Angela - posted on 02/15/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
Just wanted to ask how you all are handling these situations...I've heard both arguments for toddler discipline; you need to be consistent and have others that are around him do the same or the argument that it's ok for kids to have a little more leeway with grandparents or other relatives. My mom is pretty good about doing what we ask, but does have a bad habit of attending to my son if he's in the middle of a tantrum or catering to whatever he wants. My husband and I don't acknowledge our son's tantrums because he's going through a phase where he hits or bites if he's upset. So we'll put him somewhere in the room safe, where we can still see him, and go about our day. Within seconds our son is fine and back to normal. But he can really lay on the drama so when you cater to his tantrums, his behavior worsens. Like eating out if someone has french fries (not something we give our son very often, and if so, in limited quantities) he will throw a fit and refuse to eat anything else. If something is within reach, he'll throw it. So, he's learning with us if he eats a bite of his dinner, he can have a french fry or whatever else he wants instead. When my sister (who lives out of state and doesn't see him often) is in town or my mom is up, they tend to give him whatever he wants, whenever he wants. This seems to be a snowball effect for bad behavior, which normally is pretty limited and only occurs when he's tired. My mother in law never listens to a word we say and will do whatever she wants, regardless. So, I think she's a lost cause. But I wanted to know if any of you have dealt with this? And if so, have you let it go and just dealt with the breakdowns and consequences? Or asked your family members to abide by your house rules?