not a question..just want to vent

Eden - posted on 07/10/2009

it'll be here before you know it

DEANNA - posted on 07/10/2009

Girl, I know how u feel! In fact, as much as I am thankful to God for my son, I really didn't enjoy my pregnancy over all, for the most part. I would hear women talk abouthow much they "loved" being pregnant and it would make me want to slap them! lol.. Just hang n there, it'll b over before u know it..

Emily - posted on 07/10/2009

And really...why does everyone say 9 mos it's really 10 and it makes a big difference :). Just think about your baby and its need to get big, healthy and strong. These final weeks will go both fast and slow at the same time. Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 07/10/2009

thank you..i unfortunately have not been good at keeping my complaints to myself.I was extremely excited when i found out i was pregnant, because i had experienced several miscarriages before, but then my boyfriend broke up with me because he decided he didn't want to be a father...lol. I have been out of work since 17weeks due to a high risk pregnancy, suffice it to say i burnt through all of my medical leave so i have been let go officially.
I was in pain throughout the end of my first and all of my second trimester. I was unable to really do anything and now that i feel great physically all my friends disappeared so i have nothing to do and no one to go out with. i am absolutely stir crazy and feel like i cant get anything finished for the baby to come. urghhhhh..i am just so ready to give birth and the best news that i have received is that my doc doesn't believe in letting someone go past their due date so they induce you in your 39th week..thank god! I know i should be cherishing this time but i would rather be going through the chaos of having a newborn at this point. lol. Sorry still venting...lol.

Mary - posted on 07/10/2009

You are not alone!! I listen to so many women who rave about how they LOVED being pregnant, and cannot help but think - WTF??? Funny thing is, I didn't realize how truly miserable I was until AFTER she was born!!

After years of infertility, I conceived spontaneously at the ripe old age of 37. I was THRILLED!! I felt just fine until about 11 weeks, and it all went down hill from there! That was when I started throwing up EVERY day, a couple of times a day, and continued to do so up until about an hour prior to delivery. From 12-18 weeks I was plagued with hormonal headaches that were just about disabling...very much like migraines, I think...except while pregnant, there is very little effective treatment for them. I had horrible sciatica from 25-30 weeks...I had trouble just walking! This was particularly challenging, since I am an L&D nurse, and spend 12 long hours at a physically demanding job. And from about 34 weeks on, sleep was a joke...felt like I needed a pit crew to come in & help me roll over, and reposition all those GD pillows, and by the time I did that, I realized I need to get up & pee! I was an emotional timebomb...ANYthing could make me cry...I remember watching an episode of Dogtown about the Michael Vick pitbulls, and their rehab at this rescue...I sobbed for 2 straight hours, and was ready to board a plane & go adopt them all! My hubby was convinced I had finally, truly lost it!!



And yet...I was so grateful, and happy to BE pregnant...I revelled in every squirm & hiccup she made...it never crossed my mind to complain. I think I felt like I should be on top of the world because my dream was finally coming true. At the time, I think I was almost relieved for all of the discomforts, b/c it reassured me that I really was growing a little one inside me, and I had spent so long just praying and hoping for this exact thing...I didn't allow myself to really acknowledge just how freakin physically miserable I was. People I work with are amazed now when I admit this...they all marvelled at how well I did as an "older" mama (I worked up until I delivered at 39 4/7), and apparently I rarely complained...I hid it well from both myself and others. I was just so happy to be having a normal, uncomplicated pregnancy, that bitching about it seemed...well, ungrateful. I mean, I WANTED this, right??



Like I said, It really hit me after she was born just how crappy it really was. Don't get me wrong, it was totally worth it, and I would do it all again in a heartbeat...but still...I feel for you, and know that you are NOT alone!!

Sandra - posted on 07/10/2009

Hey there i'm on your side. I had severe morning sickness for all 4 of my pregnancies and even spent 7 out of 9 mths in hospital with my 4th due to this. Giving birth was the easiest part for me pregnancy is not the same for everyone. I still get mums saying they enjoyed being pregnant and all i can remember is wishing the damn birth date would arrive. Although with the 4th cause i was so sick i was induced a month early and it was scary we were in hospital for 2 weeks. Good luck with your final weeks and chin up once he is born you will forget how bad you felt and he will be all that matters.

Nadya - posted on 07/10/2009

I cannot identify with your problem, but you do have my sympathy. Although I would like to say, please treasure these moments. Once the baby is there it all goes so fast.

I had no problems with my pregnancy, except tiredness. I had a great midwife who gave me the best advice to keep my weight in check, how to prevent heartburn, swelling and hemorrhoids, etc. The only discomfort I had was the last month I was at work as it was really irritating to not be able to sleep when I needed, or put my feet up, etc.

I spent that last month reading poetry to my baby and she ended up arriving about a 3 weeks early, so it was a real suprise and I had so much that I still wanted to do. And once she was here, it was just hopping form moment to moment trying to get things done (like taking a shower or getting something to eat) and feed her and and and...

So treasure the time of peace you have with her/him now while everything is still automated and you don't have to do much except leave it to your body to take care of.

Lisa - posted on 07/09/2009

you should be thankful u have a healthy baby i was pregnant and i had to deliver my daughter at 5and a half months cause we found out she was terminally ill. It's all worth everything u go through when u can hold them and feed them and i cant even do that.

Sonja - posted on 07/08/2009

I hear ya! This is my second one and I didn't enjoy the first one and I'm not enjoying the second. I still have 20 more weeks! Hang in there, girlfriend! :o)

Liz - posted on 07/08/2009

you know it I hear women all the time talking about how great it is to be pregnant i dont think so it bloody terrible the kicking hurts you get heart burn stretch pains and the list goes on i hated being pregnant but so glad my son is here i wont be going thru that again

Patty - posted on 07/07/2009

If you're bored, there's so much you can do! Start his baby book; write letters to your son; write out your ancestry; do things your son will treasure in the future.



Remember it's so important to keep that little one "in the oven"...my first came 10 weeks early and we spent 75 days in the hospital! She's just fine now but every week your son stays put is for the best. If no one told you, at this point cramps = labor! Nobody said that to me so when I woke up feeling crampy, I turned over and went back to sleep. If I'd gone into the hospital immediately, I probably would have had more than two weeks at home with her before I had to go back to work.



Treasure every moment - someone said it earlier; a positive attitude will spread!

Jennifer - posted on 07/07/2009

thank you all again...i seem to lack patience....lol. plus i am just plain ol' bored and just cant wait to meet my son.

Sandra - posted on 07/07/2009

well there you have it, take comfort in the fact your not alone and many have done it and many will....its all worth it in the end, children are a joy and you'll have many happy times, good luck to you and your baby....

Jocelyn - posted on 07/07/2009

just cross your fingers that you are not an elephant, they are preg for 22 months :P lol

Veronica - posted on 07/07/2009

Quoting Pam:

Just think about it this way.....every day is a day that you will never have again. Your baby is being molded into something that has never been created before......He (or she) is an original, and it takes time for the Master to create his masterpiece.

Pam, i just wanted to say, thank you for that perspective - I think that is the most beautiful thing to keep in mind as we carry a baby - cause after all, our Lord has created them, placed their soul in there, "Knitted us in our mothers womb" (Jeremiah 1:5) Each and every one of us has a purpose, and certainly are unique. And to really think about how God designed us to carry another life, is such a miraculous thing in itself - how lucky we are to have this gift from our Lord. Thanks for sharing this!

Veronica

Kimberly - posted on 07/07/2009

I was bigger than a barn during the summer when my husband thought it was a good idea to get a cabin for us and the kids for vacation. No air, bugs the size of small dogs and lots of sand...Well, here we are going back for the 15th year in a row. Even poor moments and turn into good memories...hang in there.

Rabecca - posted on 07/06/2009

I can relate, I actually hated being pregnant starting in the second trimester!

Nicole - posted on 07/06/2009

I know! It's even worse being pregnant in the summer! It seems like you're pregnant FOREVER but the moment they come out time flies! My son is going to be 7 months old next week and it seems like just yesterday we brought him home from the hospital. I look at this big boy now, rolling and sitting and playing, and wonder what happened to that helpless baby I brought home?!

Anita - posted on 07/06/2009

thats ok jennifer..i was over it by 8mths because i started getting really uncomfortable and the last 2mths was just a drag...hang in there and it will be over in no time and u have everything else to look forward to..:)

Di - posted on 07/06/2009

i had a pretty easy pregnancy and i loved having a baby bump. but i was pretty keen to meet my baby in the last couple of weeks.

Jennifer - posted on 07/06/2009

lol..thanks ladies. i feel much better knowing i am not the only one that feels this way.

Sapphire - posted on 07/06/2009

I'm sorry you feel this way. Please vent all you want! I wish I could say I knew how you felt, but I don't. I had to be medically induced at 36 weeks and I know it sounds so bizarre to say that in a tiny way I am jealous of never having to feel that 'OH SO DONE BEING PREGNANT" feeling. I just didn't have that option to get bigger, fatter, and more uncomfortable. But in any event, I wish you the very best in the last remaining weeks for a smooth and gentle labor & delivery.

Kathy - posted on 07/06/2009

I was so sick with my first pregnancy for seven months, that I was questioning if I really wanted to be pregnant. I was lucky to make it to work 3 days a week. It was horrible. But you know what??? It was well worth it. I realize now that I am not a good pregnant person, but that doesn't stop me from being a great mom!!! Hang in there, you can do it. It will all be over very soon. :)

Tammy - posted on 07/06/2009

Amen sister. I've been there 4 times and felt EXACTLY the same way. The cute wore off pretty quick and all I wanted was to GET THE THING OUT!! haha I adore my kids and they were wonderful once they were born, but I am not a fan of being pregnant AT ALL.

Jennifer - posted on 07/06/2009

omg i know how u feel i wanted to give birth so fast man n i was 5 days overdue. stimulate ur nipples have some tea that u can get in a health store that is for preg. have lots of sex. do a lot of walking

Lacy - posted on 07/06/2009

Pamper yourself! I agree with the post that said do your nails, take some baths, etc. Read, watch your fave shows, SLEEP, hah. Really indulge b/c those first few months (years, decades, heh) are hard! :)

Tricia - posted on 07/06/2009

Think of it this way...you know where your kid is. You don't need to worry about feeding. No diapers. No homework. No questionable friends. No asking for the car. No up all night sick.....enjoy the summer and float in a pool, it will take the pressure away. Good Luck

Julia - posted on 07/06/2009

I remember feeling the same way and after my first son came, I thought, "oh my gosh, it was so much easier when he was still inside!"

Enjoy the last bit of quiet. Sleep deprivation is so much harder than pregnancy!



BTW, you look great!

Sabrina - posted on 07/06/2009

I know girl, I remember that too. 9-10 months is too long. Imagine being an elephant tho....they are pregnant for like 2-3 years....heck no!!! You just have to remember that this is all for your beautiful baby boy/girl.....if they come out early, they might not be ready and have problems....this is all for them.....and soon they will be here with you!!

Hang in there Mommy.....you are almost done!!

Kate - posted on 07/06/2009

If you're not seeing a chiropractor, please try it!! I saw one sort of during my first pregnancy...meaning I went once every couple weeks when I felt like it. At the end of my pregnancy I was sooooo tired and sore and I could not sleep and every day felt like forever.

This time (I am 37 weeks) I am seeing a chiropractor 3 times a week. I can still sleep just fine! I am not very sore! Although I am anxious to meet this baby, I feel like I could keep going for weeks if I had to, I feel that good. I really believe it is the chiropractic that is helping. Plus, it's supposed to make labor faster and easier. :)

Abby - posted on 07/06/2009

i made it to 38 weeks, and for about the last 2 before that i was tearing my hair out! try to do some nice thigns, go for a swim, a nice walk meet with friends for lunch. and just be u!!! enjoy lay ins and quiet time reading a book cos it wont happen for a while after.

Pam - posted on 07/06/2009

Just think about it this way.....every day is a day that you will never have again. Your baby is being molded into something that has never been created before......He (or she) is an original, and it takes time for the Master to create his masterpiece.

Richelle - posted on 07/06/2009

try to enjoy the time to yourself, I know thats frustrating to hear cuz your'e so uncomfy but seriously!! you will need it later and wont be able to! Take a bath, do your nails, fix your hair, do all that stuff cuz in 10 weeks, you wont know the difference between brushing your nails, and painting your hair!

Brianna - posted on 07/06/2009

ok, sounds silly I know, but if you make yourself think positive, even put on a smile when you don't want to, it will rub off on you! Think of it this way, 10 weeks to pack the bags, organize baby's room, make sure the carseat is in place, etc. Plus, when you think of your sweet baby coming out now, being in the NICU, being so tiny...the wait is well worth it. Good luck, dear.

Claire - posted on 07/06/2009

I so know how you feel. I'm due tomorrow, and I wish I could've had this baby a month ago. I just try to stay positive, knowing that these few weeks are "a drop in the bucket" compared to the lifetime I'll have with my baby.

Cynthia - posted on 07/06/2009

It's normal! I felt the same way at my 8th month and I went full term . . 40 weeks! UGH. hang in there.

User - posted on 07/06/2009

We're such impatient, people, aren't we?

We don't want to wait to get pregnant, we don't want to wait the whole pregnancy to meet our baby because we're tired of being pregnant, we want our babies to talk because we're tired of just listening to them coo, we want our toddlers to potty-train NOW because we're tired of changing diapers, ...

sorry, girl, this is only the beginning!

Hang in there - remember that this is the easiest time of being a mommy!!!!! :)

Christina - posted on 07/06/2009

I remember those days all too well and my daughter is over a year old now. Hang in there!!