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I took my 5 yr old son to the dentist for the first time today. I took him to a different dentist than the one I have always used with my daughter because that dentist is no longer in our network for our insurance.
First, when we arrived at the office it was not "kid-friendly" at all. Just a cold, bare room. Not even any books for the kids to look at. Then, when they called my son's name I got up to go with him and the dental assistant told me I wasn't allowed back there. I told her that it was his first time at the dentist and I would like to meet the dentist. She replied with "Well, you'll get to meet him" I said that I preferred to meet him FIRST before he goes poking around in my sons mouth so she got all huffy and told me to hold on (still not letting me go back to the exam area). Then the dentist comes out and says "What do you need?" I told him that I just wanted to meet him before they took my son back and that I preferred to be present for his exam and he told me that they probably would only be doing xrays today. About 10 min later my son comes out with the dental assistant and she calls me over to tell me that they are giving him a referral to go have the damaged tooth fixed. So, I said "it's bad enough that he needs oral surgeon? I just thought it was a cavity." She says, "no not a surgeon, a dentist. It probably just needs to be filled" So, then I was really confused. "You are a dentist office but you don't perform routine fillings?" Her, "No, we don't do anything that requires a local or general anesthetic." Seriously? What bothered me even more was that the dentist homself didn't speak to me and give me the diagnosis. Then she just kept looking at my sons xrays and telling me that he never had baby teeth and stuff like that.
Our other dentist always took the time to talk with me and never had a problem with me going in. I got to sit right there and watch her pull my daughters tooth. I was just wondering if it was normal for a dentist to not allow you back with your child. To me it should be no different than the doctor. The doctor doesn't make you stay in the waiting room while they examine your child and a five year old isn't capable of making sure the dentist is using sterile instruments and such.