Amanda - posted on 12/09/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
Ok I need some advice. Ive always been raised to forgive people no matter what and I think Ive done a good job up until now. My 6 yr old used to call my ex dad until a yr ag when my husband and I got married. He then started calling my husband dad. My ex is not the biological father. He used to visit him and I would allow sleepovers rom time to time. I had to take my son away from my ex a couple times due to him stalking me and suicide attempts. My husband and I were told if we found bio dad we could do the doption process ourselves. well when we found him and met up it turns out the law had changed and we needed a lawyer. My ex in the meantime was seen at my house many times playing in the yard with the dog. He started showing up without calling. Then he dropped my son off with me and told me he filed fr custody and pretty soon I would never see my son again. I got scared so I took my son way from him and went to a lawyer. We went through with the adoption and a judge granted it. We now have to wait for the decree. My ex and I had a hearing and the judge was so mad at my lawyer that he didnt listen to anything we had to say. I couldnt tell him anything. He put a temporary order in place until my husband gets home from deployment. He gave my ex loco parentis status and many rights. I am now very scared I will never see my son again. Many kids disappear every year. This judge I feel wouldve made a different decision had he just listened to the facts. Now my ex is trying to stop the adoption. He is lavishing my son with gifts and trying to get him to call him dad again. I had no rights in he courtroom and I ow feel I have no rights over my child. Any advice?