Tanya - posted on 07/30/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )
I am in Colorado. My ex, my daughter's father is in jail until 2012 for felony Domestic Violence. I was living with my ex and our daughter before this all happened. I tried to do it by myself but couldn't. All my family live in Australia, so my only option was to move in with his mother. I have been with her for a year. He is still trying to control me through his mother and she wants us to get back together, and is enabling him with all his wants etc. I have recently found a house and want to move out. She is going to explode when I tell her this. She has joint custody. She took me to court two years ago the last time this happened and got joint custody because I was having money troubles and got joint custody from her son because of Domestic Violence. I later found out it was so I could not take my daughter back to Australia. The embassy said if it wasn't for her having joint custody I could take her to Australia without his permission, because he is in jail as a felon with no rights to anything.
My question is when my daughter and I moved into her grandmother's house I moved in with all my furniture and my daughters furniture. I am scared that when I go to move out she won't let me take any of my stuff because she could say it is her son's stuff or that it is hers. I can't afford to buy her new furniture for my daughter and I again. Some people have said I should tell the police I am moving out and put them on stand by, but I have no proof it is my stuff except for friends that have seen it in my last place. I don't know what to do, especially with all this joint custody stuff. I am a mess at the moment. I just am so tired of living with my abusive ex's mom. She is mean and manipulative. Not mean to my face but a big backstabber, as is her whole family. I can't afford a lawyer. Or I can't get legal aid because she has joint custody and unfortunately they base everything on her income as well.