Tiffany - posted on 08/21/2012 ( 503 moms have responded )
My partner and i were invited to the wedding of what i considered a "good friend". the invitation didn't mention anything about children not being welcome. i had arranged for my parents to look after my 3 yo son for the event and was planning on bring my newborn with me as it is a half day event almost 2 hours away.
A couple of days ago my friend sent me a message making sure i had organised childcare for both of the kids... i replied saying that im not comfortable leaving the newborn as she is still feeding 2-3 hourly and would not be able to express enough milk for 10 -12 hours in my absence not to mention the need to pump several times throughout the day to avoid engorgement. So i left it up to her to decide if she still wanted me to come or not.
she basically said that she does not want my daughter at the ceremony but would consider allowing her at the reception.
i am feeling a little offended to be honest, i understand that this is her special day and she doesn't want crying children during the ceremony but i also don't believe you should be asking a new mother to leave her tiny baby for such a long time when the baby is 100% reliant on mum for food... why invite me in the first place???