Cherilyn - posted on 09/29/2009 ( 50 moms have responded )
Can anybody give me any suggestions. I am loosing my mind. All their fighting is making me sick but they can't see that!! They can't seem to get along for more then 1 hr at a time. I married my love in July. and my 15 yr old daughter seemed to get along with him fairly well, she told people she liked him, and she was happy for me. After we got married, they've done nothing but fight. I've gotten the two of them to sit down and we had a family discussion and I let each of them talk without the other interrupting. It worked for about a week but now it is worse then it was before. He is constantly giving her trouble for stuff and she is constantly yelling back. They are putting me in the middle and expecting me to take their side. I explain to each of them that I only agree with part of what they are doing/saying, like, yes I agree she shouldn't have done that but you could have said it differently to her. He doesn't get it! Neither of them want to listen to my suggestions. They say why should I treat her/him better then they treat me. I tell them to treat that person the way u want to be treated. Their response is, I did but they still treated me like shit so why should I. It has gotten so bad that I refuse to listen when they talk about the other one. Nobody listens to me anymore, they just keep on complaining!!!!! No matter what I say or do! I want to just leave and make the 2 of them be alone together but I'm afraid of it getting worse. I raised my daughter on my own for 15 years and understand that she is not used to listening to a father figure but that is no excuse for any of this. I try and tell him how to talk to her where this arguing wouldn't follow but he doesn't or won't even try to understand. Please, any advise would be welcome. As I am sooo drained by it all, I have no energy to do anything and just feel like staying in bed when the 2 of them are at home!!!!! Please help.... and by the way, I know he wouldn't go to councelling!!!!!! Probably not even if I threatened to leave him!!!!