time. He did have more accidents at night so the plastic cover under the sheet was needed but even they tapered off rather quickly. And just a helpful hint that saved me a lot of time at night...make the bed twice...plastic sheet with regular sheets on top and then another plastic sheet with regular sheets on top. That way if she has an accident at 2am you get her cleaned up and strip the wet sheets and there is fresh bedding ready and waiting with minimal effort when you are half asleep.

User - posted on 12/10/2008

Don't stress she will do it when she is ready, plenty of time yet.

Ally - posted on 12/10/2008

when my little girl was training i just left the potty for her to play with at first, then she would sit on it and watch t.v let it be a game........she will soon catch on when she sees other girls going to the potty.......some children just take a little longer than others......don't force the issue it will happen. Good luck x

Ashley - posted on 12/10/2008

she may not be ready and just need a little more time. with my daughter i would just take her when i went and just have her just sit on the little potty. also since she liked eat bananas (and they always made her have to go) i would just time it right so that she would go in her potty. it just takes time.. DON'T GIVE UP!! ^__^

Genniveve - posted on 12/10/2008

Hi Jennifer. Do you let your daughter watch you when you go to the big potty? My kids didn't like the little potty but were happy to go to the toilet because they seen me using it. Get a stool with her favourite character on it and make toilet time exciting, you can even attach balloons to the loo and/or put stickers on it, then just wait for her to want to use it! Good luck and don't stress, I have 4 kiddies and they all toilet trained at different ages, but remember the most important point, let her see you using it!

Melissa - posted on 12/10/2008

Have you tried letting her watch you use the bathroom? She might then realize that its not scary and its ok to sit on it. Being she is 2 I can guarantee that she knows the difference between potty in her pants and the toilet. GIRLS CAN sometimes be harder to train than boys. (Ive been doing daycare for 8 years, specializing in toddlers) Id be willing to bet that if you are ready and you need to be ready, that she will be ready. But i think the key is going to be just to put her in underwear. Most toddlers once they feel that wetness they dont like it. IT IS a chore and messy. But if you can stick it out for the first week you will be so glad you did. I pottytrained my son at 18mos. Its totally possible. Once she is in big girl underwear you would need to take her potty every hour. Because she needs to learn to control her bladder and thats the best way that I know. Read her a special book while she sits or sing a song. Find your thing that works. There will be something. The majority of the time its more the parents who arent ready than it is the child. Pottytraining is a commitment. You cant start and stop. It needs to be 100% or nothing. Good Luck. Let me know if you have anymore questions on this subject.

Crystal - posted on 12/10/2008

my son was the same way. i kept telling him he had to because they did not make diapers for big kids. kind of mean but over time it worked. plus there was the new underwear trick where you take them to the store and have her pick out her big girl undies and tell her dora or who ever doesn't like to get wet and you have to keep her clean. (however my son wanted nemo underwear who is always in the water lol) i did buy in to the potty that makes noises when they go but he didn't much care for it. he liked the praise of oh what a good boy he is and he is getting so big. but all kids are different my cousin didn't poop on the pot til she was 4 but hope this helps.

User - posted on 12/10/2008

I have a 2 1/2 year old girl. She has just trained in the last couple of weeks. Maybe you could give your daughter a bit more time. Mine decided for herself to go on it for the first time (wouldn't go near the potty, had to be the actual toilet) when she was jus over two. Also, I found that leaving pull ups on her (even now), she will just go in her diaper. I had to go completely to underwear and just deal with the messes until she got the hang of it. I really hope this helps you...sorry if it doesn't :)