naughty 1 year old

Jenna - posted on 04/26/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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my 1 year old is really naughty he pinches, scratches, bites, slaps,thumps and head butts and i cant think of what to do i tried shoutin at him and he just laughs at me and tried putting him in his cot as like a naughty step treatment but he just screams as loud as he can. i am startin to get very frustrated by this because he just wont listen or understand and he is at risk of gettin removed from nursery because of his behavior

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Davina - posted on 04/26/2009

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try to ignore the bad things and praise the good,or try distraction eg when he starts to have a screaming fit say wow look at this and try to snap him out of it.I also sometimes say to my son oh are you singing me the wa wa song and also start to make the same noise he almost every time starts to laugh and like magic end of screaming fit.It does sound like he is after some attention and kids are smart they soon learn that the things he is doing get mum going my son does the same but is a little older he is 4 and he really enjoys getting me going its like a tug of war and you can only play if someone else is pulling the other end.So drop your end then he cant play

Chris - posted on 04/26/2009

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im sorry to have to ask, but is he gettin enough attention from you and his daddy? or is something happening in his life,eg house move?

how busy is his day? does he do plenty of play activities, going outside to play, using lots of energy. does he get enough sleep?

a 1 year old wouldnt just show that kind of behaviour for no reason

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I HATE to admit I did this, but my girl was the same way, so the next time she pinched me, i pinched her back and asked her how she felt...told her that is how i feel when she did it to me...same with hitting (I just did a spank sort of hit on what ever body-part she hit me on) or kicking...not biting though, but I've heard of parents who did! And I'm not saying do it hard, just enough to get the point across!

Dawn - posted on 04/26/2009

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I think Lisa hit the nail on the proverbial head. I'm sure you are already giving him a TON of attention, but you might try to give him a little EXTRA attention when you can--and when he isn't screaming, biting or hitting. Maybe try something more physical than usual since he seems to be a really physical little guy--"races" around the house collapsing in a pile for example. This is hugely popular with my kids and brings lots of giggles. Also, try to let go of the frustration--that can communicate itself to him even when you are trying to keep it in. He's not trying to be naughty, he's just one.

Also, ladies...if you feel the need to start with "I don't mean to criticize"--YOU ARE. Claws in! We are all just doing our best!

Angela - posted on 04/26/2009

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DON'T GIVE IN!!! He's testing you. Let him cry,kick,scream,whatever! I know it's annoying and it sucks but better now than later.The longer you wait the harder it gets.Show him YOU are the boss.When the tantrums start,ignore him completely.(unless he's in danger).Don't try to correcting the hitting,biting,etc. with the same behavior.He wont understand why you're telling him not to hit by hitting him.Be strong.You can do it!!

Racheal - posted on 04/26/2009

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Quoting jenna:

naughty 1 year old

my 1 year old is really naughty he pinches, scratches, bites, slaps,thumps and head butts and i cant think of what to do i tried shoutin at him and he just laughs at me and tried putting him in his cot as like a naughty step treatment but he just screams as loud as he can. i am startin to get very frustrated by this because he just wont listen or understand and he is at risk of gettin removed from nursery because of his behavior



I dont mean to critisis you in any way shape or form, but to me it it shows no disaplin at all. By that i dont mean smacking them i mean empty there bedroom out leaving nothing but there bed that way when he is naughty just put him in his bedroom close the door and leve him for ten minutes. This way he is being punished as there is no toys to play with in his room so he will get bored being there but it makes them not want to be naughty cos its boring ive done it and it worked just try it

Brittney - posted on 04/26/2009

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I get down to my sons level tell him no and if he continues he goes in time out for 1 min but his min doesn't start till he is staying i the time out spot. i have noticed he listens better when i do this then anything else. I also noticed he does not like the timeout spot so he behaves after so he doen't have to anymore. By the way my son is almost 19 months old.

Janette - posted on 04/26/2009

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Well, this is where you defenately need to follow through with what you tell him if you scream he will be taught thats how to handel a situation, my Grandma used to say you catch more Flys with Honey, this is true but there is a balance. ther is no one answer, it is a consistacy of everyday and what his enviorment consist of, my children grew up on Barney or Dora with mom singing all the songs, but I also have a Tone in my voice when I am correcting them to let them know I am serious, I dont have to yell, the tone says it all. Understanding there development at each age is very helpful, for instance right now his idenity is you, when he becomes 4 he is going to start to realize he is his own person with his own mind and can make his own choices, you are right now laying the ground work on teaching him how to make good choices, children find comfort in a routine, this helps a lot with there day because then they know what to expect, and hey lets face it even as adults we find comfort in routine. There really is no one answer but learning a little child psychology really helped me to understand a lot and be a better mom.

Jinglebones - posted on 04/26/2009

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He sounds like a lively little guy. One of the things people never talk about is how much abuse mom can get from their very little children. Trust me, it is normal. Some children are MORE normal than others... Now the question is what to do about it. It sounds like you need to set limits, but remember that developmentally your little guy has limited understanding of many things and almost zero self control and self awareness. Shouting is only going to increase that behaviour in him. Time out is beyond their understanding at this point, I would go with reinforcing positive behaviour and not reinforce negative behaviour (remember, any response, even shouting, can reinforce a behaviour...). Simply remove yourself ie if he pinches or hits, remove yourself telling him I dont like that, that hurts. Good luck!!

Kim - posted on 04/26/2009

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awwww no sorry to hear your having a ruff time ,,, my 17 month old screms kicks hits paddies and head bangs at times i just ignore her or make her sit on the sofa if ur worried i would ask ur hv doctor to have a look at him its probs just terrible 2s coming early thata what i put my dughter behaviour down 2

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