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I am a new Girl Scout Leader. We are planning our first campout for this November. The weekend that I have planned my campout for is the same weekend that our service unit (all of the troops in our town) was planning a service unit campout. A couple of weeks ago the troop leader's voted to cancel the service unit campout. After the vote another troop leader approached me and asked me if I had already paid to reserve our local girl scout camp, which I had, and asked if they could share it with us that weekend as it sleeps 56 and I only have 11 girls in my troop. I told her that I thought that would be ok as she has the same amount of girls in her troop so it would still be a relatively small group. I was also being a little selfish because I figured this would help me recover some of the costs of reserving the camp as it was pretty expensive. Within 24 hours of saying yes, she was emailing me her itinerary and menu and projects that she has planned for the campout. Clearly her idea of camping and mine are VERY different. She is planning to have "spa" night and do facials, makeup, and nails as well as watching movies and that kind of stuff. I explained to her that wouldn't work for my troop as I have several girls who would not be able to participate in those activites for religious purposes. She basically told me that was her plan and she was sticking to it. She is also planning to cook spaghetti and taco salads, which there is nothing wrong with, however I was planning on doing more traditional campout activites such as singing and story telling by the fire, making smores, a weenie roast, cooking a foil pack meal, etc. So, I did my best to plan my itinerary around hers so that we could pretty much stay out of each other's way and share the space as best as possible. I didn't want to go back on my word of agreeing to share the camp after she had already told her parents the plan. However, this afternoon while having a conversation with her and some of the parents in her troop at a birthday party she looked at me and said "Well we ain't eating hot dogs and stuff. WE are used to eating good. You know like spaghetti dinners and stuff. We always eat good." Then one her parents piped up with "Yeah, we eat good when we camp" So what, I'm not feeding my girls good enough because I would like to have a good old fashioned weenie roast and cook over a fire? This really upset me and I was just fuming over it all evening. I called my co-leader and told her what happened and she said she would just rather not have them join us on the campout. They haven't yet paid me for their share of the reservation fee so I sent her a very polite email telling her that I have had a change of heart about sharing the camp due to the fact that we have very different opinions on what should be going on at the camp and I would rather go ahead and nip it in the bud now rather than get there and be having disagreements over every little thing and I apologized for the inconvenience that this is sure to cause her and her troop. Now, I am wondering if that was the right thing. I really don't care about what any of them think of me but my 8 year old daughter's 2 best friends are in that troop and I am concerned that if the other troop leader tells her parents that I decided not to share the camp it's going to have a negative effect on my daughter and her friendshhips. I don't know if I did the right thing or how I should handle it from here on.