Need Help! 4 1/2 year old wont fully potty train.

Rachel - posted on 04/18/2012 ( 492 moms have responded )

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Our 4 1/2 year old refuses to learn to fully potty train. We are having problems trying to get her to go potty at night so she can wear underwear all the time & not just during the day. We told her to treat the pull up like underwear while she is in bed but she says "It's easier to just go in the pull up." We have tried leaving her in underwear to go to sleep but wake up to change sheets & all every morning. I just don't know what to do anymore. Any help will be appreciated. Thank you!

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Shannon - posted on 04/18/2012

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Maybe put cotton underpants on UNDER the pull ups for now so she has to feel that uncomfortable wetness, but your sheets are saved? I did that with my son when he was daytime training and it worked well (and quickly) for both of us. I am just getting ready to go there w/ my 2 1/2 year old b/c she wants a diaper or pull up when she doesn't feel like having to pay attention or stop playing. The underpants on as a "base layer" makes it not worth it to wet them.



*Oh, and my son was in a PM pull up for over a year after being totally day time and nap time trained due to deep sleeping. Once I felt he was "taking advantage of it" I told him he was done when the last one in the pack was used (before his 4th b-day) and it was fine. 2 night time accidents over a few months now.

Dove - posted on 04/18/2012

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I have a kid that wet the bed til 8.5 and another that was dry through the night, every night before turning 3.



Personally, I'd leave her in the pull ups at night for a bit more. It's not worth the fight or the extra laundry. If you leave her in underwear at night and she still wakes up wet I'm 99% willing to bet she is not doing it on purpose.

Schyla - posted on 04/18/2012

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My oldest was in a pull up at night till about 5 and half and then my amazing friend made me some cloth pull ups and with in a week she was no longer weting at night not sure if it was the cloth allowing her to feel wet or if it was just timing but it's worth a shot

Shelly - posted on 04/18/2012

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I was having troubles of a similar nature with my son. I would get him up in the middle of the night and take him to the bathroom. Turns out, he was such a heavy sleeper, he didn't feel the urge until it was too late. Give her time, she'll adjust soon enough.

Nikki - posted on 04/18/2012

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Alot of kids need extra protection at night, nothing too serious in my opinion. But if she says that its easier to go in her pants I would maybe try to wake her up at 3am and asking her to go then putting her back to bed or leave a potty in her room to go for convenience instead of running to the washroom. I dont give my daughter anything to drink after dinner time and she usually wakes up dry...shes 3 and not potty trained fully either.

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Megan - posted on 09/27/2013

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Bedwetting under age 7 is so common most pediatricians consider it normal. invest in a couple pair of washable, waterproof underwearhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... this webpage has lots to choose from in lots of different sizes even waterproof boxers. And it is much less expensive than using pull ups. And use a waterproof sheet protectorhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... to minimize the laundry. Just relax and give it time. Chances are by 6 she will just outgrow the bedwetting.


However, If bedwetting continues through the age of seven the bedwetting begins to chip away at a childs self esteem. A child who wets at night has a sleep pattern in which the brain does not react to the full bladder signal. The alarm gradually trains the child's brain to react. My child went from being wet every single night to completely dry in about 6 weeks. The bed wetting alarm http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... has given us years of dry nights. Also, a new medical study at Wake Forest Medical Center found that undiagnosed constipation is a major factor in bedwetting as well. So you might want to get the book "Its No Accident" ...http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/...



My child absolutely loved the children's book, Prince Bravery and Grace - Attack of the Wet Knights http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/... . It is the story of a young prince who struggles with "the Wet Knights" and eventually defeats them by using an alarm. It's funny yet empathetic and gave him the understanding and motivation to end the bed wetting. The best advice for parents about how to stop bedwetting I found is the book, Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness, by Renee Mercer. Invest in the books-they make the process so much easier, then an alarm -its the best decision I ever made. Lots of positive information about bedwetting at this site www.braveryandgrace.com

Cheyenne - posted on 06/13/2013

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My dad trained me, and it's just one of those things that take Time. Books, Nd putting them on the potty frequently especially when you go to teach them that this is what we do when we use the restroom is really helpful!!

Bekah - posted on 08/15/2012

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My five year old will sometimes say she has to go potty but if it is interrupting her play time she will say just kidding and continue playing until she cannot hold it any longer and goes running to the bathroom.

Don't fret Rachel, unless she is still having problems after about the age of six or so. Having night time issues is pretty normal, a pain in the rump, but pretty normal.

Off topic: Wow Katherine Smith, I took the survey and was surprised by some of the negative emotions that arose in the last part of the survey. Good luck with your thesis and with school!

Cheryl - posted on 08/15/2012

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Ha Ha Deanna Tabbert.. You said you were really pee-ved when you had to stop what you were doing to go to the bathroom.. pun intended??LOL you made a funny!

Deanna - posted on 06/15/2012

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I have to admit as an adult I am really peeved when I have to stop what I am doing just to go to the bathroom so I completely understand kids feeling this way

Tammy - posted on 06/14/2012

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My almost 4 year old daughter gives me a similar answer! She's all toilet trained while she's at school, but when she comes home and plays with her toys in her play room, I have to take her to the toilet and make sure she does, otherwise she just goes in her undies! Her excuse, is that she doesn't want to interrupt her playing! Rewards don't work with her. Short of threats, I don't know what to do, cause each time it happens, she promises to not do it again and then she just repeats it! Argh! Oh and she's dry at night! Go figure!

User - posted on 06/08/2012

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wow, Shannon Fouhey Hanson's idea is excellent! My son is 7 now, way past this stage, but I would have done this if I would have thought of it.

Deanna - posted on 06/08/2012

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Just try to be consistent & extremely patient. Try only giving sips of water about two hours before bed & even wake her every 20 minutes to go potty until you go to bed. It is a bit of work but she will eventually get used to the habit of going potty. I have six kids so I have a little experience with this from they potty trained themselves to dragging it out until about 5 yrs old.

Sherri - posted on 06/05/2012

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Almost two still makes it only a month old and just because her issue is resolved they are often kept open to help out others who may have the same problem. As I said if it bothers you change your settings.

Nicole - posted on 06/05/2012

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It's actually nearly 2 months old, and the owner of this thread has already posted that her issue is resolved.

Sherri - posted on 06/05/2012

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Nicole this thread is only a month old. If you don't want to receive e-mails on it simply change your settings.

Deborah - posted on 06/05/2012

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I would definetly limit her fluid intake after dinner and make her go potty right before she gets into bed

Regina - posted on 05/31/2012

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Doesn't sound like refusal to me. It sounds like she sleeps hard & doesn't wake up. I've had three of my four daughters who were like this. An alarm worked for the first one. Getting older worked for another. The last one may also need an alarm. Sometimes they say things like, "it's easier to go in the pull up" because they can see our frustration & it gets attention (albeit negative).

Cynthia - posted on 05/28/2012

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i found it easier to stop all drinks by an hr to 2 hrs before bed time and it work and if she insist on having something to drink before bed give her a sip of water and then have her go to the bathroom before bed

Jessica - posted on 05/27/2012

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my 4 year has been potty trained for a year. i think the key is dont rush them. have u tried rewarding her? maybe do a reward system? tell them they cant go to school if they r not potty trained?

User - posted on 05/24/2012

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Oh yes I do.. Get a potty chair. and put HER FAVORITE stuffed animal or doll on it to pee. Let your daughter see you praise the doll or stufffed animal, after all thats HER POTTY CHAIR. it worked awesome for us. immediate results.. Good Luck Debbie

Kristie - posted on 05/22/2012

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When I potty trained my son(he's 9 now) I would put cheerios or small things like that in the bottom of potty for him to aim at when he went. Didnt take as long as I thought, but it was awhile. My daughter Kayla(she's 7) pretty much potty trained herself. i know one day she was in diapers next she was in big girl undies. Susie she's almost 5 she was pretty easy too. At night(got this tip from my cousin) I will do "magic" put water on my hands and rub it on her thighs and she will go in potty, so far hasn't had accident at night(although I think she can go to bed and wake up dry with out my magic). Scot would use the pull ups all the time, we even got the kind that feels cool when the peed in it. Nothing would faze him, so we decidedhe would go into big boy underwear and after awhile he didnt pee so much in them(I think he had/has a problem with his brain and body gettin together to let him know he has to go at night), same as my brother used to have. Every now and again he will wet the bed. I was told to put 2 or 3 layers of sheets on bed as well as plastic covers, as/if they wet bed you just have to remove a layer and bed will be made. I also let them know they did good if they made it to bathroom(whether or not the made it on the toilet), Susie stilll lets me know and I still tell her she's a good girl for using the toilet. They occasionally got treats as well. I try not to let them have anything to drink an hour before bed(that's from their doctor) and usually works

Cheryl - posted on 05/10/2012

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LOL to Linda Lockhart... love it!! The "bottom" line... good one!!

Me... don't worry be happy.. praise and give prizes and treats and stars or whatever to keep it all positive.. the less stress you show about it the less stress she will perceive from you... make it all a fun game about growing up.. all the tips you can try.. no drinks/milk after certain time etc. but in the "end" , it may take some time(one of mine didn't get it til 8 or 9)... don't get exasperated just cheerfully have her help change the sheets with you and do the laundry and say honey we will just keep working at it and I love you and you will get this eventually.. I am not mad at you!

and 2 more words... plastic mattress protector..wait... that's 3!!

Elizabeth - posted on 05/10/2012

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Make sure she pees before she goes to bed and no more drinks after she pees for the night. My son stopped peeing in bed about a week after we did this. We also bought the cheapest, most uncomfortable diapers for him to wear at night so when they were wet he was aware and finally got the hint that he can't sleep if he is wet in those diapers.

Jennifer - posted on 05/09/2012

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Wonderful Rachel! I tell you pulling the pull ups was the best thing we ever did! Congrats it should be only uphill from here on out...Now what to use that extra money from pull ups on ;o)

Linda - posted on 05/09/2012

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Congratulations! The bottom line is that each child will figure it out eventually.

Rachel - posted on 05/08/2012

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I thank everyone for your help. My daughter has been sleeping in just underwear for the passed 2 weeks & has only had 2 accidents. I think she is finally getting it. All it took was for her to run out of pull-ups & forget to tell us. We figured it would be a good time to stop buying them & she hasn't complained or said she needs them.

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hello! my son has a last sip of water/milk, then goes to the toilet and then bed at 730..
if i think he has to much to drink we will wake him before we go to bed (10-11pm) and take him to the toilet one last time. hes now 6.
even now sometimes if i think hes drunk to much ill take him to toilet.
just try different things. some might work. some might not. :)

NancyJane - posted on 05/06/2012

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Just don't make it an issue...if she is o.k. during the day, put underwear on her during the day...at night put the pull ups on her...don't give her drinks an hour before bed...make sure she goes potty before bed and then put on the pull ups.....after a while you will notice her pull ups are dry in the morning....it may be a power play on her part...if you down play it the issue will defuse and she will get with the program...

Mary - posted on 05/06/2012

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Her saying it is easier in a pull up tells me that she is just taking the easy way out. If she does not want to change this and that is not productive. I have a 10 yr that still has accidents through the night but it is mostly when he is worn out so much from the day that he sleeps too soundly and can't wake himself up. If I were you, I would put her in normal underwear when she goes to sleep then I would wake her about an hour after she goes to bed and take her to the bathroom. This is let her know that she can wake in the night to go to the bathroom and empty her bladder fully and it will also help her be dry in the morning. You might see if she is having too much liquids an hour or so before bed too, that could be hampering her progress. She is also too big to take a drink to bed so if she is doing that it needs to stop.

Erin - posted on 05/04/2012

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Yeah.. I feel like the Laundry Queen as well, with having to do my son's wash multiple times a week. At least, like I said, he's doing good at night.. it's the pooping' that's the problem. I'm trying to stick to the stance of not making a fuss, but it's like.. "c'mon bubba, you start school in a few months, pleeeease listen to mommy". There's some great articles I've been reading on the site, though.. with tips for kids who are stubborn about pooping.. so I'm hoping one of the tricks I've picked up from them will help with my son.

- http://www.circleofmoms.com/article/what...
- http://www.circleofmoms.com/article/pott...
- http://www.circleofmoms.com/article/6-ti...

These were the most promising.. I hope they help someone else, so ladies.. check them out if you haven't read them already.

User - posted on 05/04/2012

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well you are not alone in that boat. my daughter will be 4 in two days and still needs a pullup when she poops. she refuses to poop in the potty, although she has done it a few times. She only uses a pull up at night. She is also fully trained during the day ( for peeing in the potty).

I've tried everything and anything to get that girl to poop in the potty. I was told to just not worry or make a big deal about it and she'll eventually poop where she's supposed to. I don't know what else to do. like you I just don't want to send her to bed with nothing...I do enough laundry as it is lol

Tiffany - posted on 05/04/2012

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Make sure you do not give her anything to drink an hour before bed, If she does get something to drink, make sure you go in every 30-1hr to check if she has to potty. I learned with my daughter that pull ups just made her think they were diapers and it was okay to pee and poo in. I then started putting underwear on her and told her that every time she went potty she would get a oreo (that was her favorite sweet at the time) And every time she would go i would give her ONE and then tell her that if she kept it up she would keep getting ONE every time she went by herself. Find out what she enjoys as a treat and give her one at a time. Also when it came to night time peeing i would tell my daughter if she could keep up the not peeing in the bed at night i would get her a toy for reward. Hope this helps. Good luck!!

Erin - posted on 05/04/2012

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I feel your pain, I really do. Our son turned 5 in January, and honestly.. we've been trying to get him potty trained since he was 3 1/2.

He will pee in the toilet pretty much all the time, but pooping is another story. He has his night time accidents on occasion, but I'm finding the best way to handle it is to not make a negative deal of it. He isn't allowed caffeine after 6:30, and we limit the amount he has to drink after dinner, which really helped on its own.

But like your daughter, he treated pull-ups like diapers and would just go in them.. so we took those away and went to regular underwear all the time. I keep plenty of clean sheets, blankets, and pajamas on hand.. and when he has an accident, we don't make a big deal of it. Bed gets changed, pj's go in the hamper in the laundry room, he gets cleaned up and goes back to bed.. or if it's a sleep-through accident, we clean up in the morning and move on. Rewards for dry nights seems to have helped a lot too.. even simple little things, like stickers, picking out a special bedtime book, or letting him pick a Disney movie to watch after bath time/before bed.

I've also found that a solid night-time routine helps. After dinner, we go through the motions.. he brushes his teeth, takes his bath, we make sure he uses the potty, then it's time for kisses, snuggles, his book, and bed. The nights the routine doesn't go as smooth as usual, are the ones where he's most liable to have an accident.

I do hope some of this helps. It took us awhile to figure out what really worked to help with our son, at least in this case.. though I've far from gotten it all figured out. Good luck to you!

Ghislaine - posted on 05/03/2012

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Note to all these ladies out there using punishment for wetting the bed i.e cold showers heve you all lost your minds.
these babies are asleep what would you do to a child that sleep walked or talked in their sleep or maybe even snored.
while asleep you have no control over what you do hence the sleep walking snoring sleep talking and of course bed wetting yes bed wetting is something they will grow out of but it is still an invoulantary action the child has no control over

Wendy - posted on 05/03/2012

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I have potty trained many kids. a few things that work are...Take away the pullups (ie crutch) Even if you have to wash the sheets a few weeks.
Do not allow more than a tiny sip of water two hours before bedtime.
Have her sit on the toilet half hour before bedtime-until she pees.
Have a treat that is ONLY given when she goes a night without wetting. Or say a ticket...when she gets five in a row-you do something special.
NEVER punish or get negative, this leaves issues you wont want to deal with.
CELEBRATE, When she has a dry night do a party dance through the house, yell and scream and smile and tell her excited you are and tell everyone in the house of her success. Write it on a chalk board. Pull out the party blowers, whatever just give the positive reinforcement.
If nothing works, talk to your pediatrician. She may be a bed wetter that could last. I know sometimes there are other issues involved.

Cathy - posted on 05/03/2012

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Use a pull-up at night until she starts staying dry on her own. Is one diaper at night such a big deal? Some kids just can't stay dry overnight for a while. I had to consult a doctor about my son (age 8) and was told this too. That's why they make pull ups in such big sizes. The more of a big deal you make about it, the worse the situation will get. It will happen when she's ready for it to happen. In the mean time, save yourself the laundry and the grief!

Jodi - posted on 05/03/2012

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I have the same problem with my son. He is current;y 7. He was "late" with this whole potty training. He was "late" getting the day time pottying,he was 4. He finally got night time in kindergarten then our bathroom toilet broke on the floor with his bedroom and he would not go to the other pottys at night. His pediatrician said it is not uncommon for kids boys especially to not get the night time quick. He is a sound sleeper nothing wakes him easily. That is why it took so long. but since the break which has been fined for a while he is back to pull ups.it took my plumber over 3 months to fix the problem and since then my son backslid into pull ups. He says like your daughter it is easier to just go i the pull up.WE tried underwear and I was washing bedding daily. So I have let him stay up in pull ups and going to work on potty training for daytime for my youngest and nighttime for my oldest this summer. I know this doesn't help, but your not along.

Kelly - posted on 05/03/2012

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My little girl potty trained so easily. Maybe make a star char and give her a star each night she wakes up without wet sheets... after 10 stars, reward her. Also, make sure she doesnt drink anything after a certain time of afternoon and then make her go to the loo before she goes to bed. My father wet his bed until Std 9, he went to a chyropractor and it sorted him out.
Hope you come right

Viviana - posted on 05/02/2012

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Alison Giraldo, you are a cold, callous witch. Fancy insisting that your 3.5 year old change her own underwear and her own sheets or else sleep in her own 'stinky pee'. I pity your poor, poor child. Punishing a child of that age for something that she cannot control is beyond belief. Of course, you see it as 'discipline' and not punishment but I think you are very confused and lacking in love and feeling for your little one. Makes me so sad.

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Apologies for all mums for using the term 'cold showers'.. Let me make a correction. My definition of a cold shower was using the wet ones wipes (which is usually cold in the morning), wiping his bottom and front. Tried it twice and we both didn't like it and YES I AGREE IT WILL BE A CRUEL THING TO DO if they were actually put under cold running shower.Other than that I've been using warm cloths to wipe him down all the time (with the exception of those two days when I tried to use it cold instead). For the earlier post that was sent by another mum who resorted to cold showers, I cannot and will not envisage that she will be putting through the child under an actual cold running and there must be an overexaggeration there. As a mother, my heart melts each time they cry out for nothing let alone can I do such cruelty. Apologies once again and I agree with those who have respondend back claiming it is not a nice thing to do.

Sherri - posted on 05/02/2012

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That is FLIPPIN abuse to punish a child by making them take a cold shower for something they can't even control!! I can't even believe you would admit doing something so utterly repulsive!! Those poor poor kids. FYI your lucky your children were not taken away from you for abuse.

If I ever heard of anyone I know doing that they would be reported to DCYS for sure and most likely would be removed from the home.

Jodi - posted on 05/02/2012

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OK, cold showers for a child who wets their bed is just fucking cruel and I'd suggest borderline child abuse.

For those who advocate this kind of treatment, 20% OF ALL 5 YEAR OLDS STILL WET THE BED REGULARLY AND IT IS PERFECTLY NORMAL. Yes, NORMAL.

Punishing a child (including cold showers) for wetting the bed is not only cruel, but will potentially escalate the problem.

Most children will outgrow bedwetting on their own, but it is a matter of brain maturity. If your child is not ready to stop wetting the bed, they won't. No amount of cold showers, yelling, screaming, punishing, will make it happen any sooner. It will simply create an anxious child who knows he can't help what he is doing but will blame himself anyway.

Jesus Christ, cold showers.......what are people thinking?

Dove - posted on 05/02/2012

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Seriously? Cold showers for a little kid wetting the bed? Where the heck do you people come from?! That just breaks my heart! :(

Of course a 3 year old is going to deny wetting the bed if he gets a cold shower for it (unless he likes cold showers). That's really basic child psychology there.

Jenice - posted on 05/02/2012

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My son was in Senior Kindergarten when he finally was trained at nights. If they can go thru the day, don't worry it will happen. I watched his intake of liquids after supper and stopped drinks after 7pm, it might help. I also have those bed pads so the mattress didn't get pee soaked.

Pamela - posted on 05/02/2012

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I believe in early potty training (before 2) and have not had trouble, but I do believe that some children have weak bladder control and need more time. However, a child telling me that it is easier to pee in the bed is not something I would put in that category. Ditch the pullups and put her in panties or cloth training pants and you'll probably see an improvement. Pull Ups makes bed pads, I'd rather change those than change a Pull Up on a 4 or 5 year old child.

Jessica - posted on 05/02/2012

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when our son got lazy and was doing that, we kept him in the underwear, and when he wet the bed, he had to immediately, upon getting up, go take a cold shower. He had to get clean and the cold just reinforced the fact that being lazy and wetting the bed was just not appropriate. Within a week he was fully trained! And since then, we have only had less than a handful of accidents!! Good luck!

Ann - posted on 05/02/2012

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Rachel, my daugher who is now 27, ws slow to potty train at night.We gave her very little liquid at night. She would get milk with dinner, but after 6:30 she did not get anything else, even snacks. We also found a toy she really wanted, she was 3 1/2 but she wanted a pogo stick, the neighbor's kids had one and he would always ask to play with it. So we told her if she would not wet the bed for 1 month she would get the pogo stick. We marked a calendar, and made a big deal each night she was dry. it worked, but he had to find something she really wanted and cutting out the snacks and drinks after dinner, made HUGE difference.. Back then Pull ups were not on the market. Hope this helps

Cate - posted on 05/02/2012

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my son has just turned 4. we thought he was lazy or maybe he just did it for the attention as he stoped going to the toilet after his little brother was born. we sought help and we found out that our son has a problem. he is mentally 2 yrs behind. we have to teach him a different way than most children. he is very self-reliant and so we stopped pressuring him and let him go when he felt the need. we asked him now and then if he wanted to go and if he said no, we had to trust him and his body. we got rid of the pull ups. those were confusing for him, plus he really likes his super hero undies. this goes for night time as well. it is easier and cheaper to wash the sheets and his clothes than it is to continue buying disposable pants. he knows that if he wets the bed, to tell us and he assists in changing his sheets and washing all the dirty laundry. he feels more confident and hasnt wet the bed in a while. I know its really frustrating and stressful. your afraid that if she still wets the bed by the time she is starts school, she is going to get teased and picked on. I know how you feel and you have every right to feel like that, but, shes her own person. in time it will happen.

1) if she wakes up and her bed is wet, tell her that accidents happen. get her to help you clean her bed and make it. if she doesnt wet the bed, give her a little present, like a book so she can read it before she goes to bed and if a week goes by, some new underwear and if a month some new pj's and if a few months, some new sheets for her bed. this also helped with while potty training my little boy.

2) do not stress yourself out. You are a great mum. this doesnt have anything to do with what you have taught her and what you havent. shes just having a bit of trouble and you have used up your resources. all you need is a little bit of help like me. a few mums here have some pretty good tips.

3) patience is the key (i know. easier said than done).

4) dont put any pressure on her. she can regress and make things a bit worse.

I hope this helps. My son is still potty training so this is all i have, but after 2 years of trying, we are finally getting some where (he only started this regime a month and a bit ago). sorry i couldnt be of more use.

Phillipa - posted on 05/01/2012

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This problem will sort itself out! We had one who did the same thing but he didn't like being teased by classmates and called a baby and so trained in a week! I assure you it will happen! You could tell her that big girls who go to school don't wet their pants anymore but what her school friends think will have a greater effect.

Jennifer - posted on 05/01/2012

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Honestly you are going to have to dump the pull ups! Its confusing and it causes her to be lazy (my son was the laziest of all)! It took me 9 months to finally potty train my 3 year old. I still put on his pull up at night but even they started being dry. I finally told him when these pull ups are gone I am not buying anymore. You are a big boy you don't have accidents during the day so lets wear big boy undies to bed and when you feel like you need to go in the middle of the night its ok to go. He still occassionally has an accident in bed but honestly he has done way better than I dreamed he would especially after it took so long to finally master the potty! yank away the pull up and be consistant. She will get it! If you don't want to change wet sheets Goodnights makes a potty pad type thing for kids that goes on the bed over the sheet. Might be worth a shot. Also limit her fluid intake at night. My son gets milk at dinner and that is it. Nothing else before bed.

Kathy - posted on 05/01/2012

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you might try to withhold her liquid about 2 hours before bedtime. When she wakes w/a pull up on she finds it dry which warrants a reward of some kind pending what you approve of as a reward. When she finds this bring positive rewards she will soon learn from habits. Also she wont want to go anywhere to sleep over as long as she wets the bed nor will she want anyone over at her house either for the same embarrassing reasons When she sleeps with a pull up she is sound asleep and not motivated to get up and go potty in the middle of the night. You might even try rewarding her with a new pair of pretty panties when she doesn't wet the bed. However I first would try with holding liquids and if 2 hours doesn't work then try 3 hours before bedtime

Sherri - posted on 05/01/2012

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@Julie, Heidi and Kelly her daughter is 100% trained during the day. She is simply wetting the bed at night.

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