Amanda - posted on 03/23/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am trying to decide how I feel about the idea of having a baby with my new husband. We have both been married before and we both have 2 children from our previous marriages. He has a son and a daughter (8 and 5) and I have a son and a daughter (12 and 11). I am 31 and I had my kids VERY young. I am an attorney and my career is very demanding. I had kids young because I wanted to really be able to keep up with them and be active with them. Now that both of my kids are in middle school and relatively self-sufficient, I don't know if I am prepared to go back to diapers and sleepless nights. My husband is a great dad....very involved with his children whose mother completely abandoned them two years ago. I think a new baby would be a great way to bring us closer as husband and wife and as a family but I guess I am being selfish. I struggled to raise my two kids through law school and on my own. Now that I am educated and financially secure I kind of feel like any free time we have can be spent together, traveling, or doing nothing at all. Do I really want to be back at the parenting starting gate now that the finish line is in sight? I know it must sound terrible but my whole life from teenage years on has been spent raising babies and going to school. I have had no social life and no free time. Now that my kids are old enough for me to have a little of each I feel very protective of it. Opinions....guidance....anyone???