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Brittnee - posted on 01/16/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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IM 19 YRS OLD AND DUE ON MAY 28TH. I AM IN NEED OF FINDING WAYS TO GET HOUSING IN MY AREA. I HAVE FAMILY SUPPORT BUT LIVING WIT MY FAMILY HAS BECOME MORE STRESSFUL THEN IT HAS HELPFUL. I CANT FIND ANYONE THAT HAS ANSWERS WHERE TO EVEN LOOK. IVE GONE TO THE WELFARE OFFICE..SEC 8 HOUSING IS SHUT OFF NOW DUE TO TO MANY APPLICANTS. LOW INCOME HOUSING IS 3 TO 12 MONTH WAIT. I WILL BE HAVING SUM INCOME COMIN IN SOON. BUT I JUST DONT KNOW WHERE ELSE TO TURN. PLEASE HELP WITH SUGGESTIONS IF POSSIBLE!

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Marie - posted on 01/16/2010

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there is nothing wrong w/ complaining im grateful to have a roof over my head but to have people constantly trying to look down on you i dont need. and im a student and i was a student before i got pregnant, it happened i chose to keep my baby. and im happy i did, im going to finish school and get my career going to take care of my child. section 8 isnt free in case you didnt know!

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You won't be able to do anything until after the baby is born. Welfare does not help woman who do not have children. Once you have your child, you will be able to go to welfare and ask for help. To start, you would have to bring a letter to welfare and tell them that you are renting a room from your parents. In return, they will pay your rent to your parents. The only problem is once they start to receive income for you they would have to claim that on their taxes and most people don't want to do that. There is a lot of paperwork that has to be filled out. Once your application is in you have to wait 45 days for them to approve your application for services. You can apply for foodstamps and depending on the state that your in, you can also apply for medical coverage through the state for you and your child. Section 8 lists are not open and probably will not open because Bush wanted to shut it down. Hilary Clinton submitted a junction but that was for people already on the program not for incoming families applying but look in the pennysaver at all times. The Housing Authorities always lists when they are accepting applications. Also, if you have income coming in and you apply for Welfare, they will cut you off. My suggestion is to wait until you get the income, have the baby, use the income to find a place AND THEN go to apply for Welfare to help pay your rent and stuff. Once you apply for welfare you will only have a year to sit and do nothing. That's because they do not make you work until your child is a year old, so I suggest you start looking for employment after your child is 6 months because jobs are hard to come by. Once your child turns a year old welfare will make you go to DOL to see what type of skills you have and then make your work for your payment of rent. If you miss any appointments, they will sanction you. Sanction is a punishment because you missed the appointment. They will reinstate your case but if you get sanctioned again, your case will be closed for 30 or 40 days in which you will not receive income and then your rent will not be paid. I am telling you this because so many young adults want to move out of their parents home to be on their own but the challenges that the state make you go through will make you want to stay with your parents until you can get on your feet. So if you still want to move out, please wait until you have the baby and then get the letter from your parents stating they want you out of the home and then into a shelter. But a shelter is not a place for a young child. Think about it hard before you want to move out.

Corrina - posted on 01/16/2010

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if your area has a Mother TO Mother Ministery they may be able to help you find resourses to help you and maybe even help you find a place...they are a great support system to young parents and mothers and us older ones to...ours here even has a store that takes donations and then gives the things away free...clothes n housewares ect...check the phone book for Mother To Mother Ministeries.

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Dusty - posted on 03/11/2012

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Don't know if by "low income housing" you meant income-based......but if you didn't, I would look into that. Also, depending on where you live, you can possibly get food stamps, & tanf (tanf is money you receive from the state every month to pay for whatever, rent, car, diapers, etc). I've been there, done that, so I know how hard it can be. Section 8 takes FOREVER, literally, years in my area to even get ON the waiting list.

Jessica - posted on 01/16/2010

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Have you tried the salvation army? They have many resources from things from food handouts to assistance with tattoo removal, and I do believe they help with housing. I understand your predicament, I would live in a shelter before i moved home to live with my parents! Hope you find a place soon. Best of luck

Medic - posted on 01/16/2010

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i think by free sharon was talking about the free housing with the parents....just in case you didnt know.....and outside of going on welfare i dont know what to tell you but if you have a place why would you take the welfare away from people that have no where. i have lived with my parents by choice so they could help with my son when my husband was in iraq so i didnt have to quit my job and i loved it. i would do it again in a heartbeat

Sharon - posted on 01/16/2010

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What were all of you envisioning when you got pregnant for a living situation?



You have no plans whatsoever for a place to live but the free place you're living in now is not acceptable? REALLY?

Marie - posted on 01/16/2010

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i feel the same way my son is almost 4months and im21 years old i hate living with my family well its my sister and her husband. im so stressed here and im trying to find a way to get section 8 or hud only thing i can do right now is put myself on a waiting list. i would say put yourself on the low income waiting list and try and stick it out w/ your family til then i usually just walk away or just shut up. i have a bad temper and have always been like that since i was a young girl but im learning to control it and whenever my sisters try and criticize me i just find another way to vent rather than giving them a piece of my mind. but department of children and family or welfare wont help unless the child is born. you can try and see what they'll help you with before the birth because after the birth you'll be swamped w/ trying to take care of a newborn and trying to get govt assistance is a headache. im still waiting on child support to establish paternity since my childs father wasnt around to sign the birth certificate

Julie - posted on 01/16/2010

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You can go to your local church if you are associated with one and they can help. That said, you are very young and things might seem stressful because you want your independence. I had my first child at 33 years old and I found it so hard that I wished I had someone around to help - my mom died when I was 25. It was just as hard with my second child if not more so. Having a baby is hard especially in the first 6 months when you are up feeding them every 2 hours. You will need the support. I would recommend family councelling to see if you can improve communication at home before you make any decisions. Good luck.

Jaimi - posted on 01/16/2010

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i agree that having family will help but i dont know your situation there is a lot of people renting out rooms or guest houses for 500 and lower on craigs list you just have to look

Kristina - posted on 01/16/2010

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Im in the same spot. I just recently got child support, but not enough to cover living expenses on our own. We have been living with my parents, but it is also a stressful situation and I'd rather be in our own place. The only thing that I know of is the section 8 and low income, but in my area it is also a long wait. What they need to do is have more programs set up for single parents.

Simone - posted on 01/16/2010

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hi, i would say if you can afford it, see if you can rent a house. there should be agents where you don't have to go on waiting list or anything like that. you will need a deposit, but if it;s you and your partner you should be fine. but should think about moving out long and hard before you do it. good luck.

Tamara - posted on 01/16/2010

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go to the local church and tell them you need housing they will have a list of resources. good luck and bis wishes

Jennifer - posted on 01/16/2010

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i would just wait, u r going to want all the help and support from your family when your baby is born. i had my own place when my son was born, then about 5 months after he was born i lost my apartment cuz i couldn't pay my bills, now i have horrible credit and i live with my parents and they help me with everything like babysitting while i go to work. i think you should wait after your baby is born and see what happens. good luck : )

Monica - posted on 01/16/2010

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It might be easier to get a place after your child is born. Right now since it is just u then thye dont consider it neccesary. If you were homeless or didnt have aplace to live that would get u moved up on the list faster. Telll them u are getting kicked out and will have no place to live and they will help u find a place. Also try a local womens shelter if u are there thye will help u find a place to live. Good lUck and best wishes.

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