New crib or new toddler bed when a new baby arrives?

Michelle - posted on 03/15/2012 ( 66 moms have responded )

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I'm 8 months pregnant with an 18 month old who still sleeps in her crib. Should I buy a new crib for the new baby? or should I buy a toddler bed for my 18 month old? She should be ready for it by the time the new baby is here. I'm having a tough time deciding what to do. My daughter's current crib will convert into a bed as well. Any thoughts? Experiences?

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Patty - posted on 03/16/2012

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First off, do you have a cradle for the new baby? If you do, that would give you more time to make a decision. Every child is different. If you think the toddler is ready, get the bed ready for her/him before the baby arrives, so you are not dealing with alot of changes at once. I would have a bed rail for the toddler bed, and a small stepping stool. Good luck and congratulations! PK in Texas

Joanna - posted on 03/20/2012

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I would not invest in another crib, but I also would not take your 18 month old out of her crib immediately either. i would opt for a bassinet in your room for the new baby. Or a cosleeper or a packnplay. Then in a few months re-evaluate, and see how your daughter is doing. Is she ready for a new bed? Does she want a toddler bed or a twin? My daughter slept in a regular twin bed, but I had my son in a toddler bed for a while. They are all different. If she is attached to her crib, you could look at whether to invest in a new one in a few months. But don't do it now. You will likely be able to move her to a toddler bed or twin without problems. But again don't make any changes when the new baby comes. If you really want her in a toddler bed or twin and want to use the crib for the new baby right off, make the switch before the new baby comes. Make it about her growing up, nothing to do with the new baby. You could opt to buy her own bed, and then use her crib for the new baby, and she will have already transitioned. You could have her pick out her new bed, very exciting for a child to do! They have some really cute toddler beds now! Good luck with everything!

Elida - posted on 03/18/2012

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I would buy another crib for the new baby as you can convert your current crib to a bed whenever your daughter is ready. Why give her extra stress now when she is going to be stressed over a new addition to the family? Now is the time to show your 18 month toddler that a new baby does not mean that she has to give up what she has. She will feel insecure if she thinks she lost her bed because baby is here. Get your 18 month involved in buying a new crib for her sibling. She will feel like a big sister!



Btw, congratulations to you for your new baby!!

Mazy - posted on 03/16/2012

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#2 was born when #1 was 18 months. A few months before the new baby arrived, we converted the crib to a toddler bed so he was used to it. He had no issues whatsoever about beign in an open bed. The new baby slept in a bassinet & coslept until just before 6 months. At that point we got a twin bed for #1 & made the toddler bed a crib again for #2. Again, there were no transitional issues. We'll be doing the same thing when #3 comes along.

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Vianca - posted on 07/26/2012

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hi, I put my kid on a bed when he was 15 months. No bed rails need it, theres is this baby safety bed belt that helps the transition crib-bed . I found it on ebay under the description "BABY DREAMS -Safety bed belt for babies". Great deal ! they can move while sleeping, the safety belt just stops the baby come close to the edge of the bed. In my experience best thing ever, didn´t have to buy travel cribs or anything. We travel a lot so the safety belt was great for traveling is compatible with any type of bed.

Sherri - posted on 04/18/2012

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Except a toddler bed isn't any bigger than a crib so not sure how they have any more room than a crib.

Katrina - posted on 04/18/2012

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I think a toddler bed is great way to go it is a step close to a much bigger twin bed . Eventually kids out grow a lot the things that come in and out of there life. And starting now that not only you are expecting a baby , your 18mo is also changing and will become a older sister. Which having a toddler bed can allow her to be aware of change and you can ease that with her. With my twins at age 2 , my hubby and I bought there beds , though I hoped we had got them a lot sooner and at the time I was about 6 mos expecting too. Was a good transition, since they were also becoming older sibling to there sister, we assure them that change is good and that they where becoming Big boys and need a much bigger bed to grow in! So good luck and congrats on ur baby!

Oh and also the toddler beds are way cheaper then a brand new crib! Well in our corner :)

Jenifer - posted on 04/16/2012

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Ikea has these lovely cribs SUNDVIK, that shift down to toddler beds if your going to get either or you can get one of these to help you save money

Maren - posted on 04/13/2012

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I would convert your current crib and see how she does. If she likes it and takes to it well get a toddler bed, if not convert it back and buy a new convertable crib.

Mazy - posted on 04/11/2012

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I don't know if kids really do get that bent out of shape over "owning" the bed unless the parents say/do something about it. When son #1 was 15 months old, we took the side off his crib to transform it into a toddler bed. Then when he was 18 months old, son #2 was born. #2 slept in a co-sleeper basinet until he was almost 6 months. So when #1 was 2 years old he went into a regular twin sized bed & we put the side back on the toddler bed to make it a crib again so #2 could go in it. We never said #1 had to give up his bed or it was for the baby or anything. We just did it. And there weren't any questions or problems. He never once had a problem switching beds or sleeping in it. And now that #2 is 16 months & in the toddler bed, they frequently switch beds...or sleep on the floor together! If you don't make it an issue, then it probably won't be one.

Nicole - posted on 04/11/2012

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I have the same sort of situation; my daughter is 20months now and I transitioned her to a toddler bed when she was 18months. I was only 3 months pregnant when I tried her in the bed ( I wanted to make sure I had plenty of time to get her used to it before baby came). I also didn't want her to feel like the baby took her bed. Our first attempt failed but I left both the crib and toddler bed set up in her room and two weeks after we tried again. She did great and has been sleeping there ever since. I think it really depends on what kind of sleeper you have...my daughter is a great sleeper and goes to bed VERY easily. Our routine is basically story, kisses and door closed (no lights, bottles/sippy cups). She crawls in and stays there all night. I would let your baby guide you; get a toddler bed since you will need one anyways and try her out. Good Luck and congrats!

Dawn - posted on 04/10/2012

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I would save your money on the new crib and transfer your older one to a toddler bed!

Alaina - posted on 04/10/2012

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My daughter was in a toddler bed at 18 months. and she is almost 3 now. the first couple of nights are rough but once she got use to it it was ok.

Susan - posted on 04/04/2012

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i have 7 children iwould put the older 1 in a toddler bed if iwas u just make sure u have stair gates tho

Isabel - posted on 04/03/2012

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It was a tough 3 weeks in the begining...My son was 2 wen i started putting him in his own bed...The first week i said goodnight put him in bed in his room, and closed the door.Of course he came out, just say goodnight do it again, and again and again! lol...its alot of wrk but well worth it! I used tricks to keep him in his room, i did the star lights that spin all over his wall, and we let him pick 4 toys to sleep with, bed time stories and sang to him before turning out the lights.he is now 4, and i say time for bed we read a book, turn on his star lights, and he has his toys which he plays with for about 15 min. and then goes to sleep on his own now.which is amazing compared to before lol...good luck if i think of any other tips ill let u kno!

Niki - posted on 03/30/2012

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I still only have just 1 child, but I have lots of friends who have 2 now, and they faced the same dilemma as you, the friends who bought a new crib for the new baby had less problems with transition when they were ready to be in a toddler bed, and also seemed to suffer less from jealousy over the new baby. If I was you, I would get a new crib, cuz I would not want my first to feel like the new baby is taking her things. I hope this helps :)

Leslie - posted on 03/28/2012

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My daughter was older when baby #2 came along; however we moved her to a twin bed BEFORE the baby was born. We painted and made a big deal of fixing up her "big girl" room. This prevented her from feeling as though the new baby was taking her place and that the was switching beds because she was a "big girl."



Just love them, they'll do great!!

Cassie - posted on 03/22/2012

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Also you should remember NOT to assume your daughter will be overwhelmed or stressed. If YOU stay positive, it will rub off on HER. I know she is younger, but with my son even though he is younger than my daughter was when he was born, I am already taking him around friends' babies and saying, "baby". If you make this a happy and exciting time, she will believe it is a happy and exciting time. A tip from a friends' pediatrician: Keep the new infant fed, clean, and safe, and play with your older child, who will remember that you played with her :)

Katie - posted on 03/21/2012

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We were in the same situation as you and we had the baby sleep in a bassinet for the first two months or so, then we switched our daughter over to a toddler bed and put baby in the big crib. I was nervous because my daughter likes to toss and turn, but it worked out great!

Rebecca - posted on 03/21/2012

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i would buy the baby a crib(that would convert 2 a bed for them).that way your daughter wont feel like the new baby is taking your attention AND her bed.you can still switch her to the toddler bed before the baby comes and make her feel like a big girl that can help you do stuff with the baby.

Cassie - posted on 03/20/2012

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We are in the same situation. I am 26wks with a 14mos old, (and a4yr old) so our aun will be 18mos when our new baby girl is born. We have a convertible crib, andOur 4yr old hated when we turned it into a toddler bed, so we put her directly into a twin bed, and she loved it. When the new baby comes, we are planning in keeping our 18mos old son in the crib for a few months, because our new baby will be in the bassinet for 3-4mos (i breastfeed so as long as the baby doesnt outgrow the bassinet I like to keep them in our room a little longer). Then we are planning on getting my son a fun toddler bed, like a car one. It us much cheaper than buying another crib, and also takes up less room. Plus he will be almost 2 by that point anyway, which is when we began to transition our daughter to a "big girl bed". Since this is our 3rd and we are not planning on having another child, it doesnt make sense to invest in another crib. If you are planning on having a 3rd, and soon, it might make sense for you to spend a couple hundred on another crib. For us right now, it doesnt :) Plus, by waiting to transition him to a toddler bed until a few months after our daughter is born, it will be a separate event from her birth. We are going to make it about HIM, not about HER (if that makes sense). I think if you maje it exciting for your current child, everything will be fine. Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 03/19/2012

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Ps - in addition toy earlier post - we also went straight to the twin bed, in fact our child's bedroom had a twin bed in it before he came along (spare room). So it was very easy to transition. We told him once he was three years old he could sleep in it. A week after his third b-day.... Viola!!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/19/2012

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Our second baby arrived when our first child was 17 months. We bought a second crib. There were going to be a lot a new changes, adding another change (toddler bed) wasn't necessary. The best part was keeping our first child in a crib until he was three! We always knew he was safe in there. Two children is very different (at first) than one. Good luck!

Ferris - posted on 03/18/2012

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My older son (25 months) is still in his crib and my baby (4 months) is in the co sleeper . I like to use the crib until they are 3 or so. I skip the toddler bed and just buy a twin bed.

Hope - posted on 03/18/2012

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My son is almost 2yrs and sleeps in his pack and play still. Soon he'll be able to sleep in a toddler bed. I'm going to keep the pack'n play for night time sleep and toddler bed for naps for a few weeks so it will be an easier transition for him.

With everything that comes with a new baby, you might want to get a pack'n play or keep the 18 month in the crib until he/she is 2yrs. You could get a basinette for your newborn and when the newborn outgrows it then move the baby to the crib. A newborn will be a lot of work for you and a lot of change for your 18month old. You don't want to overwhelm an 18month old with the change of a newborn (parents attention is now also in caring for new baby) and a new toddler bed all at once. Good luck. :) Congrats on your new little one.

Juniper - posted on 03/18/2012

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I agree with most of the comments and for the most part all look like good advice. My own experiences (now 5.9 yrs 3.5 yrs and 10 mo) are pretty much the same as Karina Ramsey.

You having a shorter time period (and maybe like the rest of us don't have the extra money for a 2nd crib).

My 1st was climbing out of her crib so we had to change it but I was expecting anyway. We left the baby room as a baby room and set up the next room (at the time a computer/guest room) into her new room. Don't have to do much but (again as suggested below) have her help with the decisions on little things like the bedding). We loved reading books, without explaining why we were reading them, like The Berenstain Bear's New Baby. There is 1 where brother and papa go to the woods to make him a new bed and he gets a new room (showing Mama pregnant and that she needs the little bed for the baby). If you need to get a rail for the side of the bed do that, they work great.

To help my daughter; I let her sing and talk to the baby in my tummy like it was a person and told her one day should would meet the baby when I go to bring them home. I then had her come shopping to buy her sibbling a bday present. I also bought a present for my Daughter from the baby, kind of a thank you for being my big sister. Again she probably wont understand all this but makes her feel good.

Good Luck, I'm sure what ever you come up with work for your family

Karina - posted on 03/18/2012

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I sort of went through the same thing. My daughter was 18 months old when I found out that I was pregnant again. My husband and I just transitioned her to the converted toddler bed for 3 months. Then, we bought her a big girl bed and switched her over for the last 2 months of my pregnancy. this way we could deal with any issues that arose before the baby came. Plus, we had a bassinet for the little dude to sleep in for 2 - 3 months.



You might as well get moving on a big bed. she is going to need it in the not too distant future.

I had more energy the last trimester of pregnancy (and I have the best husband ever), we just rotated who dealt with any out of bed issues, which only happened a few times.

As far as any jealousy issues with the changing of the beds - make a HUGE deal out of your daughter getting a new bed and how she is your big girl, mommy's little helper. let her pick out sheets or blankets. and have her help you "make" the crib up for your new arrival. We had no problems.

Good Luck!

Sherry - posted on 03/17/2012

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I would get a toddler bed, let her help you pick out the blankets. That is what I did with my kids they are 5 years , 3 years and 5 months, they loved helping mommy pick out their new bedding.

Lori - posted on 03/17/2012

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I have 3 boys. I have a convertible crib as well. My oldest started trying to climb out so we converted it to the toddler bed at 18 months. But at 20 months he started having nightmares so I put him into another room on a queen bed with rails. My middle son was born 10 months later so there was no worries. However my middle son was 16 months when my youngest was born. I had the youngest in my room next to me until he was 6 months old. At 18 months, we converted the crib to the toddler bed for my middle son. He hated it, so I cable tied a bed rail on the toddler bed. My concern was the jealousy factor. I wanted him to be in a regular bed well before the youngest went into the crib. It didn't really go as planned. He wouldn't sleep in a regular bed with rails. However he would sleep with my oldest in his queen bed. So we let him for a long time until I got a loft bed (when oldest turned 6) for my oldest to go over the queen. We just converted the crib to a toddler bed for my youngest. I potty trained my kids at 22months, so I wanted to make sure he learned to be comfortable with the toddler bed before we started potty training him. I wanted to make sure he could get up and go pee if he needed to. My middle son used to get up in the middle of the night to go pee and then go right back to bed on his own.

What I am leading up to is it depends on your child. I worry about the jealousy and making one move for another, but see how your child handles sleeping on the toddler bed made from the crib before you buy anything. I am assuming you will be keeping baby in your room with you for a while, so it will buy some time for you. If after a month, your daughter does well, I would make a great big deal about getting a big girl bed, and go straight to the bed. Just make sure there is some time between her getting the big bed, and baby going into the crib. Good luck. I'm sure it will all be fine.

Miranda - posted on 03/17/2012

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when I was pregnant with my 2nd child, I just moved my son from his crib into a twin bed. Babies R Us sells a long bed rail that you can attach to the bed so that the child doesn't fall out. If you get a twin bed now, you can buy the rail for about $30 and then when she gets bigger, you can take the safety rail down.

Tiffany - posted on 03/17/2012

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I would buy another crib because when you have a newborn you are gonna need as much rest as possible. And it will be easier to adjust the 18 month old to one new thing at a time. And having a sibling is a big adjustment. And you will get more rest by not having to keep putting a toddler in a new bed and deal with a newborn baby. I would wait on the transition to a toddler bed.

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Most of it comes down to what you're comfortable with. I have 4 children ages 5, 4, 2, and 10 months. My 10 mo old is still in a crib of course, but my older 3 all switched to a twin bed with bed rail at 15 months old. I did not want to buy a second crib since I felt it would be a waste of money. I've had no problems at bedtime. I'm planning to switch my youngest at 15 months as well.

Letitia - posted on 03/17/2012

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my little girl was 18 months old when i had my son and because he was in a Moses basket till he was 4 months old she went strait into a todler bed and my son had her old crib but that was the way things panned out y dont you turn ur crib into a bed to see how she feels with it for a couple nights to see if shes ready or not

Sheri - posted on 03/17/2012

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At this point I would just by another crib. You only have a month, so it may not be enough time to change your daughter over. You don't want your older child to think the baby took her crib away from her.

Lisa - posted on 03/17/2012

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my boy was in a full sized bed at 18mths as i needed the cot and my daughter at 2 years, didn't bother with a toddler bed as they are used for such a short time we bought a bed that will be fine for the kids till they are adults they were both fine, make is such an exciting event shopping for it they love it

Leanne - posted on 03/17/2012

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I was in this same situation, and I didn't want my older daughter resenting the baby for taking her bed and she was only 17 months old. I bought a pack and play with the bassinette on top for the baby and put it next to my bed. It worked out well for all of us.

Alexandra - posted on 03/17/2012

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I would buy another crib. Your 18 month old will still feel she needs that protection. And why more changes now? The new baby will be an enough change, no point changing her bed too! Congratulaions!

Leonie - posted on 03/17/2012

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THe advice that was given to me was whatever you do don't make any big changes to the older ones sleeping arangements after the new baby arrives, do it long before so that they have time to adjust. I was told that there can be resentment- new baby now has lots of

Mums attention AND they have taken my cot. My older son was just over 2 years when baby arrived. So a few months before we bought him a gorgeous racing car bed and put a side rail on it just in case he roled off. He loved it and when the cot was set up again for

Bubs there were no issues.

Kimberley - posted on 03/17/2012

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toddler bed. that way new baby can have the cot which u can then convert to toddler bed when they grow up. my daughter was exactly 18months when our 2nd daughter was born and we put her in a toddler bed a month before baby was born so she didn't feel it was due to the new baby and she had plenty of time to adjust to it, we were very lucky and never had any trouble with her changing to big bed. she would get out occasionally but baby gate on her door stopped her wandering and she soon stopped getting out of bed all together

Kristen - posted on 03/17/2012

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Put the newborn in a bassinette for few months to give your first child more time and then get a toddler bed with a railing so she can't fall out. The railing can be taken out as she gets older and the new baby will enjoy the crib. Bassinette can be packed with newborn clothes and put away for another day.

Allison - posted on 03/17/2012

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Buy a Co-sleeper for the new baby. They are really really great, especially if you are breast feeding. I wish I has one the first time around.

Sherri - posted on 03/17/2012

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I think that most forget that an 18mo old is still a baby too and her world shouldn't be uprooted and forced to grow up sooner because mom & dad are having another baby. She didn't ask to be a big sister, she just wishes to be a baby.

Pamela - posted on 03/17/2012

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Buy the toddler bed and explain to your daughter that she is getting a new bed so that the new baby can have the bed she has been putting "sweet dreams" into to make the new baby welcome!



If you stop at two then you can just turn the crib into the bed for the second child. If you keep going I suppose new beds will be needed!!! LOL!!!



The highest and best to you and your family as it grows and prospers!

Penny - posted on 03/17/2012

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How exciting for you and your family! Tell your toddler it's time for a big girl bed and take her shopping with you and let her be part of the experience have her pick one out from your choices of course and pick new bedding and get her into it now! This way she has time to adjust and Aldo have her help strip the crib and be part of getting it ready with new bedding for the new baby. After all she is the big sister and will be a big part of helping but still will need her special bonding time with you. By the way hasn't she already been climbing out of the crib, mine was quite the escape artist by eighteen months. Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 03/17/2012

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Thanks for the advice ladies!!! Looks like we'll be getting a new convertible crib for the new babe. We do have a cradle that he'll sleep in for the first little while, and my 18 month old will stay put in her crib until she can climb out of it :) Then we'll flip it into a bed. This was a great place for input - many thanks!

Steffany - posted on 03/16/2012

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The question is, how soon r u gonna start potty training.. Toddler bed would b great if you decide to potty train soon n i feel they are more smaller.. Just make sure your toddler gets used to it like 3 week before the new baby its born :) Plus your baby would b a little more dependent..



Im in your same situation.. I research earlier so i can b prepare

Michele - posted on 03/16/2012

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keep her in crib until she shows signs of wanting out (example, climbing out!!!!) Just use a pack n play for baby:)

Kate - posted on 03/16/2012

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Either buy another convertible crib or cosleep with the new born and buy a toddler bed for the older child when she is ready to transition out of the crib...my daughter is 2 1/2 and still in her crib...it is convertible but we haven't changed it over yet..of course she can get in/out whenever she wants...I almost think she prefers climbing in and out, more fun that way!

Stifler's - posted on 03/16/2012

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I bought a toddler bed and put my 14 month old into it (baby came when he was 16 months). I wasn't going to buy 2 cots when he could nearly jump out of it. It depends on the child.

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